We weren't the cheapest for sure, but I think better than "average" and it was exactly what we wanted - all the things and people that were important to us in celebrating such a special thing (I didn't want to feel like I glossed over it and like to find reasons in life to celebrate - this is a good one) and none of the things that weren't. I feel like we "went all out" but also prioritized well and spent money where it counted for us. It felt extravagant and celebratory and intimate. And it involved bacon, which I think is important.
Saturday brunch wedding held at a (super yummy, local, organic type) restaurant downtown on the river - food is my life. I got ready at home with just one of my sisters. We greeted our 50ish guests as they arrived. Mimosas, bloody marys, and lattes were served to all during a bit of a pre-reception. Once everyone was there, I (gracefully) yelled something like "Ok, we are going to get married now!" A good friend married us. Then we all ate and drank to our hearts' content - the food was amazing. Lots of hugs and talking later, people left. It was lovely.
Things we opted out of: Pro hair and makeup, dancing/djs, flowers, wedding party, programs, favors, gifts, really anything that wasn't listed above or below, and most of all stress. We planned in 3 months, and frankly that was too much time. The most stressful part of the day was rocking a my car out of a snow bank it got stuck on in my wedding dress. Hilarious.
Total: $4350 + some miles
Budget breakdown:
Frequent Flyer miles to fly a friend out to officiate for us. This is also where her family is. We didn't pay her other than "a free trip home."
$500 We paid another photographer friend a discounted rate for limited photography (we wanted quality, but didn't need every second documented).
$3100 Lots of high quality food and drinks for everyone including tax and generous tip.
$600 Fancy dress, New Suit, shoes
$75 Green plants for table. We got married in the frozen north in February and the venue was all exposed brick and wood - I wanted something to look a little alive
$75 Invitation design, paper and print costs, and postage