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General Discussion => Share Your Badassity => Topic started by: slappy on August 02, 2017, 05:59:15 AM
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Last week I deactivated my Facebook. I was finding myself spending so much time on it and getting very little value. I would get so annoyed at the stupid shit people would post. This is obviously more my personal issue than an inherent issue with Facebook, but I'm happy to not have to deal with it anymore. I do miss the mustachian groups and the ChooseFI group. I barely even keep my phone near me anymore. If someone texts or calls, I get a notification on my fitbit, as long as I am in the house and my phone is in the house. It's been very freeing. Anyone else have a similar experience of getting rid of Facebook?
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I haven't got rid of it but I'm thinking about it, I have unfollowed or unfriended a lot of people on it as One person kept posting about injustices in the world that Just got me depressed and many posted about shit their kid did ( I still follow some family that I actually care about their kids).
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I haven't had Facebook in 4 years and have been happy every day. Close friends and family text or call or email me if they want to chat or update. Facebook is just for show a lot of times and the interaction isn't meaningful.
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I got rid of it for 3 years. Only recently went back to catch up with old military friends and extended family. Plus I started selling some wood furniture that I make. It's another avenue of advertisement. I maintain a small group of less than 100 actual friends.
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Yup. Was tired of all the political posts and people taking pictures of the snow and their food another stupid sh!t. Decided in February I was done. I still log on about once or twice a month for literally 2 or 3 minutes. Just to check on any invites and to see if anybody died or something significant like that I should know about.
Ironically I still have people on there that try to friend request me even though I'm pretty much inactive.
After about 2 weeks I didn't even find myself missing it or the drama that comes with it. About a month and a half after I stopped, my DH also decided it wasn't worth it so he stopped using it as well. I don't think he even bothers to get on at all now.
As far as your comment about the phone...yeah I am sick of those too. Or I should say I'm sick of the walking zombies that phones create. Can't go anywhere (bus, sidewalk, restaurant, ect) without everybody's head bent over their phone. Particularly annoying when I'm either running or walking and people just stop where ever they are staring at their phone or bumping into you b/c they aren't looking at where they are going. Finally got tired of it so I don't move out of the way anymore.
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As far as your comment about the phone...yeah I am sick of those too. Or I should say I'm sick of the walking zombies that phones create. Can't go anywhere (bus, sidewalk, restaurant, ect) without everybody's head bent over their phone. Particularly annoying when I'm either running or walking and people just stop where ever they are staring at their phone or bumping into you b/c they aren't looking at where they are going. Finally got tired of it so I don't move out of the way anymore.
Yup that was me! My husband doesn't do facebook much, but he does something worse. He plays these stupid games on his phone. It's super annoying because if I ask him to put the phone away, he has to finish the game. Where at least when I was scrolling facebook and he asked me to put it away, I could do immediately.
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Last week I deactivated my Facebook. I was finding myself spending so much time on it and getting very little value. I would get so annoyed at the stupid shit people would post. This is obviously more my personal issue than an inherent issue with Facebook, but I'm happy to not have to deal with it anymore. I do miss the mustachian groups and the ChooseFI group. I barely even keep my phone near me anymore. If someone texts or calls, I get a notification on my fitbit, as long as I am in the house and my phone is in the house. It's been very freeing. Anyone else have a similar experience of getting rid of Facebook?
3 years ago I turned off Facebook.
I was on a career path, and wasn't advancing as fast as I wanted to. I had friends achieving things that I hadn't yet done, and I became jealous and resentful, and it began to degrade my self-esteem. Being on Facebook didn't make me happy.
I went through a couple weeks of withdrawl after deleting my account, but then it was like a weight had been lifted off of me. It was very freeing.
I got back on 2 months ago, as Facebook would not allow me to create a page for my business without also having a personal account. Now, I'm no longer in that career path, and am doing my own thing, and am 100% happy with where I'm at. I can reconnect with friends, see what they're doing, and genuinely celebrate their successes with them. I'd say it's a positive addition to my life now. Of course... I've blocked the overly political relatives.
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I have my Facebook, but I stopped using it after the election. Ever since the election, Facebook has become nauseating.
I am not a citizen of the US and I work in IT, so most of my friends and coworkers are total leftists. The insanity has reached record levels. I don't buy into the fear mongering, and it makes people really mad that I am not outraged. "How can a person of color ever be OK with this??!!" They scream...well, just because I am brown doesn't mean I am an idiot. Haha!
Either way, not caring about other people's political opinions is a wonderful thing. It has definitely made me a more positive person because I only worry about things I am in control of.
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I haven't completely deactivated my account, but I did remove the app from my phone. I also purged a lot of "friends". I never had a ludicrous number of friends, but I culled the herd to people I actually care about and have hidden anybody's posts that I don't care to see but don't want to unfriend. Sadly, that includes my mom. All she posts is garbage.
I still use it to share photos, but Facebook has mostly become a garbage dump of shitty memes, poorly reasoned political rants, and people and companies trying to promote themselves.
I haven't completely extracted myself from Facebook, but I haven't spent nearly as much time on it as I did in the past. I am much happier now.
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I haven't completely deactivated my account, but I did remove the app from my phone. I also purged a lot of "friends". I never had a ludicrous number of friends, but I culled the herd to people I actually care about and have hidden anybody's posts that I don't care to see but don't want to unfriend. Sadly, that includes my mom. All she posts is garbage.
I still use it to share photos, but Facebook has mostly become a garbage dump of shitty memes, poorly reasoned political rants, and people and companies trying to promote themselves.
I haven't completely extracted myself from Facebook, but I haven't spent nearly as much time on it as I did in the past. I am much happier now.
Haha. I actually kind of miss the memes!
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I never had the full app on my phone, but I do have the messenger app. I find that because I rarely get contacted, and it is usually a friend asking for something specific, or talking about an upcoming event I am participating in, it was much more efficient for me to have the messenger app without the extra fluff. That way I get a little red dot on the icon on my phone if someone is talking to me, but no noise or notification distracting from my work day. I don't have to check into the time-waster every day either, to see if a friend has asked a question.
Maybe if more people start spamming my messenger continuously, I will consider removing myself from that too. But for now, I get what I want with none of the extra bullshit. Yay!
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I stopped using Facebook in January and have been very happy with the decision.
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Last week you deactivated? I deactivated mine 7 years ago, lol. What a colossal waste of time. I couldnt care less what my goofball friends are doing. There actually isnt a single person I care enough about where I want to see them holding up an alcoholic drink, posting pictures of food or their kids...or complaining about something.
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I let facebook deactivate it for me. They demanded I send them a govt issued ID picture proving that my username was my name. F them. I sent a picture of one of my guitars and they actually looked at it and again demanded an ID. I stopped using it. Life is better. FB can go into the toilet and become a zero value company as far as I'm concerned.
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Facebook is just for show a lot of times and the interaction isn't meaningful.
Reminds me of the end of Bo Burnham's "Make Happy" (on Netflix or in various forms on YouTube).
Bo basically became famous because of his songs on YouTube, but he reveals in his last stand up special (which is essentially a goodbye to him performing) that he hated parts of becoming famous. So this thing, social media, that was a gift for him being able to perform for the masses and make money was also his curse. He also discusses the prison of social media - audience and performer are all one now and so much of social media is "fake" since we control what we put out there for our "audience." Very thought-provoking, imo.
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I got rid of my personal Facebook account more than a year ago. What drove me to this decision was that I felt I knew too much about other people's lives, even though I barely saw them in real life. It felt weird and awkward in family gatherings (''Oh! I haven't seen you in over 2 years, but no need to tell me about your life, I know everything already!''). I myself rarely posted anything on Facebook, especially pictures, but even then I didn't feel others were interested in knowing about my life when we met. I started to realize Facebook was pretty much nurturing one-way relationships and I didn't want to witness this grand self-marketing process anymore. I was hoping for more meaningful relationships and discussions.
I moved to another city in 2016, and before I did, I wrote to every single person on Facebook (mostly childhood friends and family) to let them know my new address and phone number and asking for theirs. I wonder if more than 5 people cared to answer. Taught me a lesson or two about friendship and what I value in adult relationships.
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I am pretty new to Facebook. Got an account about a year or two ago.
From the beginning, I've felt very on and off with it. For one thing, I am very hesitant to post anything myself. And then, for a while I liked seeing the pictures of extended family's kids. Also, often as I was logging in to Facebook I could sense anxious feelings rising in me. So about a month or so ago I stopped logging in.
It is a strange thing for me to know about what different FB 'friends' are doing day to day, yet I know they really aren't interested in getting together with me or phoning me to talk and I feel kind of the same way about them.
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I have mixed feelings about Facebook. On the one hand, it can be a huge timesuck, but on the other hand, I've reconnected with people from other times in my life which has been a positive experience, and I get value out of the groups that I'm in.
One thing that's made it significantly more tolerable is the Facebook Purity Chrome extension: http://www.fbpurity.com/
Along with unfollowing people who aren't relevant to me, I use the extension to hide videos, content from various sites, Facebook widgets I don't really care about, etc., which cleans the experience up significantly.
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I had a facebook account eons ago, when it first started to over take My Space. So, around 2008?
