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Title: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mr. McGibblets on June 30, 2015, 08:06:05 AM
I enjoy reading about how different people react to early retirement. I think that this side of FIRE isn't commonly addressed - but it is a big deal to prepare for all of this free time you've never had before from a mentality standpoint. So - were your first few months of ER filled with keeping yourself busy to establish a new kind of work ethic / learning to adopt to this new lifestyle, or was it mostly relaxing? No right answer here :)
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Financial.Velociraptor on June 30, 2015, 08:42:08 AM
Six week video game and junk food bender.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: DoubleDown on June 30, 2015, 09:16:12 AM
Pure f*ing glee!

It took me several weeks to get used to the idea that I didn't have to be somewhere at a prescribed time or didn't have to be doing something. There was a nagging feeling that I should be somewhere. It was a bit like when you wake up on a Saturday morning at 5:00 am and think to yourself, "Bummer, I have to get up in an hour," then you realize, "No I don't, it's Saturday!" and you happily go back to sleep. Every time I thought, "I'm supposed to be doing something," I could remind myself that I didn't have to be at the Tuesday 2pm meeting, and it was great.

And that is an even bigger realization, at least it was for me. It's not just control over your time or daily activities -- when you realize that you alone are in control of your life, that there is literally no one who can tell you what to do -- that is awesome (except the wife, who is still under the illusion she calls the shots).

For a few months I gave myself permission not to do anything particularly productive, although I did find myself being productive nonetheless. Lots of naps, lots of working out, lots of doing whatever I felt like. After about 6 months I had a stronger desire to "do" something bigger, and so I took on larger projects.

I'm still grateful on a daily basis for the freedom. There is not a single day that goes by where I don't wake up and realize just how good I have it, and several times during the day I'm reminded of that as well when I'm doing enjoyable things that are not in an office.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mr. McGibblets on June 30, 2015, 02:10:27 PM
Pure f*ing glee!

It took me several weeks to get used to the idea that I didn't have to be somewhere at a prescribed time or didn't have to be doing something. There was a nagging feeling that I should be somewhere. It was a bit like when you wake up on a Saturday morning at 5:00 am and think to yourself, "Bummer, I have to get up in an hour," then you realize, "No I don't, it's Saturday!" and you happily go back to sleep. Every time I thought, "I'm supposed to be doing something," I could remind myself that I didn't have to be at the Tuesday 2pm meeting, and it was great.

And that is an even bigger realization, at least it was for me. It's not just control over your time or daily activities -- when you realize that you alone are in control of your life, that there is literally no one who can tell you what to do -- that is awesome (except the wife, who is still under the illusion she calls the shots).

For a few months I gave myself permission not to do anything particularly productive, although I did find myself being productive nonetheless. Lots of naps, lots of working out, lots of doing whatever I felt like. After about 6 months I had a stronger desire to "do" something bigger, and so I took on larger projects.

I'm still grateful on a daily basis for the freedom. There is not a single day that goes by where I don't wake up and realize just how good I have it, and several times during the day I'm reminded of that as well when I'm doing enjoyable things that are not in an office.

From what I've seen, 4-6 months seems to be the threshold for allowing yourself time to adjust to this new lifestyle and free time. I really enjoyed reading your response - I think that (whenever I'm able to RE), I will be in the same boat. Just focusing on getting completely healthy physically and mentally, and then from there tackle whatever projects you set your mind to.

Just curious, what sorts of projects have you been working on?
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Frankies Girl on June 30, 2015, 02:28:50 PM
Lots of sleeping and couch surfing with bursts of activity involving long lists of household "to do" items I'd neglected over the last year.

First month or two, I was feeling disorientated and guilty that I wasn't working any more, so I had to do lots of stuff to prove to myself/husband that it was a good idea to quit. Which was funny as the husband was fine with me doing absolutely nothing most of the time (he'd seen first hand how stressed out I'd been and was much more sympathetic that I was to myself about all of this).

I'm coming up on 4 months out, and the list-making has slowed down considerably. I'm also choosing to do absolutely nothing some days and not feeling anxious about it any more.

Actually, the stress and anxiety levels have gone down significantly at this point, but it wasn't instant for me as soon as I left that last day. I had about a month of "did I make a mistake" feeling, even knowing 100% that I had not, and still am getting occasional work-based anxiety dreams. It's going to take a while with me I think.

I am no longer freaked out all the time and able to handle stuff easily when things go wrong, and I am back to being a more happy/positive personality in general. I'd veered into a very depressed and stressed out state for the last couple of years, and the personality change has been significant enough that it even surprises me.

Heath-wise, I've lost a significant amount of weight (husband as well) due to being able to cook more. We're both exercising more as well.



Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Cookie78 on June 30, 2015, 02:33:31 PM
Lots of sleeping and couch surfing with bursts of activity involving long lists of household "to do" items I'd neglected over the last year.

First month or two, I was feeling disorientated and guilty that I wasn't working any more, so I had to do lots of stuff to prove to myself/husband that it was a good idea to quit. Which was funny as the husband was fine with me doing absolutely nothing most of the time (he'd seen first hand how stressed out I'd been and was much more sympathetic that I was to myself about all of this).

I'm coming up on 4 months out, and the list-making has slowed down considerably. I'm also choosing to do absolutely nothing some days and not feeling anxious about it any more.

Actually, the stress and anxiety levels have gone down significantly at this point, but it wasn't instant for me as soon as I left that last day. I had about a month of "did I make a mistake" feeling, even knowing 100% that I had not, and still am getting occasional work-based anxiety dreams. It's going to take a while with me I think.

I am no longer freaked out all the time and able to handle stuff easily when things go wrong, and I am back to being a more happy/positive personality in general. I'd veered into a very depressed and stressed out state for the last couple of years, and the personality change has been significant enough that it even surprises me.

Heath-wise, I've lost a significant amount of weight (husband as well) due to being able to cook more. We're both exercising more as well.

This sounds a lot like me. I hope I also have the same positive changes when I FIRE. I'm working on dealing with the anxiety now, but it seems so overwhelming some times (but not today). :)
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: regulator on June 30, 2015, 03:53:01 PM
Very difficult, frankly.  Even though I knew it was coming, I found it hard to adjust to the new lifestyle.  It is tough to go from being a climbing overachiever to a bum.  I and the rest of my family also had to adjust to new roles for all of us as DW had been primary on day to day kid stuff while I climbed the ladder in demanding jobs and was primary breadwinner.  I would say it took a solid 3 or 4 months for me to make the adjustment.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: steveo on June 30, 2015, 03:58:32 PM
Six week video game and junk food bender.

