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Any home schoolers?
« on: January 06, 2023, 07:09:18 PM »
We are considering home schooling our boys.  Anyone do that for your own kids?  We’re you homeschooled?  Would love to read your experiences.  Also interested in reading any recommended resources on the topic!  Thank you!

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« Reply #1 on: January 06, 2023, 07:24:14 PM »
We are considering home schooling our boys.  Anyone do that for your own kids?  We’re you homeschooled?  Would love to read your experiences.  Also interested in reading any recommended resources on the topic!  Thank you!

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« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2023, 06:57:25 AM »
We home-school our older 2 children (13 & 11) and send out 6 year old to local kindergarten. There are a variety of reasons for this. We started during the pandemic. One child has significant ADHD, one child has some auditory processing problems. My spouse received her degree in language education and was going to be a middle school language arts teacher, but decided not to (but has that training/background). She does 90-95% of the work. I help with math because it is easy for me.

You'll find a huge range of homeschooling philosophies - from set up desks in a room and re-create a classroom and worksheets to "Unschooling" - I'll let you google it.  We're somewhere in the middle. We use a curriculum from https://www.oakmeadow.com/, but we pick and choose what we want from it. I think many homeschooling parents will say that it is one of the most challenging and rewarding things they have ever done.  We don't attend or partner with other families or a homeschool community. The huge advantage is not having to worry much about living based on the quality or perceived quality of the school district. Our local district is considered to be top 5% in our state - but that also means a lot of pressure on AP classes and testing and the class size is enormous. We also love being able to travel when we want. Took my kids to ride rollercoasters on a Wednesday in early November and we felt like we had the place to ourselves.

You may get more responses if you move this to the Children/Kids part of the forum.

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Re: Any home schoolers?
« Reply #3 on: January 07, 2023, 06:59:28 AM »
We are considering home schooling our boys.  Anyone do that for your own kids?  We’re you homeschooled?  Would love to read your experiences.  Also interested in reading any recommended resources on the topic!  Thank you!

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Re: Any home schoolers?
« Reply #4 on: January 07, 2023, 07:01:58 AM »
We home-school our older 2 children (13 & 11) and send out 6 year old to local kindergarten. There are a variety of reasons for this. We started during the pandemic. One child has significant ADHD, one child has some auditory processing problems. My spouse received her degree in language education and was going to be a middle school language arts teacher, but decided not to (but has that training/background). She does 90-95% of the work. I help with math because it is easy for me.

You'll find a huge range of homeschooling philosophies - from set up desks in a room and re-create a classroom and worksheets to "Unschooling" - I'll let you google it.  We're somewhere in the middle. We use a curriculum from https://www.oakmeadow.com/, but we pick and choose what we want from it. I think many homeschooling parents will say that it is one of the most challenging and rewarding things they have ever done.  We don't attend or partner with other families or a homeschool community. The huge advantage is not having to worry much about living based on the quality or perceived quality of the school district. Our local district is considered to be top 5% in our state - but that also means a lot of pressure on AP classes and testing and the class size is enormous. We also love being able to travel when we want. Took my kids to ride rollercoasters on a Wednesday in early November and we felt like we had the place to ourselves.

You may get more responses if you move this to the Children/Kids part of the forum.

Very helpful, greatly appreciated!

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« Reply #5 on: January 15, 2023, 01:59:59 PM »
We homeschool our 10yo boy while both working. I was also homeschooled for a good portion of my schooling, so I have that perspective too. Happy to answer questions - PM me!  If you aren't interested in a dialogue, my recommendation would be to check out Susan Wise Bauer's books.

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« Reply #6 on: January 15, 2023, 02:22:33 PM »
We homeschooled for the first few years with our four oldest kids. Our oldest was in 5th grade when we moved to a private Catholic school. That was when our 6th child was born and between an infant, a toddler and trying to homeschool four kids it was just too much. My wife did 95% of it including many hours of looking at curriculum. We ultimately settled on more of a classical education and the school our kids have been at the last few years is classical Catholic education. So they learn Latin, have an excellent art and music program, lots of focus on reading and writing and history and they still get a good foundation in math and science.

My wife was homeschooled from about 5th grade through high school. She ended up doing much better in college than me.

We tried some curriculums that were basically pre-packaged, but it was too much with multiple kids at different ages. The great part about homeschooling was that if they started at 9 they were often finished by lunch. Even with taking breaks so our boys could run around. The amount of work you can do one-on-one with a child pales in comparison to a typical classroom setting where so much time is taken up with transitions or the teacher having to go at the speed of the slowest child in any particular subject.

