So the feminism I am familiar with thinks that most men and most women would be a lot happier and have the potential to be more fulfilled in their lives if those restriction and expectations could be loosened and then lost, so that a person (any person, irregardless of gender identity or sexual preference or presentation) can do what interests them and they do well at, as jobs and as hobbies and as life styles.
I think that this is true but I think society is moving more and more this way right now. When I was at high school I remember there was a gay guy there. He had it rough. My kids now tend to not even think about gay kids unless they are over the top. At my gym (jiu-jitsu) women come along and train. There is a lovely young couple who are both doctors. I work with a woman who I really like. We are good friends. She was bought up Muslim, married a man, had a kid, got divorced, moved countries, married a woman and her partner is thinking of having a kid via artificial insemination. She does jiu-jitsu just like me and has fought MMA.
Maybe the world isn't perfect but making out that gender is some massive issue that holds women back is absurd.
Things are a lot better than they were (I am a lot older than you are, so I have seen more changes). But there is still lots of sexism (and racism, and discrimination for other reasons) out there. People are just less blunt about it (or were, until the US got Trump and Ontario got the Fords). Lots still don't like women in politics, they just don't say they don't like so and so because she is a woman, they try to say all sorts of other reasons why they don't like her. You still find lots of people (mostly men but not all) who are surprised when someone likes their female boss (because women make bad bosses?).
One take I like (it floats around, no idea of origin) is that when a second-rate woman can do as well as a second-rate man, we will be a lot closer to equality. And when no-one bothers to comment on a political candidate's gender, or race, or sexual orientation because it is just not relevant, we will truly have come a long way. We are not there yet. And when a couple seriously discusses who should stay home with the baby (if anyone, since daycare should be a viable option, and is in large parts of Canada, but not the US, which does not say much for the US), based on all factors, we will be a lot closer to equality. I see too many financial discussions on the forums where the assumption is that the wife will stay home for a few years, they can live without her salary. Her career development, her chances of going back to a decent job, her loss of seniority and future pension vesting rarely seem to come up. And it matters, the most valuable part of my pension is from my first 5 years at work, because it had so long to grow. And then if there is a divorce, her contribution to the family and her loss of that job advancement is not seen to be equal to his financial contribution, and we get the moaning about alimony.
So things have improved, but there is still lots of room for more improvement.