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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1250 on: March 18, 2015, 01:47:11 PM »
MMM wrote about this (of course)

Yes, and somehow I always still laugh when I "hear" it. ;-)

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« Reply #1251 on: March 19, 2015, 05:26:24 AM »
I did it. moved four months ago to a 560 sq ft place with carport from my 1300 ft house with double garage. I just took what I really needed, then for three months I went back for things I discovered I needed. There was a huge amount remaining.

I invited friends to come and take whatever they wanted. I took some things to donate, and I sold the few things of significant value. Then I had a huge sale. Didn't make much money but the stuff found a home. Everything left went out on the driveway with a free sign. Then I had the trash people pick up the rest. Had painters and handyman and carpet installers and cleaners spend a busy week.

Put it on the market and sold it in four days. Escrow closes April ten.

Hooray.
Awesome! You are inspiring us to do something similar though at a smaller scale. We are going from 1200+ sqft to 900 sqft. Your idea of moving the must haves and then decluttering is brilliant. Going to run it by the husband!

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1252 on: March 19, 2015, 06:12:55 AM »
OK, I'm pretty good at finding new homes for clothes and general household stuff, but I'm stuck on jars of 5 and 10c coins. Help!

Long story short, when we got DH's stuff out of storage last year, there were 3 or 4 jars of coins, ie loose change. We've picked out all the high value coins and spent them, but now we're down to 5 and 10c coins - 3 jars worth. We can't use them up on parking, cos the meters are all restricted to a maximum number of coins (although we could probably get through a few 10c coings) plus they don't accept 5c coins these days. I'm guessing there's maybe $10 worth of shrapnel, give or take a bit.

What's the best way to get rid of it? I'm happy to give it away to charity. I've even considered dumping the coins on a footpath near a school for kids to find. I could possibly take it to a bank and see if they'll count it for us, but neither of us have done it in 6 months, so unlikely to happen any time soon - we just never go to a bank, and dunno which ones will accept piles of coins from non-business customers. (I've read that the US has Coinstar which would be awesome, but I don't think such a thing exists here)

Feels like such a stupid thing to be stuck on, but I just want them gone now.

I take spare coins and put them in a coin purse. I dish them out to everyone. I am quick to count the coins though (and dont do massive transactions) so I dont piss off people behind me. Most shops are really pleased to get change actually and some will ask for more of it.

Another way to get rid of it is in train ticket machines? Or for small purchases like newspapers or a bar of chocolate. I kind of treat it as found money so I buy stuff with it that I might not normally.

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« Reply #1253 on: March 19, 2015, 08:44:44 PM »
I got rid of a huge framed picture hanging.  It was gorgeous and I still liked it, but it sucks to move because it pops out of the frame.  Now I can hang other pretty pictures there instead.

I also sold my motorcycle.  Bam! But this doesn't count since I only sold it so I had cash for a new (to me, but cheaper and bigger engine) one.  Did NOT want to risk not being able to sell my first one and having two sitting in my garage stall.  I would cringe every time I saw the 'money' sitting there.

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« Reply #1254 on: March 20, 2015, 12:38:47 AM »
My husband offered our big old piano to someone at work. We have a new one gifted to us by my parents, so why was I keeping the old one? For one of the kids when they get married. Well, I thought about that old MMM article about using Craiglist and the library as a place to store your goods till you need them again. When you look on CL, there are free pianos popping up every day, so my kids will be able to get one that way and I will be free of this gigantic upright piano in my living room (across the room from the OTHER piano!). For a while, I thought I was emotionally attached to the piano since all of my kids learned to play on it, but if they're not attached to it, why should I be either?

Such a DUH moment when I realized we should do this. The fellow at work mentioned at the staff Christmas party that he would like to get his little girls a piano someday, so its a perfect situation! Everyone's happy!

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« Reply #1255 on: March 20, 2015, 06:35:05 AM »
And in the meantime 1967 you've given some kid the gift of music! Lovely story where everyone benefits.