If we only had a few kids we probably would have kept doing it. But the school they're at now was started by homeschoolers and even with combined grades, the class sizes are only about 10-15 so they still get a lot of personal attention - plus experts in subjects like art or Latin that we'd never be able to replicate ourselves.

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Re: Any home schoolers?
« Reply #7 on: January 18, 2023, 09:51:55 AM »
Thank you all for the helpful replies.  I believe we are going to proceed with homeschool for my oldest this summer (he'll be 12).  I think he would do very well learning outside the institution.  My youngest, however, still has some maturing do to (he's 9!) and I think he benefits from the structure of the institution. 

Just a somewhat related comment... junior-high aged boys (at least the ones at my kids' school) are *ickheads, generally speaking.  I remember the 6th grade being the most awful year of my entire school career and it seems to be playing out at my kids' school now too, 30 years later.  My son is smaller than most of his peers (I am 5'10'' but we do have some shorter males in the family) and he's got a chronic medical condition (invisible) and it sounds like he's really uncomfortable with all the jockeying and *hit talking that goes on with kids that age.  There's one kid in his class that goes around saying "I'm going to kill you" in a creepy voice (does it to everyone evidently) and keeps doing it despite his peers asking him to stop...other kids give my son crap because he's smaller, etc... makes me wonder... if we have the conviction, time and resources to do it... why not homeschool?  "But how will he be socialized?" aka "how will he learn how to deal with the *ssholes in this world?".  In my life as an adult I don't get trapped in a room with aggressive *ssholes ...I avoid the pricks of this world whenever possible... why do I want to train my son to deal with that?

Sorry, that kind of turned into a rant. 

My wife and I are really excited about homeschooling, developing (resurrecting?) his natural curiosity and teaching him how to learn vs teaching him how to conform and regurgitate.  No shortage of resources out there online... next step is to find the local homeschool community! 

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« Reply #8 on: January 18, 2023, 10:46:02 AM »
Thank you all for the helpful replies.  I believe we are going to proceed with homeschool for my oldest this summer (he'll be 12).  I think he would do very well learning outside the institution.  My youngest, however, still has some maturing do to (he's 9!) and I think he benefits from the structure of the institution. 

Just a somewhat related comment... junior-high aged boys (at least the ones at my kids' school) are *ickheads, generally speaking.  I remember the 6th grade being the most awful year of my entire school career and it seems to be playing out at my kids' school now too, 30 years later.  My son is smaller than most of his peers (I am 5'10'' but we do have some shorter males in the family) and he's got a chronic medical condition (invisible) and it sounds like he's really uncomfortable with all the jockeying and *hit talking that goes on with kids that age.  There's one kid in his class that goes around saying "I'm going to kill you" in a creepy voice (does it to everyone evidently) and keeps doing it despite his peers asking him to stop...other kids give my son crap because he's smaller, etc... makes me wonder... if we have the conviction, time and resources to do it... why not homeschool?  "But how will he be socialized?" aka "how will he learn how to deal with the *ssholes in this world?".  In my life as an adult I don't get trapped in a room with aggressive *ssholes ...I avoid the pricks of this world whenever possible... why do I want to train my son to deal with that?

Sorry, that kind of turned into a rant. 

My wife and I are really excited about homeschooling, developing (resurrecting?) his natural curiosity and teaching him how to learn vs teaching him how to conform and regurgitate.  No shortage of resources out there online... next step is to find the local homeschool community!

The "socialization" aspect of a traditional school is overblown in my opinion. Nowhere else in life are you surrounded by peers based solely on a narrow age range and geography. There's plenty of opportunities for socialization in everyday life. At your kids age they probably already have friends, and they can keep interacting with them outside of school. You can probably find a local homeschool group. Every time you go out to the park, a store, library, museum, etc. is a chance for your kids to interact with other people - and see you interacting with them. You're not going to walk up to a store clerk and whisper "I'm going to kill you" in a creepy voice, so they'll model your normal behavior instead of the (sometimes-deranged) behavior of other kids.

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Re: Any home schoolers?
« Reply #9 on: January 18, 2023, 11:51:14 AM »
Thank you all for the helpful replies.  I believe we are going to proceed with homeschool for my oldest this summer (he'll be 12).  I think he would do very well learning outside the institution.  My youngest, however, still has some maturing do to (he's 9!) and I think he benefits from the structure of the institution. 

