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« Reply #2350 on: August 02, 2015, 11:20:11 AM »
TL:DR - less is more when grocery shopping

I'm continuing to eat the contents of my cupboard. I've got three weeks until my move.

This effort may shift the way I think about food.  I grew up in a large fammily and was very involved in cooking and shopping for 7 to 10 people.  I've been living alone or with a room mate for almost ten years.  I didn't think I really stockpiled, except a few items that were hard to find rurally. I like to keep around basic ingredients to a few things I enjoy, spices, baking supplies.  I've been consciously eating cupboard food for 6 months and I STILL have things left!  I have bought some things of course and I've had a productive little bucket garden. I like having a few options around.  That makes it easy to cook at home.  But this process of having much less in the pantry and buying as needed is blowing my mind. 

Perhaps it's even more about having less in the freezer and fridge.  I spent 6 months with just a mini fridge.  I bought meat when I planned to cook, at the left overs.  Always knew what was in the fridge.  Didn't have extra condiments hanging around.

Why did I tie hundreds of dollars up in food that I didn't eat? That I didn't even know I had, except that the cupboard was full.

It's ok to have empty space in the cupboard!

 


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« Reply #2351 on: August 02, 2015, 11:32:36 AM »
TL:DR - less is more when grocery shopping

I'm continuing to eat the contents of my cupboard. I've got three weeks until my move.

This effort may shift the way I think about food.  I grew up in a large fammily and was very involved in cooking and shopping for 7 to 10 people.  I've been living alone or with a room mate for almost ten years.  I didn't think I really stockpiled, except a few items that were hard to find rurally. I like to keep around basic ingredients to a few things I enjoy, spices, baking supplies.  I've been consciously eating cupboard food for 6 months and I STILL have things left!  I have bought some things of course and I've had a productive little bucket garden. I like having a few options around.  That makes it easy to cook at home.  But this process of having much less in the pantry and buying as needed is blowing my mind. 

Perhaps it's even more about having less in the freezer and fridge.  I spent 6 months with just a mini fridge.  I bought meat when I planned to cook, at the left overs.  Always knew what was in the fridge.  Didn't have extra condiments hanging around.

Why did I tie hundreds of dollars up in food that I didn't eat? That I didn't even know I had, except that the cupboard was full.

It's ok to have empty space in the cupboard!

Excellent progress!

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« Reply #2352 on: August 02, 2015, 12:49:58 PM »
Man. I'm making progress but very slowly.

Sometimes, I feel like my mind has this crystal clear mentality when I go through things. I realize I don't need or want them, and will be unlikely to need it in the future. The clarity is tangible and I can throw away/donate things with little or no detachment that I've previously agonized over.

However, it doesn't last long, and by the end of a clearing session I'll be making much less progress. "I know this is just one black sock and I've folded and put away 20 other pairs, but I'm SURE I'll find another one while I'm cleaning up..."


Maybe for you, it works better to do it in short bursts? I know for me, it does, especially when there are complicated emotions involved. I couldn't possibly go through all my clothing at once, for example. I did the Kondo method last week, but I limited it to one small category--the shirts that were hanging in my closet. Shirts in the bureau didn't get considered, nor did blazers or other things in the closet. By keeping it small, I was able to really sort through all the feelings attached to pieces of clothing without getting exhausted. I was able to get rid of several shirts (and a blazer) that I hated to wear but that I hadn't been able to discard.

I also noted a few items that I hadn't worn in a long time but wasn't sure about. These are on a list called "wear it and see." Yes, an actual list written down. :)

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« Reply #2353 on: August 02, 2015, 01:03:52 PM »
I am doing several other gauntlets & one is to read through my bookshelf. This is really helping to lighten the book load:) . I read through several, but also donated some straight away because they had lost their lure.
Must mention, I did previously go through my books with the konmarie method and decreased by About 50%.

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« Reply #2354 on: August 02, 2015, 03:20:51 PM »
Got rid of one more purse.  It is small potatoes, but it does seem to be adding up. 

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« Reply #2355 on: August 02, 2015, 05:34:24 PM »
My in-laws are talking about downsizing, and they've already asked for my help decluttering.

I have mixed feelings.

It's excellent they want to declutter (they need to whether or not they move).

It's challenging when my MiL asks for help because she wants 'objective' support, but then gets very easily offended if anything I do/say implies the home is messy (e.g. if I point out it would be easier to vaccum a certain corner of the lounge room if it weren't full of baskets of dusty magazines).

My BiL moved out and left behind three-quarters of his possessions, so he will resent not being able to use his parents' place for storage. My FiL will refuse to toss anything, not because he's a hoarder but he's just scatter-brained and won't devote more than 12 seconds of mental energy to the task

And they're already making excuses.

They haven't even listed their house for sale but I suggested they could start now, could play the Minimalist Game (toss one thing on the first of the month, two things on the second, etc). MiL is off work on sick leave for the next two months as she recovers from an operation. Under doctor's orders, she must stay off her feet, so she said she can't possibly start now.

By my thinking, she has two months at home and not much to do. There is no reason she can't have her husband bring her drawers, tubs, jewellery boxes, etc,  to sort through while she stays seated. But she just makes excuses so she can just get me to help next time we visit.

So we're in for the long haul.

On the upside, I started another round of the Minimalist Game on Friday (first of the month), and put together a whole bag of donations on the weekend to get me started.

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« Reply #2356 on: August 02, 2015, 06:27:27 PM »
More stuff sold on eBay this week.  Took five packages to USPS on Saturday morning, then sold a pair of hiking boots purchased for a job I left in 2009 (yes, that means they hadn't been worn in 6 years), and just now sold a saddle carrier I've always hated because it is was way too bulky.  Have also been filling another tub to go to the thrift store - old printer, plus clothes that I felt guilty getting rid of before because I only wore them once or twice, but was never really comfortable or happy wearing.  Realized yesterday that I'm very close to being able to park my hamper inside the closet instead of out in the middle of the room.

I also finally got around to dyeing a couple pairs of white breeches with dye I bought like a year ago.  Was probably procrastinating out of fear of a poor result, but they turned out pretty good, although one pair is kind of flesh-toned now, so it will look like I'm riding around with no pants!