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« Reply #1256 on: March 20, 2015, 08:07:15 AM »
I've been getting rid of stuff for a few years now.  We're moving to the UK in a few months (military) so that's motivating both my wife (OK with getting rid of stuff we don't need), and I (obsessed about having as little as possible) to trim out more unecessary things before we move.  We don't know what size house will be available, so we've been trying to get set up to be able to fit in a much smaller house.

Biggest win:  We've been talking for a year or so about getting rid of our huge sectional.  We bought it new in 2004 for $2700 (more than my first car) and absolutely love it.  Still in good condition.  Of the three sides (think a U shape) we only use 2.  The biggest issue is that it usually only fits in one room one way in each place we've lived.  If we end up in a house that doesn't fit it well we're screwed.  My wife finally decided we should sell it (I've wanted to sell it for awhile).  She found a replacement (couch with chaise that can be switched from side to side) and a matching chair with ottoman for $200.  Then she sold the sectional for $500!

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1257 on: March 20, 2015, 12:10:08 PM »
What do you do with things you know u'll need in a year or two? We have a ton of baby stuff that we know we'll use for baby#2. We are also moving from a two bedroom apartment to a one bed one and have extra furniture. We are planning to move back to a two bed apartment next year. Should I keep them in storage or just sell and rebuy?

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« Reply #1258 on: March 20, 2015, 02:21:43 PM »
What do you do with things you know u'll need in a year or two? We have a ton of baby stuff that we know we'll use for baby#2. We are also moving from a two bedroom apartment to a one bed one and have extra furniture. We are planning to move back to a two bed apartment next year. Should I keep them in storage or just sell and rebuy?

One year I'd keep - the effort of selling and the possible inability to buy/sell at prices I'd accept wouldn't be worth it to me.  Indefinite or really long time I'd sell.  I have friends that gave away their baby stuff planning on only one kid.  Then they changed their minds, but they had already given away all of the clothes and they're unhappy about that now.

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« Reply #1259 on: March 20, 2015, 02:33:58 PM »
What do you do with things you know u'll need in a year or two? We have a ton of baby stuff that we know we'll use for baby#2. We are also moving from a two bedroom apartment to a one bed one and have extra furniture. We are planning to move back to a two bed apartment next year. Should I keep them in storage or just sell and rebuy?

How much do you have to pay for storage?  If you have it in the apartment, absolutely keep it.  If you have to get external storage, I'd estimate how much you are actually paying for the storage vs paying to rebuy it.

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« Reply #1260 on: March 20, 2015, 04:31:42 PM »
Spring cleaning is making me pissed at the stuff that is sitting around requiring dusting, so I'm finding a whole new round of stuff to take to the thrift store - throw pillows, ramekins (wtf, I have 14 ramekins?!).  I'm even feeling less sentimental about some things that came from family and thinking I might be ready to get rid of them soon.  Combined some random partially filled toiletries - like, mixed the assorted conditioners together - and getting rid of bottles.  Tossed out a 15 year wine cork collection - I am never going to get around to making a bulletin board out of those.  Pared a few more items out of my wardrobe while switching out some of the winter and spring clothes.

Also decluttering the pantry via getting rid of stuff we just don't eat any more.  This is a giant savings because I like my kitchen better and no longer want to tear it out and replace it with one that has more storage.

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« Reply #1261 on: March 21, 2015, 01:04:17 PM »
I dropped off a little bag of odds and ends that had accumulated today, it was half a dozen or a dozen things.  Time to start another donation bag or box, I guess!

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« Reply #1262 on: March 21, 2015, 01:23:58 PM »
Posted some things online for free on a Facebook group. Have had a few people show up to take away my things! Some of them are taking a look at the pile to find other things I haven't posted yet, that they might be able to use. Feeling lighter already.

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« Reply #1263 on: March 21, 2015, 04:24:35 PM »
I've been from finding a lot of random things to donate, recycle , or toss just about everyday! Guess I'm on a roll now. So far today: sunglasses I never wear because are not polarized, cellphone holder I never use, various essential oils I found but do not like scents ( must be more discerning of what I bring in- not just take because free or found), extra nail clippers, tweezers, box.

