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« Reply #1300 on: March 25, 2015, 08:51:18 AM »
Two more bags of toys and clothes in the van. Stuffed animals I suspect are actually alive, because they keep multiplying...
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« Reply #1301 on: March 25, 2015, 09:08:10 AM »
Does anyone else have "guilt" over donating?  I feel guilty giving away stuff that is still good, that could be sold for at least a little $ back.  Even though I know the items help others in need (well, it goes to a store, is sold and part of the profit goes toward helping others), it feels wasteful.  And hence why i have TOO MUCH STUFF.

I have been struggling with this.  For example, i have a plastic bin FULL of shoes of my daughters.  Some are new but most are lightly used (from infant to age 6).  It's a bin that if i donated them all, would give me an extra bin to used to pack the house for our (possible) move this summer.  And yet, i haven't been able to do it yet....

I know it's weird, in a rummage sale i MIGHT get .25 - $1.00 per pair.  It would likely add up to < $20 IF i sold every pair in the bin.  Lots of extra work for maybe $20 or a 2 minute decision to put them in the donate bag and reclaim that bin. 

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« Reply #1302 on: March 25, 2015, 09:15:58 AM »
Does anyone else have "guilt" over donating?  I feel guilty giving away stuff that is still good, that could be sold for at least a little $ back.  Even though I know the items help others in need (well, it goes to a store, is sold and part of the profit goes toward helping others), it feels wasteful.  And hence why i have TOO MUCH STUFF.

I have been struggling with this.  For example, i have a plastic bin FULL of shoes of my daughters.  Some are new but most are lightly used (from infant to age 6).  It's a bin that if i donated them all, would give me an extra bin to used to pack the house for our (possible) move this summer.  And yet, i haven't been able to do it yet....

I know it's weird, in a rummage sale i MIGHT get .25 - $1.00 per pair.  It would likely add up to < $20 IF i sold every pair in the bin.  Lots of extra work for maybe $20 or a 2 minute decision to put them in the donate bag and reclaim that bin.

I can totally empathize with this. I feel excited to get rid of stuff, but there is guilt that maybe I could have got a little money if I'd made more effort. I do sell some things that are worth a little more, but I think the best thing to do with items that are worth a minimal amount is to take a deep breath and let them go.

I thought of storing everything in the garage and having a sale in the summer too, but then I'm not really getting rid of stuff, just storing it. The guilt has sure helped me a lot in not accumulating new things.

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« Reply #1303 on: March 25, 2015, 10:14:22 AM »
With a LOT of time and effort you could make a tiny bit of money by selling them.

Just do the math and decide how much your time is worth to you.

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« Reply #1304 on: March 25, 2015, 10:32:05 AM »
With a LOT of time and effort you could make a tiny bit of money by selling them.

Just do the math and decide how much your time is worth to you.

I know, I know, the logical part of my brain thinks/believes this... the cheapo/frugal part of me thinks "i should sell that".  Of course, the thought of a garage sale here in phx where the temps are already hitting 90's makes me cringe.  Must. Donate. Little. Shoes.

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« Reply #1305 on: March 25, 2015, 11:03:11 AM »
You could try a consignment shop, like Turnstyle.  If they sell, you get money.  If they don't sell and you don't come pick them up, they'll donate them after a few months.  Win-win situation all around.

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« Reply #1306 on: March 25, 2015, 11:26:18 AM »
Years ago a friend and I had a yard sale - I sold almost nothing, and it was a lot of work.  Now I just donate to places I would like to benefit from the sales.  In Canada we cannot itemize donations for tax purposes, so it truly is a donation.  I benefit by getting the whatever out of my house, and knowing that the place I donated to will also benefit.  Plus it certainly cuts down on the stress.

When we moved (a few years after that yard sale) I didn't even try to sell things, I just took car loads to my favourite donation place.  That made for a much easier move.  No regrets.

Does anyone else have "guilt" over donating?  I feel guilty giving away stuff that is still good, that could be sold for at least a little $ back.  Even though I know the items help others in need (well, it goes to a store, is sold and part of the profit goes toward helping others), it feels wasteful.  And hence why i have TOO MUCH STUFF.

I have been struggling with this.  For example, i have a plastic bin FULL of shoes of my daughters.  Some are new but most are lightly used (from infant to age 6).  It's a bin that if i donated them all, would give me an extra bin to used to pack the house for our (possible) move this summer.  And yet, i haven't been able to do it yet....

I know it's weird, in a rummage sale i MIGHT get .25 - $1.00 per pair.  It would likely add up to < $20 IF i sold every pair in the bin.  Lots of extra work for maybe $20 or a 2 minute decision to put them in the donate bag and reclaim that bin.

