I'lljoin the discussion. I've recently accumulated as much assets as MMM himself when he retired (paid house, 600k+ in assets in LCOL area). I did all that by finishing college as an All-American athlete, 4.0 student, top of my law class graduate, law practice founder, law firm founder, non-profit founder, board member for 4 other major local non-profits, etcetrea.
Are you seeing the over-achiever problem? Lol.
For me, I'm not going to retire since I own my business and I do like many of my community oriented activities. BUT, I have to slow it all down. I have to put conditions on all of it that work for me.
I'm trying to live without goals. I have been goal-oriented to a fault. So, how can I begin to "take life as it comes" how can I "find what is mine to do." I'm seeing that many things I did, I could have left for others. I don't always have to "jump in" and "take charge." Sometimes, just being present and offering simple guidance to others is more than enough.
I'm also trying to add structural things. For example, I take the last Friday of the month off, I take my children to school at 8:45 and pick them up at 4 to limit my work hours, I refuse to take any work call after I leave (I made someone else in the office the after-hours contact), I take a one-month vacation in the winter where I purposely make no work stuff a priority.
I also have tried to think about my relationships and which ones are a priority. With work, I was able to create a stable foundation for my family. With that accomplished, I have chosen to elevate time with my family as the guiding principle. If an achievement/ambition is going to mess with that, I have to let it go.
Yoga and meditation have helped me see my overachieving in many different aspects of my life and gently let go of it piece by piece. The process is ongoing!