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« Reply #1264 on: March 22, 2015, 06:19:46 PM »
Lugged three bags on foot to the nearest op-shop and donated everything inside. My bedroom floor is now completely clean!

Next stop, selling the stuff that's actually worth something.

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« Reply #1265 on: March 22, 2015, 06:34:14 PM »
Got rid of boxes and boxes of old papers on the weekend. Mostly uni-related - it's more than five years since I graduated now!

We cleared out our wine collection, by getting rid of some bottles kept for sentimental reasons, and giving away most of the rest.

Several more big bags have been filled with things for charity, including some good quality kitchen things that we'll just never use.

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« Reply #1266 on: March 23, 2015, 04:24:20 AM »
Love reading everyone's successes on this thread!

My cull rate is definitely slowing down. At first I was reluctant to let things go, and very picky. Then I realised how much better I felt and got ruthless! But now I've got rid of so much stuff most of what I have I regularly use. I think.

So this weekend I went through my wardrobe and turned all the hangers. I thought I didn't need to do this exercise because I know which things I don't wear but am holding onto for silly reasons (wore it on a special date, don't like how it fits but it was expensive etc). But I'm hoping it will make me see that I NEVER wear them, so there is no point keeping them 'just in case I need them'. We will see.

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« Reply #1267 on: March 23, 2015, 06:31:45 AM »
This is cool.

The other day I was going through my cupboards, and noticed I had plenty of empty space in them. Looked around the apartment, on the table, on my desk etc, and there just wasn't any stuff to store in the cupboards!
So next step: ditch a cupboard.?



(please forgive me if I use the wrong word for closet/cupboard/cabinet ;) )

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« Reply #1268 on: March 23, 2015, 07:22:00 AM »
We are getting a dumpster tomorrow to tear out the basement.  While it is here I'll be making sure it is full all the way to the brim!  I hope after the basement destruction that there is space for a good deal of other crap in the house.

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« Reply #1269 on: March 23, 2015, 08:02:35 AM »
This is cool.

The other day I was going through my cupboards, and noticed I had plenty of empty space in them. Looked around the apartment, on the table, on my desk etc, and there just wasn't any stuff to store in the cupboards!
So next step: ditch a cupboard.?



(please forgive me if I use the wrong word for closet/cupboard/cabinet ;) )

Kinda jealous of you, I'm still in the process of figuring out my kitchen haha, and its been kinda a goal for about a year.  I do little things here and there, but I'm nowhere close to having just empty cupboards.  This weekend I realized that I was not using my top shelves efficiently at all.  Instead of keeping rarely used things up there it was more like never used things, and rarely used things had migrated to a shelving unit in the dining area.  So, I threw out a bunch of old gross plastic tupaware that I replaced over a year ago with nicer glass tupaware, and plus relocated a couple things to their "proper" location.  Basically the top shelves in all of my cabinets were totally cleared out.  My kitchen exists on two walls, so my new strategy is to dedicate cabinets on one side as the "pantry" (I don't have a real pantry), and the other side to cookware/glassware/silverware.

I'm hoping this will be kinda a catalyst to the rest of my apartment.  The idea being that if I can get rid of the one shelving unit the dining table will fit better within the actual dining area, then the living room has more space.  This should hopefully work well with the plan of removing some of the other too large or unnecessary furniture in my apartment.   OK this was longer than I intended but I'm kinda excited about all this.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1270 on: March 23, 2015, 11:09:40 AM »
To all the declutterers on this thread, I am curious to know…with all of this de-cluttering are you finding that you are no longer bringing much into the house?  Is the act of getting rid of so much stuff that once cost money and now has no use to you causing you to shift your shopping mindset?

What habits have you changed since you started on this quest? 

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« Reply #1271 on: March 23, 2015, 11:16:43 AM »
To all the declutterers on this thread, I am curious to know…with all of this de-cluttering are you finding that you are no longer bringing much into the house?  Is the act of getting rid of so much stuff that once cost money and now has no use to you causing you to shift your shopping mindset?