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« Reply #1307 on: March 25, 2015, 11:54:11 AM »
I did try selling books and DVDs... And ended up with $7. So not worth the effort. So now my new minimum is $20 per item. Lower than that, I prefer to donate and be done with it. Makes decluttering easier without guilt.

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« Reply #1308 on: March 25, 2015, 12:24:09 PM »
My toddler is with the grandparents for most of this week so I've used my free time (and extreme boredom) to get my butt in gear and clean up.  We're moving in about two months and I officially have the first two boxes packed, of outgrown baby clothes which we'd like to keep for a second.  However, I also pulled out baby clothes to sell to a used baby stuff store, lots of items for a family member who's pregnant (but which isn't really decluttering since I'll get those back at some point), and several items for some friends whose baby will grow into them soon (don't want those back).  !!  It feels good to have done all of that.
Additionally, however, I identified several other items which can go to the charity shop, went through my closet yet again and pulled out some things I never wore but, strangely enough, kept out of a sense of guilt.  Last, I went through all of my and my husband's socks and underwear and cleared out anything with holes or in which the elastic was gone.  Sometimes I keep the holey socks to use to dust the house, then throw them away guilt-free, but I've got plenty of those so I tossed the rest.
Still looking for more to do.  Will probably start on the kitchen next, and start packing up some of the books.  I've already found some to get rid of but I found a few old textbooks lurking in the closet and have thought of a few more books which I don't mind parting with.

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« Reply #1309 on: March 25, 2015, 12:40:18 PM »
Theadvicist,

What you said really resonates with me:

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"these things I had weren't bringing me any pleasure, they were a burden. Acquiring them was fun, but in a weird way, that meant they had fulfilled their purpose. Using them up was not fun, and it has put me off buying anything else, and encouraged me to unload those things I don't use and want anymore."

I have heard of people who buy things and then return them the next day and also people who have dozens of brand new clothes in the closet with tags still on and I suspect that the fun was only in the shopping for those people as well.

Shopping can really bring my spirits up and can be an unhealthy way to fill a hole inside, and I am not even much of a shopper compared to the average Joe. 

After clearing out on and off over the last nine months I still feel weighed down by the burden of stuff. 

The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...

I realise that I have been overwhelmed by the excess of stuff for years.  I would love to move to a small house with a small garden and fewer things AND I still enjoy the beauty of where we live now, I just need to simplify a LOT more in order to enjoy it more fully, especially since my dh is not intending to move.

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« Reply #1310 on: March 25, 2015, 12:46:49 PM »
Sibley,
That sounds good.  I did not send Christmas cards for years and am really enjoying the exchange.  I just need to make it simpler like you have.  I was going to take a photo and have cards made but I suspect that would be pretty pricey.  I was thinking of sending a picture to some website for that-does anyone know a good economical site for that?

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« Reply #1311 on: March 25, 2015, 12:50:14 PM »

The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...
I imagine this every day. Now I just need to finish doing the work to get there. I think on my day off tomorrow I'm going to be ruthless about getting rid of stuff and listing the stuff that is worth it to try and sell

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« Reply #1312 on: March 25, 2015, 12:52:41 PM »
Dagobert Duck,

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since I started decluttering plm 3 months ago I hardly bought anything apart from food, but I doubt I would have if I hadn't been decluttering

Congrats on reaching that place of not wanting to acquire.  I am still acquiring free things cast off by others or buying secondhand at yard sales.  The amount of stuff is not huge but it still weighs on me a great deal.  So avoiding shops is easy for me but avoiding sentimental cast offs from family is not so easy and I need to ban yard sale attendance. (sigh).

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« Reply #1313 on: March 25, 2015, 12:53:42 PM »
Theadvicist,

What you said really resonates with me:

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"these things I had weren't bringing me any pleasure, they were a burden. Acquiring them was fun, but in a weird way, that meant they had fulfilled their purpose. Using them up was not fun, and it has put me off buying anything else, and encouraged me to unload those things I don't use and want anymore."

I have heard of people who buy things and then return them the next day and also people who have dozens of brand new clothes in the closet with tags still on and I suspect that the fun was only in the shopping for those people as well.

Shopping can really bring my spirits up and can be an unhealthy way to fill a hole inside, and I am not even much of a shopper compared to the average Joe. 

After clearing out on and off over the last nine months I still feel weighed down by the burden of stuff. 

The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...

I realise that I have been overwhelmed by the excess of stuff for years.  I would love to move to a small house with a small garden and fewer things AND I still enjoy the beauty of where we live now, I just need to simplify a LOT more in order to enjoy it more fully, especially since my dh is not intending to move.

