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Hmm.  I'm about 4.25 miles from work.  Cycling is virtually free; I spend maybe $200/year on maintenance/repairs.  Takes 20 minutes.

Lately I've been driving because I'm 8 months pregnant and cycling is getting really uncomfortable.  I still bike once a week or so.  Not sure about my cost per mile, but since I'm so close and this is temporary, I'm not worried about it.

I justify driving when the weather is really terrible, or situations like this pregnancy.  Otherwise, I might drive occasionally, but I don't try to justify it because I know it's just laziness.
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London commuter here... Zone 1-2 annual travelcard 1,216 ($1,930) so 100pm ($160), that includes all travel on trains/tube/buses every day so not just my commute. When I cycle (seven miles e/w) it doesn't save me any money there and then, but I get to ride through two gorgeous parks and don't have to do any other exercise that day apart from ride home. London's surprisingly popular for bikes and our mayor cycles so is very pro-cycling.
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Welcome and General Discussion / Re: Benefits of Marriage
« Last post by spartana on Today at 01:58:14 AM »
So according to the examples on this thread and the examples that I have seen in my life. In most cases married living apart eventually = divorce.
I think in Mrs. Pete's case her parents didn't get divorced until after they were living together - although she didn't say for how long. In my case hubby and I didn't get divorced until after we lived together for many years once I was out of the service and settled into a civilian job and he was able to transfer close by and stay put several years until he was "suppose to" retire from the service (and then didn't). So maybe it's the living together that causes divorce rather than the living apart :-)!

ETA: There was a thread here awhile back about couples who were married but didn't live together for many different reasons - mostly job related - and most seemed to have been ongoing and happy. I think for most people, including myself,  it was a temporary situation of months or years and not a forever thing.
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I commute 64 miles a day round trip.

Per year costs:
Gas: $3,1500
Insurance:  $540
Oil Changes:  $150

I live 32 miles away from work.  I can't really justify this except for the fact that I'm investigating all options I can.  The problem is everything has it's cost.  If I were to bike/ebike to work I can commute for free, but it'd take me about 2 hours each way.  I can buy a more fuel efficient vehicle, but the start up cost would take forever to recover as my current vehicle is nearly worthless in a trade in and has the cheapest insurance possible.  I can move closer, save nearly $300 a month in commuting-but end up paying $300 a month more in rent or MORE.  In addition to these challenges, I'm also planning on going to school this Spring and any move closer to work would be further from the schools offering programs I'm interested in.  I'm not really sure how I can plug this $4,000 hole I have here.  I have a decent paying job and cheap rent, unfortunately having both brings commute.  I guess I can have 2 out of 3 in the Pay/Rent/Commute triangle though I strive for having the best of all three.
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Antimustachian Wall of Shame and Comedy / Re: Overheard at Work
« Last post by tofuchampion on Today at 01:42:04 AM »
I had a boss once who would call me, and if I didn't answer, hang up and immediately call again.  After doing this a few times, he'd start sending me text messages telling me to answer the phone.

He fired me after I couldn't come in one day due to my kid being sick.  I was relieved, and kind of amused, since there was no one else who knew how to do my job thoroughly.  So of course the next week he's calling me asking how do I do X, Y, Z... after telling me when I was fired that he'd just handle things himself.

Guy was a total asshat, and kind of creepy.  Good fucking riddance.
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Thanks to this thread I asked my library to get the ebook copy of this. I hope they do so!

I am interested to see the psychology behind this sort of procrastination of life that some people do. I watched the TED talk and really felt the urgency to DO STUFF, instead of the comfort that a few people have mentioned after getting the book. However, I'm not the biggest fan of urgency when it turns into worry, and from her video I got a sense of worry that I'm not optimizing these "best" years, and therefore wasting them.  Urgency may be helpful when it turns into motivation, but I found myself with chaotic worried thoughts that I had to calm down. I'm hoping the book doesn't just make me worry that I'm not doing good enough.

That said, I think I might not be the typical audience. I certainly know people who could use a kick-in-the-pants.
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Congrats Lentils5eva!

Hope to be done around Christmas with my student loans. I've decided that the 2.35% loans aren't large enough for me to want to play a game of attrition vs being DONE IN 2014.

October check in:

Loans:  $5,137 -> $2,871

Nelnet:
$893 [5.6%] -> gone!
$904 [4.5%] -> gone!
$1,299 [2.35%] -> $1,273
$1,115 [2.35%] -> $1,091
$926 [2.35%] -> $507
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People with this condition also do something called "Fake Smiling," which is when they'll try to sincerely smile, but due to the physical construction of their face it won't look "real."

For instance, in my case, when I try to smile I want it to look like this --> :-)

But it looks more like this -->  :-]

My lips just don't curve upward very well, so to my annoyance people are still asking me "Are you okay?" or showing fear towards me even when I DO smile . . . though some people have told me I do have a nice smile, so the subjective element is still at play.

Well there's your problem right there. An authentic (or authentic-looking) smile has very, very little to do with the shape of the mouth. Anyone can have the broadest, sparkliest grin on their face and still look miserable or furious...and conversely, a frowning mouth can be part of an expression that conveys happiness. It's all in the eyes. There are muscles around the corners of the eyes that scrunch up when you're smiling a genuine smile, or when you're a good faker. If I were you, I'd spend some time in front of a mirror trying to smile with only your eyes. Move your mouth as little as possible, but think some happy thoughts and try to let them show through your eyes.

I don't mean to suggest that all faces are made equally. Lord knows there's plenty I'd change about my face if I got to redesign my genes. But a smile that looks genuine can radically alter anyone's appearance, and I've yet to see a human being with a complete face and functional facial musculature who was physically incapable of looking friendly.
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Welcome and General Discussion / Re: Benefits of Marriage
« Last post by Overseas Stache on Today at 12:34:21 AM »
So according to the examples on this thread and the examples that I have seen in my life. In most cases married living apart eventually = divorce.
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If I drove, my commute would be 11 miles each way, with a toll bridge of $3.80 each way (ouch).

Instead, I participate in a vanpool that is 100% subsidized by my employer. The ride is a bit longer since we make an extra stop to pick up coworkers in another part of town, but I can veg out or chitchat with some fun coworkers. Plus we can take the carpool lanes, which makes a huge difference.

I honestly don't understand why some other coworkers who live along our route drive by themselves every day and turn down an estimated annual savings of at least $2000.
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