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The Future of Aging Article in NYTimes
« on: November 14, 2018, 07:03:50 PM »
I saw this article today in the New York Times and it describes what some people see as their 55+ dream community:

In my opinion the description of this place sounds just awful. Sure the neighbors all know each other and it sounds all peachy, but just from my dealings in a condo association have been crazy. This is not my idea of retirement for sure. Plus I'm biased in not wanting to retire in Florida. Plus being LGBT this community just sounds so stifling.

Any thoughts?


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Re: The Future of Aging Article in NYTimes
« Reply #1 on: November 14, 2018, 07:55:06 PM »
Interesting article. We are 64 and have no desire to move to another city.  Anything like this here is out of reach financially even though we have a nice home we could sell.   We could afford a place in the Villages in Florida but I hate Florida.  I think it might be fun as long as you keep your other connections to younger people, etc.   


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Re: The Future of Aging Article in NYTimes
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2018, 07:32:49 AM »
No desire to Live in Florida and all that its about. To me its a living Hospice. Not one that likes to run with the crowd.


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Re: The Future of Aging Article in NYTimes
« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2018, 09:22:36 AM »
The neighbors all knowing each other and socializing with each other reminds me of my mother's years in a retirement home. It sounded ideal on paper: An on-site book club, lectures, exercise, people you could eat meals with and socialize with.

The problem is the lack of choices.  You only have that one book club for example.  Where I live there are at least SIX book clubs near me with different emphasis (one is always Shakespeare! Some are headed by librarians. One starts with an hour eating the food that month's leader brings that's tied to the theme of the book.) 

If you don't like the people or don't like the book they're reading, it's easy to just skip or drop out and try another one.

Living independently, I'm able to pick and choose which activities I do based on the day/time/people.  I tried 8 dance classes to find the 2 I love.  I tried all kinds of other gym classes-- Tai Chi, Kundalini, pilates, etc. several times each before accepting that they aren't for me.  In my mother's retirement home there were either Chair Yoga or Bean Bag Baseball for group exercise. Take it or leave it.

In a small community there just wouldn't be the choices, and there's also less privacy. You probably have to admit that you didn't attend the book club because you didn't like the book; it's too complicated to say "I had a conflict" when they saw you out by the pool or your car in the drive, etc.

I'm too particular about my activities and my friends to just fit into a ready-made tribe and schedule.


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Re: The Future of Aging Article in NYTimes
« Reply #4 on: November 15, 2018, 10:22:21 AM »
Sounds like living on a cruise ship. I'd rather kill myself.


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Re: The Future of Aging Article in NYTimes
« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2019, 05:30:38 AM »
Reminds me of the great essay about cruises by David Foster Wallace.