Within a year I realized:
1. The super!quick witty banter of my friends made me feel dumb and left out
2. I do not desire any contact with people I went to elem-high-olage with. Hated you then, unwilling to forgive you now.
3. I do not give a shit about other people's children.
4. I'm a socially uninterested/ing and miserable human being.
BUT I'm a much calmer and happier miserable human being without facebook. So I deleted my account around 2009. Lately I've also realized:
1. Most socialization now happens on facebook, and I'm increasingly being left behind, or left out from, my peer group and wider social movements
2. And that I'm increasingly losing any fluency I might have developed re: how the fuck the social site, and more broadly technology integrated with the sites, actually function, and in 20 years I'll be totally reliant on all those children I refused to coo over as babies to use, or even turn on my embedded iChip.
3. Thus, I will have finally turned into my mother.
So, there's that.
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Love keeping up with friends and family from afar but hate the time suck,politics, discussions that aren't discussions, but most of all hate that my attention is the product being sold
Deleted it from my phone and have a time limit per week on computer. 1 hr.
Great book "Irresistible, the rise of addictive technology and the business of keeping us hooked" by Adam Alter was eye opening.
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I haven't completely deactivated my account, but I did remove the app from my phone. I also purged a lot of "friends". I never had a ludicrous number of friends, but I culled the herd to people I actually care about and have hidden anybody's posts that I don't care to see but don't want to unfriend. Sadly, that includes my mom. All she posts is garbage.
I still use it to share photos, but Facebook has mostly become a garbage dump of shitty memes, poorly reasoned political rants, and people and companies trying to promote themselves.
I haven't completely extracted myself from Facebook, but I haven't spent nearly as much time on it as I did in the past. I am much happier now.
Haha. I actually kind of miss the memes!
I don't mind clever memes, but the ones that drive me crazy are those Minion memes. I think I've finally blocked or unfriended all the sources of minion memes in my life.
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I deleted my FB account almost 2 years ago and have not been tempted to go back even once! I realized that FB didn't add any value to my life and quite often made me feel inferior and envious for no good reason. The people I care about in my life stay in touch through Skype, phone, e-mail, etc.
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I never really got into it in the first place--my "friends" are the people I talk to at their houses, or sit and drink wine with on our screened porches--or in the back yard by a camp fire. Or who I go kayaking with, or sing in the church choir with. I don't much care about barely-know-them acquaintances' political views, or computer game scores, or pictures of their drinking on vacations. I don't care about my brother's ex-girlfriend's horses--and this girlfriend is from back in the day around 30 years ago. It's nice I suppose that people put up lovely, obviously carefully-curated photos of their perfect families and perfect homes and perfect social occasions--great PR for them--but I don't really care. Fake Book has just never interested me much...I don't get the point.
And people glued to their phones so they don't know what's going on around them is another pet peeve--but I guess that's for another thread. Do these people not have real lives?
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I stopped using in about 5 years ago, except for the occasional needs.
It's appalling people spend so much time decorating themselves online. Do you really need the whole to know u r having fun to have fun? I am for occasional sharing but not an all out "show off" post whenever you go for vacation or your dog is celebrating his anniversary.
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I deactivated my account two weeks ago. I felt like it was wasting time, it was leading me to feel unhappy by comparing myself to others, and it was causing some of the people I really care about to use Facebook as a substitute for real contact and interaction.
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I have mixed feelings about Facebook. On the one hand, it can be a huge timesuck, but on the other hand, I've reconnected with people from other times in my life which has been a positive experience, and I get value out of the groups that I'm in.
One thing that's made it significantly more tolerable is the Facebook Purity Chrome extension: http://www.fbpurity.com/
Along with unfollowing people who aren't relevant to me, I use the extension to hide videos, content from various sites, Facebook widgets I don't really care about, etc., which cleans the experience up significantly.
I'll have to try this out. My chief complaint about Facebook these days is that 75% of what I see is advertisements or what other people are "liking" which is really just another form of advertising. I hate having to hunt for the 3 or 4 items I want to read in a sea of other people's crap.
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I have mixed feelings about Facebook. On the one hand, it can be a huge timesuck, but on the other hand, I've reconnected with people from other times in my life which has been a positive experience, and I get value out of the groups that I'm in.
One thing that's made it significantly more tolerable is the Facebook Purity Chrome extension: http://www.fbpurity.com/
Along with unfollowing people who aren't relevant to me, I use the extension to hide videos, content from various sites, Facebook widgets I don't really care about, etc., which cleans the experience up significantly.
I'll have to try this out. My chief complaint about Facebook these days is that 75% of what I see is advertisements or what other people are "liking" which is really just another form of advertising. I hate having to hunt for the 3 or 4 items I want to read in a sea of other people's crap.
Is it also like that when you use FB on a frequent basis? I once complained to friends and they said I got that because I only use it almost once or twice a month and hence the FB bot or AI got screwed up and dump Ads instead. Well you never know.
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I haven't gotten rid of mine but I deleted the app from my phone as in those 30 seconds of downtime I would go through. So once/month or so I login to accept new friend requests b/c I don't want to be rude and after scrolling through for 5 minutes I've had my fix for the next few months. I really just use facebook as my photo album and if my wife takes a good picture I have her tag me in it (she uses facebook a lot more than me) and so whenever I'm on it I end up going through my pictures of my kids and family rather than seeing what everyone else had for lunch :) I like to call "facebook family" on many of the posts, whenever I see a fabricated photo that you know was not candid and took about 50 tries, I call it "facebook family". Of course nobody would post a bad picture of themselves, but I see people post about their amazing spouse or kids or whatever, why not just tell them... Especially after seeing "facebook family" photo's and then hearing about that couple getting separated a week later you can see how full of it so many people are. It's a time suck that generally just makes you want for what those people have. You see people going out or taking a vacation and you want that, it just makes you depressed thinking about what others have in their "facebook family" that you don't, when people are really just trying to one up each other and show how happy they are. I won't delete it as I like it as a photo album but I'm certainly past the point of logging in more than once every month or so. I do my 5 minutes and I'm over it, see you again in Sept Facebook!
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I have mixed feelings about Facebook. On the one hand, it can be a huge timesuck, but on the other hand, I've reconnected with people from other times in my life which has been a positive experience, and I get value out of the groups that I'm in.
One thing that's made it significantly more tolerable is the Facebook Purity Chrome extension: http://www.fbpurity.com/
Along with unfollowing people who aren't relevant to me, I use the extension to hide videos, content from various sites, Facebook widgets I don't really care about, etc., which cleans the experience up significantly.
I'll have to try this out. My chief complaint about Facebook these days is that 75% of what I see is advertisements or what other people are "liking" which is really just another form of advertising. I hate having to hunt for the 3 or 4 items I want to read in a sea of other people's crap.
Is it also like that when you use FB on a frequent basis? I once complained to friends and they said I got that because I only use it almost once or twice a month and hence the FB bot or AI got screwed up and dump Ads instead. Well you never know.
I'm on it a couple times a day for a few minutes. It's not just literal ads, but if someone at some point in their life "liked" McDonalds, then whatever McDonalds recently put on their FB will show up on my feed. This new browser extension seems to be helping so far.
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Do people here know you can unfollow people without unfriending them? I have done so with friends.
To be honest though, facebook is an outlet for my weird thoughts and observations. I'm that friend that posts things like
"It's occurred to me I have no idea what Elton John looks like without sunglasses, does he even have eyes?"
"I don't think I'm Americanized enough. I need to take a DNA test and start saying things like I'm 1/8th Congolese, 1/6th Danish, Some West African and my great great great grandmother was Native American."
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Discovering I can unfollow people is the only reason I still have facebook. Unfollowing my mother was the absolute best thing ever wrt facebook. I think she likes and shares everything that mentions Jesus, Veterans, dogs, foster kids, "I bet no one will share this". One year on Veteran's day she shared 17 different pictures with a Veteran's Day reference on them.
I like facebook for keeping in touch with specific people, but after the election I scaled back my frequency dramatically and even stopped checking it at all for about a month. I found I was much happier and less stressed. I still have the app but it's not on my first page and I check it a lot less often. Kudos to those of you who've managed to let it go completely. I think the local Buy Nothing group will keep me from ever deleting it, but if it had a different platform I might.
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Do people here know you can unfollow people without unfriending them? I have done so with friends.
Tracking, but I have friends who I'd like to hear about their day or their kids, but not their incessant sharing of that one particular political subject. I've unfollowed plenty of folks because they just wouldn't lay off the shares and likes (really bad last year during the elections). What I find that helps even though it is more time consuming is to "unfollow" the page that they're sharing rather than unfollow them. I have a friend who I love to hear from, but for every post she writes about her kids, she shares five others about "Blue lives matter" "a cop saved a puppy" "cops graduated from school" and a ton of other law enforcement sites and articles. I have no problem with the subject matter, but that's pretty much all that comes out of her FB account. I've had to unfriend a couple others for similar spamming with subject matter that we definitely were not going to see eye to eye on no matter what.
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Do people here know you can unfollow people without unfriending them? I have done so with friends.