I like this. I can't see myself doing it but its a healthy does of FU.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mr. McGibblets on July 01, 2015, 06:38:11 AM
How was the transition with you and your SOs? Regulator got me thinking about a shift in day to day responsibilities.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mrs.LC on July 01, 2015, 07:12:31 AM
We left on a couple week trip a few days after ER started. Don't think it really hit us until we were back home that we didn't have to go to work everyday. We both had side hustles that gave us a little sense of structure for those first couple weeks. There was a learning curve as to how to maximize pleasures of not working that took us about six months to master. Still, 18 months later, we sometimes still get the dreaded Sunday afternoon feeling of doom that we have a full work we ahead of us. It only lasts a few minutes until reality hits and then we go back to whatever fun project we were working on.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: regulator on July 01, 2015, 07:45:53 AM
How was the transition with you and your SOs? Regulator got me thinking about a shift in day to day responsibilities.

DW and I already shared most responsibilities, but the time devoted was skewed since work/career had been primary for me for a long, long time.  We had a few arguments before it all got settled, but nothing serious.  Then again, we have always enjoyed spending time together.  In a lot of other marriages the wife views the husband's retirement as "twice the husband, half the paycheck."
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: iris lily on July 01, 2015, 07:56:53 AM
Yesterday marked the end of my first 3 months of FIRE.

I am working to find a balance between being productive and goofing off. I set a standard of doing 2 hours of pulling weeds a day, and sometimes that morphs into more hours if I am having fun at it. Really, I do like weeding. But then the rains come and I get no weeding done, and then the rains encourage more weed growth. My gardens demand so much of my attention from April through July that I've got automatic "to do" lists. I FINALLY have time to devote to them in the way I want to care for them, and I am playing catch up on years of neglect. So, that is fun and productive. One of my gardening goals is to grow crops of lilies for resale, so I am working on that. I will donate the lily bulbs to my local lily society for their annual sale.

FIRE gave me time to clean and organize outdoor furniture and now our patio looks great. We were on the garden tour for our neighborhood's annual house tour.

I have set a standard that DH (who semi-retired at the same time) and I will go on one "field trip" each week, going some place close by that we've not seen before or that we've not visited in a long time. Recently we went to Mastadon State Park, a 30 minute drive away. In my region there are easily 100 things to do and see, so that will keep us busy for a couple of  years.

Most of my friends are retired or non-working. It's amazing to be able to say to plan things to do with friends on a Tuesday or a Friday. I like going to movies in the middle of the day, in the middle of the week.

Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: iris lily on July 01, 2015, 08:02:22 AM
How was the transition with you and your SOs? Regulator got me thinking about a shift in day to day responsibilities.

We had to define space. At 11:30 am DH gets the kitchen and I have to be out of it. That's when he makes his lunch. Otherwise, we check with the other person if one of us plans to take up the kitchen for a long term. DH is a baker and he also cans and prepares foods from his giant garden, so he is in the kitchen a lot.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: AlwaysBeenASaver on July 02, 2015, 07:10:21 AM
I'm in my 4th week of FIRE now. I started in on a home repair project immediately after FIRE, and it's kept me pretty busy. I have a long list of projects lined up after this one is finished too. I've also been working through clutter in the house, garage, shed, and my email and computer files. And I'm spending more time cooking, something I love to do and rarely had time while working. And I'm seeing friends more often now that I have some time. I'm also volunteering a few hours a week;  I have plans for a lot more volunteer work, but now that I'm seeing how much there is to do at home, I'm not going to jump into that right away.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mrs.LC on July 02, 2015, 08:52:53 AM
I'm in my 4th week of FIRE now. I started in on a home repair project immediately after FIRE, and it's kept me pretty busy. I have a long list of projects lined up after this one is finished too. I've also been working through clutter in the house, garage, shed, and my email and computer files. And I'm spending more time cooking, something I love to do and rarely had time while working. And I'm seeing friends more often now that I have some time. I'm also volunteering a few hours a week;  I have plans for a lot more volunteer work, but now that I'm seeing how much there is to do at home, I'm not going to jump into that right away.
Isn't FIRE great! Be sure to pace yourself and allow some down time. We found that making a to do list of the projects we want to complete in and out of the house has really helped us organize our time. We prioritized the list and make a big deal out of being able to cross off an item. It takes a few months to really settle in and learn the balance between work and play.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: stuckinmn on July 02, 2015, 11:39:46 AM
Been 6 weeks for me and truthfully I can barely recall the memories of the rat race.  I miss nothing about it.

my typical day is wake up early, take son fishing, come back home by 11:00, eat lunch, take nap, do some chores, work out, then go to son's baseball or daughter's softball.  I've done a few short camping trips up north with my son, too. Some days I sleep in and do nothing but read.

 Maybe in a few months I'll get bored and need a project but right now I'm slipping into Big Lebowski mode and I'm kind of liking it.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mr. McGibblets on July 06, 2015, 11:03:28 AM
Maybe in a few months I'll get bored and need a project but right now I'm slipping into Big Lebowski mode and I'm kind of liking it.

"Big Lebowski" mode should undoubtedly be a part of early retirement :)
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Jon_Snow on July 06, 2015, 11:28:25 AM
I don't think, dream or reminisce about my previous working life.

Most importantly, Sunday dread is becoming a distant memory. Was that REALLY my reality for 24 years previous? That stuff is already becoming fuzzy - which is WONDERFUL.

No "Lebowski" FIRE for me - I tend to sneer at lazy, slothful versions of FIRE.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: redbird on July 07, 2015, 06:31:15 AM
Actually, the stress and anxiety levels have gone down significantly at this point, but it wasn't instant for me as soon as I left that last day. I had about a month of "did I make a mistake" feeling, even knowing 100% that I had not, and still am getting occasional work-based anxiety dreams. It's going to take a while with me I think.

I am no longer freaked out all the time and able to handle stuff easily when things go wrong, and I am back to being a more happy/positive personality in general. I'd veered into a very depressed and stressed out state for the last couple of years, and the personality change has been significant enough that it even surprises me.

I'm looking forward to that so much. I knew I've been depressed lately, but it really hit home when my husband blatantly told me the other day that I was scaring and worrying him.

I will be FIRE'd 59 days from today. It's not going to be all cupcakes and sunshine because FIRE is simultaneous with an international move. Of the type where I will have no home to go to and will have to live in a hotel room while I look for a place to rent (plan to rent for about a year while looking for a good place to buy). My depression is not going to immediately go away because there's going to be that moving stress. But work has just been a huge detriment to my health (physical and mental), and I really need that gone. I have no idea how much detoxing I'm going to need. Quite a bit, I imagine.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: crazycatlady on July 09, 2015, 04:21:31 PM
Actually, the stress and anxiety levels have gone down significantly at this point, but it wasn't instant for me as soon as I left that last day. I had about a month of "did I make a mistake" feeling, even knowing 100% that I had not, and still am getting occasional work-based anxiety dreams. It's going to take a while with me I think.