Left today for a work trip, but I have a hit list of items to put on eBay and Craigslist when I get home.  I need to figure out what to do with the shop next.  We have a 12x16' shop that houses our riding mower (I know, face punch me), tools and materials.  Then we have a 6x8' tin shed that has random crap plus the garden tiller and push mower.  If I could go through and decrapify both, everything would fit nicely and I could quit thinking about replacing the tin shed with a bigger garden shed, which would save us a solid $1500.

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« Reply #2357 on: August 02, 2015, 09:40:12 PM »
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #2358 on: August 02, 2015, 10:52:51 PM »
Man. I'm making progress but very slowly.

Sometimes, I feel like my mind has this crystal clear mentality when I go through things. I realize I don't need or want them, and will be unlikely to need it in the future. The clarity is tangible and I can throw away/donate things with little or no detachment that I've previously agonized over.

However, it doesn't last long, and by the end of a clearing session I'll be making much less progress. "I know this is just one black sock and I've folded and put away 20 other pairs, but I'm SURE I'll find another one while I'm cleaning up..."

It's ok, I guess, because it just means I need to keep going and keep making progress. I kind of wish I could have a professional like Peter Walsh or Marie Kondo help me out. I have both of their books on audible. I've listened to Kondo's three different times, and am going through Walsh's now. While listening to these books can be motivating, it's not the same as someone being right there looking at YOUR stuff with you and pushing you as you begin to falter at the tough times.

I don't know where u live, but I'm in NorCal USA and I do organizing & decluttering as a side hustle.
I another note, I think you can do it, it'll get easier to discern over time. And after the major purge of everything, you will see more later , all the time.
Also, it sounds like u are familiar with Marie Kondos method. But hav u done a thourogh and go round with it? If not, I and countless others hav had excellent progress with her method.
Good luck!

I don't know what's stopping me from doing a complete "thorough" go-round with Marie Kondo's method. I think it's because she recommends diving in for a full weekend and getting it completely done, and long bouts of de-cluttering aren't working for me. I am using other tidbits from her book. I think her book has helped with getting me into the right mindset when it comes to having too many things. I don't stay in the mindset, but I at least know what it feels like now.

Also, because my room is so crowded, I don't feel like I can actually and adequately spread things out to take a good look. The existing clutter makes it difficult for me to process. Maybe my current roommates won't mind if I commandeer the living room to stack stuff I'm not ready to go through or maybe I could take all of my current clothes out there and spread things around as I'm trying to get rid of them....

I'm not close enough to you unfortunately, unless you're FIRE already and feel like taking a trip a couple of states over. All of my current earthly possessions (- bike and car) are in my tiny bedroom. I think it's like 8' x 10' and the place I'll be moving into is like 9' x 12'. I don't have any furniture or dressers yet because I still want to get rid of half my things. Plus, my brother is actually going to build me some custom furniture for the new place. I want it to look nice and sleek and not at all cluttery.

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« Reply #2359 on: August 02, 2015, 10:58:07 PM »
I don't know what's stopping me from doing a complete "thorough" go-round with Marie Kondo's method. I think it's because she recommends diving in for a full weekend and getting it completely done, and long bouts of de-cluttering aren't working for me. I am using other tidbits from her book. I think her book has helped with getting me into the right mindset when it comes to having too many things. I don't stay in the mindset, but I at least know what it feels like now.

It's OK, actually, she doesn't say you have to do it in a single weekend. Or at least, that's not my interpretation. She does say to do it all at once, but I take that to mean that the process should have a beginning and an end, not that the time between the beginning and the end should be as short as possible. I think her intent is that decluttering shouldn't be something that's perpetually on your chore list, like cleaning the gutters or changing your oil; rather, it should be something you do only once and not again. But that doesn't mean you can't take whatever time with it that you need.

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« Reply #2360 on: August 03, 2015, 03:22:14 AM »
I don't know what's stopping me from doing a complete "thorough" go-round with Marie Kondo's method. I think it's because she recommends diving in for a full weekend and getting it completely done, and long bouts of de-cluttering aren't working for me. I am using other tidbits from her book. I think her book has helped with getting me into the right mindset when it comes to having too many things. I don't stay in the mindset, but I at least know what it feels like now.

It's OK, actually, she doesn't say you have to do it in a single weekend. Or at least, that's not my interpretation. She does say to do it all at once, but I take that to mean that the process should have a beginning and an end, not that the time between the beginning and the end should be as short as possible. I think her intent is that decluttering shouldn't be something that's perpetually on your chore list, like cleaning the gutters or changing your oil; rather, it should be something you do only once and not again. But that doesn't mean you can't take whatever time with it that you need.

Good luck!
Maybe you could try one zone at a time. And zone doesn't have to equal bedroom it could equal one box under your bed, one shelf in your wardrobe, all of your shoes etc. This is how I have been approaching my decluttering and it seems to be working well. I do tend to revisit after the initial cull, I think seeing progress spurs me on to get rid of more.

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« Reply #2361 on: August 03, 2015, 06:01:02 AM »
Great to see how everyone here is tackling their stuff, I am impressed! Having a hard time getting rid of stuff myself, especially clothes and books.

Clothes: I do not outgrow them, they are good quality, and they are still mystyle, and I still like to buy something new every now and again, so my clothes collection just keeps expanding. I still have the same size as 25 years ago and still have some nice quality items from that time that I do not want to get rid of. I am now at the point that I will have to do the "one in, one out" policy if I buy something new, which has prevented me from buying new stuff for the past year. I still wear everything on a regular basis. Also a difficult point: souvenir/band t-shirts that are hardly worn but I want to keep for sentimental reasons but this is one stack of approximately 20 shirts so I am not going to worry over them. Still wondering what to do with 25 pairs of socks given away for free on airlines. Not good quality but good enough for wearing/washing 4 or 5 times before falling apart. Not sure a thrift store would be happy with them, as they are such poor quality. They look lovely stacked the Marie Kondo way but as I never wear them (no socks or high quality hiking socks when hiking), I should absolutely get rid of them. Note to self: leave on airplane in future, even though free socks appeal to my frugal mindset.

Books: I love re-reading books and in the past was very choosy when buying books, so the majority of what I have I do not want to get rid of. However I now have 7 bookcases full and also need to start applying "one in, one out". To soften the blow I will just move a couple of boxes of books to the attic, and decide on them later. Not true de-cluttering but hey, books!

