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How Mustachianism Has Helped My Relationship with my SO
« on: November 03, 2013, 07:29:48 AM »
My bf and I were frugal-ish when we met, but together we have improved by leaps and bounds!

-We don't stress/fight about money anymore. Now we just excitedly "play the game": hunt down the best deals, try to outthink our way out of financial traps, and all around try to be more frugal. And it's fun!

-Gift-giving occasions are no longer a source of resentment. Should they have been? No. But if one person goes overboard (ahem... Moi) then it's easy to feel sad if the other person "only" gives you a book. Now I appreciate the fact that my bf doesn't go crazy on gifts, and anything he gives me has added significance because I know we have a tight budget.

-Sex is free.

-We plan for our future. We will be able to spend more time with our future children.

-We cook at home more, which is more meaningful to me than eating out. I think that cooking for someone else can be an act of love, and eating out 3+ times a week can be an act of laziness.

Has Mustachianism improved your relationship? How? :D

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Re: How Mustachianism Has Helped My Relationship with my SO
« Reply #1 on: November 03, 2013, 08:31:27 AM »
We only recently found MMM, so it's too soon to know if it will improve our already bad ass relationship. My husband was understandably not a fan of Dave Ramsey's opinions about the world in general, so although he was totally on board with doing the steps to get out of debt, he didn't really want to hear much about DR. The opposite is true with the MMM approach, so we definitely talk about finances and what we've learned more often.

Mostly getting out of debt had the hugest impact on our lives and marriage. We're happier and more content than we've ever been, and we can sleep well at night. That hasn't always been the case.

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Re: How Mustachianism Has Helped My Relationship with my SO
« Reply #2 on: November 03, 2013, 05:14:39 PM »
I'm having the same experience.  My SO and I have only been dating since January '13, so not quite a year yet, but we are both 100% on board with frugality and support one another in every way possible.  When temptation is successfully avoided, we give each other the requisite "attaboy" or "attagirl".  We've helped each other hack parts of our lives/ budgets where we have particular skills.  I'm strong in financial/ cash flow management so I've helped him with some ideas there.  He's strong on tech and DIY and helps me.

We spent the day either working on my house (getting the basement ready to rent -- he's doing some electrical work) or on his motorcycle cruising through a neighborhood we've identified as our likely next home.   Our priorities make us forward-looking and creative in how we spend time together or with friends.

I'm so grateful for him.

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Re: How Mustachianism Has Helped My Relationship with my SO
« Reply #3 on: November 04, 2013, 12:51:18 PM »
"I think that cooking for someone else can be an act of love, and eating out 3+ times a week can be an act of laziness."

This.  Yes.  I can't attribute this attitude to MMM, but this is the prevailing attitude in our household.  Meals made together engender high-fives for great team effort; meals where one person only was the chef bring on much gratitude from the other person.  After all, my husband frequently takes time out of his busy schedule to create a nourishing, delicious meal for me.  He takes his time and works carefully so that it's the best it will be.  I do the same for him just as often.  It fosters an air of gratitude in our household which would never be there if we were constantly going out to eat.