To be honest though, facebook is an outlet for my weird thoughts and observations. I'm that friend that posts things like
"It's occurred to me I have no idea what Elton John looks like without sunglasses, does he even have eyes?"
"I don't think I'm Americanized enough. I need to take a DNA test and start saying things like I'm 1/8th Congolese, 1/6th Danish, Some West African and my great great great grandmother was Native American."
I have done this and I will probably end up going back to FB and just unfollowing everyone. Then I can still participate in the mustachian groups.
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I haven't gotten rid of mine but I deleted the app from my phone as in those 30 seconds of downtime I would go through. So once/month or so I login to accept new friend requests b/c I don't want to be rude and after scrolling through for 5 minutes I've had my fix for the next few months. I really just use facebook as my photo album and if my wife takes a good picture I have her tag me in it (she uses facebook a lot more than me) and so whenever I'm on it I end up going through my pictures of my kids and family rather than seeing what everyone else had for lunch :) I like to call "facebook family" on many of the posts, whenever I see a fabricated photo that you know was not candid and took about 50 tries, I call it "facebook family". Of course nobody would post a bad picture of themselves, but I see people post about their amazing spouse or kids or whatever, why not just tell them... Especially after seeing "facebook family" photo's and then hearing about that couple getting separated a week later you can see how full of it so many people are. It's a time suck that generally just makes you want for what those people have. You see people going out or taking a vacation and you want that, it just makes you depressed thinking about what others have in their "facebook family" that you don't, when people are really just trying to one up each other and show how happy they are. I won't delete it as I like it as a photo album but I'm certainly past the point of logging in more than once every month or so. I do my 5 minutes and I'm over it, see you again in Sept Facebook!
Yes! The happy birthday/happy anniversary to my amazing spouse who I would be nothing without...can't you just say that to their face? I know people personally who post about how amazing their SO is, when I know the reality is different. It's just an attention ploy.
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Yep!
I've been off CrackBook for a year now. Deactivated my account and don't miss it at all.....except for when I want to research new acquaintances or Tball coaches or something.
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I've logged into it once in the last year and will possibly deactivate it - I'd forgotten that was possible! I second all the "it made me feel like shit" comments.
I found I couldn't jive on its function: To send messages to "everyone" but not really communicate with "someone."
Too much crap!
I'm much happier NOT using facebook.
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I feel like I have a different Facebook. Lots of interesting conversations mixed in with some funny stuff, kid pics, and some ads to scroll by.
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I still have Facebook, but I tried out the experiment that David Cain over at Raptitude did - I deleted the app from my phone, so when I want to use it I have to manually log into it from my laptop every time. I've cut way down on my usage and haven't missed it a bit.
Also, who knew there was such a thing as a "design ethicist"? I sure didn't.
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Oops... I think I am the friend that keeps posting about politics...
I have found it to be an avenue for genuinely connecting with other people and better understanding their viewpoints, including even changing my mind on some things and having changed others' minds. I'm confident that's not a common facebook politics experience, but it's what keeps me coming back at least. I'm sure it's still annoying to my friends who aren't interested in such conversations.
I'll readily admit using it does not put me in a better mood, and like some of you, I have deleted it from my phone entirely.
I'm interested in the fbpurity extension, but for an app that's supposed to clean up a user experience, their website SCREAMS scam (or at least inept graphic design). At minimum this thread has inspired me to try to unfollow everything I don't need daily updates on, though.
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When I was a kid my grandmother and her sister and cousins and friends would all write each other letters keeping each other up to date on what's up in their lives, with their kids etc. I always loved reading the letters. FB is the modern version of that for me. I have family spread out all over and it's fun watching my cousin's kids grow up. I have actually talked to relatives in RL that I hadn't been in touch with in decades because we connected on FB. And since it's free as long as I have WiFi I consider myself very Mustachian with it. It doesn't even cost a stamp.
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Call me crazy, but I'm under 35 and have never had a Facebook account. Everyone around me always ask how come they can't find me on Facebook. I just laugh and say keep looking. I keep trying to get my wife to delete it, because it's all just a huge look at me barge fest. No one ever post a bad picture of themselves or post how shitty their life really is. It's all a bunch of fluff. Nothing but lies. No thanks
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I have done this and I will probably end up going back to FB and just unfollowing everyone. Then I can still participate in the mustachian groups.
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I might end up doing the same, almost there I think
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Got off, deleted my account and then signed back on with new, minimalist personal details. I have two friends and I like it just fine that way. I just use it to view the occasional interesting fb link that might be included in other content from time to time.
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I unfollowed every person that posted anything political. I still need to clean up some useless content. I rarely post anymore. Anytime I post something I always think "who really cares about this?" And 90% of the time I just delete the post. If someone really cares they'll know about it via phone calls, texting, etc.
I really like Facebook for the marketplace, oddly enough. It's a better Craigslist. I've gotten some killer deals on there and have also gotten rid of things I didn't need. I've been really enjoying a local group called "Buy Nothing". It's a group that encourages giving and receiving things, very Mustachian oriented.
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I unfollowed every person that posted anything political. I still need to clean up some useless content. I rarely post anymore. Anytime I post something I always think "who really cares about this?" And 90% of the time I just delete the post. If someone really cares they'll know about it via phone calls, texting, etc.
I really like Facebook for the marketplace, oddly enough. It's a better Craigslist. I've gotten some killer deals on there and have also gotten rid of things I didn't need. I've been really enjoying a local group called "Buy Nothing". It's a group that encourages giving and receiving things, very Mustachian oriented.
+1 I am thinking of going back into FB and unfollowing individuals. Then just using it for businesses that I go to. I am a member of the local Buy Nothing group but it doesn't seem to be very active.
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I haven't gotten rid of mine but I deleted the app from my phone as in those 30 seconds of downtime I would go through. So once/month or so I login to accept new friend requests b/c I don't want to be rude and after scrolling through for 5 minutes I've had my fix for the next few months. I really just use facebook as my photo album and if my wife takes a good picture I have her tag me in it (she uses facebook a lot more than me) and so whenever I'm on it I end up going through my pictures of my kids and family rather than seeing what everyone else had for lunch :) I like to call "facebook family" on many of the posts, whenever I see a fabricated photo that you know was not candid and took about 50 tries, I call it "facebook family". Of course nobody would post a bad picture of themselves, but I see people post about their amazing spouse or kids or whatever, why not just tell them... Especially after seeing "facebook family" photo's and then hearing about that couple getting separated a week later you can see how full of it so many people are. It's a time suck that generally just makes you want for what those people have. You see people going out or taking a vacation and you want that, it just makes you depressed thinking about what others have in their "facebook family" that you don't, when people are really just trying to one up each other and show how happy they are. I won't delete it as I like it as a photo album but I'm certainly past the point of logging in more than once every month or so. I do my 5 minutes and I'm over it, see you again in Sept Facebook!
Yes! The happy birthday/happy anniversary to my amazing spouse who I would be nothing without...can't you just say that to their face? I know people personally who post about how amazing their SO is, when I know the reality is different. It's just an attention ploy.
Uh, yeah. Like when my DH would post Happy Birthday to me while sitting right beside me. I was like, hey goofball, I'm RIGHT HERE.
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Do people here know you can unfollow people without unfriending them? I have done so with friends.
Of course we do.
Unfollowing people is a solution for one-off problems (various annoying people that you want to stay connected to but don't want to read their crap). That is great for moms who post 14 times on Veteran's Day.
Deactivating is a solution for the general problem of using FB as a crutch for every time you have 10 free seconds of time or for feeling alienated by seeing photos of your friends hanging out with out you or for reading too much about things you care about but you're getting overwhelmed with it all.
By deactivating, my friends can see that I am actually not on FB anymore. And when they see that, they quit seeing details about my life and can't assume that I see details of theirs and hopefully realize that the solution to filling that information gap is to talk on the phone or get together. If I just unfollow them, they can still see anything I post (and therefore think they're up to date with my life) and think I can see their stuff.
Today is my birthday and I'm so glad to not be bombarded with all of the FB birthday wishes from people who don't really care about it being my birthday. Instead, I got direct messages from the handful of people that matter to me. :)
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Do people here know you can unfollow people without unfriending them? I have done so with friends.
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Deactivating is a solution for the general problem of using FB as a crutch for every time you have 10 free seconds of time or for feeling alienated by seeing photos of your friends hanging out with not you or for reading too much about things you care about but you're getting overwhelmed with it all.
By deactivating, my friends can see that I am actually not on FB anymore. And when they see that, they quit seeing details about my life and can't assume that I see details of theirs and hopefully realize that the solution to filling that information gap is to talk on the phone or get together. If I just unfollow them, they can still see anything I post (and therefore think they're up to date with my life) and think I can see their stuff.
This. It will be interesting to see who notices/cares that I'm not there anymore.
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I've experimented with desktop-computer only facebook.
It's really useful when I want to out-source information asks, such as car recommendations or parenting questions. Being like your friends can be useful on some things.
I'm starting to suspect a few of my friends are closet-mustachians...