I have a very limited amount of knick-knacks, and most of the ones left I have been given when I was young and they hold sentimental value. Everything without sentimental value has been given away to thrift stores by now so I am quite OK on that front.

I would welcome all tips on how to sort/store DIY tools. I have my electric tools in small cases, neatly labelled and stacked on shelves, but  I have a ton of screwdrivers-not-part-of-a-boxed-set, hammers, tape measures, screws, saws, pliers, plugs, hooks, sandpaper, paintbrushes, electric plugs and wiring etc. and I have not yet found the perfect way of sorting them. I have no garage so everything has to fit into Ikea Pax cupboards.

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« Reply #2362 on: August 03, 2015, 06:44:18 AM »
Kondo does say "all at once" means a house would take around 6 months.

When she says to get it done in one sitting I interpret her as meaning to put aside a set amount of (manageable for you) stuff (such as all your tops or all your winter gear), go throught it all without taking a break and then finish tidying up and then afterwards go do something else, rather than do a little, leave a pile for later and thus ending up tidying the same pile for a longer amount of time. The time stretch (at least for me) makes it feel like The Stuff is taking over and so I'd rather cram it all back inside the closet to never have to see it, ever again (until next round of tidying...). My two cents on the concept.

The "pile at parents house" has been my challenge this summer. An old bisycle and several boxes of old cartoons is now removed (sold). I still need to sort through several boxes of old clothes. Will only save hand-made items that may realisticly be used by a child today. Some of those items, while lovely, are not practical for actual use.

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« Reply #2363 on: August 03, 2015, 07:28:21 AM »
Kondo does say that everything should take no more than 6 months, so she's not suggesting the entire house get done in a weekend.  She suggests zones (e.g. clothes, or even just pants if "clothes" isn't manageable).  I think her biggest caveat to that is that you want to make sure you have every last bit of that item in the area when you go through it.  So if you are doing pants, you need to have every single pair, not all of them except the 4 that are in the wash and that one pair you keep in your car and the random pair on the floor of the bathroom.  When you do pants, you must do *all* pants.  When you do toiletries, you need to gather all of them in one space, rather than only doing the once in the main bath but not the powder room and the extra you keep tucked in a cabinet. 

We continue to purge, donate, and sell.  The move is coming up and we are beginning to dump all our 220v appliances.  Treadmill and transformers sold, bringing in $200.  I have a few asks out to friends, but by the end of the week everything else will be listed on the various Facebook yard sale groups for the areas. 

Husband worked on paperwork yesterday and tossed a ton and organized the rest.  In the process of moving stuff around into various piles for the move (not all our stuff is going to one place), I discovered that I can't find the lid to my 110v crockpot.  It's been sitting in the basement for 2.5 years while we live in 220v land, waiting for our return to the States.  In the past, I'd have held on to it, imagining the lid would turn up eventually.  And it might.  But it isn't worth it.  Out it goes, and I'll buy a new one when we are back in the land of 110v, as soon as I find one in a thrift store. 
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« Reply #2364 on: August 03, 2015, 08:00:37 AM »
Great to see how everyone here is tackling their stuff, I am impressed! Having a hard time getting rid of stuff myself, especially clothes and books.

Clothes: I do not outgrow them, they are good quality, and they are still mystyle, and I still like to buy something new every now and again, so my clothes collection just keeps expanding. I still have the same size as 25 years ago and still have some nice quality items from that time that I do not want to get rid of. I am now at the point that I will have to do the "one in, one out" policy if I buy something new, which has prevented me from buying new stuff for the past year. I still wear everything on a regular basis. Also a difficult point: souvenir/band t-shirts that are hardly worn but I want to keep for sentimental reasons but this is one stack of approximately 20 shirts so I am not going to worry over them. Still wondering what to do with 25 pairs of socks given away for free on airlines. Not good quality but good enough for wearing/washing 4 or 5 times before falling apart. Not sure a thrift store would be happy with them, as they are such poor quality. They look lovely stacked the Marie Kondo way but as I never wear them (no socks or high quality hiking socks when hiking), I should absolutely get rid of them. Note to self: leave on airplane in future, even though free socks appeal to my frugal mindset.

Books: I love re-reading books and in the past was very choosy when buying books, so the majority of what I have I do not want to get rid of. However I now have 7 bookcases full and also need to start applying "one in, one out". To soften the blow I will just move a couple of boxes of books to the attic, and decide on them later. Not true de-cluttering but hey, books!

I have a very limited amount of knick-knacks, and most of the ones left I have been given when I was young and they hold sentimental value. Everything without sentimental value has been given away to thrift stores by now so I am quite OK on that front.

I would welcome all tips on how to sort/store DIY tools. I have my electric tools in small cases, neatly labelled and stacked on shelves, but  I have a ton of screwdrivers-not-part-of-a-boxed-set, hammers, tape measures, screws, saws, pliers, plugs, hooks, sandpaper, paintbrushes, electric plugs and wiring etc. and I have not yet found the perfect way of sorting them. I have no garage so everything has to fit into Ikea Pax cupboards.
Socks: I would try donating to a women's refuge. Some of these women having nothing but the clothes on their backs so the socks would likely be appreciated as it's not normally the sort of thing that would be donated as a used item.
Band t-shirts: why not wear them??? This is my weekend wardrobe. If you don't like the fit I can post instructions for turning them into cute tank tops. Also the memory of the concert is the sentimental thing, the tshirt only serves to remind you of the memory. If you aren't wearing it it's not serving that purpose.

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« Reply #2365 on: August 03, 2015, 08:01:11 AM »
Great to see how everyone here is tackling their stuff, I am impressed! Having a hard time getting rid of stuff myself, especially clothes and books.

