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« Reply #400 on: March 28, 2018, 02:31:37 PM »
Realized that we had two alarm clocks in our spare room. One was super old & impossible to read at a distance. Got rid of it. Also had my son go through his 35 lb backpack (that, he bikes with 6 mile/day, and has no locker at school) to get rid of pretty much all of the paperwork.

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« Reply #401 on: March 29, 2018, 07:08:13 AM »
Went through parts of my closet.  Got rid of 10 skirts/dresses and 6 pants. 
- Rehomed a barely used pair of Lucky Jeans that I will never fit into again.
- Purged a dress I made that I wore once.  Bought the fabric on a trip to India so I really liked it, but made a trendy-ish dress that is not something that is my style anymore.  I don't have time anymore to reuse the fabric for something I might like better.  (As it is, I still have a pile of unused fabric bought on that trip.)
- Said goodbye to several skirts made by mom (in ~2005).  Main emotion on seeing them was guilt that I didn't like them/want to wear them anymore.  Also a little too small in most cases.  Decided I'd prefer the guilt of saying goodbye once, to the constant guilt on seeing them in my closet.
- Said goodbye to a very beloved dress that had seen better days.  Wore it on my first date with my husband. 

I didn't count, but a few weeks ago I culled through my swimsuits collection, getting rid of ones from 10-20 years ago.  I still should purge more of them (and go through the rest of my dresser...).  I have a bad habit of holding onto every piece of clothing I've ever bought or been given.

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« Reply #402 on: March 29, 2018, 07:39:10 AM »
Sold 5 unused kid books for $2. Happy to get them out of the house, and onto a reader who will enjoy them!

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« Reply #403 on: March 29, 2018, 08:11:03 AM »
We are at our mountain cabin this week. Yesterday we removed the old refridgerator. Shove it through the snow to the car. Car wouldn't start. We got help from the farmer neighbour to start. Drove to nearest town, 50km to deliver the old fridge. Then we bought a new car battery which happened to be on sale that week. Good to invest in a new battery, as our car is now 9 years old and we want to drive it for another few years.
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« Reply #404 on: March 29, 2018, 08:25:11 AM »
Since we got rid of the 25 bags this weekend, I spent two days cleaning and reorganizing the living room and kitchen. The floors and counters are all clear now! I can walk around without stepping over things! I can cook without moving anything first!! I can reach the piano!!!

I also put 3 sentimental sweatshirts that are uncomfortably worn out into a "maybe" bag. It's crazy what a difference it makes in my closet. The remaining sweaters and sweatshirts fit just right, with a little breathing room. I'm 95% sure I'm going to get rid of those 3, but I need them out of sight for a bit longer before I can let go.

The only category I have left in my Konmari marathon is sentimental items. I don't know how much I will get rid of, but I am looking forward to knowing exactly what I have, knowing where it is, and finding it easily when I want a trip down memory lane.

My wife is still not 100% on board with Konmari (and probably never will be), but for some reason having those bags out of the apartment has kickstarted her on a purging festival. She's already come up with 5 more bags of DVDs and VHSs to get rid of, and wants to keep going through books and clothes. I'll take it!

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« Reply #405 on: March 29, 2018, 08:42:58 AM »
Since we got rid of the 25 bags this weekend, I spent two days cleaning and reorganizing the living room and kitchen. The floors and counters are all clear now! I can walk around without stepping over things! I can cook without moving anything first!! I can reach the piano!!!

I also put 3 sentimental sweatshirts that are uncomfortably worn out into a "maybe" bag. It's crazy what a difference it makes in my closet. The remaining sweaters and sweatshirts fit just right, with a little breathing room. I'm 95% sure I'm going to get rid of those 3, but I need them out of sight for a bit longer before I can let go.

The only category I have left in my Konmari marathon is sentimental items. I don't know how much I will get rid of, but I am looking forward to knowing exactly what I have, knowing where it is, and finding it easily when I want a trip down memory lane.

My wife is still not 100% on board with Konmari (and probably never will be), but for some reason having those bags out of the apartment has kickstarted her on a purging festival. She's already come up with 5 more bags of DVDs and VHSs to get rid of, and wants to keep going through books and clothes. I'll take it!

This sounds amazing! A part of me wishes I still had so much to get rid of because it feels sooo satisfying!