I am no longer freaked out all the time and able to handle stuff easily when things go wrong, and I am back to being a more happy/positive personality in general. I'd veered into a very depressed and stressed out state for the last couple of years, and the personality change has been significant enough that it even surprises me.

I'm looking forward to that so much. I knew I've been depressed lately, but it really hit home when my husband blatantly told me the other day that I was scaring and worrying him.

I will be FIRE'd 59 days from today. It's not going to be all cupcakes and sunshine because FIRE is simultaneous with an international move. Of the type where I will have no home to go to and will have to live in a hotel room while I look for a place to rent (plan to rent for about a year while looking for a good place to buy). My depression is not going to immediately go away because there's going to be that moving stress. But work has just been a huge detriment to my health (physical and mental), and I really need that gone. I have no idea how much detoxing I'm going to need. Quite a bit, I imagine.

I am 10 months into FIRE.  Like the above posters I was under a huge amount of stress and I was also having lots of physical symptoms (insomnia, anxiety, daily migraines, etc).  The final straw was when I had 2 anxiety episodes that were close to panic attacks and that pushed me to quit the toxic environment because I physically couldn't do it anymore.  We had been FI for about 7 years at that point.

The physical symptoms improved immediately.  I was taking meds to help with the anxiety and I had to cut those way back because without the high stress level they were too much.  I have weaned myself off them.  I was able to sleep at night and have enjoyed 10 months of good sleep.  I had some work related bad dreams for a few months, but those seem to have dropped off.  I have also cut my blood pressure medicine in half and can probably work myself off that as well.

It has taken me longer to come to peace with my decision.  I wish it had been easier for me, but I am by nature a worrier.  DH who FIRED in January didn't seem to need any time to detox.  I feel like I am almost done detoxing, I have felt a big improvement over the past month.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: DoubleDown on July 10, 2015, 11:27:04 AM
Pure f*ing glee!

It took me several weeks to get used to the idea that I didn't have to be somewhere at a prescribed time or didn't have to be doing something. There was a nagging feeling that I should be somewhere. It was a bit like when you wake up on a Saturday morning at 5:00 am and think to yourself, "Bummer, I have to get up in an hour," then you realize, "No I don't, it's Saturday!" and you happily go back to sleep. Every time I thought, "I'm supposed to be doing something," I could remind myself that I didn't have to be at the Tuesday 2pm meeting, and it was great.

And that is an even bigger realization, at least it was for me. It's not just control over your time or daily activities -- when you realize that you alone are in control of your life, that there is literally no one who can tell you what to do -- that is awesome (except the wife, who is still under the illusion she calls the shots).

For a few months I gave myself permission not to do anything particularly productive, although I did find myself being productive nonetheless. Lots of naps, lots of working out, lots of doing whatever I felt like. After about 6 months I had a stronger desire to "do" something bigger, and so I took on larger projects.

I'm still grateful on a daily basis for the freedom. There is not a single day that goes by where I don't wake up and realize just how good I have it, and several times during the day I'm reminded of that as well when I'm doing enjoyable things that are not in an office.

From what I've seen, 4-6 months seems to be the threshold for allowing yourself time to adjust to this new lifestyle and free time. I really enjoyed reading your response - I think that (whenever I'm able to RE), I will be in the same boat. Just focusing on getting completely healthy physically and mentally, and then from there tackle whatever projects you set your mind to.

Just curious, what sorts of projects have you been working on?

Some of the more involved projects have been building wood furniture, I wrote a book (now looking into printing/publishing/marketing), and remodeling and selling a rental home.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Ozstache on July 10, 2015, 08:47:30 PM
The first weeks of ER felt a little strange, almost like I was throwing a sickie when I should have otherwise been at work. I was also very concerned that I wouldn't have enough to do to keep me entertained and that I may end up wanting to go back to work.

I fixed this by treating this phase like I did when on annual holidays where, if you ask my wife, I am quite expert at doing nothing! I soon found a good balance between this nothingness (I call it relaxation) and doing at least one item a day on my to do list. Fast forward 21 months and this routine is still serving me well.

In terms of stress, it took me a good 12 months before I could have a conversation with someone about my former work (not) life without getting worked up about all of the stupidities that were going on at the time I left. Now I use those memories to stomp out any desires I have of an idyllic return to the work force - the BS would still be there but just be of another variety. People now tell me how relaxed I look compared to when I working and I certainly feel it!
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Livingthedream2015 on July 11, 2015, 12:22:49 AM
After working my 4 weeks notice, I flew the next day to Thailand, I have been here 8 weeks so far, living on a tropical island. My days are spent working out, snorkelling, reading, kite boarding and drinking beer...as my title states..."living the dream"..don't get me wrong, it took serious discipline and hard work to get here, but I always knew what I wanted, and as the saying goes.."good things come to those who wait". Few more weeks here, then off to Bali for a month...then...well who knows..so far so good.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: flyingaway on July 11, 2015, 10:05:06 AM
After working my 4 weeks notice, I flew the next day to Thailand, I have been here 8 weeks so far, living on a tropical island. My days are spent working out, snorkelling, reading, kite boarding and drinking beer...as my title states..."living the dream"..don't get me wrong, it took serious discipline and hard work to get here, but I always knew what I wanted, and as the saying goes.."good things come to those who wait". Few more weeks here, then off to Bali for a month...then...well who knows..so far so good.

That is so wonderful.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Sojourner on July 11, 2015, 01:04:01 PM
After working my 4 weeks notice, I flew the next day to Thailand, I have been here 8 weeks so far, living on a tropical island. My days are spent working out, snorkelling, reading, kite boarding and drinking beer...as my title states..."living the dream"..don't get me wrong, it took serious discipline and hard work to get here, but I always knew what I wanted, and as the saying goes.."good things come to those who wait". Few more weeks here, then off to Bali for a month...then...well who knows..so far so good.

Yeah, that sounds awesome.  Let us know if you've posted more details about your story anywhere.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Static Void on July 11, 2015, 01:36:35 PM
No change whatsoever. Well, a little, I changed my startup script to remind me:

==
Last login: Thu Jul  9 13:31:26 on ttys000
(.bash_aliases)
Day 153
In week 22 of freedom.
==

Oh, just came back from a 3 week road trip camping at state & national parks in Kansas & Utah*. And cooking more. And dealing with a lot of household inventory reduction (understatement). Daily bike rides, we live in a beautiful part of the world. And sleeping better. And frequently looking at partner with wide eyes: How lucky we are, to have our health, freedom, and friends, is this real? You know, that sort of thing.

Volunteering 4 hours a week at our local "maker space". (Folks pay a monthly fee for access to shop tools and laser cutters and stuff. Volunteers pay a little less.)