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Love this thread and reading others' experiences. I inactivated my FB last fall before the election because I was getting so sick of all the political posts. I reactivated recently after we missed a couple of parties because friends invited my husband on FB and he forgot to tell me, haha. I took this opportunity to de friend everyone who I hadn't communicated with since I deactivated. It was so liberating! I'm at 49 friends now, mostly family. Of course I almost immediately received messages from people I used to know and had unfriended (not friends, just distant coworkers from years ago). I never opened the messages. I don't think I owe anyone an explanation for keeping my Facebook circle small.
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I waste too much time on facebook. I'm in a lot of groups and I found it very inspiring or helpful as I can communicate with other people that share the same values or hobbies. Since I stopped posting to stupids comments, I feel way better. I realised that I cannot change everyone minds even if what they think is so stupid. I stopped using facebook last winter and I slowly started once again to be too much on it. I think I'm going to delete the app from my phone and try to only have access to it one hour every week. Must do something constructive with my time !
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A better idea is to only use FB messenger on your phone or desktop, and not look at the feed. Some people prefer FB messages to SMS or WhatsApp, especially if when traveling.
Yes it's harder and requires self-control not to look at the feed, but nothing worthwhile in life comes easy ;)
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I delete it off my phone for periods of time, then reinstall it. Right now I have it, but it is buried in a folder so I can’t jump to it right away.
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Just deleted the Facebook app from my phone. Thanks for this topic.
I really only use it for the Marketplace, which is easy enough to do on a desktop. I post pictures every few months. I can just use the messenger app to contact someone if necessary.
Gauntlet has been thrown down!
I have no reddit, no instagram, no twitter, Facebook has been weaned down, and I use Snapchat sparingly. Here's to a future of more time spent with purpose, and greater fulfillment.
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I think filtering is the way to go. Here's the first five things in my news feed right now, excluding ads:
1. Photos from my dad's recent backpacking trip
2. Funny meme from a friend
3. Article from a Mustachian group about new cars being a ripoff
4. Cool hiking photos from a friend
5. Cool hiking photos from my uncle
I want to see all this stuff - so the system is working!
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I can really identify with this thread. I'm getting closer and closer to pulling the plug on this vile plague called Facebook. How many times a day does FB need to shove every one of my ex-girlfriends face in front of me asking me "Do you know this person?" lol
No, I don't need to see your breakfast slice of toast......AGAIN! Wasn't yesterday's enough?
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I think filtering is the way to go. Here's the first five things in my news feed right now, excluding ads:
1. Photos from my dad's recent backpacking trip
2. Funny meme from a friend
3. Article from a Mustachian group about new cars being a ripoff
4. Cool hiking photos from a friend
5. Cool hiking photos from my uncle
I want to see all this stuff - so the system is working!
THIS , exactly.... it is so easy to hit the little button on posts and ads that you don't like to not seem them again. Facebook algorithm actually clues in and stops posting again garbage to your news feed at all.
I am shocked not one of you feels that Facebook ads value. It is an important part of my daily life as I use it constructively. It provides value to me and the onus is on the individual to not use it poorly and to not get sucked into stupid chats or comments..Remember the MMM article on Stephen Covey and Circle of Concern.
Here is how I use Facebook successfully
- I run 3 businesses(retail stores) off FB, print media advertising is dead and everyone uses Facebook like google
- Private Group page for my store employees and managers, amazing way to talk store topics and keep alignment
- My post FIRE side hustle is from networking my photos and writing via a Facebook page
- I run a closed group FB page for the local downtown businesses owners to network and help each other
- I manage a facebook page for our local MTB society, we plan volunteer trail days and race events via FB
- I am a member of several mountain climbing and hiking groups, great way to find partners for trips
- I interact in a community group page for Business Association updates and Chamber of Commerce
- Create and plan events for anything and keep track way easier than any crazy email chain
You get out of it what you put into it. I know you all value it differently but for me as long as you avoid the garbage and filter it like Zikoris, it is a worthy asset in your toolbox.
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I can really identify with this thread. I'm getting closer and closer to pulling the plug on this vile plague called Facebook. How many times a day does FB need to shove every one of my ex-girlfriends face in front of me asking me "Do you know this person?" lol
No, I don't need to see your breakfast slice of toast......AGAIN! Wasn't yesterday's enough?
I blocked my ex when he popped up in my "do you know this person"
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An interesting (rather long) book review on Facebook:
https://www.lrb.co.uk/v39/n16/john-lanchester/you-are-the-product
Just read this entire article and wow , what an eye opening essay. It summarizes much of what is being said here but with so much for fine grain detail. I still use facebook but then it digs into why I use it and outlines the points I listed above in my original comment. It also states a bit about being cautious with the bubble that filtering my feed creates.
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I'm in IT and have never had a real Facebook account, just fake ones for testing and as was needed for certain past promos.
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I think about deleting my account every so often. But I haven't so far because 1.) I go on it so rarely that I don't even think about it much (DON'T BOOKMARK IT!), 2.) I almost never post anything (maybe once/year) - I didn't even post about my kids' birth.
I guess I only have it to keep occasional tabs on old friends. For example, one of my friend's kids died. So sad. I never would have known to send him condolences.
Eventually I will ditch Facebook, and I already know that I won't miss it one bit.
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I deleted mine last week. Most of the folks on there were from a previous version of my life, if that makes sense, so I pulled the plug. I don't use insta, snap, twitter or so on either.
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First few days without Facebook on my phone. No problem.
I used Facebook messenger on my phone coordinate getting rid of a textbook, that's pretty much it so far.
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I got rid of Facebook 5 or so years ago, haven't looked back since.
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Facebook is a good thing, I would require each human being on this planet to get a FB, by law, it would be the online ID. No trolls from taht day, sure thing.
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I signed out 3 years back. Here is what I think.
I lost touch with many of my friends & colleagues who are away from my city.
I do not call people just for the sake of staying in touch. So most of my friends are gone and I'm totally unaware of what's going on in their life. Vice versa.
The only friends I have is the friends staying near by.
The reason I signed out was peer pressure of needing to constantly update to the world on what you're up to and things were starting to make me jealous or under estimate my own life when comparing to the fancy things my friends put up on FB.
I've no plans to go back to FB. I'm happy even though I'm not in touch with my circle.
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Facebook is a good thing, I would require each human being on this planet to get a FB, by law, it would be the online ID. No trolls from taht day, sure thing.
Considering how horrific the comments sections (using facebook as the commenting system) can get on online articles, I doubt the trolls would disappear. Plenty of people seem perfectly comfortable being nasty without the anonymous part.
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Facebook is a good thing, I would require each human being on this planet to get a FB, by law, it would be the online ID. No trolls from taht day, sure thing.
Considering how horrific the comments sections (using facebook as the commenting system) can get on online articles, I doubt the trolls would disappear. Plenty of people seem perfectly comfortable being nasty without the anonymous part.
I'm starting to suspect iceberg8 has a bit of a trolling habit themselves.
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You did not understand - if some troll from his real FB ID would be active, FB would delete him, or ban him, and his online career would come to an end.
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You did not understand - if some troll from his real FB ID would be active, FB would delete him, or ban him, and his online career would come to an end.
So we should give people a lifetime ban from the internet for trolling? Seems a bit extreme to me.
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I waste too much time on facebook. I'm in a lot of groups and I found it very inspiring or helpful as I can communicate with other people that share the same values or hobbies. Since I stopped posting to stupids comments, I feel way better. I realised that I cannot change everyone minds even if what they think is so stupid. I stopped using facebook last winter and I slowly started once again to be too much on it. I think I'm going to delete the app from my phone and try to only have access to it one hour every week. Must do something constructive with my time !
I think I deleted the app on my phone straight after posting this.
Didn't even felt the need to reinstall it or check the site on my laptop. I still go on it for messenger but that's all.
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I find I get sucked in also, and I want to work on limiting my time on it.
I tend to do more sharing of stuff than posting original stuff. I did delete the app from my phone and also the messenger app a while ago. I couldn't take my ex and acquaintances messaging me through Facebook and my phone going off like crazy and this interrupting photo bouncing all over the place on my phone for an ex or an acquaintance (my closer friends typically text which is much more considerate to my senses.) I also tend to be a political poster (there is so much these days that outrages me and I guess sharing on FB is my way of speaking out against it). I also tend to share or post cool/interesting/cute things I find, like new tech stuff, funny things, and yes, kittens. Or I'll post/share stuff I want to read into more later when I have more time.
I have Tinfoil for Facebook on my phone now (it's supposed to be less invasive privacy-wise than FB) but I never did get the messenger app back on.
I started a freeCodeCamp FB group for my hometown so I feel like I have to check in somewhat regularly to add new members to that. I want to give myself a time limit and otherwise make both checking Facebook and checking email an intentional thing in my life (not just because I have alerts). Maybe limit FB to once every 2 weeks or so, check the group and messages, but stay away from the feed/ads/etc. so I don't get sucked in.
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I've found the facebook thing to be getting old and have been off of it for a couple years now. I like to call it 'boast and bitch book + ads'. It just doesn't do anything for me at all anymore...except frequently piss me off!
My account is still active...nut absolutely no updates at all. I'm seriously thinking about deactivating it but I have not done it yet.
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Never wanted it. Never signed up for it.
