I hate cleaning, I would much prefer to have someone come in and clean and let me go off to the job I like, instead of cleaning. However, I knew people who loved their jobs but by their 50s hated them but could not leave because they did not have the money. So, I clean myself and save the money. But what happens once I get to FI and if I still like my job and hate cleaning? Why not save myself the time of cleaning and do something I enjoy for money instead?
I don't have a burning hatred of cleaning because I just don't give a crap about it. My spouse and I work reasonably efficiently to keep things from getting dirty or cluttered in the first place, so we can go a month or two between serious dusting and floor-sweeping. I usually win the gross-out contests, although I'll often clean a toilet every week.
However, now that we're FI, we have a housecleaner visit once a week for two hours. She's a self-employed entrepreneur and she's taught us quite a bit about speed cleaning. She does not declutter or handle dishes or even empty wastebaskets. She does bathrooms, dusting, sweeping, vacuuming, and (a few times a year) windows.
The real leverage to hiring the housecleaner is that we feel compelled to stay out of her way. While she's in the house, my spouse and I are outside doing heavy yardwork: weedwhacking, bougainvillea pruning, tree pruning, sprinkler maintenance. Some days we're doing home-improvement projects or other repairs. The key is that we know what we're doing every Wednesday morning for two hours, we get ready for it, and we push hard for the whole two hours.
In our personal twisted Puritan work ethic, we earn back the money we spend on the housecleaner by doing our own more expensive work on the yard & house. It's work that would get done at a much slower pace (if it got done at all) without the weekly housecleaning.
In about 20 years, though, I'm going to have to hire someone to handle the bougainvillea pruning 5-6 times/year. Mid-70s seems a bit old to be waving around a pole trimmer on a steep hillside below a 10-foot-tall thorny hedge, or dancing on the top of the adjacent lava-rock wall to reach twigs on the far edge. Maybe while the pruner is hacking away at the greenery, I'll take over the housecleaning.
So you should align your spending with your values. If you want to hire a housecleaner then put the money in your budget and control your spending appropriately. You could do it right now if you feel that you're willing to work a few extra months to reach FI while maintaining a suitable quality of life. You have to define the line between frugality and deprivation.
But if it came to paying for a gym membership or a housecleaner, then I'd ditch the gym and do my own aerobic housecleaning & weight-lifting.