In some ways, I feel like I do reverse 'stealth wealth.'
I'm FIREd, and my friends and acquaintances mostly know it. They see me (pre-Covid) traveling to 'exotic locales' perhaps six times a year, eating out a lot, living in a nice apartment, and driving a Lexus, and generally assume I have even more than I do and that I spend way more than I actually do.
My Lexus is fifteen years old and I bought it used.
My travels are generally low-budget. I always fly economy with long stopovers to get the cheapest tickets available to where I want to go, and I tend to go to destinations with low costs like southeast Asia.
I prefer going to cheap restaurants with great food instead of fancy ones with great presentation.
I'd overall prefer living in a LCOL area instead of where I do (Washington, DC) but am limited due to my SO's employment and shared custody situations, so the 'fancy apartment' is partly unavoidable. Moreover, while my apartment is nice, it's still costing me less than I'd pay if I had a modest house in this VHCOL area, and the rent has only risen 11% in 8 years.
Moreover, many people don't understand the 4% 'rule' and think that in order to 'retire' you need $5-10 million. Others do understand the 4% 'rule' and just think I spend $400k/year, because they can't fathom 'living well' without spending money like crazy.