And I spend a day or two each week at various libraries (my own city, or an hour bus&bike ride away, depending on my mood). And finding which cafe's are best for wi-fi reliability and ergonomic seating. Because mostly, now that I'm not a slave to the software industry, making a lot more progress on my software project.

But, oddly enough, not all that different. I might just work again, but I'll be picky about doing what for whom. In a year or two. Or not.

(*) Oh my goodness: when you have a chance, visit Goblin Valley state park in Utah. Surreal magic made of rocks.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: soccerluvof4 on July 13, 2015, 06:00:47 AM
There was a sense of fear and what should i do today mixed in with a little did I do the right thing BUT we did it in spring and as soon as the kids got out of school and our schedule was so full we were thankful we did. I dont know how we could of/or would be doing this summer if we were working.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Mr. McGibblets on July 13, 2015, 07:46:41 AM
Pure f*ing glee!

It took me several weeks to get used to the idea that I didn't have to be somewhere at a prescribed time or didn't have to be doing something. There was a nagging feeling that I should be somewhere. It was a bit like when you wake up on a Saturday morning at 5:00 am and think to yourself, "Bummer, I have to get up in an hour," then you realize, "No I don't, it's Saturday!" and you happily go back to sleep. Every time I thought, "I'm supposed to be doing something," I could remind myself that I didn't have to be at the Tuesday 2pm meeting, and it was great.

And that is an even bigger realization, at least it was for me. It's not just control over your time or daily activities -- when you realize that you alone are in control of your life, that there is literally no one who can tell you what to do -- that is awesome (except the wife, who is still under the illusion she calls the shots).

For a few months I gave myself permission not to do anything particularly productive, although I did find myself being productive nonetheless. Lots of naps, lots of working out, lots of doing whatever I felt like. After about 6 months I had a stronger desire to "do" something bigger, and so I took on larger projects.

I'm still grateful on a daily basis for the freedom. There is not a single day that goes by where I don't wake up and realize just how good I have it, and several times during the day I'm reminded of that as well when I'm doing enjoyable things that are not in an office.

From what I've seen, 4-6 months seems to be the threshold for allowing yourself time to adjust to this new lifestyle and free time. I really enjoyed reading your response - I think that (whenever I'm able to RE), I will be in the same boat. Just focusing on getting completely healthy physically and mentally, and then from there tackle whatever projects you set your mind to.

Just curious, what sorts of projects have you been working on?

Some of the more involved projects have been building wood furniture, I wrote a book (now looking into printing/publishing/marketing), and remodeling and selling a rental home.

That's great! I am an amateur woodworker but am hoping to get better at it. I started making a coffee table at a local class and need to finish it soon. I hope to learn more about basic home remodeling over the next few years as well.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Hamster on July 14, 2015, 08:07:56 AM
After working my 4 weeks notice, I flew the next day to Thailand, I have been here 8 weeks so far, living on a tropical island. My days are spent working out, snorkelling, reading, kite boarding and drinking beer...as my title states..."living the dream"..don't get me wrong, it took serious discipline and hard work to get here, but I always knew what I wanted, and as the saying goes.."good things come to those who wait". Few more weeks here, then off to Bali for a month...then...well who knows..so far so good.

Sounds great. I am not FIREd, but I am finishing up a 6 month 'sabbatical'. I just spent the last 5 weeks volunteering in Luang Prabang, Laos, and absolutely loved it, even though I did have to set my alarm and be at 'work' for the first time in over 4 months. Working for no pay is so much more fulfilling than getting paid. Heh.

I was in Bali about 15 years ago, but it was the most idyllic place I have ever been, aside from the hawkers selling stuff. An island paradise with a unique and intact culture.

I would also love to hear more about your experiences if you ever feel moved to start a journal.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: StockBeard on July 15, 2015, 02:08:28 PM
Six week video game and junk food bender.
This will be me, I can picture it already. All those years of accumulated Free Playstation Plus games will finally be played!
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: ruhig on October 25, 2019, 08:23:40 AM
Remember Christmas school vacations when you were a child? That's what not working felt like to me. It still feels great, doing what I plan or choose every day, and it's been almost 5 years, now. It's so nice to be able to really enjoy Sunday evening!

On the FI, side: I was afraid we'd run out of funds because I'm drawing from my IRA for our income, and waiting to take Social Security at 70.  The market has been good enough to keep us even, and the worry is starting to go away as age 70 approaches. Time flies when you're enjoying the journey.

We were afraid the ACA would run out before my wife reached eligibility at 65, but next year will be the last year we'll need it.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: nancyfrank232 on October 25, 2019, 08:29:10 AM
I enjoy reading about how different people react to early retirement. I think that this side of FIRE isn't commonly addressed - but it is a big deal to prepare for all of this free time you've never had before from a mentality standpoint. So - were your first few months of ER filled with keeping yourself busy to establish a new kind of work ethic / learning to adopt to this new lifestyle, or was it mostly relaxing? No right answer here :)

The first few months were easy for me. It was the next couple of years that taught me a lot about myself! Lol

http://www.early-retirement.org/forums/f26/hello-from-canada-99808.html
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: jim555 on October 25, 2019, 07:45:35 PM
It is like being 4 yo again, before school or work started.  No more Sunday dread.  At first I had a hard time believing the money math, no paycheck is a big adjustment.  Getting used to the new life of no work actually took a few years.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: bacchi on October 25, 2019, 08:28:41 PM
Or like a never ending summer vacation where you don't have to go home when the street lights come on.

I'm dating myself there.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Cannot Wait! on October 25, 2019, 08:54:49 PM
One thing that surprised me after firing was that once I could take naps (ie I had all the time in the world) - I didn't need to any more.  It's amazing how tiring working is....and how NOT tiring doing what you want to do isn't!
It's been almost 4 years and it just doesn't get old.  Very grateful and lucky that I get to live my dream life.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Greystache on October 26, 2019, 08:02:16 AM
My spouse was still working for 6 months after I retired. So I did some deferred maintenance on the house. I installed new windows and painted the exterior trim on the house.  The cool thing about DYI when you are retired is that you can do it at a slower pace if you want to. When I was working, I felt like I had to rush through a project so I could get it done in a weekend. Now I just work until I'm tired and go take a nap. While DW was still working, I took over 100% of the household duties. As soon as she retired we went on a very long road trip.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: EndlessJourney on October 26, 2019, 12:58:19 PM
We have a bit of a different experience to all the "kick back and relax" stories above.

Last official day at work was April 30th, 2012. We spent about a month and a half finalizing the sale of our home then in June, we hit the road running and never looked back.

We had been planning this never-ending road trip since 2005. When it finally happened, it was a like a dog breaking free of its leash. We just ran and ran and ran.

It was perpetual motion all the way to the eastern Maritime provinces in Canada, and over to the western shores of BC, a straight march north to the Arctic Ocean in Alaska, and then a cannonball run southbound to escape the impending winter.