What you have both said has really impacted me! This morning, we had a truck pick up a bunch of bags of clothes (a free service, charity) but they wouldn't take a number of our large items. Husband is on 2 weeks holidays, so he just took a bunch more stuff to another thrift store that does take furniture, including: a functioning full sized air hockey table (inherited), an IKEA toddler bed, a large artificial plant and a functioning keyboard and stand.

So very glad to see some of this stuff go, but sadly, it doesn't even make a dent in what needs to go. It has really opened my eyes to see how much we have been bringing in over the years. Our garage is a disaster area, the closets in the house are full to overflowing with stuff, stuff, stuff. Do I need 5 throw cushions on my couch? They're always on the floor most of the time anyways. And SO. MANY. BOOKS! ugh!

@wintersun, I love your description of a house where everything is in good working order, etc. Just last night, we couldn't find one small item we had bought for our son's birthday today due to lack of organization.  I love the old adage, "A place for everything and everything in its place." Once I read a thing (sorry, no reference) that said, "If the power was out at night, could you find a pair of scissors?" For myself, I just laugh at that thought but I have two friends who answered, "Yes" without hesitation. Astounding!

Onward! I really want to make 2015 our year to clear out the clutter!

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« Reply #1314 on: March 25, 2015, 12:58:18 PM »
It seems that several things are interlinked for me.  Too much stuff, to do lists that are never tackled and involve said stuff, being drained by all the undone things, gaining and losing weight so that I have several wardrobes of clothes leading to more feelings of overwhelm, etc etc etc.

One day at a time.

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« Reply #1315 on: March 25, 2015, 04:39:31 PM »
The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...

Love this!

Once I read a thing (sorry, no reference) that said, "If the power was out at night, could you find a pair of scissors?" For myself, I just laugh at that thought but I have two friends who answered, "Yes" without hesitation. Astounding!

Scissors absolutely! I wish I could say that about everything else!

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« Reply #1316 on: March 25, 2015, 04:50:42 PM »
It seems that several things are interlinked for me.  Too much stuff, to do lists that are never tackled and involve said stuff, being drained by all the undone things, gaining and losing weight so that I have several wardrobes of clothes leading to more feelings of overwhelm, etc etc etc.

One day at a time.

I hear that totally!  Same boat, but moving (again) in 6 weeks and need to get rid of stuff!  Thanks to the above people who just made me realize that I don't need to yard sale or craigslist or ebay anything!  If it is big, maybe, but all the little stuff, shoes, records clothes, who cares!  Just move it out already!  My time is worth more than $2.00/hour or whatever. 

Sounds bold but even as I type, I'm still thinking 'but a yard sale is just one day and you could make some money to help with moving expenses"  sigh...  I am a living example of penny-wise and pound-foolish...

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« Reply #1317 on: March 25, 2015, 08:49:13 PM »
Ok, I did it.  Like ripping off a bandaid.  I gave 14 pair of shoes to a friend of ours (DH to deliver them tomorrow) and put 35 pair of shoes/flip flops/boots in the donate bag.  That's 6 years worth of hoarding my little girls shoes "just in case we had another".  Looks like no second baby so off they go. 

While doing that, I decided that 4 of the fancy dresses I was going to sell would have a good home with our friends daughter, so those went in her bag too.  I now have an empty tub... that I will pack up for our (possible) move this summer.  Thanks for the inspiration everyone!!!!

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« Reply #1318 on: March 26, 2015, 07:21:48 AM »
It seems that several things are interlinked for me.  Too much stuff, to do lists that are never tackled and involve said stuff, being drained by all the undone things, gaining and losing weight so that I have several wardrobes of clothes leading to more feelings of overwhelm, etc etc etc.

One day at a time.

Hi Wintersun, the not wanting to get rid of things and long to-do lists sounds like me. I had therapy recently (for something unrelated), and my particular problems came from procrastinating and putting off decisions, for fear of making the wrong decision. My course of cognitive behavioural therapy included working on throwing things out and tackling my to do list head on (or taking stuff I was never going to do off the list altogether). It was hard work, but it has made such a big difference to me.

Often, I would know I didn't want something, but I had to get rid of it in the 'best' way possible - by using it up, or donating it, or recycling it. Things that could not be donated (such as part used toiletries) gave me the most grief.

Just thought I would mention it. It's not the kind of thing I thought therapy really dealt with, but learning these techniques has helped me in many areas of my life.

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« Reply #1319 on: March 26, 2015, 02:28:19 PM »
Sibley,
That sounds good.  I did not send Christmas cards for years and am really enjoying the exchange.  I just need to make it simpler like you have.  I was going to take a photo and have cards made but I suspect that would be pretty pricey.  I was thinking of sending a picture to some website for that-does anyone know a good economical site for that?

I do Christmas cards because otherwise people never hear from me. I was late one year, and my mom actually got a phone call from some family asking if I was ok!