Clothes: I do not outgrow them, they are good quality, and they are still mystyle, and I still like to buy something new every now and again, so my clothes collection just keeps expanding. I still have the same size as 25 years ago and still have some nice quality items from that time that I do not want to get rid of. I am now at the point that I will have to do the "one in, one out" policy if I buy something new, which has prevented me from buying new stuff for the past year. I still wear everything on a regular basis. Also a difficult point: souvenir/band t-shirts that are hardly worn but I want to keep for sentimental reasons but this is one stack of approximately 20 shirts so I am not going to worry over them. Still wondering what to do with 25 pairs of socks given away for free on airlines. Not good quality but good enough for wearing/washing 4 or 5 times before falling apart. Not sure a thrift store would be happy with them, as they are such poor quality. They look lovely stacked the Marie Kondo way but as I never wear them (no socks or high quality hiking socks when hiking), I should absolutely get rid of them. Note to self: leave on airplane in future, even though free socks appeal to my frugal mindset.

Books: I love re-reading books and in the past was very choosy when buying books, so the majority of what I have I do not want to get rid of. However I now have 7 bookcases full and also need to start applying "one in, one out". To soften the blow I will just move a couple of boxes of books to the attic, and decide on them later. Not true de-cluttering but hey, books!

I have a very limited amount of knick-knacks, and most of the ones left I have been given when I was young and they hold sentimental value. Everything without sentimental value has been given away to thrift stores by now so I am quite OK on that front.

I would welcome all tips on how to sort/store DIY tools. I have my electric tools in small cases, neatly labelled and stacked on shelves, but  I have a ton of screwdrivers-not-part-of-a-boxed-set, hammers, tape measures, screws, saws, pliers, plugs, hooks, sandpaper, paintbrushes, electric plugs and wiring etc. and I have not yet found the perfect way of sorting them. I have no garage so everything has to fit into Ikea Pax cupboards.
Socks: I would try donating to a women's refuge. Some of these women having nothing but the clothes on their backs so the socks would likely be appreciated as it's not normally the sort of thing that would be donated as a used item.
Band t-shirts: why not wear them??? This is my weekend wardrobe. If you don't like the fit I can post instructions for turning them into cute tank tops. Also the memory of the concert is the sentimental thing, the tshirt only serves to remind you of the memory. If you aren't wearing it it's not serving that purpose.

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« Reply #2366 on: August 03, 2015, 08:02:04 AM »
Having almost no luck selling stuff. (I think I don't want strangers coming to my house for under $20... so maybe I list too high?)

But have gotten rid of a lot through donating. :)
And I took a stack of 25 magazines to a neighbor!

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« Reply #2367 on: August 03, 2015, 08:09:39 AM »
My mom made me a bean bag when I was a kid out of my old t-shirts.  I think she too, wanted to get rid of my t-shirts and this way I'd agree.

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« Reply #2368 on: August 03, 2015, 08:13:28 AM »
Having almost no luck selling stuff. (I think I don't want strangers coming to my house for under $20... so maybe I list too high?)


For smaller, easily portable items, arrange to meet your buyer in a public place (I usually ask any potential buyer to meet at the parking lot of my local Target - it's always busy and well lit, even after dark) - this way you can list less expensive items and actually sell them without having people come to your house.  For bulky items, like furniture, I always make sure that I am not alone in the house when I have someone come in.



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« Reply #2369 on: August 03, 2015, 08:14:27 AM »
Also a difficult point: souvenir/band t-shirts that are hardly worn but I want to keep for sentimental reasons but this is one stack of approximately 20 shirts so I am not going to worry over them.
Just a gentle facepunch, I don't even own 20 tshirts even if you count the big ones I stole from DH to be pjs. And DH doesn't own 20 tshirts even if you count his undershirts.

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« Reply #2370 on: August 03, 2015, 08:34:36 AM »
TL:DR - less is more when grocery shopping

I'm continuing to eat the contents of my cupboard. I've got three weeks until my move.

This effort may shift the way I think about food.  I grew up in a large fammily and was very involved in cooking and shopping for 7 to 10 people.  I've been living alone or with a room mate for almost ten years.  I didn't think I really stockpiled, except a few items that were hard to find rurally. I like to keep around basic ingredients to a few things I enjoy, spices, baking supplies.  I've been consciously eating cupboard food for 6 months and I STILL have things left!  I have bought some things of course and I've had a productive little bucket garden. I like having a few options around.  That makes it easy to cook at home.  But this process of having much less in the pantry and buying as needed is blowing my mind. 

Perhaps it's even more about having less in the freezer and fridge.  I spent 6 months with just a mini fridge.  I bought meat when I planned to cook, at the left overs.  Always knew what was in the fridge.  Didn't have extra condiments hanging around.

Why did I tie hundreds of dollars up in food that I didn't eat? That I didn't even know I had, except that the cupboard was full.

It's ok to have empty space in the cupboard!

Can you please have a get together with my roommate? She's got a hoarder's mindset and doesn't realize it.

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« Reply #2371 on: August 03, 2015, 08:47:06 AM »

For smaller, easily portable items, arrange to meet your buyer in a public place (I usually ask any potential buyer to meet at the parking lot of my local Target - it's always busy and well lit, even after dark) - this way you can list less expensive items and actually sell them without having people come to your house.  For bulky items, like furniture, I always make sure that I am not alone in the house when I have someone come in.

It isn't worth the gas and time to GET to Target for a $10 item though.

I mean; I've been on the other end of this.  I drove to Costco to meet someone to get swaddles for a newborn. It was $10 for 5 of them.  But that was $100 worth of swaddles for $10; good deal for me. 

But for them? Totally not worth the drive. With the car she was driving and where she was coming from (I know because I balked at driving all the way out to her house) it was probably $5 in gas round trip. And she just met me, I paid, and she left. So it wasn't like she was going to Costco.

There are some things goodwill won't take; and I think I might just stick to freecycle for that.  It's easy to say "I'll be in and out all day; I will set the item on the porch".  You can't really do that with a sale.  (Or maybe I can just say "throw the $5 under the welcome mat". If they don't - it is really no different than if I just donated it... and I bet most honest people would.)

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« Reply #2372 on: August 03, 2015, 08:53:37 AM »
Great to see how everyone here is tackling their stuff, I am impressed! Having a hard time getting rid of stuff myself, especially clothes and books.