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« Reply #406 on: March 29, 2018, 09:24:57 AM »
Nederdash, Iím feeling the same way, lol. 25 bags, yum!!!!! zygote, happy for you in your new level of freedom :))

Linda_Norway, way to go!! That was a BIG task. Great to get stuff like that done once and for all.

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« Reply #407 on: March 29, 2018, 10:25:08 AM »
With spring cleaning coming up, I've been decluttering again. Then yesterday I visited a friend, who told me she'd gotten me a gift... apparently, my crestfallen face was not the reaction she'd been expecting! Oops... must control my pokerface. Even before I opened it, I knew it'd be something I didn't want or need... and I was right. Still I thanked her, because it was really sweet of her to think of me.

Don't have the heart to declutter it straight away, so I'll let it sit for now. I don't really get it though, I've always been so vocal about decluttering. Hell, I've even told people for my birthday NOT to get me anything, or if they really want to give a gift, bath products or food. Consumables.

Maybe it's true that people like giving gifts they'd like to receive themselves, instead of what the other person would like?

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« Reply #408 on: March 29, 2018, 11:00:24 AM »
...a friend, who told me she'd gotten me a gift... apparently, my crestfallen face was not the reaction she'd been expecting! Oops...

lol!!!

I too received a "gift" this week. Hmmmm... I am letting it hang around my house for a week in case the giver asks about it, but then it goes. I'm seeing it as a bid for connection, so am asking them this morning if they have time for a coffee together :)

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« Reply #409 on: March 29, 2018, 11:42:10 AM »
I didn't count, but a few weeks ago I culled through my swimsuits collection, getting rid of ones from 10-20 years ago.  I still should purge more of them (and go through the rest of my dresser...).  I have a bad habit of holding onto every piece of clothing I've ever bought or been given.

I'm inspired today so I went back into the swimsuits and got rid of 2 more.  Again, one was beloved but worn.  That's a tough one for me toss.  Plus went through my sweaters (removing 2) and in the process donating 2 shirts, though the full shirt purge will need to be another day.

So here's a question for folks: What's the hardest type of item for you to get rid of:
- ill-fitting/ill-suited for purpose (perhaps a size you hope to be again)
- beloved - but worn out/stained/broken etc.
- sentimental - special meaning
- gift
- handmade
- practical (you might want to use later)
- make up your own category and I'll add it if it might apply to a large group

My hardest are beloved (such memories!) followed closely by handmade gifts (oh, the guilt!).
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« Reply #410 on: March 29, 2018, 12:06:34 PM »
What's the hardest type of item for you to get rid of:

Paper -notes and art done by hand, work backups.

Or are we talking only clothes? My clothes I'm very attached to, but it's low volume (maybe 15 shirts/pants/dresses/sweaters/coats combined, and that was after a shopping spree). I have a hard time releasing the clothing category called comfy. I find comfy, multipurpose items tricky to find -plus I don't enjoy clothing shopping- so when I do find them, I tend to continue wearing them for up to 15 years.

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« Reply #411 on: March 29, 2018, 05:45:46 PM »
Hardest thing to get rid of? Absolutely the clothes I loved wearing that are now too small. I am getting better at keeping only a tiny sample of them but it is better for my brainspace if they are out of sight and not reproaching me. Which really, they're inanimate objects that I have externalised my own internal voice onto, so moving them out of my space is one way of getting rid of a prompt to feel bad about myself.

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« Reply #412 on: March 29, 2018, 06:00:00 PM »
...moving them out of my space is one way of getting rid of a prompt to feel bad about myself.

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« Reply #413 on: March 30, 2018, 01:07:51 AM »
Just passed on a fancy blush and a fancy nappy bag, neither of which I was using. Must be almost time to do another sweep for unwanted or unneeded items.

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« Reply #414 on: March 30, 2018, 08:16:48 AM »
What's the hardest type of item for you to get rid of:

Paper -notes and art done by hand, work backups.

Or are we talking only clothes? My clothes I'm very attached to, but it's low volume (maybe 15 shirts/pants/dresses/sweaters/coats combined, and that was after a shopping spree). I have a hard time releasing the clothing category called comfy. I find comfy, multipurpose items tricky to find -plus I don't enjoy clothing shopping- so when I do find them, I tend to continue wearing them for up to 15 years.

Nope, it can be anything, though I was trying to focus less on category of paper/clothes/electronics and more on general emotions they might evoke.  Added a new category of practical and edited to clarify ill-fitting so it's not just clothes oriented.