We rarely stayed in once place for more than a three days straight. The first week-long break we took from traveling was in Baja, Mexico at Christmastime. Over six months of constant travel. It was glorious!

We finally did take a longer break, we rented an apartment for a whole month in Antigua, Guatemala in March 2013. After nine months of being on the road, that was a very welcome respite.

So those were our first steps - our first few months after leaving our jobs.

Still on the road.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: BigMoneyJim on October 30, 2019, 11:56:08 AM
It took me several weeks to get used to the idea that I didn't have to be somewhere at a prescribed time or didn't have to be doing something. There was a nagging feeling that I should be somewhere.

[...]

And that is an even bigger realization, at least it was for me. It's not just control over your time or daily activities -- when you realize that you alone are in control of your life, that there is literally no one who can tell you what to do --

[...]

For a few months I gave myself permission not to do anything particularly productive, although I did find myself being productive nonetheless.

I'm 2½ weeks into retirement, and I'm adjusting in similar ways.

The mental inertia of working on others' schedules is surprisingly hard to get past. I don't have problems entertaining or occupying myself, but I find myself having some of the same 'restricted' feelings I had when I was working, but out of habit not reality.

I'm also getting into weird debates with myself ... well on everything. I'm single with no kids, so I'm absolutely completely in charge of my own time and 'retirement productivity'. Do I follow every whim? Do I constrain myself? How much, and why?

I spent the first week bingeing an audiobook series, then have slowly gotten more 'productive' over the next week (renewed drivers license, started tinkering with some retirement projects, etc.). I had semi-planned to leave on a long (4000+ miles) road trip today or yesterday, but with no set schedule I'm arguing with myself on whether my not feeling like leaving is just lazy inertia preventing me from having fun that should be overridden or if I should go with what I feel like in the moment, because in the moment the emotional urgency to get away from home is past.

Definite first-world problem.

Even though I've been planning on early retirement for 20 years and know I won't get bored, it's still an astoundingly jarring adjustment to be completely responsible for my own time, goals, enforcement, and judgement. I've had months off of work before, but I knew that full-time work was in my future. It's really different this time. As challenging as it is so far, it's what I wanted and definitely what I still want. It's just surprising how disorienting it is.

I'm planning to keep up the progress in my MMM journal (https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/journals/laid-off-at-47-but-can-i-can-semi-retire-now-several-years-earlier-than-plan/msg2486212/#msg2486212) here on the forum.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: 2Birds1Stone on October 30, 2019, 03:11:03 PM
I'm in my first few weeks right now......a lot of taking advantage of autumn in NY. Training for a MTB race, and a 10 mile running race. Reading tons, long walks, video games, waking up to daylight vs. an alarm, saying yes to hanging out with friends on weeknights, going to the gym when I feel like it, and definitely not thinking about all of the missed income from quitting a high paying job at the age of 32 =D
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: GreenSheep on November 04, 2019, 01:48:35 PM
How about the first few hours? :-) Today is Day 1 of FIRE for me, after nearly a year of working less and less and less. My job allowed me to taper, so I don't feel like I'm jumping off a cliff... but I think the cliff jump feeling would have been more exciting. It doesn't quite feel real yet, and I still have some fears about no longer having a paycheck, but as someone said above, I'm also a worrier, and I know I'm over-worrying.

In 3 days I'll leave for a week and a half in Costa Rica, part of which will be backpacking through the jungle. It wasn't planned as a retirement celebration, but it's nice that it worked out that way. And I'll feel a little bit productive because I can work on my Spanish.

Then back home for a month or so to enjoy Thanksgiving and pre-Christmas preparations with my husband. Then a 2.5 week visit with my parents; that's more time than I've spent with them all at once in decades. Husband (who still works) will join us for a week of that. I'm looking forward to helping my mom decorate, doing some last-minute shopping for stocking stuffers, etc. I've only been able to go home for Christmas at all for the past 2-3 years, and then only for a week at a time, so it all felt like a very rushed blur. Now there will be time to sit by the fire and stare at the tree while sipping hot chocolate.

I think RE will still feel rather surreal until I get home again in January. I have a list of projects (mostly fun, some just necessary) to dive into when I have time! I worked a very irregular schedule, so it doesn't seem odd to me yet that today is Monday and I'm not at work. My work involved a ton of travel, so I haven't been home for more than 3 weeks at a time in many years. I think RE will finally sink in when I get to the point where it's been a couple of months since I was last on a plane.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: dude on November 26, 2019, 07:34:47 AM
Hawaii for 2 weeks, followed a few weeks later by a 3-week rock climbing road trip to Colorado, Utah and Wyoming, followed 2 weeks later by a month-long road trip to Wyoming, Utah, Nevada and SoCal for jiu jitsu and surfing (with a little hiking thrown in, including The Narrows in Zion Nat'l Park). Loved every minute of it. Have since been on a couple shorter road trips (North Carolina and Colorado), and a week in Costa Rica surfing.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: 2Birds1Stone on November 30, 2019, 07:39:55 AM
I'm in my first few weeks right now......a lot of taking advantage of autumn in NY......../snip

Update a month later.....Autumn was great, then the days got MUCH shorter with daylight savings time ending......cold came out of nowhere, and I find myself a bit restless when I'm cooped up inside most of the day. Boredom hasn't been a real issue thanks to a video game hobby, but I can see myself getting tired of that in a few more weeks.

The biggest issue for me, is that I have an SO who is still working, and not much ability to travel alone (or desire for that matter).
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Cassie on December 01, 2019, 03:43:24 PM
We bought a foreclosure in need of gutting so that occupied 4 months. Then packed and moved in.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: SwordGuy on December 01, 2019, 04:10:20 PM
We spent the first weekend at a weekend dance getaway.  :)

Then we came down with some kind of crud and spent most of the next month sick as can be. :(

Then I renovated 2 houses while my wife recovered from an injury to her ankle.

The "good part" of the illnesses and injuries was that we didn't have to worry about going to work.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Linea_Norway on December 02, 2019, 04:33:17 AM
Lots of sleeping and couch surfing with bursts of activity involving long lists of household "to do" items I'd neglected over the last year.

First month or two, I was feeling disorientated and guilty that I wasn't working any more, so I had to do lots of stuff to prove to myself/husband that it was a good idea to quit. Which was funny as the husband was fine with me doing absolutely nothing most of the time (he'd seen first hand how stressed out I'd been and was much more sympathetic that I was to myself about all of this).

I'm coming up on 4 months out, and the list-making has slowed down considerably. I'm also choosing to do absolutely nothing some days and not feeling anxious about it any more.

Actually, the stress and anxiety levels have gone down significantly at this point, but it wasn't instant for me as soon as I left that last day. I had about a month of "did I make a mistake" feeling, even knowing 100% that I had not, and still am getting occasional work-based anxiety dreams. It's going to take a while with me I think.

