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« Reply #300 on: August 13, 2015, 03:29:37 AM »
FLA, how marvelous. Bernice is a lucky pup.


Two small things for me: Passiflora incarnata blooming on my porch, and about a two pounds of someone's surplus squash and zucchini left in the faculty lounge in my building (technically yesterday).


Here's the flower:


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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #301 on: August 13, 2015, 12:22:21 PM »
Two small things for me: Passiflora incarnata blooming on my porch, and about a two pounds of someone's surplus squash and zucchini left in the faculty lounge in my building (technically yesterday).


Here's the flower:


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The picture alone could have made my day.

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« Reply #302 on: August 13, 2015, 12:59:05 PM »
Two small things for me: Passiflora incarnata blooming on my porch, and about a two pounds of someone's surplus squash and zucchini left in the faculty lounge in my building (technically yesterday).


Here's the flower:


http://www.bio.utexas.edu/courses/bio406d/images/pics/pas/Passiflora%20incarn%20flor.jpg

The picture alone could have made my day.

That picture alone did make my day!!
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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #303 on: August 13, 2015, 01:03:37 PM »
Knowing I've stocked up vegetables in summer to be eaten in winter. The freezer is full; I'm happy.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #304 on: August 13, 2015, 02:54:41 PM »
Spent the day with a friend making a custom pattern for her friend, who she brought with her.  Making costumes makes me happy :-)

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #305 on: August 13, 2015, 04:36:03 PM »
Possible new client and if it doesn't work out still good practice. I think my pitch and proposal was very good, especially as I haven't done exactly this type of work before. Self employment is great.

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« Reply #306 on: August 13, 2015, 07:25:01 PM »
Two small things for me: Passiflora incarnata blooming on my porch, and about a two pounds of someone's surplus squash and zucchini left in the faculty lounge in my building (technically yesterday).


Here's the flower:


http://www.bio.utexas.edu/courses/bio406d/images/pics/pas/Passiflora%20incarn%20flor.jpg

The picture alone could have made my day.

That picture alone did make my day!!


They really are drop dead gorgeous! Plus, it's a native, and the fruit is both edible and yummy. These are volunteer plants, so I haven't had to do anything but watch and enjoy.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #307 on: August 15, 2015, 12:02:43 AM »
Going for a walk with my oldest friend and being able to give advice to solve a problem she's been having.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #308 on: August 15, 2015, 03:09:04 AM »
Adult son made a very difficult decision and chose the right and honest thing to do, based, in part, on my husband's council.  So very proud of him (and my husband).

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« Reply #309 on: August 15, 2015, 10:19:44 PM »
I was helping out with some kittens at the local animal shelter today. There was one named Justice - the tiniest of the litter and the most shy, and she was bullied by the others. I just found out that she got adopted. I'm so happy for her.
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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #310 on: August 18, 2015, 06:43:27 AM »
Realized I just crossed 5000 posts, which made me want to look back to the beginning of my time here. Starting at the end of 2013, our NW was -$28K. Today it stands at $23K. Over that period our gross income was about $90K, so we've had a really nice swing based on our income (+$51K or 56%). Considering how much interest is getting pissed away to debt service, I'm quite happy about that.
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« Reply #311 on: August 18, 2015, 08:22:48 AM »
My brother and his family came to visit the last couple days (which also made my day all by itself). Spent yesterday evening visiting them and teaching the 4 year old to do tricks with the dog. She would go hide and the dog would go run around the house to find her. Lots of shrieking and laughter.

I used to do scent tracking with him, but haven't in a year or two. I asked my niece to give me her sweater then go hide outside and I put the dog's backpack on that we used to use for scent tracking. He went straight for her three times in a row. At first I wasn't sure if he was just lucky, and the second time he took a little detour as he was sniffing around, but the third time he was obviously tracking by scent.

Continuing to train him (and me) to follow scent trails is something I wish I had more time to do now, and is something I'm super excited to get back to after I FIRE. Especially now seeing how quickly he picked it right back up where we left off.

