My badass move: From Southern Calif to Philly Burbs when I was 32.
I grew up in So Cal, and that is where my family is. But I was tired of commuting, tired of the concrete and strategically placed palm trees, the smog, and the horrible traffic. As well as the cookie cutter homes and the SAHMs with breast implants (there were 3 on my street, I kid you not!). I wanted a big change. I longed for a house where I could look out my window at a wooded lot and a creek running somewhere nearby. Throw in some fireflies and little bunnies, squirrels, and deer, and I’m in heaven. So, when I finally graduated college, we packed up and moved. This was pre-internet, so other than coming here for my job interview, I couldn’t really research the place. But I wanted adventure and a new life. Actually, I came here first, and lived for a year before my husband joined me – he wanted to be sure that I didn’t change my mind. For me, it wound up being the best decision and I’ve never looked back. However, I knew if I didn’t take the leap, I would always be looking back at not taking the chance, of being afraid, of being complacent.
Now, all that being said, there have been some challenges socially. Not having kids, it has been hard to meet other couples. I would think being single would make socializing a bit easier. Also, when you don’t grow up in an area, you miss out on the local lore, so you have to work a little harder to get educated (internet is fabulous for this!). My advice: use MEETUP.com - excellent way to connect to like-minded people and enjoy the area.
The other smart thing we did was rent for 2 years before we decided to buy. This allowed us to really understand the area. Traffic patterns can be a bit dicey if you’re in the wrong area compared to where the jobs are. Areas that appeared to have a quaint little road, turned into massive traffic headaches during commute time because of the ill-placed lights or just the volume.
As for friends still in So Cal? We keep in touch, but we’ve all gone on to lead very different lives anyways, so I doubt me staying would have had a different outcome in that regard.
I have no experience with TN, so no comments on WHERE you want to move to. But, just look at it with a pro/con mentality. What is the worst that could happen if you don’t like it? If things don’t work out how you want, would you regret it, or would you take it in stride and know that it added to your list of experiences?
My last comment: don't romanticize TN. At the end of the day, it's just another city with it's good and bad. Just because you had great friends when you were 13, doesn't mean that you'll be able to re-create that magic at 30. I loved growing up in So Cal and had an awesome time and amazing friends, but I don't think I could re-create that feeling now. Go in with realistic expectations.