I don't do picture cards, and do not plan to. I buy Christmas cards after Christmas and save them for next year. I write a letter/note on the computer, print it on fancy paper (purchase after Christmas on deep discount), put it all together and call it good. The whole process is 2-4 hours depending on how much I'm distracted by other things. It's also when I buy my stamps for the entire following year.

My list is carefully managed. Family are permanent, except for the few who have disassociated themselves from the family. Friends - only people I want to stay in touch with are on the list. Last Christmas I think it was about 40 cards total (small family, small circle of friends).

I've considered emailing it out, but it's not enough for me to bother.  I also don't save cards that I receive - read them, keep for a few weeks to satisfy my roommate's need to display, then in the trash they go.

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« Reply #1320 on: March 26, 2015, 10:43:33 PM »
I still have this little corner filled with some things I'd like to sell. Obviously sellings not my thing,,, I wouldn't bother except these things are worth something. Ill need to ask a friend/family for help with this, as I've never done this before. I'm such a procrastinator jeez.. I think its a fear of getting ripped off, feeling like I messed up because I don't know any better. Of course if I ask for help & do research of values that would likely solve that .
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« Reply #1321 on: March 26, 2015, 10:54:12 PM »

Often, I would know I didn't want something, but I had to get rid of it in the 'best' way possible - by using it up, or donating it, or recycling it. Things that could not be donated (such as part used toiletries) gave me the most grief.


Sounds like me.  I'm pretty good at going through the to-do list but theses little things just throw me off!  I don't want to waste!  things are worth something!  And so many websites just say "throw it out," but I feel bad.  I guess I feel bad either way, but sometimes the guilt is enough to motivate me to just use it up at a slightly accelerated rate.  advicist what did you end up doing with those toiletries, may I ask?

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« Reply #1322 on: March 27, 2015, 01:41:01 AM »
Once we had 14+ baby blankets and my husband was having a hard time convincing me to put them in the give-away box. He said, "Think of all the cold babies..." That was all it took!

Sometimes, for me, picturing someone else finding usefulness in my discarded item (which still has plenty of good use left in it!) makes it easier to give it away.

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« Reply #1323 on: March 27, 2015, 05:40:30 AM »

Often, I would know I didn't want something, but I had to get rid of it in the 'best' way possible - by using it up, or donating it, or recycling it. Things that could not be donated (such as part used toiletries) gave me the most grief.




Sounds like me.  I'm pretty good at going through the to-do list but theses little things just throw me off!  I don't want to waste!  things are worth something!  And so many websites just say "throw it out," but I feel bad.  I guess I feel bad either way, but sometimes the guilt is enough to motivate me to just use it up at a slightly accelerated rate.  advicist what did you end up doing with those toiletries, may I ask?

Heartsnhearts it was a process for sure. When it first came up in therapy, my homeswork one week was to identify a toiletry I didn't like and throw it away. As in, just in the bin. Wow, that was hard (yes, I know I live a very wonderful sheltered life if I found that difficult). I actually couldn't bring myself to do it, so at my therapists suggestion, I took some items in and we did it together (wow I sound like a nutjob). I had to keep repeating it until the anxiety went down, to prove to myself that it would. And it did.

Stuff that was really fine (eg shampoo that I just didn't like the smell of) I actually gave to a friend of a friend. I was telling my friend about my therapy and she said, "oh, so and so loves toiletries of all kinds, and she's kind of struggling financially at the moment!", so I started putting things in a bag for her, and each time I saw my friend, I passed them on. On the one hand I wonder if I'm contributing to her toiletry problem, but hey, she might not have my issues, and the feedback is that she loves the surprise bundles.

Things that I just didn't prefer but were good, I used up. I asked myself, really, will I use this? And if not, I threw it out. I genuinely can now throw things away, although I still empty the bottle and put that in the recycling. But for example a 90% used lipstick that I was just forcing myself to use out of guilt, it's gone.

I'm basically down to only products I genuinely like and would repurchase, after using up odds and ends of lotions, conditioners etc. And when I recently bought an eyeshadow I decided I didn't love, I just gave it to friend of a friend straight away. No beating myself up over the wasted money, no moving it around from basket to basket for months, or using it when I have another one I'd rather use. I came to this realisation because I had been using up one I didn't like, and saving another one I did like and only using it occasionally. I finally gave myself permission to only use things I love, and realised that whilst I had been saving my favourite one, fashions had moved on, and I don't like it anymore. I never got to enjoy it, I just punished myself with the one I didn't like. So, no more. I use my favourites, I get rid of everything else.

Wow, that was an essay, sorry.