What habits have you changed since you started on this quest?

Absolutely. I actually can't think of a single 'thing' that I've bought since I started at the beginning of the year that wasn't a consumable, like food or medicine, or something I've used immediately, like the screws to finish my deck steps. I'm even turning away free things that people want to give me. The only things I will accept are those that I know I will use, like food.

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« Reply #1272 on: March 23, 2015, 11:22:43 AM »
Working hard at this, goal was to get rid of 100 things a week (yes, I have too much stuff).  This weekend i took a huge garbage bag to Goodwill, it was so large and so heavy i had to use the car as leverage to roll the bag into the back of my CRV!  Feels good, that was 2 weeks worth and i'm sure there was more than 200 items (clothing, shoes, household knick knacks, bits of yarn and other miscellaneous).

We're hoping to move from AZ to WY this summer and i need to move as little as possible, this is my chance to start fresh! 

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1273 on: March 23, 2015, 11:34:46 AM »
To all the declutterers on this thread, I am curious to know…with all of this de-cluttering are you finding that you are no longer bringing much into the house?  Is the act of getting rid of so much stuff that once cost money and now has no use to you causing you to shift your shopping mindset?

What habits have you changed since you started on this quest?

I've never really brought much into my home, since I've always had smaller spaces. The problem is, my places have always had lots of storage space, which I would utilize unnecessarily.

My big habit that's changed is ignoring stuff that's out of sight. My desire to get rid of stuff used to end when things were out of sight in a closet, cupboard, or drawer. Now that the visual stuff is gone, I'm definitely noticing hidden clutter way more, and dealing with it.

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« Reply #1274 on: March 23, 2015, 11:44:19 AM »
To all the declutterers on this thread, I am curious to know…with all of this de-cluttering are you finding that you are no longer bringing much into the house?  Is the act of getting rid of so much stuff that once cost money and now has no use to you causing you to shift your shopping mindset?

What habits have you changed since you started on this quest?

Definitely! Wait, actually, no, it was the other way around. I started using YNAB and stopped buying stuff because I was focussing on building net worth. Then I found MMM and cut back on purchasing things even more. Basically, if it's not consumable, I don't buy it. Very few exceptions for quality pieces that will last a long long time. But yes, key to seeing a difference in available space is not bringing anything in, for sure.

Whenever I 'want' something, I wait. And then I wait some more. And then if I really want it and can justify its use, I look to buy it used.

I would not have said I was a big shopper at all- I have never shopped for entertainment and avoided knick knacks etc. But I did like to try new things - toiletries, make up, foodstuffs. Forcing myself to use up every bottle of lotion and packet of wild rice has really made me stick to only buying things I know I like and will actually USE, instead of just wanting to be kind of person who has saffron in the cupboard, without any recipes to use it up in mind.

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« Reply #1275 on: March 23, 2015, 11:49:31 AM »
What I failed to explain in my previous post is that when I stopped buying things, I realised how much of the joy was in the buying, not the using. And it made me see that these things I had weren't bringing me any pleasure, they were a burden. Acquiring them was fun, but in a weird way, that meant they had fulfilled their purpose. Using them up was not fun, and it has put me off buying anything else, and encouraged me to unload those things I don't use and want anymore.

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« Reply #1276 on: March 23, 2015, 05:28:21 PM »
Wonderful thread! I have been reading Francing Jay, too. We did a big cleanup over the weekend and took a pickup truck full of stuff to dump, and packed a box of household stuff and a bag of clothes for Goodwill. This morning I cleaned out 1 shelf in the linen closet. I set up a card table in the bathroom and put all the contents of the shelf on the table, sorted through what I really wanted, and made a beautifully organized shelf out of it. Cleaning one shelf per day should work great.

There's so much more cleaning to do, but, at the same time, a big challenge is to only acquire new things thoughtfully and sensibly.

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« Reply #1277 on: March 23, 2015, 06:46:17 PM »
I dropped off a box load of books and DVDs to the local used bookstore and got a grand total of….... $7! Books and DVDs hold the lowest value after use :( no more buying books or DVDs.