I am no longer freaked out all the time and able to handle stuff easily when things go wrong, and I am back to being a more happy/positive personality in general. I'd veered into a very depressed and stressed out state for the last couple of years, and the personality change has been significant enough that it even surprises me.

Heath-wise, I've lost a significant amount of weight (husband as well) due to being able to cook more. We're both exercising more as well.

This sounds a lot like me. I hope I also have the same positive changes when I FIRE. I'm working on dealing with the anxiety now, but it seems so overwhelming some times (but not today). :)

I just started my last 2 weeks of working and my anxiety is growing. Last night I couldn't sleep at all. I worry about both this and that, some reasonably things and some I shouldn't worry about at all.

I'm in my first few weeks right now......a lot of taking advantage of autumn in NY......../snip

Update a month later.....Autumn was great, then the days got MUCH shorter with daylight savings time ending......cold came out of nowhere, and I find myself a bit restless when I'm cooped up inside most of the day. Boredom hasn't been a real issue thanks to a video game hobby, but I can see myself getting tired of that in a few more weeks.

The biggest issue for me, is that I have an SO who is still working, and not much ability to travel alone (or desire for that matter).

Just find out that I can easily insert another quote, good.

We have been in this limbo state for weeks. We have been busy for several months with home sale preparation (and didn't succeed with the sale yet). Now we are taking a break from the sale and finally have time to do something else in the weekends. But the weather has been depressing and we always had to do something at home on Friday or in the weekend, so that we couldn't visit our cabin either.

Things are starting to look better now. During last week the rain has stopped falling and when the skies are clear, the mornings are very beautiful this time of the year with the sun just below the horizon when I have breakfast. Last weekend there was enough snow to go cross country skiing, not in perfect circumstances, but good enough to be out and exercising.
And next weekend we don't have anything to do at home, so we can visit our cabin where there is a great lot of snow according to the locals. So maybe my last (long) weekend as a working person could be great. If I could also start sleeping at night, that would make it perfect.

I will try to find my blood pressure measuring device again, which is packed somewhere for the home sale. It would be interesting to see the difference between my last weeks working and the first weeks of being fired. It think it might take a few weeks for it to lower, as I am currently at a reasonably high stress and anxiety level.

My first period of FIRE will start by having a week off while DH works another 2 days and then we will be visiting family for the Christmas holidays, driving 1000 km one way to visit them. We haven't bought a return ticket for the ferry like we usually do, so we can be flexible to change plans.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Threshkin on December 03, 2019, 10:46:37 AM
I spent the first year of my ER caring for my mother before she passed so I barely noticed the change except that I had more time for her.  That was emotionally stressful but on bright side I barely noticed or missed my old working life.

Now 3+ years FIREd and loving it.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: happy on December 07, 2019, 03:45:12 PM
First few weeks /months were f'ing awful. My 91 year old mother called me on the last day of work to say she was ill. After 4 torrid weeks she died. Then a whirl of funeral organising and so on. Then a decision to sell the family home reasonably quickly, meant  several more months of clearing out 60 years of accumulated stuff, and primping and preening of the house and garden for sale. As none of us lived locally ( I was the closest  @ about 2hours drive each way) this was exhausting. Then the sales process, then sorting out both parents estates. We hadn't done much with Dads ( died 15 months prior) mainly coz it would've upset mum, and he didn't have many assets.

Totally not what I was expecting, but thank God I wasn't working. We never would have managed.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Threshkin on December 09, 2019, 10:57:49 AM
First few weeks /months were f'ing awful. My 91 year old mother called me on the last day of work to say she was ill. After 4 torrid weeks she died. Then a whirl of funeral organising and so on. Then a decision to sell the family home reasonably quickly, meant  several more months of clearing out 60 years of accumulated stuff, and primping and preening of the house and garden for sale. As none of us lived locally ( I was the closest  @ about 2hours drive each way) this was exhausting. Then the sales process, then sorting out both parents estates. We hadn't done much with Dads ( died 15 months prior) mainly coz it would've upset mum, and he didn't have many assets.

Totally not what I was expecting, but thank God I wasn't working. We never would have managed.

My condolences for your loss.  At least you had time to do it.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: happy on December 10, 2019, 04:37:40 AM

Totally not what I was expecting, but thank God I wasn't working. We never would have managed.

My condolences for your loss.  At least you had time to do it.

Thankyou, and that's what we kept telling ourselves. I guess the lesson is that life still happens even when you retire. Its only the last couple of months that things are looking clearer.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Threshkin on December 12, 2019, 11:58:46 AM

Totally not what I was expecting, but thank God I wasn't working. We never would have managed.

My condolences for your loss.  At least you had time to do it.

Thankyou, and that's what we kept telling ourselves. I guess the lesson is that life still happens even when you retire. Its only the last couple of months that things are looking clearer.
It was the same for me.  I FIREd about a year before my mom passed.  I was so busy caring for her that I barely noticed except that I had time to be with her without feeling guilty about not paying attention to work.

Since then we have lost 2 more uncles and my MIL.  I just learned this morning that my oldest cousin's wife had a major stroke.  She is recovering but needs to learn how to walk again.  All are reminders about how fragile and uncertain life is.  All the more reason for getting our financial lives in order and eliminating at least one source of stress.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Omy on December 15, 2019, 07:55:10 AM
We FIRE'd in August and in the first few weeks had low level anxiety that I should be accomplishing more. We also had a number of surprise issues with rental properties that cost a bit (dead washing machine, cracked toilet tank, dying hvac) and has me wondering if I should get out of the landlord business.

Overall it has been quite good, though. We've been "vacationing", exploring, and exercising much more than preFIRE - we've spent approximately 25% of our time out of town and managed to do it relatively inexpensively.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Threshkin on December 15, 2019, 04:14:52 PM
We FIRE'd in August and in the first few weeks had low level anxiety that I should be accomplishing more. We also had a number of surprise issues with rental properties that cost a bit (dead washing machine, cracked toilet tank, dying hvac) and has me wondering if I should get out of the landlord business.

Overall it has been quite good, though. We've been "vacationing", exploring, and exercising much more than preFIRE - we've spent approximately 25% of our time out of town and managed to do it relatively in expensively.

We dropped out of the landlord business a few years ago for much the same reasons.  Then we watched property prices explode in our region......From the sidelines......
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: TartanTallulah on December 23, 2019, 02:08:25 AM
I loved it from the start. Whole days of not having a ticking clock hanging over my head. Proper meals at normal times. Able to move around as I pleased. Time for marathon training for the first time in years. My sleep improved and my IBS and afternoon migraines melted away. I still did a bit of freelance work two or three short days a week and that was OK, but my "retired days" were my favourite. I particularly cherished my "home alone" time when my husband was at work. He's not difficult to be around, but I hadn't had home alone time in my own house for many years.

