Thanks G-Dog! People seem to have a lot of strong opinions - I said we're both happy with the current situation, so I don't think we need to litigate our current split we've happily done for 7 years. Asking for creative legal/financial solutions.
We're not going to merge finances and we're both perfectly happy with our current arrangement and feel that it is fair, we don't need to argue over the current situation. Having my SO pay 91% of my housing expenses is a no-go for me, and we don't need to discuss how that make you feel. It's not *your* relationship.
The question had more to do with how to *keep* the finances separate once we're inhabiting shared marital property. I'll legally have rights to the property (and it will be a TOD account anyway) and we've got to figure out a fair way of protecting both of our interests in a way that feels fair to both of us.
I didn't earn the money my SO is using to build the house, or buy and pay off the land it's on, so I don't particularly feel I have basis in the current project. I will have more basis once we're living there and I'm helping manage the other units.
contributing those funds to a retirement plan of sorts, don't forget that those funds could be subject to a 50/50 split in the event your marriage doesn't work out. So, that doesn't necessarily protect you much at all, or at least not as much as you might initially think.
Yea, well, if my SO is getting 50/50 of my retirement upon marriage dissolution, then the property and THEIR much more substantial retirement accounts would be up for discussion. That would be a prisoner's dilemma here, and I have way fewer assets to protect than they do, so I'm not worried about the balance of my SEP-IRA. No judge would reasonably come for my retirement with a QDRO with a spouse with assets that are 20x mine. maybe they would if they showed I never paid for anything during my marriage though, huh? 😂
But, Maybe you get increasing interest in the property over time as you manage it? Maybe you start with 10% ownership. Maybe you have 0% ownership, but 20% net profit?
Are you thinking that if you have a share of the assets, you have a similar share of the liability (gross financials), or that you will be sharing net profits?
Think about what the end game is here - 5, 10, 20 years from now. What sounds fair when everything is paid off? How much time do you think property management will take? Will / should anyone else have an interest in the property (SO’s relatives?).
There are lots if ways to structure this, once you decide what is fair. Also consider revisiting what us “fair” periodically - as your job gets busier, or SO’s job, or new property laws, or …. Matbe think anout “buyout” terms should you decide to split up for any reason.
Yea, I think there could be a lot of advantages - mainly to our taxes - to structuring it as part of an LLC or a limited partnership. LLCs are how we structure most of our businesses anyway. Since we're MFJ anyway, all the profit/loss will be passed to our shared joint tax return, so essentially I'd receive a similar benefit.
But if we did divorce, I could still be a partner in the LLC and still have some level of interest and profit in the property without having to physically live there, and would have limited liability if the property failed and wouldn't be risking my own assets.
The big reason to do the SEP-IRA is that if there are profits in the LLC, this is a way to shelter more money from taxes, and have money in my name that isn't tied up in a physical object.
We can get around probate with a TOD, but the LLC and a trust wrapper could possibly handle a lot of things.