Clothes: I do not outgrow them, they are good quality, and they are still mystyle, and I still like to buy something new every now and again, so my clothes collection just keeps expanding. I still have the same size as 25 years ago and still have some nice quality items from that time that I do not want to get rid of. I am now at the point that I will have to do the "one in, one out" policy if I buy something new, which has prevented me from buying new stuff for the past year. I still wear everything on a regular basis. Also a difficult point: souvenir/band t-shirts that are hardly worn but I want to keep for sentimental reasons but this is one stack of approximately 20 shirts so I am not going to worry over them. Still wondering what to do with 25 pairs of socks given away for free on airlines. Not good quality but good enough for wearing/washing 4 or 5 times before falling apart. Not sure a thrift store would be happy with them, as they are such poor quality. They look lovely stacked the Marie Kondo way but as I never wear them (no socks or high quality hiking socks when hiking), I should absolutely get rid of them. Note to self: leave on airplane in future, even though free socks appeal to my frugal mindset.

Books: I love re-reading books and in the past was very choosy when buying books, so the majority of what I have I do not want to get rid of. However I now have 7 bookcases full and also need to start applying "one in, one out". To soften the blow I will just move a couple of boxes of books to the attic, and decide on them later. Not true de-cluttering but hey, books!

I have a very limited amount of knick-knacks, and most of the ones left I have been given when I was young and they hold sentimental value. Everything without sentimental value has been given away to thrift stores by now so I am quite OK on that front.

I would welcome all tips on how to sort/store DIY tools. I have my electric tools in small cases, neatly labelled and stacked on shelves, but  I have a ton of screwdrivers-not-part-of-a-boxed-set, hammers, tape measures, screws, saws, pliers, plugs, hooks, sandpaper, paintbrushes, electric plugs and wiring etc. and I have not yet found the perfect way of sorting them. I have no garage so everything has to fit into Ikea Pax cupboards.

Ok, even for me that's a ridiculous number of books. I too love re-reading books. My suggestion: mark all your books somehow (sticky note, etc). Then make an effort to go through and re-read your books.  Remove the sticky note when you do. Those you can keep. After a while, you'll find that there's books you just don't want to read for whatever reason, or ones you don't like anymore. That's your goodbye pile. No guilt needed.

If the books are reference - do you actually refer to them? If not, add to the goodbye pile.

And my friend just made a quilt out of all her old college shirts. It's on her bed, being used. If you don't quilt, I'm sure you can find someone who does who'd be willing to help, or you could learn!

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« Reply #2373 on: August 03, 2015, 08:58:44 AM »
There are some things goodwill won't take; and I think I might just stick to freecycle for that.  It's easy to say "I'll be in and out all day; I will set the item on the porch".  You can't really do that with a sale.  (Or maybe I can just say "throw the $5 under the welcome mat". If they don't - it is really no different than if I just donated it... and I bet most honest people would.)
I actually did this with a couple items recently. We moved 30 miles away but still (hopefully just for another 3.5weeks) own the old house. So we put the stuff we weren't keeping in the detached garage...actually just left them there after the garage sale...and had a couple people just come pick up the item they wanted and leave the money hiding somewhere. I didn't have to drive all the way out there to meet them, they didn't have to be there at a specific time and even if they stole everything in the garage I wouldn't really be out much. I jokingly called it self-service checkout :) I wouldn't do this at my current house since it's actually in the city instead of a tiny town and I don't have a porch or detached garage but it worked perfectly at the old house

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« Reply #2374 on: August 03, 2015, 08:58:54 AM »

For smaller, easily portable items, arrange to meet your buyer in a public place (I usually ask any potential buyer to meet at the parking lot of my local Target - it's always busy and well lit, even after dark) - this way you can list less expensive items and actually sell them without having people come to your house.  For bulky items, like furniture, I always make sure that I am not alone in the house when I have someone come in.

It isn't worth the gas and time to GET to Target for a $10 item though.

I mean; I've been on the other end of this.  I drove to Costco to meet someone to get swaddles for a newborn. It was $10 for 5 of them.  But that was $100 worth of swaddles for $10; good deal for me. 

But for them? Totally not worth the drive. With the car she was driving and where she was coming from (I know because I balked at driving all the way out to her house) it was probably $5 in gas round trip. And she just met me, I paid, and she left. So it wasn't like she was going to Costco.

There are some things goodwill won't take; and I think I might just stick to freecycle for that.  It's easy to say "I'll be in and out all day; I will set the item on the porch".  You can't really do that with a sale.  (Or maybe I can just say "throw the $5 under the welcome mat". If they don't - it is really no different than if I just donated it... and I bet most honest people would.)

I hear you.  My method would not work well if you are in a rural location.  I just use Target because it's convenient for me (maybe a mile from where I live), but any other public, well lit place will do (grocery store, the mall, etc.)  I always specify my approximate location in my listings so people know how far they would have to drive.  Having said that, I generally don't list anything under $15 because I think it's just not worth the effort - stuff like that gets donated.  Sometimes I also list things under the "Free" category on Craigslist and just leave them outside on the porch or in front of the garage to be picked up.  It works well.



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« Reply #2375 on: August 03, 2015, 09:04:22 AM »

I hear you.  My method would not work well if you are in a rural location.  I just use Target because it's convenient for me (maybe a mile from where I live), but any other public, well lit place will do (grocery store, the mall, etc.)  I always specify my approximate location in my listings so people know how far they would have to drive.  Having said that, I generally don't list anything under $15 because I think it's just not worth the effort - stuff like that gets donated.  Sometimes I also list things under the "Free" category on Craigslist and just leave them outside on the porch or in front of the garage to be picked up.  It works well.

I'm not exactly rural, but I live in a bedroom community of a small city; so nothing is near my house.

There is a consignment shop I've dropped a few things off at, but they are so picky about what they take.  But it's out of the house. I just need to keep reminding myself that is the goal!

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« Reply #2376 on: August 03, 2015, 09:51:21 AM »
My community is having a multi-family yard sale this Saturday. I'm hoping we can get rid of a bunch of stuff at this event. We have some furniture, lots of CD's and DVD's, and random stuff like knick knacks and reptile terrariums. Right now I'm trying to convince the kids to get their unwanted junk from their rooms in boxes to take out there.

My biggest worry is that I've never been on the selling end of a yard sale before. Any tips from seasoned veterans on this?

Thanks.

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« Reply #2377 on: August 03, 2015, 10:02:01 AM »
My biggest worry is that I've never been on the selling end of a yard sale before. Any tips from seasoned veterans on this?