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« Reply #415 on: March 30, 2018, 08:28:30 AM »
I would say the hardest thing for me to get rid of is sentimental items, but with a twist. My problem is that I ascribe sentimental value to generic things. A sweater I wore on a particularly interesting vacation or a shirt I wore on a lot of nights out with friends. A practical note my wife left me reminding me of things to do while she was away on a long-ago trip. A junky pot from Ikea that I got when I moved to NYC. These things have all served their function and may or may not still be usable, but I used to be unable to get rid of them.

I think it's related to the fact that I have a terrible memory. All the advice saying "you can get rid of the stuff and just keep the memory!" is useless to me because, often, past events will not come to me without a trigger. The thing that has made the most difference in my ability to declutter is taking pictures of things. I may just be making more digital clutter for myself, but all my pictures are squirreled away in a folder on my computer and they take up much less physical and mental space than the item.

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« Reply #416 on: March 30, 2018, 08:43:06 AM »
I have the same challenges as Zygote and employed the same picture-taking strategy at first. I don't take pictures anymore. I've found that I'm actually better off letting skme memories -- even good ones -- go.

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« Reply #417 on: March 30, 2018, 09:27:27 AM »
My hard-to-release categories, then, are:

*evidence and work backups
*paper communications from beloveds
*comfy clothes
*things that actively healed me
*my stuffie
*things that create an ambience of softness (warm glow table lamp, kettle, blankets gifted to me, etc)

I don't make myself release those. They spark vigor, joy, strength, clarity so are very welcome to be my few possessions.

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« Reply #418 on: March 30, 2018, 10:26:34 AM »
Sold a pair of pants for a whopping $5 on eBay. Will be happy to get them out of the house. They are now packaged, and sitting by the door, ready to go

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« Reply #419 on: March 30, 2018, 11:24:32 AM »
  Decided I'd prefer the guilt of saying goodbye once, to the constant guilt on seeing them in my closet.

This! This is the mantra for me. My initial closet purge was not to remove clothes, but to remove guilt and bad emotions evoked by certain clothes.


I also put 3 sentimental sweatshirts that are uncomfortably worn out into a "maybe" bag. It's crazy what a difference it makes in my closet. The remaining sweaters and sweatshirts fit just right, with a little breathing room. I'm 95% sure I'm going to get rid of those 3, but I need them out of sight for a bit longer before I can let go.


I've done this too with sentimental clothes. I've been able to discard almost all of it a few months later, or whenever I next come across it. It's amazing how the sentiment fades away once I decide to put it in the "maybe" category. It also works with papers and journals, although the timeframe is years rather than months.

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« Reply #420 on: March 30, 2018, 12:00:52 PM »
I have a mountain of cookbooks on my dining room table and listed them on ebay. I sold three books but have about 20 more. It has been more than a month and I can't take this pile anymore! So, I contacted our Animal Welfare in our town to ask if they have an annual tag sale and they do but it is mostly dog type things they sell. So, then I emailed a local small culinary school that teaches a short course in culinary arts. I am keeping my fingers crossed they will take these book! I can't take this pile on my table anymore!

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« Reply #421 on: March 30, 2018, 12:13:06 PM »
If those won't take them, Roadrunner53, can you drop them off for a library's fundraising book sale or to a thrift shop? (I generally drop everything to the thrift. One stop releasing!)

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« Reply #422 on: March 30, 2018, 02:00:00 PM »
Went outside with the kids and planted some 8 year old vegetable and herb seeds. Will be surprised if any come up, but you never know! And at least the seed kits are not cluttering up any more.

Dropped off some old curtains and toys to collection for church tag sale.

Tried to get rid of an old desk and got stood up by craigslist guy.  So frustrating!

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« Reply #423 on: March 30, 2018, 02:06:42 PM »
I would say the hardest thing for me to get rid of is sentimental items, but with a twist. My problem is that I ascribe sentimental value to generic things. A sweater I wore on a particularly interesting vacation or a shirt I wore on a lot of nights out with friends. A practical note my wife left me reminding me of things to do while she was away on a long-ago trip. A junky pot from Ikea that I got when I moved to NYC. These things have all served their function and may or may not still be usable, but I used to be unable to get rid of them.