Not to mention, any more books or DVDs I find go to good will. So not worth the hassle!

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« Reply #1278 on: March 23, 2015, 07:09:46 PM »
To all the declutterers on this thread, I am curious to know…with all of this de-cluttering are you finding that you are no longer bringing much into the house?  Is the act of getting rid of so much stuff that once cost money and now has no use to you causing you to shift your shopping mindset?

What habits have you changed since you started on this quest?

It's kind of a non-vicious circle.

I'd already started buying significantly less / bringing much less into the house. But yes, decluttering is definitely helping me to shift my mindset about 'enough' and to be a bit harsher in my decisions about what I allow in (almost all our Christmas presents were donated immediately, for example).

I think decluttering has changed my procrastination habit. I'm so grumpy at past-Happier for keeping all this crap for me to deal with, that I'm dealing with stuff NOW instead of leaving it for when we move house.

And it has shifted my understanding of what actually brings me joy. I'm not a very sentimental person, it turns out :-)

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« Reply #1279 on: March 23, 2015, 08:00:17 PM »
Going out this week:

- air hockey table (HUGE)
- IKEA bar stool
- stereo speaker
- 6 kid dress up costumes
- 2 bags of clothes
- toddler bed

Its all sitting by the door waiting for a truck to come on Wednesday. Sadly, that doesn't even make a dent in what we yet have to get rid of! I was telling my husband MMM's theory of storing your goods at the library/thrift store/Craig's list and he thought that sounded very wise.

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« Reply #1280 on: March 24, 2015, 05:50:08 AM »

I think decluttering has changed my procrastination habit.

This is true for me too. I realised a lot of my clutter was stuff I didn't know what to do with, or stuff I didn't want to throw away because I had to deal with it 'right' (eg recycling, giving away etc). I have been forcing myself to just MAKE A DECISION and it feels better. Someone upthread said 'clutter is delayed decisions' and for me that was and is very true.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1281 on: March 24, 2015, 07:44:21 AM »
To all the declutterers on this thread, I am curious to know…with all of this de-cluttering are you finding that you are no longer bringing much into the house?  Is the act of getting rid of so much stuff that once cost money and now has no use to you causing you to shift your shopping mindset?

What habits have you changed since you started on this quest? 

It's been a slow process, but over the years I had already come to realize that maybe I don't need to buy and own that much stuff.
Various events, experiences, books, lectures etc have contributed to this idea.
So I hadn't been buying much anyway over the last few years.

Reading MMM, this thread and videos from Joshua Becker and Ryan Nicodemus & Joshua Fields Millburn just inspired me to take it a bit further.
So since I started decluttering plm 3 months ago I hardly bought anything apart from food, but I doubt I would have if I hadn't been decluttering.


Another stack of books (8 or so) given to charity today, by the way :-)
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« Reply #1282 on: March 24, 2015, 05:46:22 PM »
Went through a garbage bag of teddy bears that my adult daughter had collected out of her little siblings bedrooms. Only kept out 3 for sentimental value. I should really start a box for each child with a few special things from their childhood. Does anyone else do this?

My mom has a box in the attic. Not going to argue with her since she's been de-cluttering a lot, and wants to get at the stuff in the attic next.

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« Reply #1283 on: March 24, 2015, 05:54:13 PM »
One of those lumpy too-soft pillows that's so ancient I don't even know where it came from. And a mismatched pillowcase.

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« Reply #1284 on: March 24, 2015, 06:19:06 PM »
Wow, there is some serious decluttering going on on this thread.  I do not have any to report per se, however the feeling of ease and enjoyment in our uncluttered spaces continues unabated.  My uncle came over the other day and could not stop talking about how beautifully we had fixed the house up and how great the new paint job looks.  Of course nothing has been painted, or fixed up, I simply decluttered and am keeping each room clutter-free. 

I still have a lot of papers in storage right now which need to be tossed/scanned/filed but they can wait until after Christmas.