Put stickers on EVERYTHING. Don't count on "remembering" the price you wanted. 

If the multiple families will be all selling together, color code to know whose stuff is what, and peel each sticker off the item and put it onto a ledger, and at the end of the day, you know how much each person gets from the cash box. (Make a note on the ledger if the price of an item was haggled down.)

Be ready at least an hour before your ad says you will open.
And be firm that your house does NOT have public restrooms.

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« Reply #2378 on: August 03, 2015, 10:03:19 AM »
I don't know what's stopping me from doing a complete "thorough" go-round with Marie Kondo's method. I think it's because she recommends diving in for a full weekend and getting it completely done, and long bouts of de-cluttering aren't working for me. I am using other tidbits from her book. I think her book has helped with getting me into the right mindset when it comes to having too many things. I don't stay in the mindset, but I at least know what it feels like now.

It's OK, actually, she doesn't say you have to do it in a single weekend. Or at least, that's not my interpretation. She does say to do it all at once, but I take that to mean that the process should have a beginning and an end, not that the time between the beginning and the end should be as short as possible. I think her intent is that decluttering shouldn't be something that's perpetually on your chore list, like cleaning the gutters or changing your oil; rather, it should be something you do only once and not again. But that doesn't mean you can't take whatever time with it that you need.

Good luck!
Maybe you could try one zone at a time. And zone doesn't have to equal bedroom it could equal one box under your bed, one shelf in your wardrobe, all of your shoes etc. This is how I have been approaching my decluttering and it seems to be working well. I do tend to revisit after the initial cull, I think seeing progress spurs me on to get rid of more.

One small zone at a time is an excellent idea, although I found it helpful to pull everything out a go through one by one rather than to look at things on a shelf for example and reduce. More tens to be discarded this way I've found.
Good luck!

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« Reply #2379 on: August 03, 2015, 12:37:30 PM »
I can't remember if I have posted to this thread or not.  But I've just started another month of the "30-day Minimalist Game," as it has been coined by Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus at theminimalists.com.  I call it MinChal, just because that is the shorthand I put at the top of the list in my phone to keep track.  I played by myself, unsure of how I'd perform.  I updated the little list in my phone with the date and the items that left my home.  I was pretty flexible with myself, giving credit for items tossed in excess of that date's number for a future date, and allowing goodwilled items to sit around for up to a week, so I could make the trip less frequently.  I counted any little piece of junk I could find, unless it was something like trash created that day to be tossed immediately.  (i.e. junk mail did not count.)  If I fell behind I'd give myself a day or two to tackle something big and catch up.

http://www.theminimalists.com/game/

I "played" in June and July, getting to the 21st and 23rd, respectively, before quitting.  Towards the end of each challenge I was counting out birthday candle stumps in June, and dead batteries in July.  I also got rid of some more "impressive" things, like lots of clothes, unused kitchen equipment, etc.

Amazingly, there still seems to a good bit of "stuff" in the house.  And I should note that we were already comparatively low on stuff.  We d have 2 kids, and they add to the stuff, but we try to keep it minimal.

Anyway, all in all, it is fun method for getting rid of stuff.  A simple goal and anything goes.  I don't feel like I need to "finish" an area.  Just hit the number for the date, and you are good to go.  I'm going to re-start every month until a day that I imagine includes looking around my house and having a magical feeling of time and space for the things that matter.

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« Reply #2380 on: August 03, 2015, 10:25:52 PM »
My biggest worry is that I've never been on the selling end of a yard sale before. Any tips from seasoned veterans on this?

Put stickers on EVERYTHING. Don't count on "remembering" the price you wanted. 

If the multiple families will be all selling together, color code to know whose stuff is what, and peel each sticker off the item and put it onto a ledger, and at the end of the day, you know how much each person gets from the cash box. (Make a note on the ledger if the price of an item was haggled down.)

Be ready at least an hour before your ad says you will open.
And be firm that your house does NOT have public restrooms.

Thank you for the tips! Especially that last one had not even crossed my mind, but now I have thought up the closest public rest room if it comes up so I can quickly send folks on their merry way.

How much cash should I have on hand for making change?

Each child did pretty well today filling up a box or two with stuff to go out, so that was a small victory.

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« Reply #2381 on: August 04, 2015, 04:19:41 AM »
I can't remember if I have posted to this thread or not.  But I've just started another month of the "30-day Minimalist Game," as it has been coined by Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus at theminimalists.com.  I call it MinChal, just because that is the shorthand I put at the top of the list in my phone to keep track.  I played by myself, unsure of how I'd perform.  I updated the little list in my phone with the date and the items that left my home.  I was pretty flexible with myself, giving credit for items tossed in excess of that date's number for a future date, and allowing goodwilled items to sit around for up to a week, so I could make the trip less frequently.  I counted any little piece of junk I could find, unless it was something like trash created that day to be tossed immediately.  (i.e. junk mail did not count.)  If I fell behind I'd give myself a day or two to tackle something big and catch up.

http://www.theminimalists.com/game/



I keep reading about people playing that game, it sounds good. I'm not sure I have enough stuff to play it at this point haha. I've read their most recent book and really enjoyed it.

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« Reply #2382 on: August 04, 2015, 09:57:08 AM »
Man. I'm making progress but very slowly.

Sometimes, I feel like my mind has this crystal clear mentality when I go through things. I realize I don't need or want them, and will be unlikely to need it in the future. The clarity is tangible and I can throw away/donate things with little or no detachment that I've previously agonized over.

However, it doesn't last long, and by the end of a clearing session I'll be making much less progress. "I know this is just one black sock and I've folded and put away 20 other pairs, but I'm SURE I'll find another one while I'm cleaning up..."

It's ok, I guess, because it just means I need to keep going and keep making progress. I kind of wish I could have a professional like Peter Walsh or Marie Kondo help me out. I have both of their books on audible. I've listened to Kondo's three different times, and am going through Walsh's now. While listening to these books can be motivating, it's not the same as someone being right there looking at YOUR stuff with you and pushing you as you begin to falter at the tough times.