I think it's related to the fact that I have a terrible memory. All the advice saying "you can get rid of the stuff and just keep the memory!" is useless to me because, often, past events will not come to me without a trigger. The thing that has made the most difference in my ability to declutter is taking pictures of things. I may just be making more digital clutter for myself, but all my pictures are squirreled away in a folder on my computer and they take up much less physical and mental space than the item.

Same, same, same!

The things I find hardest to get rid of is unfinished craft projects, closely followed by handmade gifts.

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« Reply #424 on: March 30, 2018, 04:18:10 PM »
Hardest items -- old down pillows.  Lap quilts (many handmade but falling apart). 

Weird.  I know.  Maybe because I love being warm and cuddly in a cold winter house, or maybe because I know these items just go to fibre recycle / trash and they don't deserve that.   

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« Reply #425 on: March 30, 2018, 06:29:54 PM »
I didn't count, but a few weeks ago I culled through my swimsuits collection, getting rid of ones from 10-20 years ago.  I still should purge more of them (and go through the rest of my dresser...).  I have a bad habit of holding onto every piece of clothing I've ever bought or been given.

I'm inspired today so I went back into the swimsuits and got rid of 2 more.  Again, one was beloved but worn.  That's a tough one for me toss.  Plus went through my sweaters (removing 2) and in the process donating 2 shirts, though the full shirt purge will need to be another day.

So here's a question for folks: What's the hardest type of item for you to get rid of:
- ill-fitting/ill-suited for purpose (perhaps a size you hope to be again)
- beloved - but worn out/stained/broken etc.
- sentimental - special meaning
- gift
- handmade
- practical (you might want to use later)
- make up your own category and I'll add it if it might apply to a large group

My hardest are beloved (such memories!) followed closely by handmade gifts (oh, the guilt!).

My two hardest to get rid of are both practical/might want to use later.  Other things I can chuck with abandon, even gifts.  Sentimental items are hard, but nowhere near as hard as these two:

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« Reply #426 on: March 30, 2018, 07:11:40 PM »
Today I pressed through to return every single item eligible for a refund (about $40 total). I was determined to arrive home having nothing I don't mean to keep. That included a few "gifts." However, thrift shops were on their Good Friday schedule...so I chucked a handful of stuff into a garbage bin. I can't take eternal responsibility for stuff other people give me.

Nothing left to ditch!

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« Reply #427 on: March 31, 2018, 12:34:42 AM »
Today I pressed through to return every single item eligible for a refund (about $40 total). ...I can't take eternal responsibility for stuff other people give me.

Nothing left to ditch!

HIGH FIVE! That is awesome stuff!

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« Reply #428 on: March 31, 2018, 12:52:27 AM »
So I dropped out of the No Clothes Buying Challenge when I realised that this was a way to hate on myself every time I looked in my wardrobe or got dressed and I made a list and replaced everything that was worn out or not fitting or just made me feel frumpy or not like myself. Now I have a well-coordinated minimalist wardrobe full of colours and shapes that I want to wear and make me feel good. Nothing scratchy or drab or fraying. So much less black/grey and more teals/sunshine yellow/terracottas and chocolate brown.

And now we are getting rid of the old. I threw out the bikinis that don't fit, donated three merino jerseys that made me inexplicably HOT and FRUSTRATED every time I wore them. My husband donated 6 pairs of really lovely trousers that his calves are too big for- thanks, cycling!

Yesterday we walked around and dropped off 12 books at the local free libraries and have a pile of ~10 that we will donate once we have read them. Slowly whittling down the obligation books. It feels really freeing.

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« Reply #429 on: March 31, 2018, 05:19:48 AM »
The culinary school emailed me and will take all the CIA and other cookbooks I have! YIPPIE! They even offered to pick them up! I may take them up on that because parking downtown is a pain in the butt! Not to mention lugging these heavy piles of books!

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« Reply #430 on: March 31, 2018, 08:43:32 AM »
Oh, excellent, Roadrunner53!!

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« Reply #431 on: March 31, 2018, 09:19:29 AM »
Yes, one giant pile of clutter almost gone! Next week I hope!

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« Reply #432 on: March 31, 2018, 08:39:09 PM »
In NYC there are a lot of people who sell old books/CDs/DVDs informally from tables on the street, and my wife had the idea to ask the guy a block away if he wanted some books and DVDs, and he said yes. So now 6 more bags of her stuff are gone. We maybe could have gotten $5 for things here and there, but it is frankly worth it to both of us to not have to deal with it.