I am working on how to declutter my Christmas preparation which still includes loads of presents, mailing cards and having a big messy wrapping station on the dining room table.  I have managed to use almost every gift in my gift drawer and do not plan to continue to have one.  I am using up all the old wrapping and ribbon and cards (I am ashamed to say that I am actually using some that someone else was tossing out).  I find the mess created by  having the wrapping stuff out for more than one day is messing with my serenity.  Note to self…not doing that next year.

Next year I want to cut back on the number of kids we give gifts to and put the Christmas card info into a database so I can print labels.  I know the card thing is outdated but it is an old fashioned thing I like and it is a way of keeping in touch with elderly friends abroad.

I aslo want to move more and more into baking gifts instead of buying them. 

One final part, we have always driven around delivering to houses, and it takes a lot of time and energy.  When we were younger it was like an all day party but now it is a slog.  I definitely want to examine this for next year.

Do any of you guys make this time of year too complicated?

I do Christmas cards. I have all the addresses in an excel file and just update it as needed. When I'm ready to do the labels, I do a mail merge in Word. Works great.

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« Reply #1285 on: March 25, 2015, 08:51:18 AM »
Two more bags of toys and clothes in the van. Stuffed animals I suspect are actually alive, because they keep multiplying...

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1286 on: March 25, 2015, 09:08:10 AM »
Does anyone else have "guilt" over donating?  I feel guilty giving away stuff that is still good, that could be sold for at least a little $ back.  Even though I know the items help others in need (well, it goes to a store, is sold and part of the profit goes toward helping others), it feels wasteful.  And hence why i have TOO MUCH STUFF.

I have been struggling with this.  For example, i have a plastic bin FULL of shoes of my daughters.  Some are new but most are lightly used (from infant to age 6).  It's a bin that if i donated them all, would give me an extra bin to used to pack the house for our (possible) move this summer.  And yet, i haven't been able to do it yet....

I know it's weird, in a rummage sale i MIGHT get .25 - $1.00 per pair.  It would likely add up to < $20 IF i sold every pair in the bin.  Lots of extra work for maybe $20 or a 2 minute decision to put them in the donate bag and reclaim that bin. 

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1287 on: March 25, 2015, 09:15:58 AM »
Does anyone else have "guilt" over donating?  I feel guilty giving away stuff that is still good, that could be sold for at least a little $ back.  Even though I know the items help others in need (well, it goes to a store, is sold and part of the profit goes toward helping others), it feels wasteful.  And hence why i have TOO MUCH STUFF.

I have been struggling with this.  For example, i have a plastic bin FULL of shoes of my daughters.  Some are new but most are lightly used (from infant to age 6).  It's a bin that if i donated them all, would give me an extra bin to used to pack the house for our (possible) move this summer.  And yet, i haven't been able to do it yet....

I know it's weird, in a rummage sale i MIGHT get .25 - $1.00 per pair.  It would likely add up to < $20 IF i sold every pair in the bin.  Lots of extra work for maybe $20 or a 2 minute decision to put them in the donate bag and reclaim that bin.

I can totally empathize with this. I feel excited to get rid of stuff, but there is guilt that maybe I could have got a little money if I'd made more effort. I do sell some things that are worth a little more, but I think the best thing to do with items that are worth a minimal amount is to take a deep breath and let them go.

I thought of storing everything in the garage and having a sale in the summer too, but then I'm not really getting rid of stuff, just storing it. The guilt has sure helped me a lot in not accumulating new things.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1288 on: March 25, 2015, 10:14:22 AM »
With a LOT of time and effort you could make a tiny bit of money by selling them.

Just do the math and decide how much your time is worth to you.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1289 on: March 25, 2015, 10:32:05 AM »
With a LOT of time and effort you could make a tiny bit of money by selling them.

Just do the math and decide how much your time is worth to you.