I don't know where u live, but I'm in NorCal USA and I do organizing & decluttering as a side hustle.
I another note, I think you can do it, it'll get easier to discern over time. And after the major purge of everything, you will see more later , all the time.
Also, it sounds like u are familiar with Marie Kondos method. But hav u done a thourogh and go round with it? If not, I and countless others hav had excellent progress with her method.
Good luck!
Riverffashion, how did you get started on this side hustle? It sounds cool and something I'd like to try. I sent you a pm as well.

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« Reply #2383 on: August 04, 2015, 11:58:02 AM »
I brought another bunch of clothes to the consignment store.  They rejected a few items.  It is hit or miss with this store: among the rejected items were 3 or 4 that I brought in before and was specifically told to bring back once they start accepting fall clothing which is now!  Oh well.  They are going straight to Goodwill and not back into my closet ;-)  I think I have reduced my closet by 40-50% by now but there are still a few items that need to be weeded out.



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« Reply #2384 on: August 04, 2015, 12:21:52 PM »
I brought another bunch of clothes to the consignment store.  They rejected a few items.  It is hit or miss with this store: among the rejected items were 3 or 4 that I brought in before and was specifically told to bring back once they start accepting fall clothing which is now!  Oh well.  They are going straight to Goodwill and not back into my closet ;-)  I think I have reduced my closet by 40-50% by now but there are still a few items that need to be weeded out.

Ha.  Did you point that out to them?  What did they say?

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« Reply #2385 on: August 04, 2015, 12:27:04 PM »
The one thing I like about the consignment store I use is that they will donate rejected items for you. Yes, that means they get the tax benefits, not me- but we never remember to take them, so the net result is they are out of my closet.

They have amazing sales though, so I think people only ever shop when things are 50% or 75% off. Which means I usually make 20 or 30 cents an item... with the few items that get accepted...


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« Reply #2386 on: August 04, 2015, 01:02:54 PM »
The one thing I like about the consignment store I use is that they will donate rejected items for you. Yes, that means they get the tax benefits, not me- but we never remember to take them, so the net result is they are out of my closet.

They have amazing sales though, so I think people only ever shop when things are 50% or 75% off. Which means I usually make 20 or 30 cents an item... with the few items that get accepted...

Yes, this one donates as well, so I don't have to pick up anything that hasn't sold.  So that is a definite plus - things are gone for good once I bring them in.

I brought another bunch of clothes to the consignment store.  They rejected a few items.  It is hit or miss with this store: among the rejected items were 3 or 4 that I brought in before and was specifically told to bring back once they start accepting fall clothing which is now!  Oh well.  They are going straight to Goodwill and not back into my closet ;-)  I think I have reduced my closet by 40-50% by now but there are still a few items that need to be weeded out.

Ha.  Did you point that out to them?  What did they say?

I did not have the strength for this today ;-)  I noticed it depends on the person who is actually looking through the items.  I may try them again with another batch.



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« Reply #2387 on: August 04, 2015, 02:11:01 PM »
The one thing I like about the consignment store I use is that they will donate rejected items for you. Yes, that means they get the tax benefits, not me- but we never remember to take them, so the net result is they are out of my closet.

They have amazing sales though, so I think people only ever shop when things are 50% or 75% off. Which means I usually make 20 or 30 cents an item... with the few items that get accepted...

Wouldn't it work out better to donate to Goodwill direct and get the tax benefits? I've only done consignment twice for higher-end things ($200+) but after that I just switched to ebay/craigslist. If I can't get more than $5 out of it, I'd just donate it..
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« Reply #2388 on: August 04, 2015, 02:15:52 PM »
The one thing I like about the consignment store I use is that they will donate rejected items for you. Yes, that means they get the tax benefits, not me- but we never remember to take them, so the net result is they are out of my closet.

They have amazing sales though, so I think people only ever shop when things are 50% or 75% off. Which means I usually make 20 or 30 cents an item... with the few items that get accepted...

Wouldn't it work out better to donate to Goodwill direct and get the tax benefits? I've only done consignment twice for higher-end things ($200+) but after that I just switched to ebay/craigslist. If I can't get more than $5 out of it, I'd just donate it..


Yeah, this is why I just donate virtually all of my items except furniture.  I don't really have expensive items I'm shedding (clothes to cheap vases to cheap wine glasses to old candleholders is my usual gamut).

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« Reply #2389 on: August 04, 2015, 04:47:28 PM »
The one thing I like about the consignment store I use is that they will donate rejected items for you. Yes, that means they get the tax benefits, not me- but we never remember to take them, so the net result is they are out of my closet.

They have amazing sales though, so I think people only ever shop when things are 50% or 75% off. Which means I usually make 20 or 30 cents an item... with the few items that get accepted...

Wouldn't it work out better to donate to Goodwill direct and get the tax benefits? I've only done consignment twice for higher-end things ($200+) but after that I just switched to ebay/craigslist. If I can't get more than $5 out of it, I'd just donate it..

This is assuming that one itemizes.   Most people (around 60%, I believe) take the standard deduction.

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« Reply #2390 on: August 04, 2015, 10:49:25 PM »
Man. I'm making progress but very slowly.

Sometimes, I feel like my mind has this crystal clear mentality when I go through things. I realize I don't need or want them, and will be unlikely to need it in the future. The clarity is tangible and I can throw away/donate things with little or no detachment that I've previously agonized over.

However, it doesn't last long, and by the end of a clearing session I'll be making much less progress. "I know this is just one black sock and I've folded and put away 20 other pairs, but I'm SURE I'll find another one while I'm cleaning up..."

It's ok, I guess, because it just means I need to keep going and keep making progress. I kind of wish I could have a professional like Peter Walsh or Marie Kondo help me out. I have both of their books on audible. I've listened to Kondo's three different times, and am going through Walsh's now. While listening to these books can be motivating, it's not the same as someone being right there looking at YOUR stuff with you and pushing you as you begin to falter at the tough times.

I don't know where u live, but I'm in NorCal USA and I do organizing & decluttering as a side hustle.
I another note, I think you can do it, it'll get easier to discern over time. And after the major purge of everything, you will see more later , all the time.
Also, it sounds like u are familiar with Marie Kondos method. But hav u done a thourogh and go round with it? If not, I and countless others hav had excellent progress with her method.
Good luck!
Riverffashion, how did you get started on this side hustle? It sounds cool and something I'd like to try. I sent you a pm as well.