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« Reply #1324 on: March 27, 2015, 08:05:43 AM »
That was great!  I'm ok with throwing away small or almost used up things if I'm not into them. But I have a hard time with the things  that are close to full and perfectly good. It sounds like I need to find a "friend of a friend" too!  I used to donate them to a shelter, but now I'm not sure if they would take them.

I totally hear you about "saving" a favorite and using a less favorite instead. I have done that with clothes so many times. I think, X clothing item is too nice/fancy/irreplaceable and I should "save" it for when I really "need" it. I mean really, clothing as irreplaceable, come on!  I was like this even as a girl. I think part of it stems from when I hit puberty and things didn't fit me well and it was the end of the 80's so fashion was horrible!  I always blamed my unperfect body, but now, even though my body is still not perfect, if something doesn't fit or look good it is on the clothing, not me. Most of the time:). And always when the "right" occasion would occur, said piece of clothing was out of date, out of repair from sitting too long, didn't fit me well anymore, etc. Now I try to wear what I like. I just need to get rid of the rest.

The other problem I have is sometimes I will like something after it has been lying about for years as styles, taste and body changes. Anyone else encounter that?

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« Reply #1325 on: March 27, 2015, 08:17:56 AM »
Once we had 14+ baby blankets and my husband was having a hard time convincing me to put them in the give-away box. He said, "Think of all the cold babies..." That was all it took!

Sometimes, for me, picturing someone else finding usefulness in my discarded item (which still has plenty of good use left in it!) makes it easier to give it away.

I do that sometimes too.  Just got an InstantPot, and hesitated on getting rid of the rice cooker that is now redundant, but thought of how useful it might be to someone else and took it to Goodwill yesterday.

Also took two throw pillows and a throw blanket, plus a box of random kitchenware to Goodwill yesterday.  Working on culling some clothes that never got worn this winter. 

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« Reply #1326 on: March 27, 2015, 08:24:27 AM »
Heartsnhearts I am try to instigate it with my wardrobe too - interesting to hear someone else saving things for special occasions... only to find the items end up never being enjoyed. I like that we each have a story that says there is hope for the other of us to change!

The friend of a friend eased a lot of guilt for me! My mum also loves part used bottles of perfumes - you just need someone who's not that fussy, which is easier said than done because who wants to sound like a crazy person asking around.

One thing that still does help me with the eco-guilt is to tell myself the resources have already been used. The stuff that went into making that product is used up, committed, even if I never throw it away the result is the same. I feel better about washing 'perfectly good' cleanser or something down the sink when I think of this because I am freeing up the bottle to be recycled into something useful.

The money is gone, and there is no point crying over spilt milk. Instead, I remind myself that if getting rid of stuff is so hard for me the easiest thing is not to accumulate stuff in the first place. So now, if I am even slightly unsure or hesitant about a purchase the answer is always NO.

And back to my decluttering efforts - 3 more things sold on ebay this week! Enough money raised to cash out of Paypal without fees, AND it feels great to have less stuff everywhere.

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« Reply #1327 on: March 27, 2015, 08:52:18 AM »
I love the friend of a friend idea!  I am also motivated to go thru my bin of lotions and potions this weekend.  I am a couponer and have tons of free/cheap stuff stocked up.  I think it's time to go thru them and send some down the way....

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« Reply #1328 on: March 27, 2015, 08:59:40 AM »
I still have this little corner filled with some things I'd like to sell. Obviously sellings not my thing,,, I wouldn't bother except these things are worth something. Ill need to ask a friend/family for help with this, as I've never done this before. I'm such a procrastinator jeez.. I think its a fear of getting ripped off, feeling like I messed up because I don't know any better. Of course if I ask for help & do research of values that would likely solve that .

This was how I felt when I started too. I was afraid of screwing up, or getting ripped off because I'd never done it before. I still have a pile in the corner, but I'm working through it one at a time. The first time someone responded to my ad and came over and gave me money for something I just wanted to be rid of it was very exciting. I used that excitement to motivate me to put up more items for sale.

My advice is to just pick one thing in your pile that is likely to sell. Take a look and see what other people are selling it for in your area, or another city. Take some pics and post it for sale. One thing is not as overwhelming as an entire pile. You'll learn as you go and it'll get easier. If you are anything like me, you'll never learn by procrastinating.

That said, some things sell quickly, others take some time. If you don't get any responses right away don't worry about it, just move on to the next thing. I put up a few things over a month ago and stopped thinking about them. Just got an email today asking if one of them is still available.

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« Reply #1329 on: March 27, 2015, 09:01:29 AM »
<SNIP>

Wow, that was an essay, sorry.

That's an awesome and inspiring story!

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« Reply #1330 on: March 27, 2015, 09:47:47 AM »
I've been lurking here for a year or more.  Every time I think I'll post I have too much to say, so I stop.