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I just went in and did more cleanup, both in unfollowing (a few people that are acquaintances or haven't talked to in years, communities that I want to reference occasionally but don't need in my daily feed), and adjusting my plugin settings (hiding posts containing memes, shared twitter posts, shared youtube/vimeo videos). I'm slowly wittling it down to only include life updates from people I want to hear about.
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I just went in and did more cleanup, both in unfollowing (a few people that are acquaintances or haven't talked to in years, communities that I want to reference occasionally but don't need in my daily feed), and adjusting my plugin settings (hiding posts containing memes, shared twitter posts, shared youtube/vimeo videos). I'm slowly wittling it down to only include life updates from people I want to hear about.
Want to share your plugin recommendations? I'm desperate to see fewer facebook meme pages. Right now I just block every page that comes across my feed but that's a permanently losing battle.
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I'm such an introvert that I'm afraid I will lose all contact with humans if I didn't have fb. (I'm half joking) but there are too many groups I have to be in the loop on - both kids schools use facebook, neighborhood facebook group, political groups, old friend groups (we actually discuss things!), meal planning groups, quilt/hobby groups.
I've unfollowed or defriended the worst of my friends (stupid memes/share and say amen) and I am getting better at not sending friend requests to acquaintances.
I'm guilty of sharing meal photos, but that's only because I cook them all myself and I'm bragging. I also talk politics on my page and interact with my friends in good discussions.
But I still would love to get rid of it, because I used to not know how racist and/or stupid some of my family was, I could only guess.
I have noticed how awkward it is to run into someone at the grocery who I normally would know nothing about, but instead I know where they just went on vacation and saw a picture of them at various parties or something.
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I just went in and did more cleanup, both in unfollowing (a few people that are acquaintances or haven't talked to in years, communities that I want to reference occasionally but don't need in my daily feed), and adjusting my plugin settings (hiding posts containing memes, shared twitter posts, shared youtube/vimeo videos). I'm slowly wittling it down to only include life updates from people I want to hear about.
Want to share your plugin recommendations? I'm desperate to see fewer facebook meme pages. Right now I just block every page that comes across my feed but that's a permanently losing battle.
Facebook Purity Chrome extension: http://www.fbpurity.com/
Huge list of options, I've been using it for a couple of months now and it's made my Facebook experience so much better (and so much quicker to get through).
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What is Facebook?
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I dumped Facebook shortly after the election last year and I don't miss it one F*ck'n bit. In part cause I turned into a junkie and secondly due to the political BS. The funny part with the political crap is if you take away ones political affiliation, all the comments sound the same. What republicans were criticizing before are justifying now and the same with the Democrats. I do catch flak from a few family members on deleting the account and for not wanting to know what's going on with the family. I simply tell them I'd rather see them in person and catch up that way. Anyways, I have too much to do with starting my journey to early retirement to worry about who's doing or saying what at any particular time.
PS. Don't mean to ridicule anyone for their political beliefs. Being an independent I can honestly see some sense in a few of the parties beliefs. Just wish the politicians would do some good and work together starting with things they can find common ground on and move onto more difficult tasks down the road.
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Yup, I ditched Facebook a few years back, not even sure when. It was a time suck with so little value. It did offer the ability to keep in touch with old friends in distant lands, but I have kids now and can't be bothered with other people's lives. I never had Facebook on my phone, because I didn't have a smart phone until after I left, so that was never a problem. Even now, I'm still only on the WiFi Republic plan so I can't be on my phone everywhere.
My wife just followed me into the world without Facebook last weekend. She still has Instagram.
I have these forums as my social media.
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Sometimes I get depressed on facebook, but I remind myself that peoples lives aren't like what they present it to be.
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I deleted Facebook and felt such freedom!
What bothered me most was the blurring of different parts of my life. I developed a set of filters, but one wrong click and I'm sending silly posts to a potential future employer. It became stressful to manage.
Then, during the presidential campaign, my feed became an endless stream of in-fighting, bickering, snark, ranting, and contempt. A lot of people became incredibly self-righteous (which is annoying even if you basically agree with them.) Exposure to the feed bogged me down emotionally.
I deleted FB, plus all my other social media profiles, and I turned off email notifications on my phone. A full mental de-clutter! I hadn't realized how much of my brain was consumed with distractions and annoyances until I blocked these things. They're like vampires feeding on our attention.
Overall I'm trying to limit my internet usage, reverting to the way I used to use it back before wifi and smartphones. The result so far is that I hang out in person with people more, and I read a lot more books.
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Getting rid of facebook was one of the top 10 mostly non-financial things I've done in the last 12 months to increase my overall happiness.
I listened to the Mad Fientist's podcast with J. Money from Budgets are Sexy and J. made a comment about never leaving facebook feeling better than he had when he got on it. That was my feeling exactly.
I haven't regretted letting it go for a minute and it fits nicely with my low-information diet.
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Getting rid of facebook was one of the top 10 mostly non-financial things I've done in the last 12 months to increase my overall happiness.
I listened to the Mad Fientist's podcast with J. Money from Budgets are Sexy and J. made a comment about never leaving facebook feeling better than he had when he got on it. That was my feeling exactly.
I haven't regretted letting it go for a minute and it fits nicely with my low-information diet.
Do you ever worry about a low information diet? Especially as a parent, sometimes I worry that will miss something that is truly important.
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What would be an example of something truly important from a parent's perspective that I might miss as a result of a low-information diet? I ask this with complete sincerity as I have a 12 year old in 7th grade.
I worry more about getting him away from screens, teaching him the value of in-person interactions, and giving him examples of how to find enjoyment/fulfillment that does not involve a screen.
Here's a great, quick read from David Byrne on the potential downsides to our creating a world that relies less and less on human interaction: https://www.technologyreview.com/s/608580/eliminating-the-human/amp/ Tim Ferriss sent this out today as part of his 5-bullet Friday email.
The essay includes a reference to a study that found the more people use Facebook the worse they feel about their lives.
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What would be an example of something truly important from a parent's perspective that I might miss as a result of a low-information diet? I ask this with complete sincerity as I have a 12 year old in 7th grade.
I worry more about getting him away from screens, teaching him the value of in-person interactions, and giving him examples of how to find enjoyment/fulfillment that does not involve a screen.
Here's a great, quick read from David Byrne on the potential downsides to our creating a world that relies less and less on human interaction: https://www.technologyreview.com/s/608580/eliminating-the-human/amp/ Tim Ferriss sent this out today as part of his 5-bullet Friday email.
The essay includes a reference to a study that found the more people use Facebook the worse they feel about their lives.
I have no idea, that's why I'm asking. lol I'm guessing there's not much. I was thinking of maybe something related to the medical or educational field that I would want to know. For example, the idea that kids in car seats shouldn't wear puffy jackets because they can condense in an accident and allow the child to fly out of the seat. I know this of course, but my sister in law did not appear to until recently. Also the recommendation of rear facing. I heard on Good Morning America years ago that it was now being recommended to rear face until 2. However newer reports are saying that the child should be rear facing as long as they meet the height/weight requirements of the seat. My son is three and still rear facing, with about 8 pounds left before he meets the rear facing limits of his seat. My SIL has a 18 month old that is already forward facing. Which is technically fine of course, I just wouldn't do that for my child.
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It's easy to get information just by clicking on yahoo news.
The information on people's social profiles is often slanted towards what they want people to know, depending on their personal or political biases. Lots of people post fake news, too. Passing fake coupons around as well, like "80 dollars off a 90 dollar purchase at Aldi's". Things that any discerning, rational person should be able to say "that's fake" but people fall for.
I've also noticed some people who live in big homes, will post pictures of their big house on their profile page. Like they're saying, "look at me, see my house? It's really big. See it?"
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I have no idea, that's why I'm asking. lol I'm guessing there's not much. I was thinking of maybe something related to the medical or educational field that I would want to know. For example, the idea that kids in car seats shouldn't wear puffy jackets because they can condense in an accident and allow the child to fly out of the seat. I know this of course, but my sister in law did not appear to until recently. Also the recommendation of rear facing. I heard on Good Morning America years ago that it was now being recommended to rear face until 2. However newer reports are saying that the child should be rear facing as long as they meet the height/weight requirements of the seat. My son is three and still rear facing, with about 8 pounds left before he meets the rear facing limits of his seat. My SIL has a 18 month old that is already forward facing. Which is technically fine of course, I just wouldn't do that for my child.
For any medical or educational decisions that would impact our child we have always done our own research and asked lots of questions of the professionals (Dr.s, nurses, teachers, counselors, etc. ) directly involved with our son.
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Here's the perfect example: several months ago someone posted in a local moms group asking which hospital was best for an ER for pediatrics. Let's call them A and B. A is closest to my house and I've always gone there. But B has a pediatric unit, and they will send the pediatric doctors down when a child is in the ER. With my first son, I went to A and they were considering transferring him to B. Since he was only three days old, they ended up using their own NICU and admitting him there. If he had been older, they would have transferred him to B. There wer 85 comments on that post, and every single one said A is great but B is best for children. I mentioned it to my husband, saying that if we needed an ER again, we should probably choose B instead of A. Several weeks later, we did need an ER visit for our 5 month old. We went to B and they sent down their pediatric doctors and then admitted him. If we had gone to A, he would have either been transferred to B or just sent home. But if I hadn't seen that post, I would have just gone to A because that's what I've always done.