It's something I've always enjoyed . I believe I posted flyers everywhere , in the small town I lived in at the time ( now I post business cards ). After the first couple people, it became more about referrals, which really helps so people know they're getting someone whose trustworthy and good.

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« Reply #2391 on: August 05, 2015, 01:46:56 AM »
(sigh) I could sure use your help, riverffashion...I'm overwhelmed by my stuff and have zero time for the declutterring that is so badly needed in our home with many children.

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« Reply #2392 on: August 05, 2015, 07:10:52 AM »

Wouldn't it work out better to donate to Goodwill direct and get the tax benefits? I've only done consignment twice for higher-end things ($200+) but after that I just switched to ebay/craigslist. If I can't get more than $5 out of it, I'd just donate it..

Yes, if we itemize, but despite the much flaunted mortgage interest deduction, it has never worked out better for us to itemize* (we do our tax deductions each way every year)- so it doesn't make a difference.

*Maybe we did 1 year, I don't remember. 
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« Reply #2393 on: August 05, 2015, 07:25:20 AM »
You know, I remember a few years ago reading a blog (my efforts at googling it have failed) where the writer basically said the easiest way she could get out of the clutter in her life was to get rid of everything, including the sentimental stuff. And years later, if at some point she thought "What did I ever do with that such-and-such?" she'd just think "Oh yeah, we lost that in the house fire" and move on with life. It was a way to mentally separate those things from herself as a person... they weren't her identity... and she was able to deeply minimize and move on with life with no regrets.

Sometimes (quite often) I think about getting rid of everything I have and just starting over after an "imaginary house fire." I probably won't ever do it, but it makes me realize what a stronghold material possessions can take in your life.

I actually recently came across what I think is the article you read. It's on a site called Houzz and I think her name is Rachel.

Here's the kicker: it wasn't a mind game she made up. Her house actually DID burn down. She grew and learned from it and she used it for purchases she had wanted to make but didn't at the time. I think one example was a rug. At one point she thought, "I should have bought it when I had the chance" but then would remember it was pre-fire, so if she had, she would have lost it anyway.

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« Reply #2394 on: August 05, 2015, 08:53:21 AM »
I actually recently came across what I think is the article you read. It's on a site called Houzz and I think her name is Rachel.

It definitely wasn't there, but I swear I can't find the original article. Doesn't matter, really, the principle is the same.
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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #2395 on: August 05, 2015, 09:04:23 AM »
You know, I remember a few years ago reading a blog (my efforts at googling it have failed) where the writer basically said the easiest way she could get out of the clutter in her life was to get rid of everything, including the sentimental stuff. And years later, if at some point she thought "What did I ever do with that such-and-such?" she'd just think "Oh yeah, we lost that in the house fire" and move on with life. It was a way to mentally separate those things from herself as a person... they weren't her identity... and she was able to deeply minimize and move on with life with no regrets.

Sometimes (quite often) I think about getting rid of everything I have and just starting over after an "imaginary house fire." I probably won't ever do it, but it makes me realize what a stronghold material possessions can take in your life.

I actually recently came across what I think is the article you read. It's on a site called Houzz and I think her name is Rachel.

Here's the kicker: it wasn't a mind game she made up. Her house actually DID burn down. She grew and learned from it and she used it for purchases she had wanted to make but didn't at the time. I think one example was a rug. At one point she thought, "I should have bought it when I had the chance" but then would remember it was pre-fire, so if she had, she would have lost it anyway.

I read that too.  Puts things into perspective.  She said there were a few things she truly missed like pictures.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #2396 on: August 05, 2015, 09:12:29 AM »

I read that too.  Puts things into perspective.  She said there were a few things she truly missed like pictures.

A friend who lost all of his possessions in a flood said pictures were the only thing he regretted losing.
He didn't have anytime to clear anything out because he didn't realize his house was in danger; the city called the zone too late (he lived WELL out of any flood zone, this flood was historic, well past the 500-year flood lines)- and he was out knocking on doors to get people to evacuate from other high risk areas.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #2397 on: August 05, 2015, 11:50:14 AM »

I read that too.  Puts things into perspective.  She said there were a few things she truly missed like pictures.

A friend who lost all of his possessions in a flood said pictures were the only thing he regretted losing.
He didn't have anytime to clear anything out because he didn't realize his house was in danger; the city called the zone too late (he lived WELL out of any flood zone, this flood was historic, well past the 500-year flood lines)- and he was out knocking on doors to get people to evacuate from other high risk areas.

I have a roommate and there are 3 basic things that I really struggle with her about: she's heat intolerant and unwilling to learn to adjust; she's a bit of a slob; and she has way too much stuff (which is half the slob problem). Seriously, she's a magpie. She's also paranoid about security and safety, even though she's never lived in an unsafe area in her life.

So she was arguing with me about the security system (which we have because I put up with it, but never turn it on), and said that there's all sorts of things she'd be really upset about if she lost them. I countered with what if the house burns down? That didn't go over well...

Me, I'm well aware. I'd like to grab my 2 cats, laptop, file box, purse, and keys. Yeah, I wouldn't be happy, but I'd survive and I know it. She doesn't even know it.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #2398 on: August 05, 2015, 12:40:17 PM »
I actually started a thread asking what one item people would grab from their home (assuming their family and pets were safe - although a number of people ignored that "rule" and mentioned they'd get their family or pets out).  Makes you think about what's important, and how you can preemptively protect it.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #2399 on: August 05, 2015, 01:59:11 PM »
I actually started a thread asking what one item people would grab from their home (assuming their family and pets were safe - although a number of people ignored that "rule" and mentioned they'd get their family or pets out).  Makes you think about what's important, and how you can preemptively protect it.

I may be the least sentimental person on the planet, but leaving aside living people, there's nothing I'd grab except for convenience reasons: wallet, cell phone, personal documents like birth certificates/marriage licenses.

I like my stuff, it makes my life easier and is useful, but if I lost it all tomorrow, my biggest concern would be the aggravation of replacing it all.

If pets and my GF was safe, I'd probably grab my box of documents. Passport, Birth Certificates, etc. Now that you mention it though, if my house burned down, and my pets and GF were safe (and she grabbed my documents), I'd initially go for the gasoline...:)
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