Don't read on.

After a few months the freelance work crept up, first supposedly temporarily (maternity cover, one-off emergencies) although I was ruthless about only doing one job role in one location. Having always worked, and knowing my next paycheck might be my last and with my DB pension still waiting finalisation, it was too tempting to earn a little more, keep feeding my private pension, save for a really good vacation, plan some big adventures after my husband had quit his part time job which he still enjoyed, buy a new gadget or two.

12 months post-FIRE, the point at which I'd expected to be rested and recovered enough to take on some community commitments, I was working 30-36 hours a week, including some weekend days, plus commuting, and we'd had the curveball of my frail but mobile FiL moving in with us so I'm never home alone. And that's where I'm at.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: ShastaFire on December 23, 2019, 02:36:59 PM
Very difficult - I was diagnosed with cancer 10 days after I gave notice at my job to start ER (in my 40s).   Yeah....
Surgery, recovery took many months thereafter.  A true case of "we plan, god laughs."  But I had the money, the time, the doctors and the loved ones around me to help me get better.  I am so grateful and so darn lucky.  Two years later, I am finally getting back into my FIRE stride.

Not a traditional ER story, but thought I would share.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: happy on December 24, 2019, 03:59:26 PM
Very difficult - I was diagnosed with cancer 10 days after I gave notice at my job to start ER (in my 40s).   Yeah....
Surgery, recovery took many months thereafter.  A true case of "we plan, god laughs."  But I had the money, the time, the doctors and the loved ones around me to help me get better.  I am so grateful and so darn lucky.  Two years later, I am finally getting back into my FIRE stride.

Not a traditional ER story, but thought I would share.
Bugger!
Glad to hear you're recovering and able to get into FIREd life in the way you always intended.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: ShastaFire on December 25, 2019, 12:54:25 PM
Very difficult - I was diagnosed with cancer 10 days after I gave notice at my job to start ER (in my 40s).   Yeah....
Surgery, recovery took many months thereafter.  A true case of "we plan, god laughs."  But I had the money, the time, the doctors and the loved ones around me to help me get better.  I am so grateful and so darn lucky.  Two years later, I am finally getting back into my FIRE stride.

Not a traditional ER story, but thought I would share.
Bugger!
Glad to hear you're recovering and able to get into FIREd life in the way you always intended.

Thank you!  It was just crazy.  I'm now looking forward to some camping trips this summer - gonna be sweet!

I read about your rough entry into FIRE, and my condolences on the loss of your mom.  It's hard when there's so much to decide and take care of right in the middle of grief.  Wishing you a good 2020 -   
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Linea_Norway on January 04, 2020, 01:45:31 AM
@happy I am so sorry you dealt with that and agree being FIRE'd must have been a huge blessing.  Part of my reason for wanting to FIRE was to be able to be there completely for my aging parents. 

For me, I am just approaching 4 months out.  Bummer it has been fall and an early winter here but every single day I have had gratitude for the gift of FIRE. 

I can sleep in every day if I want, but strangely I don't.  I can nap and have, but only twice.  I can stay up as late as I want to and am surprised sometimes that it gets to be so late as I am absorbed in something fun that keeps me up.  I don't have to worry about it one tiny bit if I am laying awake at night for some reason; I can turn on the TV for a while or read until the sandman takes me again, knowing I can make up for any sleep I need without dreading the alarm.  No Sunday dread.  I actually prefer weekdays now over weekends because the neighborhood is quiet, the stores are empty, and the TV is better.  I can get out of the routine of the normal podcasts I would listen to at work and try something new, or read a book and pull on all the threads of googling this or that to learn more about a topic within.  I load my crockpot on a Tuesday morning. I did a wonderful home improvement project that has been overdue for 2 years.  I held and comforted my sick elderly cat every day and was there at home for her euthanasia on a Thursday morning last month.  I travelled during non-peak times around the holidays because I was unrestricted by vacation calendars.  For my 2020 golf league I will be available to play in the morning and out of the heat if I choose to and will meet new interesting friends there.     

So much, so good, so worth it.  I can't wait for the changing seasons and to see how this goes during balmy days-  "staying out till the street lights come on" if I want.  What a perfect metaphor for living life all the way

Friends, get out here and join us.             

I am only Fired very shorthly, but I have the same experience. I love the more quiet weekdays to visit shops and other places while most others are working. I also experienced that on Fridays during my last working year. I also like to drive long distance at a convenient time of the day instead of in the evening and together with many other cars in a queue.
For sleeping out, I have been sleeping longer, to 8 am or so, while I earlier got up at 6 am. But 6 is not natural for me. When the sun rises earlier again, I will probably get up earlier. I like to wake up with the sun shining on the bedroom window, but that is only in spring and autumn. During the last nights I went to bed later because of something interesting on TV. And yesterday because I was baking bread that needed attention. It is a blessing to do those things without worrying about bedtime. It feels a bit like when Zi for the first time in ages didn't take the train to work. Not being dependent on train schedules was a major destressor for me.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Jon_Snow on January 04, 2020, 01:46:15 PM
I find that as I am now heading into my 6th year of FIRE I am gaining better perspective of those first 6 months. The much talked about adjustment period had it’s challenges - mostly because I embarked upon a transformative process to improve my health. But there was also an ever present, surreal, pleasant buzzing in my brain that I pulled this off. Every commute I got to opt out of in the morning...well, took quite a while until that lost it’s shine. ;)

Thinking on it as I have a a bit more in checking back in this thread...I would describe my first 6 months or so as a sort of EUPHORIC DECOMPRESSION.

I FIRE’d in September of 2014....and by the time that Spring 2015 arrived I was almost 50 pounds lighter and ready attack this new phase of my life.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: ysette9 on January 05, 2020, 05:02:07 AM
That is an impressive transformation. I’m thinking a butterfly from a chrysalis.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: MissNancyPryor on January 05, 2020, 01:37:24 PM
"...ever present, surreal, pleasant buzzing in my brain that I pulled this off"

So much this.  Especially with the market adding YUGE to my stache since retirement it feels like I have a big happy secret that keeps me grinning all the time.  Not one second of regret. 
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: chasesfish on January 06, 2020, 05:41:46 AM
My first 3 months were hell between managing a home sale, figuring out where we were moving to, and doing a DIY move across the country.