I really understand what theadvicist is talking about.  good stuff.

As for lotions etc, a small group of friends and I have a swap every once in a while.  Some people are finicky about it being half used (I wouldn't buy it at goodwill! ugh!) but trading with friends has been easy for me.

The whole concept of not buying things in the first place is brilliant. I'm being a little facetious. It shouldn't be mind blowing, but it is, over and over again. Several years ago I stopped buying products (and even food) until they really were empty.  Perhaps I miss a bargain or two that way, but I don't have 3 or 4 extra bottles in the cupboard. I think I am better at rationing and using reasonable amounts (tooth paste/ dish soap) when I have enough vs. excess.

I've been meandering around the minimalist lifestyle since I was a teenager.  I wouldn't have called it minimalist then, and hesitate to call it such now.  It's a good life, that's what it is. 

Thanks for the daily inspiration to battle entropy. 





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« Reply #1331 on: March 27, 2015, 10:46:08 AM »
It's dumpster week at our house.  We are clearing out the basement floors, walls, ceiling, and a good deal of junk from the basement and elsewhere.

It's wonderful seeing all that crap out of the house!  We have the dumpster until the 31st, it's almost half full now, and I anticipate we will have no problems (other than sore muscles) filling it.

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« Reply #1332 on: March 27, 2015, 11:04:22 AM »
I love this thread.  I too feel "guilty" about getting rid of items not the "right way."  or I think "someday I will use it!!" so I still have school supplies from high school in a drawer... and I graduated almost ten years ago. 

ok y'all are inspiring me to get at it again this weekend.  wish me luck!

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« Reply #1333 on: March 27, 2015, 11:25:50 AM »

 I have gone thru the kitchen and bathroom. hard to believe i had multiples of things like windex because i just went and bought a new one rather than looking for it.

 still have the living room and bedroom closet to go thru.

 by the time i finish this, especially this closet; i imagine i'll come of with a couple hundred feet of space that has been holding junk that i thought i'd use or wear but realize i never will.

 it truly amazes me how much people buy, espeially myself; to fill up space or impress some one that didnt even notice. my dad came by for the first time in a year recently and said he didnt even notice the books of my bookshelf despite my putting that bookshelf up for my many books read.

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« Reply #1334 on: March 27, 2015, 11:38:10 AM »
I love this thread.  I too feel "guilty" about getting rid of items not the "right way."  or I think "someday I will use it!!" so I still have school supplies from high school in a drawer... and I graduated almost ten years ago. 

ok y'all are inspiring me to get at it again this weekend.  wish me luck!

With school supplies, is there a university near you?  The library might take them, even if they're imperfect/partially used.  I just got rid of a bunch of pencils and pens (any that still work but which we don't use) by taking them to the library.  They have a stash for when patrons ask for a pen or pencil, ones that they don't mind the patrons "stealing".  They'd probably take paper, notebooks, or other school supplies as well, or at least know where on campus to direct you to donate those. 

Libraries will generally take USB thumb drives, too, if you have far too many, and some charging/power cables for the electronics they check out would probably also be useful, since those get lost or stolen frequently. 
Lastly, for those people who want to keep CDs and DVDs but don't want the cases, donate them to the library!  Theirs frequently get damaged in circulation and they might be really thankful to get some replacements.

I realized that our local library has a lot of potted plants, which the staff and faculty take care of on their own.  It creates a welcoming and nurturing atmosphere, particularly in the depths of winter when it's cold, dark, and snowy outside.  So I need to remember to take some potting soil and some old planter pots over there which I'm not going to move with us this summer.  I use the library frequently so I feel that anything I do to support them is a good thing.

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« Reply #1335 on: March 27, 2015, 11:43:01 AM »
School supplies: once our neighbour gave us a big ziploc full of pens, pencils and pencil crayons. It was such a blessing to us at the time because we were homeschooling and quite broke with our young, large family. The kids were over the moon excited about getting that gift, so don't underestimate how valuable those school supplies might be to someone if you give them away! :-)

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« Reply #1336 on: March 27, 2015, 01:20:02 PM »
Husband and son just left with a 15 passenger van full of  junk for the dump! Wahoo! A broken bumper! A flat tire! A broken shelf! A broken mirrored closet door! A broken bedframe! The list goes on and on and on

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« Reply #1337 on: March 27, 2015, 04:32:07 PM »
I still have this little corner filled with some things I'd like to sell. Obviously sellings not my thing,,, I wouldn't bother except these things are worth something. Ill need to ask a friend/family for help with this, as I've never done this before. I'm such a procrastinator jeez.. I think its a fear of getting ripped off, feeling like I messed up because I don't know any better. Of course if I ask for help & do research of values that would likely solve that .