Just a somewhat related comment... junior-high aged boys (at least the ones at my kids' school) are *ickheads, generally speaking.  I remember the 6th grade being the most awful year of my entire school career and it seems to be playing out at my kids' school now too, 30 years later.  My son is smaller than most of his peers (I am 5'10'' but we do have some shorter males in the family) and he's got a chronic medical condition (invisible) and it sounds like he's really uncomfortable with all the jockeying and *hit talking that goes on with kids that age.  There's one kid in his class that goes around saying "I'm going to kill you" in a creepy voice (does it to everyone evidently) and keeps doing it despite his peers asking him to stop...other kids give my son crap because he's smaller, etc... makes me wonder... if we have the conviction, time and resources to do it... why not homeschool?  "But how will he be socialized?" aka "how will he learn how to deal with the *ssholes in this world?".  In my life as an adult I don't get trapped in a room with aggressive *ssholes ...I avoid the pricks of this world whenever possible... why do I want to train my son to deal with that?

Sorry, that kind of turned into a rant. 

My wife and I are really excited about homeschooling, developing (resurrecting?) his natural curiosity and teaching him how to learn vs teaching him how to conform and regurgitate.  No shortage of resources out there online... next step is to find the local homeschool community!

The "socialization" aspect of a traditional school is overblown in my opinion. Nowhere else in life are you surrounded by peers based solely on a narrow age range and geography. There's plenty of opportunities for socialization in everyday life. At your kids age they probably already have friends, and they can keep interacting with them outside of school. You can probably find a local homeschool group. Every time you go out to the park, a store, library, museum, etc. is a chance for your kids to interact with other people - and see you interacting with them. You're not going to walk up to a store clerk and whisper "I'm going to kill you" in a creepy voice, so they'll model your normal behavior instead of the (sometimes-deranged) behavior of other kids.

Michael:  Yes, this is what I'm talking about.  Socializing comes from socializing with all people... I don't want to raise kids who are only able to socialize with their peers...and then only by way of a device (iphone).

My kids hang out with the neighborhood kids for riding bikes, playing games outside, etc... and they're even closer with their cousins but the cousins are getting older (they're all in high school) and will soon be off to college. 

I'm really not concerned with the socializing aspect myself.

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Re: Any home schoolers?
« Reply #10 on: February 13, 2023, 07:37:33 AM »
If you were able to go through 2020 and still want to do this, I'd say that hardest part is all behind you!

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« Reply #11 on: February 13, 2023, 08:17:04 AM »
Kristen over at The Frugal Girl homeschooled her four kids and has a number of good posts on the topic. She also has an easily searchable website *cough*.

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« Reply #12 on: February 13, 2023, 09:42:53 AM »
We home schooled during the height of the pandemic (2020-2021). Our daughters were 8 and 10 at the time and we had just moved from CA to ID. It was something we wanted to try anyway, and then the whole "remote learning" thing was the final push we needed to take the plunge. Overall it was a great experience, but ultimately we ended up back in the public school after the pandemic waned, which in Boise was the '21-'22 school year.

For Language Arts and Classical Literature curriculum we went with BookShark, which worked well for our kids. This was heavy on reading and grammar/parts of speech. We also added an optional spelling module. Our kids were already good readers, but this upped their game. Two years later and their teachers still remark on their excellent reading comprehension, grammar, and spelling.

For Math we used Singapore Math and had mixed results. Youngest DD is strong in math and excelled working at her own pace, ending the year above grade level. To this day she's still a grade level above and will likely start honors math next year and continue from there on an accelerated track. Oldest DD, on the other hand, has long struggled with math. I didn't realize the extent of the problem until we started home schooling and it became clear that she was at least two grade levels behind in most areas, three in certain others (E.g. number sense). It was a struggle, but with remediation to fill in gaps and a lot of extra work we got her *mostly* back to grade level.  I have no idea what her previous schools in California were doing, but I strongly suspect they were simply passing her on to the next year teacher.

We loved the freedom home schooling provides. DW and I are both FIRE so we incorporated a lot of educational outings into the "classroom." For example, a backpacking trip where the kids drew detailed pictures of plants which we later looked up and wrote about, and catching fish that we dissected (dovetailed with anatomy lessons) that we then cleaned and cooked for dinner as a cooking lesson. And trips to places like City of Rocks, ID to enrich learning about geology and history.

During winter/spring we got our lessons done in the morning, ate lunch at home, then went up the mountain to our local ski resort twice a week for PE. With about 40 days of skiing the kids became quite proficient and this is something we still enjoy doing as a family.

Why did we stop home schooling? Both of our kids needed more outside socialization. To be fair, the pandemic was a major factor. But also, our sense was that both kids would benefit from more structure, and instructors that are not their parents :)  Plus, our local public schools are *wonderful* and within a short walking distance, so it just made sense to switch. Through school our kids have made really good friends in the neighborhood and have become much more integrated into the community, which is something we value.

In hindsight, if we could do it again I think we would have outsourced more of the work. Things like paying for STEM labs, specialized math instruction, and more of the arts... though again, the pandemic was mostly to blame for these not being an option at the time.
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