So this doesn't really count as badass, because the "negotiation" was so painless, but I wanted to share it.
My wife is currently on an unpaid leave of absence following our DD's birth. DD was born in April 2015, DW has summers off (9-month faculty) and got a paid semester for fall 2015. Starting in Jan 2015, she's on an unpaid leave of absence. Her original return was scheduled for Jan 2017, but I asked yesterday (we're in the same dept) if we could push it back to Aug 2017. Boss said no problem.
The sort of badass part is what came next. After giving quick approval, he expressed surprise in my request.
"Don't you need the money?" (he makes more than double what I do).
"No."
"You can live on 75 thousand a year?!?" (my salary [I'm 12 mos admin], wife earns 40 for 9 mos.)
"We can live on 40." (actual annual spending is ~35)
"What?!?" he thought for a few moments. "Do you have two cars?" (I bike to work, hence the question.)
"Yes, but one is a 1999 Ford Explorer Sport that doesn't get driven much. And our mortgage is $800." (actually, more like $750).
He thought about this.
"And we don't have cable."
"What?!? Do you have rabbit ears?"
"Yes. And a laptop." In truth, though, since DD was born, we watch virtually nothing.
We talked more about some of the differences, and it was funny to me how surprising he found it all. It's so interesting when you realize that what you consider normal is very abnormal. I've been living this way (well below my means) since I graduated college (1998) and I forget that not everyone does it. Not only can we easy live on my salary, but we've been able to continue maxing out both my 403b and my 457 (36K), without changing our lifestyle. If anything, we've gotten a bit spendier, w/ child stuff and paying for more stuff to be done around the house (did more DIY pre-DD).
I really see the contrast w/ coworkers having kids, too. Some do what we did, taking a year or two off. Most, though, are back in 12 weeks, and don't even seem to recognize than any other way (ie living unpaid for a while) is possible.