I know, I know, the logical part of my brain thinks/believes this... the cheapo/frugal part of me thinks "i should sell that".  Of course, the thought of a garage sale here in phx where the temps are already hitting 90's makes me cringe.  Must. Donate. Little. Shoes.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1290 on: March 25, 2015, 11:03:11 AM »
You could try a consignment shop, like Turnstyle.  If they sell, you get money.  If they don't sell and you don't come pick them up, they'll donate them after a few months.  Win-win situation all around.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1291 on: March 25, 2015, 11:26:18 AM »
Years ago a friend and I had a yard sale - I sold almost nothing, and it was a lot of work.  Now I just donate to places I would like to benefit from the sales.  In Canada we cannot itemize donations for tax purposes, so it truly is a donation.  I benefit by getting the whatever out of my house, and knowing that the place I donated to will also benefit.  Plus it certainly cuts down on the stress.

When we moved (a few years after that yard sale) I didn't even try to sell things, I just took car loads to my favourite donation place.  That made for a much easier move.  No regrets.

Does anyone else have "guilt" over donating?  I feel guilty giving away stuff that is still good, that could be sold for at least a little $ back.  Even though I know the items help others in need (well, it goes to a store, is sold and part of the profit goes toward helping others), it feels wasteful.  And hence why i have TOO MUCH STUFF.

I have been struggling with this.  For example, i have a plastic bin FULL of shoes of my daughters.  Some are new but most are lightly used (from infant to age 6).  It's a bin that if i donated them all, would give me an extra bin to used to pack the house for our (possible) move this summer.  And yet, i haven't been able to do it yet....

I know it's weird, in a rummage sale i MIGHT get .25 - $1.00 per pair.  It would likely add up to < $20 IF i sold every pair in the bin.  Lots of extra work for maybe $20 or a 2 minute decision to put them in the donate bag and reclaim that bin.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1292 on: March 25, 2015, 11:54:11 AM »
I did try selling books and DVDs... And ended up with $7. So not worth the effort. So now my new minimum is $20 per item. Lower than that, I prefer to donate and be done with it. Makes decluttering easier without guilt.

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« Reply #1293 on: March 25, 2015, 12:24:09 PM »
My toddler is with the grandparents for most of this week so I've used my free time (and extreme boredom) to get my butt in gear and clean up.  We're moving in about two months and I officially have the first two boxes packed, of outgrown baby clothes which we'd like to keep for a second.  However, I also pulled out baby clothes to sell to a used baby stuff store, lots of items for a family member who's pregnant (but which isn't really decluttering since I'll get those back at some point), and several items for some friends whose baby will grow into them soon (don't want those back).  !!  It feels good to have done all of that.
Additionally, however, I identified several other items which can go to the charity shop, went through my closet yet again and pulled out some things I never wore but, strangely enough, kept out of a sense of guilt.  Last, I went through all of my and my husband's socks and underwear and cleared out anything with holes or in which the elastic was gone.  Sometimes I keep the holey socks to use to dust the house, then throw them away guilt-free, but I've got plenty of those so I tossed the rest.
Still looking for more to do.  Will probably start on the kitchen next, and start packing up some of the books.  I've already found some to get rid of but I found a few old textbooks lurking in the closet and have thought of a few more books which I don't mind parting with.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1294 on: March 25, 2015, 12:40:18 PM »
Theadvicist,

What you said really resonates with me:

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"these things I had weren't bringing me any pleasure, they were a burden. Acquiring them was fun, but in a weird way, that meant they had fulfilled their purpose. Using them up was not fun, and it has put me off buying anything else, and encouraged me to unload those things I don't use and want anymore."

I have heard of people who buy things and then return them the next day and also people who have dozens of brand new clothes in the closet with tags still on and I suspect that the fun was only in the shopping for those people as well.

Shopping can really bring my spirits up and can be an unhealthy way to fill a hole inside, and I am not even much of a shopper compared to the average Joe. 

After clearing out on and off over the last nine months I still feel weighed down by the burden of stuff. 

The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...

I realise that I have been overwhelmed by the excess of stuff for years.  I would love to move to a small house with a small garden and fewer things AND I still enjoy the beauty of where we live now, I just need to simplify a LOT more in order to enjoy it more fully, especially since my dh is not intending to move.