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« Reply #312 on: August 19, 2015, 02:20:02 PM »
Starting at the end of 2013, our NW was -$28K. Today it stands at $23K.

Well done, good sir! That's great news! Very happy for you!

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« Reply #313 on: August 20, 2015, 11:00:31 AM »
Decided I should replace my broken dishwasher before I sell the house, hopefully next year. It's been broken since I bought the house, but I don't like to use them, so I never bothered to deal with it. Looked up what it would cost me to get a replacement on kijiji today. SO MANY FREE WORKING DISHWASHERS!! Sweet deal. Now all I need is a way to transport one. :)

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« Reply #314 on: August 20, 2015, 01:49:09 PM »
BOTH my kids told me that they loved me this morning.  Almost never get that from both...

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #315 on: August 20, 2015, 04:23:22 PM »
@kander winning the roller coaster contest!

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« Reply #316 on: August 20, 2015, 04:56:24 PM »
@kander winning the roller coaster contest!

+n, wherein = the number of votes over the 2nd place contestant!

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« Reply #317 on: August 20, 2015, 05:11:39 PM »
I just realized today that I'm going to max out my retirement account this year!  It's the first time I've been able to do that and I'm SO excited!

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« Reply #318 on: August 20, 2015, 09:16:49 PM »
Having my almost 4 year old fall asleep in my arm as I write this.

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« Reply #319 on: August 22, 2015, 03:26:38 PM »
Discovered a ten pound frozen bag of chicken leg quarters fits perfectly, upright, in my 16-quart water bath canner, no hammering on the bag to try to break things up and cram into something to thaw (my previous method, which too often involved a literal hammer.)

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« Reply #320 on: August 22, 2015, 05:28:38 PM »
Son power sprayed our concrete section in the backyard and it looks fantastic!

Daughter made 4 loaves of bread and 2 pans of monkey bread!

Such good helpers!

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« Reply #321 on: August 23, 2015, 05:45:15 AM »
oh, this is stupid, everyone's had a great dog.  Anyway, while I was out, my mom opened the front door and she slipped out.  She never does this, the other constantly does it.  And no one was home to go find her.  My mother called me, I sobbed all the way home.  We've only been in our house two years, she would be lost.  Just as my dad and I drove by our house to start looking for her, UPS pulls in.  And there was Bernice, who hates men, sitting on the truck steps.  I love that man, he has no idea what he has done for me.  Refused to take any money.  She was gone close to an hour, I am so freaking lucky.
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« Reply #322 on: August 23, 2015, 09:00:05 AM »
We have an apple tree. And there is a squirrel. He is tiny and skinny, but the most energetic little guy. And every morning, this squirrel finds a tiny apple and carries it down my driveway back to his tree. It just cracks me up every time.

I'm easily amused, obviously.
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« Reply #323 on: August 23, 2015, 09:27:27 AM »
We have an apple tree. And there is a squirrel. He is tiny and skinny, but the most energetic little guy. And every morning, this squirrel finds a tiny apple and carries it down my driveway back to his tree. It just cracks me up every time.

I'm easily amused, obviously.

That would amuse me also!

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« Reply #324 on: August 23, 2015, 09:29:40 AM »
Beautiful day - temps in the low 60s, breezy, sunny - took my dogs for a walk. About 50% of poles, trees, etc. have been marked. Will have to refresh tomorrow.

ETA: and now I can do this every day, whenever I want!!

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« Reply #325 on: August 24, 2015, 09:41:11 AM »
Beautiful day - temps in the low 60s, breezy, sunny - took my dogs for a walk. About 50% of poles, trees, etc. have been marked. Will have to refresh tomorrow.

ETA: and now I can do this every day, whenever I want!!

Don't you wish that the accumulation phase was as easy and simple and dogs' accumulation? That's mine, that's mine, etc.
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« Reply #326 on: August 24, 2015, 09:48:31 AM »
Beautiful day - temps in the low 60s, breezy, sunny - took my dogs for a walk. About 50% of poles, trees, etc. have been marked. Will have to refresh tomorrow.

ETA: and now I can do this every day, whenever I want!!