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I like asking for recommendations for service needs on facebook, and for info specific to our neighborhood we have an active neighborhood group.
The hide/unfollow button makes the experience better, but I still don't like the time I waste. I can control that. If I have something else handy, like a good book, I can choose that instead.
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Facebook is a good thing, I would require each human being on this planet to get a FB, by law, it would be the online ID. No trolls from taht day, sure thing.
Have you read The Circle by Dave Eggers? Your comment is literally a fictional plot where a technologically advanced society goes too far and ruins the concept of privacy. TrueU, they called it.
On Facebook: I've barely been on since the beginning of the year and it makes me much, much happier. I have pretty much no desire to go back. Real friends can keep in touch without also posting things to a bunch of people they aren't close with in real life. I do visit Twitter every few days, but only follow smart, balanced scientists, writers, and researchers, many of whom who look at things from a global perspective. I also follow presidents and leaders from all over the world. It's a really neat way to keep tabs on things outside of your immediate circle, and to get information straight from the primary source.
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Sometimes I get depressed on facebook, but I remind myself that peoples lives aren't like what they present it to be.
If often hear this argument, but IME it mostly applies to instagram models, social media pros, etc. Most regular people of my feed have unimpressive pictures of their children, boring vacations, etc.
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My wife and I actively cultivate relationships with people who over-share and have very tumultuous lives. We refer to them as our "Train Wrecks". If being connected to people who only post pictures of the best stuff makes you feel worse, this should make us self-esteem rockstars!
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I have mixed feelings about Facebook. On the one hand, it can be a huge timesuck, but on the other hand, I've reconnected with people from other times in my life which has been a positive experience, and I get value out of the groups that I'm in.
One thing that's made it significantly more tolerable is the Facebook Purity Chrome extension: http://www.fbpurity.com/
Along with unfollowing people who aren't relevant to me, I use the extension to hide videos, content from various sites, Facebook widgets I don't really care about, etc., which cleans the experience up significantly.
I'll have to try this out. My chief complaint about Facebook these days is that 75% of what I see is advertisements or what other people are "liking" which is really just another form of advertising. I hate having to hunt for the 3 or 4 items I want to read in a sea of other people's crap.
This is the reason I unfollowed most of my "friends". I hated seeing all of their likes and shares.
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I deactivated my account at the start of the year after not having logged on for 12 months.
Since the rest of my family have their FB accounts any notable events/photos are shown to me from their phones.
While I lost the ability to see how my circle of friends living away from me are going, they can still contact me via email/linkedin/whatsapp and vice versa.
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Started banning people/mememills/apps/conspiracy heavily about a year ago.
Sometimes up to 20 a day, now down to maybe 1.
Checking FB is now fast and informative.
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My two closest girlfriends have deleted the FB app from their phones. Its a bit challenging for me since I sometimes forget they don't have it and haven't seen whatever it is I posted. No big deal though - I just text them if it is something important. One is a schoolteacher and FB can be hard for them (I get it) and the other just found she wasn't getting enough from it - she just checks in every 1-2 weeks or whatever.
We basically catch up when we see each other every few weeks. Sometimes I don't get to see one or the other for a couple of months so I do miss having that FB connection. We don't text/call each other on any kind of regular basis.
Anyway, I like Fb well enough and don't have any of the negative things most of u seem to have experienced. I like seeing what's up in the lives of far-flung friends. My DH likes when I write him a mushy birthday message. And I don't get many political posts - and those I do I just skim past and mostly ignore them. And I don't really have too many annoying memes - those I get I just ignore.
I did unfollow a lot of acquaintances that are no longer a part of my life. Just didn't see the point.
Otherwise I have fun on FB. Maybe because I don't watch everything on my newsfeed. I actually "waste" far more time on the MMM forum!
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I do not have facebook (although I made some $ on their stock a few years back!)
I know myself well enough to recognize that I have an addictive personality. FB would consume more and more of my time until my marriage and relationship with my kids was all F___ed-up. Who needs that?
As someone mentioned above, it's "boast and bitch". I'm not interested in complaining electronically and boasting just makes you a target and an asshole. If I had kids and grandkids slung across the country, I could see the value maybe but I'd rather facetime/skype with them anyway.
I don't need an electronic stage to soothe my need for attention.
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Well, I did just use it to check on a number of folks I know from the Santa Rosa area - thankfully all alive and well and they even by-the-skin-of-their-teeth still have houses. One, thanks to standing out there with a hose while houses around him burned. I'd forgotten I still knew people there - so fb at least allowed me to vicariously figure that out.
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I took the twitter app off of my phone. I notice that I get bored of facebook more easily at home, so it really seems to be improving my quality of life.
Are the missiles in the air yet?
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Haven't gotten rid of my Facebook yet. I'm around 500% gain on it since I bought it. Admittedly I do think about selling it on occasion.
I reference FB info almost once a week. Its how I find out if a trail/park is open or closed due to rain/events. Some places just don't have independent websites.
Otherwise, its just a website to glean helpful info from time to time. Nothing more, nothing less. Don't hate it. Don't love it.
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I had two accounts. One that work seemed to be encouraging at one point. The other was a test account more or less - to see if I wanted to use Facebook. Alas I did not. Deleted it for reasons others have already detailed.
Its a time suck, I felt worse about myself, sucked seeing "friends" having fun who never call, boast and dash, everyone's "perfect life" (when I knew better), witnessing online ignorance or hatefulness by people I formerly respected or loved, etc.
Haven't logged into my work FB account in over a year. I'm glad they decided not to put as much energy in having all the employees there. And I don't mix work and personal life. Don't want the guy that sends something really off the wall and obnoxious to one of my bosses at work. ;)
We've encouraged older child to stay away from FB and they have. Second child is will very much be a social media consumer if allowed. Believes far too much of what they see online.
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How many of you have deleted all your FB data and closed your account, after the recent Facebook data scandal?
FWIW, I deleted my account in 2014. I work in IT/CyberSecurity and noticed a lot of constant privacy settings changes, tracking, profile matching going on. Decided to quit cold turkey despite all the "you'll miss out on all your friends and family updates".
Ha! Jokes on them. Most of my social circle lives within 30 minutes. I was tired of the photo album dumps, the constant likes, the wall feeds had become MLM and BS piss troughs, so I thought the best time to quit was last week, the 2nd best time would be right now.
Did it, don't regret it.
Here's something technical for y'all: https://blog.acolyer.org/2018/03/26/information-flow-reveals-prediction-limits-in-online-social-activity/
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I deactivated my FB account yesterday. Honestly it feels like going cold turkey on drugs or losing 20 pounds. I feel so much better. No one in my circle posted anymore because of the security concerns (except one person, whose posts I was never actually interested in), and all that was in my news feed was crazy political stuff and news I can get elsewhere. The only thing I will miss are some of the groups I belonged to. I'm hoping to find something similar off FB.
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I deleted my account back in 2014. Only last year did I get a new account with very minimal amount of friends. The latest data sharing coupled with never really using the account made me decide to shut it down once and for all. I have no other social media accounts and prefer to keep it that way.
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I check mine once every 2 weeks or so. I should just shut it down.
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Yesterday I dowloaded the file from FB that contains" every data point they have on me" in a single zip file. I was shocked to see just how deep FB dug into my phone and scraped data/info from my non-FB apps that included my contacts telephone #s, names, etc. Frightening; this was just the tip of the iceberg.
Go d/l your full dataset now to see what theyve got on you.
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I want to do an experiment where I start talking loudly about products/services I don't actually need/want (and have never searched for) and see if ads start popping up on facebook or other sites for them.
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I feel as though if you delete FB because of this, you at least owe some people from the site real paper Christmas cards. Cause that's how we all USED to stay in touch.
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I feel as though if you delete FB because of this, you at least owe some people from the site real paper Christmas cards. Cause that's how we all USED to stay in touch.
Haha, I would think folks would be doing this with family and friends possibly anyway (although we never send Christmas Cards as it seems such a waste). I always rolled me eyes at people that had a thousands friends on there. I had less than 80 and knew everyone of them personally.
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I still have FB but it is very narrow. I have a very few “friends” and am a member of a few groups that I get value out of. I also use it for my side hustle but that’s it. I’m on FB maybe 10 min a day.
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I still have FB but it is very narrow. I have a very few “friends” and am a member of a few groups that I get value out of. I also use it for my side hustle but that’s it. I’m on FB maybe 10 min a day.
Same here...a couple groups is the ONLY thing that interests me in the slightest on FB anymore.
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So I mentioned here that I deactivated my FB account a couple of days ago ... today I started getting push notifications on my phone about my friends' activity on FB. Mmmm the siren song of FB push notifications.
I deleted the FB app from my phone. There! Problem solved!
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Good idea to dump the app. The app's ability to access the microphone, at its will, has been an ongoing discussion in privacy. Beyond Facebook's marketing initiative, facial recognition software, and data mining, they are nothing more than a big business selling your data.