This was how I felt when I started too. I was afraid of screwing up, or getting ripped off because I'd never done it before. I still have a pile in the corner, but I'm working through it one at a time. The first time someone responded to my ad and came over and gave me money for something I just wanted to be rid of it was very exciting. I used that excitement to motivate me to put up more items for sale.

My advice is to just pick one thing in your pile that is likely to sell. Take a look and see what other people are selling it for in your area, or another city. Take some pics and post it for sale. One thing is not as overwhelming as an entire pile. You'll learn as you go and it'll get easier. If you are anything like me, you'll never learn by procrastinating.

That said, some things sell quickly, others take some time. If you don't get any responses right away don't worry about it, just move on to the next thing. I put up a few things over a month ago and stopped thinking about them. Just got an email today asking if one of them is still available.

Cookie, that's a really inspiring and easy transition into selling stuff.  I love it!  I'm going to try it this weekend.  Thanks so much!

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« Reply #1338 on: March 27, 2015, 04:36:37 PM »
One thing that still does help me with the eco-guilt is to tell myself the resources have already been used. The stuff that went into making that product is used up, committed, even if I never throw it away the result is the same. I feel better about washing 'perfectly good' cleanser or something down the sink when I think of this because I am freeing up the bottle to be recycled into something useful.

The money is gone, and there is no point crying over spilt milk. Instead, I remind myself that if getting rid of stuff is so hard for me the easiest thing is not to accumulate stuff in the first place. So now, if I am even slightly unsure or hesitant about a purchase the answer is always NO.

Definitely about not bringing as much into the house. It is the most helpful thing. 

I like the idea that the resources have already been used.  Actually I think I feel less bad about pouring it down the sink too and then recycling the container, I just never thought of that as an option!  Silly me!  I always think I have to throw it in the trash!  And i'm pretty particular about buying mostly natural products, so washing it down isn't a big deal. 

Today, we went to the zoo.  I have 2 old sunscreens that are now a bit chuncky (zinc oxide), but they still work fine.  I would rather use the brand new one, but I used the older ones.  I think however I will now start using the old ones on the body and the new one on the face.  That might be the best of both worlds.  Or should I just throw them out?

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« Reply #1339 on: March 27, 2015, 04:45:23 PM »

Today, we went to the zoo.  I have 2 old sunscreens that are now a bit chuncky (zinc oxide), but they still work fine.  I would rather use the brand new one, but I used the older ones.  I think however I will now start using the old ones on the body and the new one on the face.  That might be the best of both worlds.  Or should I just throw them out?

You could try and melt them down, adding a little neutral carrier oil if you need to and reusing. When doing things like this, I reuse old glass jars to melt in as it will probably leave a film that is a royal PITA to clean out afterwards.

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« Reply #1340 on: March 27, 2015, 04:49:33 PM »

Today, we went to the zoo.  I have 2 old sunscreens that are now a bit chuncky (zinc oxide), but they still work fine.  I would rather use the brand new one, but I used the older ones.  I think however I will now start using the old ones on the body and the new one on the face.  That might be the best of both worlds.  Or should I just throw them out?

You could try and melt them down, adding a little neutral carrier oil if you need to and reusing. When doing things like this, I reuse old glass jars to melt in as it will probably leave a film that is a royal PITA to clean out afterwards.

Great Idea!  They are natural anyway, no nothing weird, just oil and zinc basically.  and the zinc is precipitating out.  I love it and I'm gonna do it.  and if it fails, well I tried and can feel great about it. 

Now if I can just throw away the wax left over from the tea light candles...  I know, this sounds bad.  My house is not a hoarder house, I swear!  We do not have narrow pathways! I can see all surfaces completely.  ;)

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« Reply #1341 on: March 27, 2015, 05:43:35 PM »
I got rid of a whole bunch of wax to someone who heats their house with a fire, the wax is great for them to make firestarters out of.

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« Reply #1342 on: March 28, 2015, 09:20:26 AM »
School supplies: once our neighbour gave us a big ziploc full of pens, pencils and pencil crayons. It was such a blessing to us at the time because we were homeschooling and quite broke with our young, large family. The kids were over the moon excited about getting that gift, so don't underestimate how valuable those school supplies might be to someone if you give them away! :-)

I can attest to this - I just took my 5 year old niece lots of coloured paper and cardboard I'd been saving for... I dunno, packing parcels? I figured if I need cardboard I can always go get a cereal box from the kitchen. She, on the other hand, thought all her Christmases had come at once!