Don't you wish that the accumulation phase was as easy and simple and dogs' accumulation? That's mine, that's mine, etc.

I once texted a friend a picture of a vintage Alpina BMW that parked near my building. Her reply? "Pee on it. That makes it yours". If only life were so simple.
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« Reply #327 on: August 24, 2015, 10:21:59 AM »
Beautiful day - temps in the low 60s, breezy, sunny - took my dogs for a walk. About 50% of poles, trees, etc. have been marked. Will have to refresh tomorrow.

ETA: and now I can do this every day, whenever I want!!

Don't you wish that the accumulation phase was as easy and simple and dogs' accumulation? That's mine, that's mine, etc.

They certainly try very hard to stake their claims. They even pee over top of each other's marks. When you are a dog, the world is your toilet. It is hard to view yourself as a member of the master species when you follow them to oick up their solid waste!

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« Reply #328 on: August 24, 2015, 10:43:06 AM »
Beautiful day - temps in the low 60s, breezy, sunny - took my dogs for a walk. About 50% of poles, trees, etc. have been marked. Will have to refresh tomorrow.

ETA: and now I can do this every day, whenever I want!!

Don't you wish that the accumulation phase was as easy and simple and dogs' accumulation? That's mine, that's mine, etc.

They certainly try very hard to stake their claims. They even pee over top of each other's marks. When you are a dog, the world is your toilet. It is hard to view yourself as a member of the master species when you follow them to oick up their solid waste!

Ha! Ain't that the truth? I was going to mention something earlier about peeing on apartment buildings, but decided that it sounded overly creepy. My older dog, who can still hold his own (mostly) with a 15 mile hike, takes forever to 'accumulate'. I started calling him prostate as a joke.
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« Reply #329 on: August 24, 2015, 12:10:26 PM »
Beautiful day - temps in the low 60s, breezy, sunny - took my dogs for a walk. About 50% of poles, trees, etc. have been marked. Will have to refresh tomorrow.

ETA: and now I can do this every day, whenever I want!!

Don't you wish that the accumulation phase was as easy and simple and dogs' accumulation? That's mine, that's mine, etc.

They certainly try very hard to stake their claims. They even pee over top of each other's marks. When you are a dog, the world is your toilet. It is hard to view yourself as a member of the master species when you follow them to oick up their solid waste!

Ha! Ain't that the truth? I was going to mention something earlier about peeing on apartment buildings, but decided that it sounded overly creepy. My older dog, who can still hold his own (mostly) with a 15 mile hike, takes forever to 'accumulate'. I started calling him prostate as a joke.

They both definitely keep reserves for marking! Because God forbid you couldn't obliterate some other dog's calling card in a few blocks! The girl can pee as high up the pole as the boy, and she goes through all sorts of contortions to do so. They love it, and it amuses me as well. At some point, the well is dry, but the spirit is still willing.

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« Reply #330 on: August 24, 2015, 04:39:44 PM »
Making cookies with my 8 year old.

The boys are now taking milk and cookies outside to share with their friends as a mid-afternoon snack.

So sweet. These days of little boys are fleeting <sigh>

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« Reply #331 on: August 25, 2015, 01:29:09 PM »
Finally got a bike on the weekend. Rode home from work/library along the river just now. At one point I thought, "I'm commuting by RIDING A BICYCLE THROUGH THE FOREST" and felt really good.
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« Reply #332 on: August 27, 2015, 11:18:52 PM »
my mom's very aggressive and very good specialist, not a hospice fan, has said horrible things to my mom when she would mention hospice, throwing up his hands, "aren't I trying to keep you alive here, Lynne, is that not our goal?" and my mom stopped anyone going in with her at appts, so she just comes home and cries.  We had a family meeting with the primary yesterday and she agreed to call the specialist, have him take it down a notch and realize she can always come off.  Today she saw him and he hugged her and said he didn't realize how bad the pain has been and how she gasps for air just talking and just getting out of bed to the BR kills her.  So he said, "I like you, Lynne.  I won't stop trying to get a combination of drugs to make this illness better, I'm not stopping just because you are choosing hospice. I want you to feel better so you can enjoy life more. Tell the hospice nurse to call me anytime." and hugged her again! 