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So I mentioned here that I deactivated my FB account a couple of days ago ... today I started getting push notifications on my phone about my friends' activity on FB. Mmmm the siren song of FB push notifications.
I deleted the FB app from my phone. There! Problem solved!
You deactivated the account. That simply means your account is dormant, and FB still has your data.
The FB app, especially on Android smartphones, records your call data and much more. But of course this was in the T&C users agreed to. While not illegal, it is being debated about being ethical and moral. If corporations are people, they should stick to the same morals that civilized humans conform to.
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I did it. I completely deleted my facebook account.
#deletefacebook
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Good for all of you.. I still go on there more than I'd like to. One thing you can do if you want to be on a specific group is bookmark that group's page and then just go to that url instead of facebook.com, basically bypassing possibly getting sucked into the feed like it is designed to suck you in..
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I deleted the app off my phone, but still have my account as I'm an admin for the local bike trail system advocacy group. Log in via the desktop once and awhile or when I need to publish something (but I can also use Hootsuite for that, so... really.) Never been happier.
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I deleted the app off my phone, but still have my account as I'm an admin for the local bike trail system advocacy group. Log in via the desktop once and awhile or when I need to publish something (but I can also use Hootsuite for that, so... really.) Never been happier.
I am thinking of doing this (deleting the app and only going desktop)... noticing the time suck on the phone is huge.
Turned off most notifications and went through the settings and ad preferences and turned as much as I could off. Sick feeling inside that some apps that I deleted long ago were still getting access to my data because Facebook was logged into the profiles :(
Evil bastards ruling the universe. There are no ads for frugality, so I'm simply getting a lot of ads for running events now.
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I joined the club yesterday and deactivated my account. I've left probably a dozen times but always end up back in. Hoping this is the last time!
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I joined the club yesterday and deactivated my account. I've left probably a dozen times but always end up back in. Hoping this is the last time!
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Good luck! I've also left and come back in the past many of times. This last time I've made it stick though. It's been about 5 months now and don't really miss it much. However I was never one to post much, more of a lurker but I still checked it far to often.
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I'm in. I just deactivated my account. I'm in some great groups, deleted the app from my phone, and had installed the news feed blocker extension, but it was way too tempting to check FB compulsively any time I got the least bit bored.
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Joined the club! Facebook deleted! I've deactivated twice before but ended up reactivating for really no good reason.
My next goal is Instagram, which will be a bit more difficult for me
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I'm in. I just deactivated my account. I'm in some great groups, deleted the app from my phone, and had installed the news feed blocker extension, but it was way too tempting to check FB compulsively any time I got the least bit bored.
If you are going to keep your FB account, I think having it off of your phone can help you gradually wean yourself off of it ( because..lets face it...FB is an addiction for some ).
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Oh yeah, I did that, deleted Facebook, Twitter and Instagram off my phone. I still have my Facebook account because most of my friends use it to organize events. So I will log in, right before I head out, to make sure something isn't cancelled, or to look up information about an event.
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I agree (from personal experience) that the difference between using it on phone and using it on a desktop is substantial. I used to be so much happier in the desktop-only days.
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This post inspired me to take a FB break about three months ago. My wife and I agreed to do it together and only check it on the first of each month. She was weak and broke down in about 3 days. For me, it was the best thing I've ever done since quitting cigarettes.
Unfortunately, my new free time has been taken up by YouTube. I go down these rabbit holes that usually last for a week at a time. Last week I was planning the Pacific Crest Trail, and this week, I'm looking into micro-dosing with psychedelics. Luckily, my plan to FIRE in 2025 is not just a phase!
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This post inspired me to take a FB break about three months ago. My wife and I agreed to do it together and only check it on the first of each month. She was weak and broke down in about 3 days. For me, it was the best thing I've ever done since quitting cigarettes.
Unfortunately, my new free time has been taken up by YouTube. I go down these rabbit holes that usually last for a week at a time. Last week I was planning the Pacific Crest Trail, and this week, I'm looking into micro-dosing with psychedelics. Luckily, my plan to FIRE in 2025 is not just a phase!
On a related note, I use YouTube a lot to check construction techniques, tool reviews, electronics or math self ed or best practices for woodwork and all that...
Until last week, the “suggested” videos were quite pertinent and usefull.
Howether, since last Saturday, YouTube has decided to bombard me with lifestyle vlogs and streaming video games - both of which have far less interest to me than pear production in 1700’s Yorkshire.
It seems that no amount of clicking “not interested” will change this.
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This post inspired me to take a FB break about three months ago. My wife and I agreed to do it together and only check it on the first of each month. She was weak and broke down in about 3 days. For me, it was the best thing I've ever done since quitting cigarettes.
Unfortunately, my new free time has been taken up by YouTube. I go down these rabbit holes that usually last for a week at a time. Last week I was planning the Pacific Crest Trail, and this week, I'm looking into micro-dosing with psychedelics. Luckily, my plan to FIRE in 2025 is not just a phase!
On a related note, I use YouTube a lot to check construction techniques, tool reviews, electronics or math self ed or best practices for woodwork and all that...
Until last week, the “suggested” videos were quite pertinent and usefull.
Howether, since last Saturday, YouTube has decided to bombard me with lifestyle vlogs and streaming video games - both of which have far less interest to me than pear production in 1700’s Yorkshire.
It seems that no amount of clicking “not interested” will change this.
I agree. Same with me, I watch a bunch of videos on fixing cars and DIY/Home improvement. Now YouTurnTube is all about strategically placed Audi ad-videos. "Not Interested" don't work.
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How many more of y'all are quitting now that FB has admitted to selling info to phone manufacturers?
http://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/06/05/facebook_device_data/
http://fortune.com/2018/06/06/facebook-data-phone-china-huawei-congress/
Huawei was founded by a former People’s Liberation Army engineer called Ren Zhengfei, and its overseas expansion has been largely funded by lines of credit from state-owned Chinese banks. Neither of these facts is particularly unusual for a Chinese company, but they have certainly fed into a perception that Huawei, like ZTE, is not to be trusted.
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I have a large proportion of friends that primarily use FB as a way to communicate as well as plan events.
You can deactivate and still maintain messenger usage, but you can't delete. I tried deactivating but found it was harder to coordinate with my people. So I was getting value from it that way. I reactivated and came up with another solution -
Most of my friends don't post very much and basically I have "unfollowed" every person I don't keep in touch with any more or anyone who posts annoying things. So now facebook for me is a glorified contacts list and group chat application. I unfollowed people and pages to the point that there is so little content I don't have much of that addictive impulse to endlessly scroll - it's all nothing I really care about and in 2 seconds I am already back to the posts from yesterday. I never thought I could beat that urge without deleting completely, but it worked.
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Around 99% of my professional colleagues are on fb, and my field is very "cliquish" (i.e., childish). The past 2-3 years, I've given in and responded to and accepted friend requests, however lately, I do regret not separating work from personal more...but it seems I am the only one who feels weird about the blurred lines????
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Around 99% of my professional colleagues are on fb, and my field is very "cliquish" (i.e., childish). The past 2-3 years, I've given in and responded to and accepted friend requests, however lately, I do regret not separating work from personal more...but it seems I am the only one who feels weird about the blurred lines????
I’m with you! I believe LinkedIn should be used for professional contacts while Facebook should be reserved for family and friends.
And just today I unfriended a bunch of current and former Facebook friends I used to work with. The reason I did it — I became upset after seeing photos of two former colleagues that appear to be dating, and were previously married to other people.
I spent way too much time researching to determine when they divorced their former spouses. And I wasted way to much brain power trying to recall how much I spent on wedding and baby shower gifts when the female former colleague first got married ~5 years ago. And then I got upset when I thought about how this relationship was likely brewing back when we all worked together and how my former female colleague likely received preferential treatment from our boss at the time (her now current boyfriend) because he had a crush on her.........you get the idea. This stuff is not worth my time! So congrats to those that deleted Facebook!
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Deleted Facebook 5 years ago and never looked back. I don't miss it at all.
I have a hard time getting rid of Twitter. There are a lot of fun jokes to read, but a lot of horrible news that is not great for my mental health (not to mention what a time suck it is).
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I did it. I completely deleted my facebook account.
#deletefacebook
^^^Haha!!! I see what you did there.
I need to unfollow some people. Seems most of my fb friends have also become weary of the bullshit though, and don't post as much. I do like seeing pics of kids of family members who don't live close.
I do enjoy looking back at my posts and pics over the years, though. Wonderful memories. It's like I had a diary. Someone should invent an online diary where you can also post pics....or maybe they already have?
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I only have the facebook messenger app on my phone which nowadays is one of the most common technological form of communication which I am ok with (bonus perk is it's "free" to use unlike text/talk under my phone service). I only connect under wifi on my phone which I have access to at work and home. It has a video chatting feature too which is cool.
As for the actual website of facebook, I occasionally go on and scroll through the wall which I regret oftentimes lol. I do enjoy seeing how people are doing and seeing pics of them and their family. Also sometimes things on there make me laugh or learn something interesting. The downside is the amount of trash you have to go through :/
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This post inspired me to take a FB break about three months ago. My wife and I agreed to do it together and only check it on the first of each month. She was weak and broke down in about 3 days. For me, it was the best thing I've ever done since quitting cigarettes.