I do want to list some clothes on poshmark that have popular labels (I got them all on sale and loved them, but they don't fit anymore). I should get more money back for my effort.

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« Reply #433 on: March 31, 2018, 08:53:32 PM »
...my wife had the idea to ask the guy a block away if he wanted some books and DVDs, and he said yes.

Smart!! You win via quick release, this entrepreneur wins via a boost to his business. Nice :)

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« Reply #434 on: March 31, 2018, 09:09:53 PM »
Cleaning the house after the electrical project, and I'm finally starting to unpack my books (almost a year after I moved in). Found a couple that I don't want anymore. On a whim, I googled one of the books, and realized that it's a first edition. Selling for $100+ online. Ugh, now I can't just donate it. Might just put it back on the shelf for now.

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« Reply #435 on: March 31, 2018, 09:25:22 PM »
Might just put it back on the shelf for now.

Don't do it!!!! Post online nownow!

Or donate and let someone else enjoy affordably or gain needed income :)

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« Reply #436 on: April 01, 2018, 03:38:29 AM »
I agree with jooniFLORisploo, advertise the book NOW! While it is on your mind, get rid of it and get that $100!

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« Reply #437 on: April 01, 2018, 04:32:38 AM »
Today I bit the bullet and got rid of all of the dead plants out on my balcony (after a miscommunication over watering with my housemate while we were both away in the height of summer!). I'd just been putting it into the too hard basket for AGES. I managed to save a couple and I've set them up inside for some TLC.

Next week's job is to gather some rosemary cuttings from the huge public park to add a bit more green to the space.

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« Reply #438 on: April 01, 2018, 08:57:42 AM »

So here's a question for folks: What's the hardest type of item for you to get rid of:
- ill-fitting/ill-suited for purpose (perhaps a size you hope to be again)
- beloved - but worn out/stained/broken etc.
- sentimental - special meaning
- gift
- handmade
- practical (you might want to use later)
- make up your own category and I'll add it if it might apply to a large grout

Practical! I hate to get rid of things I spent money on that may be used in the future but arenít currently in use. I get over it after a time but donít like to spend the money again if I have to replace things. Clothes and shoes are the worst - I can get rid of things with little problem until I realize I have to replace them. I will wear shoes until the soles are completely falling off because I hate having to purchase again. I will wear clothes that are too big just so I donít have to spend money on new ones.

I am quite happy to take photos or scan all my kids artwork and turn into photo albums (I make 100 page photo albums every year with stories and memories of our year). 

I am a pretty serious declutterer and have very little in the way of sentimental items other than photos.

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« Reply #439 on: April 01, 2018, 09:09:22 AM »
My goal for today is to find 10 items we don't need in the house, and to also look for at least two items to sell. The 10 should be pretty easy. I have kids, and they bring junk home all the time. ;-) I've sold pretty much anything I can think of already, so that will be trickier.

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« Reply #440 on: April 01, 2018, 09:52:19 AM »
I have kids, and they bring junk home all the time. ;-)

Hey, wow, I just realized that's finally not an issue for us! Years and years of him bringing home all that crap from school, plus every stick and sparkling doodad he found, plus the schwag from marketers at community events. Ugh. Now he only brings in stuff he's saved up to buy! Whew. That was a long journey.

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« Reply #441 on: April 01, 2018, 10:09:45 AM »
My goal for today is to find 10 items we don't need in the house, and to also look for at least two items to sell. The 10 should be pretty easy. I have kids, and they bring junk home all the time. ;-) I've sold pretty much anything I can think of already, so that will be trickier.

Wow - that did not take long! Found 12 items to donate (soccer jerseys, football jersey, 3 pair of outgrown shorts, a bracelet) &, more surprisingly, quickly found 4 items to sell! Yes!!!

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« Reply #442 on: April 01, 2018, 10:10:20 AM »
I have kids, and they bring junk home all the time. ;-)

Hey, wow, I just realized that's finally not an issue for us! Years and years of him bringing home all that crap from school, plus every stick and sparkling doodad he found, plus the schwag from marketers at community events. Ugh. Now he only brings in stuff he's saved up to buy! Whew. That was a long journey.

It's true - there is a constant influx of papers, garbage, plastic toys from parties, etc. It's hard to stay on top of it all!

