I had my one child very young, which I regetted. My husband, at the time, made it pretty clear he was not cut out to be a parent, didn't want to be, did not enjoy it one bit. I had a tubal at age 26, such was my desire as to not have more children. You can't imagine the responses of most people that knew. I became a single mom at 27, yes it was hard and not all sunshine and rainbows. Was never the soccer-mom/bake cookies type to be showing pictures to complete strangers of my cute bundle of joy.
My late hubby, second husband, had no children of his own. He knew I would be unable to have any more, nor did I desire any more, and he was cool with that. He took in my half grown daughter as his own, he would have been a great parent! Was better at it than I was. Am thankful my daughter had him.
Now my daughter is grown and is an awesome person. I understand her much better now, we are more great friends than mom/daughter. Maybe that's why I deal better being a 'parent' now that she is grown. Yes, she was an oops, and grew up to a beautiful bright being. Was lucky in that respect, and very thankful for her. But also thankful she is grown. I shy away from dating guys with younger kids, I must admit.