The second three months is when I had to learn how to settle into our new life.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: TheWifeHalf on January 06, 2020, 06:07:01 PM
My husband worked for a large world wide company, so the first 6 mos were spent with 'book work.'  Most of the stuff was handled by calling Texas, or at least calling there to get the number that had to be called.
Things weren't relatively settled until September (he retired Valentine's Day), and I think it will take until Medicare time to completely cut the strings, so that's another 2 years.
He goes to bed later at night, and sleeps longer in the am. There's a golf course 2 miles from here, so he golfs a lot, something he couldn't do while working. He spends many days golfing with other retirees from the same company.
My life's the same, I just have someone around to lift heavy things, and tall enough to get stuff on the high shelves at the grocery store!
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: MissNancyPryor on January 07, 2020, 06:15:05 AM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?  Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.

When I have an appointment of some kind I feel like it is a a real pain in the rear now where before it was just part of the grind.  Since Outlook no longer pings at me all day I instead use a wipe-off calendar magnet on the fridge.  My appointments and time-anchored errands are there and I find the space in between things is glorious and find myself not looking forward to "having to" do anything at all.  Weird.     

Today I have to be somewhere at 10am for a brief 20 minute thing and I am struck by the friction of it.  I have a golf lesson Thursday and then Monday I will do a group fun thing, and then a friend is visiting on the 15th.  Even when the neighbor dropped by unannounced the other night I felt my insides say, "grrr" for a second. 

All of that, even though they are good things, gets me a tiny bit put out.  So strange!  Anyone else have that sense and did it go away?       
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Trifle on January 07, 2020, 06:37:06 AM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?  Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.

Yes!  I have this.  I'm nearly one year FIREd, and I find myself at times just not wanting to do anything at all structured.  I've even missed a couple of (non-critical) appointments.  Like, even though I had them in my calendar I just -- forgot them.  The pre-FIRE me was rock solid on such things and it never happened.   It's like the new unstructured me is subconsciously rebelling against the littlest imposition. 

FIRE for me has been glorious so far!  I still think daily about how f-ing fabulous my life is.  I'm happier than I've ever been.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: MissNancyPryor on January 07, 2020, 06:56:07 AM
Thanks for the reply!  I won't worry then if this feeling lasts.  "Rebelling" is exactly how I feel -- as if, FFS, I have put in my time and I am so over being shoved from one event to the next all day that having even just 3 good bases to touch this week feels like a real imposition.

Yes, glorious.  I have on several occasions laughed out loud with amazement that I actually pulled this off.   
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: Dicey on January 07, 2020, 07:31:44 AM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?  Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.

Yes!  I have this.  I'm nearly one year FIREd, and I find myself at times just not wanting to do anything at all structured.  I've even missed a couple of (non-critical) appointments.  Like, even though I had them in my calendar I just -- forgot them.  The pre-FIRE me was rock solid on such things and it never happened.   It's like the new unstructured me is subconsciously rebelling against the littlest imposition. 

FIRE for me has been glorious so far!  I still think daily about how f-ing fabulous my life is.  I'm happier than I've ever been.
Me, too. In fact, I find at times I resent anything that forces me to shower and get dressed, even if it's something I willingly scheduled or committed to. Sometimes even if it's something I enjoy.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: firebrand on January 07, 2020, 08:41:34 AM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?  Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.
Yes!  I have this. 
Me, too.
Similar. I'm not on such a rigid schedule as I had while I was still working my job. Right now for instance, I should pack and get ready for a planned trip across the state of Florida but I don't need to leave for several hours so I'm spending time looking through threads here and there. It's almost as if I'm becoming the procrastinator I was while I was in high school decades ago. Perhaps this is just a phase (only a few weeks into this).
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: caracarn on January 07, 2020, 09:49:31 AM
PTF

I just finished up two weeks at home from mandatory shutdown where I work had at end of the year and did spend a lot of that time thinking "would I like to do x while FIRE" as I did various things.  Obviously given the comments above taking 4-6 months to really accept it as the new normal was not what I got to do, but now that I am hopefully in single digit years till I can FIRE it was the first time off thinking about what FIRE would be like. 
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: GreenSheep on January 07, 2020, 11:45:48 AM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?  Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.

Yes!  I have this.  I'm nearly one year FIREd, and I find myself at times just not wanting to do anything at all structured.  I've even missed a couple of (non-critical) appointments.  Like, even though I had them in my calendar I just -- forgot them.  The pre-FIRE me was rock solid on such things and it never happened.   It's like the new unstructured me is subconsciously rebelling against the littlest imposition. 

FIRE for me has been glorious so far!  I still think daily about how f-ing fabulous my life is.  I'm happier than I've ever been.
Me, too. In fact, I find at times I resent anything that forces me to shower and get dressed, even if it's something I willingly scheduled or committed to. Sometimes even if it's something I enjoy.

Yes! I've come to dread appointments, and I used to be the most scheduled, type-A person I knew. I enjoy meeting up with friends, etc., but all the prep that goes into it (hair, makeup, nice clothes, planning my departure from home so I arrive on time, etc.) is exhausting. Yes, I could just leave my hair and makeup un-fixed, but that's just not me.

Also, I just really enjoy being home. I like my home, and I have lots of fun things to do here. My husband, best friend, and mom are all the "must get out of the house daily" type, and I just don't get it. I go out and do all the things I need/want to do, but I don't go *looking* for reasons to get out of the house!
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: MissNancyPryor on January 07, 2020, 11:49:28 AM
I am glad that this is not unusual.  I was worried I had early stage hermitosis.  ;D
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: John Galt incarnate! on January 07, 2020, 12:39:21 PM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?

I dislike it.

 Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

I find the space in between things is glorious and find myself not looking forward to "having to" do anything at all.  Weird.   

I like the freedom of not having to do anything: for me it's the essence of FIRE.

Today I have to be somewhere at 10am for a brief 20 minute thing and I am struck by the friction of it.  I have a golf lesson Thursday and then Monday I will do a group fun thing, and then a friend is visiting on the 15th.  Even when the neighbor dropped by unannounced the other night I felt my insides say, "grrr" for a second. 

All of that, even though they are good things, gets me a tiny bit put out.  So strange!  Anyone else have that sense and did it go away?     

In FIREtirement, desire for my own space and its quietude is as strong as it's ever been.
Title: Re: What Were Your First Few Weeks/Months of ER Like?
Post by: BigMoneyJim on January 07, 2020, 02:45:42 PM
Anyone else have a sense of mild irritation with structure post-FIRE?  Lately I have had an overwhelming sense of simply wanting to be left alone.

When I have an appointment of some kind I feel like it is a a real pain in the rear now where before it was just part of the grind.

YES. I mean I was like that to some degree the past decade of work, but since retiring (~ 3 months ago now) I'm hyper-guarded of my time. I get really annoyed every time the phone rings as there is literally nobody I want to talk to with no warning.

Not quite the same thing, but I just buzz-cut my own hair a couple of days ago rather than go to get it cut to my usual style, because I couldn't be bothered to spend the time to go get it done. I figure worst case is it will grow back to where I want it in 2-3 months, and I have no plans in that time, anyway!