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« Reply #443 on: April 01, 2018, 10:24:24 AM »
Wow - that did not take long! Found 12 items to donate...

Well done!!!

It's true - there is a constant influx of papers, garbage, plastic toys from parties, etc. It's hard to stay on top of it all!

We had therapy appts over it! So the counsellor could get what I was talking about, I brought just one full-size garbage bag to one appt, with things from his bedroom door forward. He was saving literal garbage, every broken this and that...   The work on this was 2-3 years all told. Now he has no trouble releasing excess, declining crap, etc. I'm curious which approach will be the case in his adulthood. I know some people feel much comfier surrounded by stuff and with physical mementos. At the same time, I feel like spaces are ideal when we can walk through them easily, sit on furniture, reduce fire risks...

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« Reply #444 on: April 01, 2018, 10:58:43 AM »
I know some people feel much comfier surrounded by stuff and with physical mementos. At the same time, I feel like spaces are ideal when we can walk through them easily, sit on furniture, reduce fire risks...

This is me and my wife personified, haha. She feels weird if she's not surrounded by stuff, but I want to be able to walk through the apartment and sit on all furniture. I think our compromise goal is going to be all surfaces clear, but all storage areas stuffed with stuff so the apartment still feels full and cozy. I would be happy with that.

Last night we deep cleaned the bathroom (wild Saturday!). I know it's not decluttering, but prior decluttering made the job a lot easier. We had gotten rid of a lot of expired stuff and put the remaining bottles on a new, cheap laundry cart (they used to sit on the floor because there wasn't any storage). Much easier to just move the cart to clean the floor, and no gunk building up around the bottles since they're elevated.

It felt like a big milestone to me, because a lot of the reason I want surfaces clear is to make it easier to dust, scrub, vaccum, etc. and keep the apartment feeling clean, not just decluttered.

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« Reply #445 on: April 01, 2018, 01:55:52 PM »
I think our compromise goal is going to be all surfaces clear, but all storage areas stuffed with stuff so the apartment still feels full and cozy. I would be happy with that.

That sounds like a great option.

I had a big experience of this with a boyfriend. Months after I'd moved out, I visited his place. It was cluttered, messy, and dirty, with everything set up to play online 24/7 without having to move. Like, kinda extreme.

However, my takeaway was a total epiphany about how much he'd loved me and really worked to make us go! He had made a LOT of compromise in that area. I wasn't aware of it at the time.

Shortly after, he married someone with the same preferences and ways as him and was so happy to immerse in [what was in their case] squalor. Noted! I'm glad he didn't have to live with my preferences ongoing :(

It also made me more sensitive to the preference for "surrounded", including in my kid, etc.

It felt like a big milestone to me, because a lot of the reason I want surfaces clear is to make it easier to dust, scrub, vaccum, etc. and keep the apartment feeling clean, not just decluttered.

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I grew up in a lovely, clean home that had lots of clutter. I perpetually dreamed of minimalism, in part so cleaning was easy. I have that now. So happy for you, zygote!

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« Reply #446 on: April 02, 2018, 07:44:27 AM »
I was sick last week, and when I start feeling better I generally clean/organize like a fiend.  My family knows to just stay out of the way for a few days.

I started with the medicine cabinet, and threw away all the medicines that expired in 2016 or earlier.  Most were kid-related OTC stuff.  I took a minute to give thanks that my kids are finally healthy, and we aren't needing this stuff all the time anymore. 

Once the kids go to bed tonight, I'm going to throw away half of the plastic Easter eggs.

At some point this week, we are tackling the Legos.  I expect to give away about half of them.


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« Reply #447 on: April 02, 2018, 07:48:23 AM »
You might want to check out ebay to see if it might be worthwhile to sell the lego's.

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« Reply #448 on: April 02, 2018, 07:49:44 AM »
@Roadrunner53 , we already agreed to give the Legos to the library.  They have a weekly "open Lego play" time and have asked for donations.  The kids like the idea that they can still play with their old stuff if they want, and let other kids have fun too.

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« Reply #449 on: April 02, 2018, 07:53:23 AM »
Good idea! I try to sell what I can on ebay but it is a time sink. Right now I have about 8 items on and it is like a ghost town and nothing is selling!

I have a pile ready for Friday for Vietnam Vets and a giant pile of books to give to the culinary school in my town.

GIVE IT AWAY!