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1295 on: March 25, 2015, 12:46:49 PM »
Sibley,
That sounds good.  I did not send Christmas cards for years and am really enjoying the exchange.  I just need to make it simpler like you have.  I was going to take a photo and have cards made but I suspect that would be pretty pricey.  I was thinking of sending a picture to some website for that-does anyone know a good economical site for that?

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1296 on: March 25, 2015, 12:52:41 PM »
Dagobert Duck,

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since I started decluttering plm 3 months ago I hardly bought anything apart from food, but I doubt I would have if I hadn't been decluttering

Congrats on reaching that place of not wanting to acquire.  I am still acquiring free things cast off by others or buying secondhand at yard sales.  The amount of stuff is not huge but it still weighs on me a great deal.  So avoiding shops is easy for me but avoiding sentimental cast offs from family is not so easy and I need to ban yard sale attendance. (sigh).

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1297 on: March 25, 2015, 12:53:42 PM »
Theadvicist,

What you said really resonates with me:

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"these things I had weren't bringing me any pleasure, they were a burden. Acquiring them was fun, but in a weird way, that meant they had fulfilled their purpose. Using them up was not fun, and it has put me off buying anything else, and encouraged me to unload those things I don't use and want anymore."

I have heard of people who buy things and then return them the next day and also people who have dozens of brand new clothes in the closet with tags still on and I suspect that the fun was only in the shopping for those people as well.

Shopping can really bring my spirits up and can be an unhealthy way to fill a hole inside, and I am not even much of a shopper compared to the average Joe. 

After clearing out on and off over the last nine months I still feel weighed down by the burden of stuff. 

The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...

I realise that I have been overwhelmed by the excess of stuff for years.  I would love to move to a small house with a small garden and fewer things AND I still enjoy the beauty of where we live now, I just need to simplify a LOT more in order to enjoy it more fully, especially since my dh is not intending to move.

What you have both said has really impacted me! This morning, we had a truck pick up a bunch of bags of clothes (a free service, charity) but they wouldn't take a number of our large items. Husband is on 2 weeks holidays, so he just took a bunch more stuff to another thrift store that does take furniture, including: a functioning full sized air hockey table (inherited), an IKEA toddler bed, a large artificial plant and a functioning keyboard and stand.

So very glad to see some of this stuff go, but sadly, it doesn't even make a dent in what needs to go. It has really opened my eyes to see how much we have been bringing in over the years. Our garage is a disaster area, the closets in the house are full to overflowing with stuff, stuff, stuff. Do I need 5 throw cushions on my couch? They're always on the floor most of the time anyways. And SO. MANY. BOOKS! ugh!

@wintersun, I love your description of a house where everything is in good working order, etc. Just last night, we couldn't find one small item we had bought for our son's birthday today due to lack of organization.  I love the old adage, "A place for everything and everything in its place." Once I read a thing (sorry, no reference) that said, "If the power was out at night, could you find a pair of scissors?" For myself, I just laugh at that thought but I have two friends who answered, "Yes" without hesitation. Astounding!

Onward! I really want to make 2015 our year to clear out the clutter!

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #1298 on: March 25, 2015, 12:58:18 PM »
It seems that several things are interlinked for me.  Too much stuff, to do lists that are never tackled and involve said stuff, being drained by all the undone things, gaining and losing weight so that I have several wardrobes of clothes leading to more feelings of overwhelm, etc etc etc.

One day at a time.

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« Reply #1299 on: March 25, 2015, 04:39:31 PM »
The other day I said to my dh:  Imagine living in a house where everything is in good working order, is easy to reach when you need it, where everything has its place and you know where it is; imagine having no huge list of chores involving tossing out, repairing, darning, cleaning things; imagine being in a house with every closet space neatly organised with lots of empty space; imagine going outside and all the tools for gardening are within reach and properly maintained; imagine only having clothes you use and love in your closet...

Love this!

Once I read a thing (sorry, no reference) that said, "If the power was out at night, could you find a pair of scissors?" For myself, I just laugh at that thought but I have two friends who answered, "Yes" without hesitation. Astounding!

Scissors absolutely! I wish I could say that about everything else!