I miss having more posts and replies from @Nords, but I suppose he is enjoying some tasty waves.
Thanks for the tag,
@Zamboni! I rotate among different forums to answer questions, especially for military families. I’ve been doing this for over 25 years.
Believe it or not, in November 2014 (fourteen!) I stopped reading here every day and put this forum on my weekly check for keywords. This is still my #2 favorite.
My current favorite forum (1-2 hours per day since late 2020) is Millionaire Money Mentors hosted by ESIMoney. (This is not a pitch or an affiliate-- it’s just where my interest lies now.) It’s the first time that I’ve ever paid to join a forum, and in a related coincidence I was shocked to confirm that there are no trolls, spammers, or haters. There are no moderators and there’s not even an “ignore poster” feature.
Ironically it’s the same issues that we discuss here, only $10x-$$100x. It’s not about the money but rather the same investing questions and much more about behavioral financial psychology. Just One More Year seems to be even stronger among these members than any other financial-independence forum I’ve seen. In their defense (very little), some of them have been so good at creating wealth that they’ve never bothered to learn how to sustainably manage it. It’s very much to their credit that they’ve joined the forum with questions about work/life balance, even if they have little interest in cutting back on work.
Nobody has planes or yachts, although a few are hardcore boat people. Nobody admits to owning a Lamborghini, although there’s a perpetual thread about Teslas. One has started their own property-management company to manage their rental properties (high-rise apartment buildings) while a couple more are doing very well in commercial properties. Real-estate syndications are a popular topic, and ESIMoney has written about some of this on his site.
My personal interests on “the other MMM forum” are estate planning, philanthropy, and gifting (progeny). Last year my spouse started her Navy Reserve pension and we’re ramping up our spending for the rest of this decade to draw down our net worth. We’re enjoying slow travel, while we still can. We’re sharing some inheritances with our descendants now, while we’re all still around to talk about it. The reliability of our military pensions (and impending Medicare, and later Social Security) makes us comfortable with reducing our assets.
Mr. Hobo Millionaire and Steveark comment daily, like me. PhysicianOnFire drops by occasionally, as well as Steve from ThinkSaveRetire, Fritz from Retirement Manifesto, Michael from FinanciallyAlert, and Monica from ThePieceOfThePie. I’ve bonded with a lot of these people, and we’re having our first meetup in April. It reminds me of the early days of Camp Mustache and CampFI.
Besides these two MMM forums, I spend a lot of time in military personal finance Facebook groups and subReddits. I also check in weekly at Early-Retirement and Bogleheads to answer questions from military families.
Otherwise, life.
My spouse and I were on slow travel for five months of 2022, about half of it visiting our toddler granddaughter. She just turned three years old, she’s doing fine, and she’s every bit of the daughter that we’ve warned our daughter about for two decades. Maybe even more.
They’re stationed in San Diego and our son-in-law is deployed for a few more months, which means Marge and I are staying flexible on Oahu to parachute in for grandparenting support as requested. They’re moving to Oahu in late 2023 (if the Navy supports them with orders) or early 2024 (without the Navy’s support).
We’ve done a lot of home improvement in the last three months, and that pace has finally slowed down a little.
I still spend several hours a day answering questions about military personal finance, which usually distracts me from updating my decade-old edition of The Military Guide. My last blog post was June 2022 (“20 years of FI & military retirement”) and I’m drafting my next post (“Safe Health Withdrawal Rate”) to go live in March. Everything else goes on my Facebook feed, which is mostly grandsharenting and totally public.
And surfing: 2-3 times per week, usually with recovery days in between! I’m 62 years old, and my two favorite breaks have plenty of guys in their 70s... with a few in their 80s. I joke that I’ll paddle out until I can no longer remember how to paddle back in. We’re currently in that ugly 6-8 weeks of Hawaii winter where there’s winds of 20+ knots and inches of rain. That leads to poor surf, getting blown around, brown-water advisories, and general sniveling. I have high hopes for March.