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« Reply #1343 on: March 28, 2015, 03:53:02 PM »
Now that I've decluttered quite a bit, it gave me the courage to face my clothes closet again and to ask (a la Marie Kondo) whether the items spark joy. Funny thing, I was hard pressed to find even one item that sparked joy! That realization was a little disturbing and I found myself wondering if maybe I'm depressed or if I just have a really dull set of clothes in my closet! I walked away and let it be for a few days. Maybe today I will go back and approach it again. (sigh)

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« Reply #1344 on: March 28, 2015, 04:11:37 PM »
Yes it can be a confronting question! I realised an awful lot of my stuff I kept out of a sense of obligation or commitment to the item: "you bought it, so you have to use it", or the item had been gifted to me and somehow I was obligated to use it out of respect to the giver. "Waste not, want not" is also lingering around somewhere in my brain too.  With clothes, I do have a few favourites that spark joy, but an awful lot of dross. It did help me release quite a lot of clothes: ones that I actually actively disliked but kept because they were still good. Most of the ones I wear now I am at least neutral about.  I didn't want to throw everything out as I would have nothing left and am on the no buy clothes challenge. So I just shelled out the worst, and kept a smaller amount

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« Reply #1345 on: March 28, 2015, 08:49:35 PM »
A friend told me today that they are  moving and already had 30 boxes packed, "but that's just books and movies!  We love books and movies!  That was over a thousand movies!"

I came home, opened my cupboard and looked for things to get rid of. 

Two photo albums (removed the photos to trash, empty albums to goodwill)
One textbook I couldn't resell
assorted recent junkmail
I also baked lemon bars from a mix that's been in the cupboard too long

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« Reply #1346 on: March 29, 2015, 01:41:57 AM »
I realised an awful to of my stuff I kept out of a sense of obligation or commitment to the item: "you bought it, so you have to use it", or the item had been gifted to me and somehow I was obligated to use it out of respect to the giver. "Waste not, want not" is also lingering around somewhere in my brain too. 

+1  These thoughts rattle around in my head too ... thank you for putting them into words for me!

With clothes, I do have a few favourites that spark joy, but an awful lot of dross. It did help me release quite a lot of clothes: ones that I actually actively disliked but kept because they were still good. Most of the ones I wear now I am at least neutral about.  I didn't want to throw everything out as I would have nothing left and am on the no buy clothes challenge. So I just shelled out the worst, and kept a smaller amount

I wonder about this too .. if I were to go through my closet with real intentionality, I'm not sure there would be much left! Then again, I only wear a few favourite pieces anyways. I just hate the thought of having to go out and spend more money on clothes.

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« Reply #1347 on: March 29, 2015, 02:20:49 AM »
I picked several soft toys to donate, a photo album that only had one photo in it (took that out first!) and chucked a bunch of tiny bits of paper and plastic. It's nice to be releasing the toys, I am quite a fan of soft toys! No, we have no kids, they were all mine! Fortunately the really important sentimental ones are unsuitable for donation, and the ones that don't spark joy are the ones that a kid would be happy to receive.

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« Reply #1348 on: March 29, 2015, 06:41:08 AM »
Two jackets and one lemongrass moisturizer out (never enjoyed the scent) that I brought home from a hotel in Vegas for some reason.. One of the jackets cost me around $70 new 5yrs ago and for mostly that reason was hard to let go of. Other jacket I picked out of a free clothing bin and never wore because the style is too unusual, even for me. Its cute though, so that's why I had picked it up in the first place. Its becoming easier certainly to let things go.


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« Reply #1349 on: March 29, 2015, 06:54:17 AM »
I still have this little corner filled with some things I'd like to sell. Obviously sellings not my thing,,, I wouldn't bother except these things are worth something. Ill need to ask a friend/family for help with this, as I've never done this before. I'm such a procrastinator jeez.. I think its a fear of getting ripped off, feeling like I messed up because I don't know any better. Of course if I ask for help & do research of values that would likely solve that .

This was how I felt when I started too. I was afraid of screwing up, or getting ripped off because I'd never done it before. I still have a pile in the corner, but I'm working through it one at a time. The first time someone responded to my ad and came over and gave me money for something I just wanted to be rid of it was very exciting. I used that excitement to motivate me to put up more items for sale.

My advice is to just pick one thing in your pile that is likely to sell. Take a look and see what other people are selling it for in your area, or another city. Take some pics and post it for sale. One thing is not as overwhelming as an entire pile. You'll learn as you go and it'll get easier. If you are anything like me, you'll never learn by procrastinating.

That said, some things sell quickly, others take some time. If you don't get any responses right away don't worry about it, just move on to the next thing. I put up a few things over a month ago and stopped thinking about them. Just got an email today asking if one of them is still available.

This is a great idea, thank you:). It sounds much less stressful and more manageable. Next time I'm home I will go into the corner and select an item to begin with. Agree 100% on procrastination. It really does up the anxiety levels for me (and depending on what I am putting off can be actually potentially damaging...).