Unfortunately, my new free time has been taken up by YouTube. I go down these rabbit holes that usually last for a week at a time. Last week I was planning the Pacific Crest Trail, and this week, I'm looking into micro-dosing with psychedelics. Luckily, my plan to FIRE in 2025 is not just a phase!
I got rid of TV and I've had the same result ... YouTube. But, if you look at the videos I'm watching, I'm usually learning something, or getting some info about a new technology or adventure. So in all still a positive switch.
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I know what Zuckerberg is doing. He is trying to establish Facebook as an essential utility and make it a de facto service to which we are all bound.
To hell with Facebook, not doing it. It's 99% puerile shit anyway, why compromise net neutrality for the sake of a pile of puerile shit? There are plenty of ways for people to use the internet and the web to stay in touch without having to kiss the backside of a giant corporation and wade through piles of sewage.
Zuckerberg is a megalomaniac who is trying to own the www and there are too many suckers in the world helping him to do it. The web should be free and open. Their whole business model depends on them being a surveillance machine, which is the only reason I need to give it a wide berth.
Facebook is not "free" it is costing society dearly.
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I know what Zuckerberg is doing. He is trying to establish Facebook as an essential utility and make it a de facto service to which we are all bound.
He already has succeeded there....
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I never wasted my time registering for Facebook.
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In 2019 it shouldn’t be necessary to load one app to message one person, then load another app to message someone else and a third app etc. That’s just ridiculous.
This is the reason that despite all the features and extra functionality, these apps are inferior to the old fashioned generic protocols, POP3, SMTP and even SMS.
The same applies to social media, I should be able to choose one but still share content across people who have chosen another. Some of the free-thinking ideals of the internet and web are already badly eroded by the.likes of Zuckerberg.
If the web and web communications becomes owned by one or two corporate entities then the web is properly screwed.
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I just recently deleted my Facebook account completely. All the people I wanted to interact with weren't on much anymore so I felt like I was just screaming into the void. It took over a month before anyone noticed I wasn't on there anymore. It was also kind of depressing to find out someone you thought was a decent person is constantly posting inflammatory political posts or believes in pseudoscience bullshit. I was blocking a lot of people I didn't want to unfriend out of politeness, but I also didn't want to open up Facebook and be treated to a post telling me I'm an asshole for my political stance or the evils of fluoridated water and vaccination. I also don't think Facebook is doing enough to prevent it from being misused by nation states for election meddling, spreading disinformation, and stoking ethnic tensions.
I liked it for keeping up with what the local and National Park System. It made it easy to find out about events and closures from weather or maintenance. I liked it for sharing photos. When people were using it for more than just reposting meme's or political rhetoric, it was fun to find out what old classmates were doing.
I can't say I've gained back a ton of time from deleting my account. My usage was declining over the last couple of years anyways. I also didn't fall into the trap of logging in to certain services using my Facebook account, so I didn't feel obliged to keep it open so I could log in to other websites or services. It has brought back some of the spontaneity to conversations with people I speak with in real life more frequently. When I was on Facebook, I already saw vacation photos or heard about some big news from their personal life before I actually saw them in person. I feel like I have more to talk about with those people now since I don't know exactly what they did before they are about to tell me about it.
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Funny timing to bring back this topic. I deactivated my account a few weeks ago for the same reasons noted previously. Too much advertising and too many politically charged topics for me and it simply was no longer enjoyable or contributing positively in any way toward my my mental health or hapiness. Since leaving I don't miss it at all. Not a single person has contacted me or asked me why I left and that is likely because nobody has noticed.
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I only have the facebook messenger app on my phone which nowadays is one of the most common technological form of communication which I am ok with (bonus perk is it's "free" to use unlike text/talk under my phone service). I only connect under wifi on my phone which I have access to at work and home. It has a video chatting feature too which is cool.
As for the actual website of facebook, I occasionally go on and scroll through the wall which I regret oftentimes lol. I do enjoy seeing how people are doing and seeing pics of them and their family. Also sometimes things on there make me laugh or learn something interesting. The downside is the amount of trash you have to go through :/
I like this idea. I was thinking about how to get rid of Facebook but it's so integrated with many things. Just deleting the app on my phone would work wonders. Occasionally hop on when I'm on the desktop and scroll through but getting out of the terrible opening the Facebook app habit would be amazing.
I have also started unfollowing a ton of friends, groups, pages, etc. That way when I open Facebook, I don't get all the political crap and other nonsense. I really just like Facebook to interact with close friends and family. I don't need to view that every 30 minutes.
The issue is that even people whom I generally want to see what they post on their wall - even when they comment on something random, it pops up in my feed.
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Hmmm, seems you're just the group to ask. Your timing is impeccable, of course. First, I eschew social media of most kinds, including FB, IG, TW and LI. I dabble with and dislike Pinterest and Houzz. I peek at them occasionally, because DH and I are flipping a house. I will be staging it on a shoestring budget. Currently, I'm doing this via NextDoor, but I do not have the app installed on my phone. It's been suggested FB Marketplace is similarly useful and I find myself tempted. I abhor advertising of all kinds and value my privacy. No purchase tracking or survey sites for me either. I fucking hate when I search for something on Amazon, then get ads for whatever it was from them afterwards.
Is there a way to just use FBM? I suspect it's still a Pandora's Box, but figured you guys are the folks who would know. Thanks.
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Yes, you can use just FBM. Google how to do it, not difficult.
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I got rid of Facebook a while back (while they were trying to hire me for a ton of money, ironically, and I was saying "I don't like you and you don't have enough money to make me work for you.") But now I'm thinking about moving to Mexico and every useful expat forum is on Facebook. Sigh.
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I get quite a bit of utility out of Facebook. It's the only way I keep up with a few family members; I use it for a local board game group; and I get a lot of utility out of the ChooseFI groups (more so than here even). I definitely could benefit from deleting Imgur and Twitter though.
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I get quite a bit of utility out of Facebook. It's the only way I keep up with a few family members; I use it for a local board game group; and I get a lot of utility out of the ChooseFI groups (more so than here even). I definitely could benefit from deleting Imgur and Twitter though.
That, I think, is precisely the problem with Facebook. I don't trust the site at all, but because so many people get utility from it I am almost forced to use it.
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I was on FB for a few years and it mostly just became a drain on some of my free time and the constant negativity started to bother me. The final straw was all the data breach issues they've had over the past couple of years. I finally deleted my account and keep up with a much smaller group of people via Instagram & Twitter. Much more relevant content as most FI/Frugal/RE personalities have a presence on one or the other. I don't miss FB at all and if there is anything going on that I need to know about, my wife will tell me.
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I've gotten to hate facebook over the last few years. People revealed too much drama about themselves, and I got so disgusted with politics regardless of political parties. I still keep it ONLY to keep in touch with friends and relatives whenever we need to contact each other.
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I deleted my account last September and haven’t missed it a bit! I’ve worked in data management for most of my career and the data breaches were just too much for me. That along with the daily negativity in the newsfeed made it quite easy to leave it all behind. :)
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I removed Facebook from my phone and iPad. The constant negativity, bitching, cries for attention, and bickering just became too much for me. It's the last thing I need in my life right now. I kept my account because it provides me with a way to connect with farflung relatives and friends, but I don't check it very often anymore. Makes me feel much better.
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I removed Facebook from my phone and iPad. The constant negativity, bitching, cries for attention, and bickering just became too much for me. It's the last thing I need in my life right now. I kept my account because it provides me with a way to connect with farflung relatives and friends, but I don't check it very often anymore. Makes me feel much better.
I did the same. You get a lot more out of Facebook when you only periodically check it, too. The information is fresher and newer. No data overload.
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Deactivated about 4 months ago? I cant remember so obviously it was not that big of a deal.
I do find it super interesting that we pretty much all feel the same way. It all the negativity/outrage/noise on FB started to make us less happy. We realized this and shut down our accounts.
So I guess I need to get over to the investment pages and short FB?
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It good to see others who share my same opinion of facebook. I've been on Facebook since the beginning in 2005 as a freshman in college. I felt that things have gotten worst over the years. Now I mostly see a bunch of nonsense. People posting about their food, going to sleep, what their kids ate, or how perfect their life is (even though it's not really the case). I also found myself being jealous of people who are more successful. I can't say I've been proud of usage either. I got too wrapped into wanting to impress people (or a particular girl to be more accurate) or get acknowledge by others.
Thankfully over the years my interest has wane. It took the lost of my grandfather about two months ago to make me come to a realization that I truly don't have any meaningful connections on facebook. I may get a few likes here and there but no one tries to connect with me or try to get to know me better. It just a sea of nonsense and narcissism that I no longer want to contribute to. So I decided to delete my phone app a few weeks ago. I felt a lot better doing it. I'm working towards limiting my exposure to the site once a week but I'm tempted to make it every 2 weeks or even every month. I haven't posting much anyway so this is just a natural progression.
I just got to work on my other bad vice of being hooked into youtube videos and reading comments just to see what other think.
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I deactivated Facebook, which was my only social media platform, about 6 months ago. So much extra time & less drama.