that was not easy for him with his reputation of despising hospice, I 100% thought he was going to tell her not to do it.  So while sad, this is a great day, my mom has needed hospice for a long time and finally she will get it.  So relieved, so blessed

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« Reply #333 on: August 27, 2015, 11:38:47 PM »
my mom's very aggressive and very good specialist, not a hospice fan, has said horrible things to my mom when she would mention hospice, throwing up his hands, "aren't I trying to keep you alive here, Lynne, is that not our goal?" and my mom stopped anyone going in with her at appts, so she just comes home and cries.  We had a family meeting with the primary yesterday and she agreed to call the specialist, have him take it down a notch and realize she can always come off.  Today she saw him and he hugged her and said he didn't realize how bad the pain has been and how she gasps for air just talking and just getting out of bed to the BR kills her.  So he said, "I like you, Lynne.  I won't stop trying to get a combination of drugs to make this illness better, I'm not stopping just because you are choosing hospice. I want you to feel better so you can enjoy life more. Tell the hospice nurse to call me anytime." and hugged her again! 

that was not easy for him with his reputation of despising hospice, I 100% thought he was going to tell her not to do it.  So while sad, this is a great day, my mom has needed hospice for a long time and finally she will get it.  So relieved, so blessed
Oh shit, FLA, that's huge. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. My parents were both on hospice in CA this year, and after my mom passed away, my dad wanted to move to AZ to live with my brother. We had to change hospice groups when we crossed state lines and the differences between the two are quite significant. I can kind of understand why your mom's specialist might have reservations. I posted for help here and another member clued me in to this. My best advice to you is that hospice seems reluctant to show all their cards. For example, we just discovered that home hospice patients can check in to a long term care facility for either 2 or 5* days a month to give their caregivers a respite. Might have been nice to have known that months ago. And the range of days(*)? Different answer every time you ask. So ask, ask, ask. Don't be afraid to challenge them and always be your mom's advocate. Trust your own judgement and enjoy the time your mom has left as much as possible. Should you get a caregiver you or your mom does not care for, have them removed asap. Same with case managers. We've had a few that were not good fits and their replacements were always much better. Squeaky wheel, I guess.
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« Reply #334 on: August 28, 2015, 12:22:20 AM »

So ask, ask, ask. Don't be afraid to challenge them and always be your mom's advocate. Trust your own judgement and enjoy the time your mom has left as much as possible. Should you get a caregiver you or your mom does not care for, have them removed asap. Same with case managers. We've had a few that were not good fits and their replacements were always much better. Squeaky wheel, I guess.
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Thank you so much for your kind words, I am sorry to hear about your experience.  I actually was a hospice nurse for almost 11 yrs and then got ill. So the good part is, I know exactly what she is entitled to.  BTW, our respite is only every 3 months and we only do M-F.  And there is Continuous Care, 24 hr care when a crisis hits for a few days. Both a complete PITA to set up and we barely utilized them and that is just wrong. Those are Medicare benefits. It's different here, we are the only game in town for 7 counties.  I'v heard other places around the country, hospices are popping up for profit.  IMHO, better care can be given by a non-profit.  Maybe he would get better help at a different hospice? PM me anytime if I can help.

Agree on case managers and social workers, anyone, we all have different styles, it's ok to request someone else. I asked my hospice team to take her because we are right on the border of two teams so she could've gotten a team of people I do not know.  Usually when a patient is one of "ours", we go all out to make things better and easier for a colleague's parent. 

I have this nagging thought my old supervisor is going to push her off to the other team.  She was not happy with our merger (and now have 89k employees!) because HR changed the rules, you can stay out past FMLA for months as long as your MD thinks it reasonable you may return.  And HR decides if you get to keep your position. They held mine way and above what I ever would've expected.  If she is still miserable about this, she will make my life miserable and thus my mom's. So maybe all new people from the other team would be better.  But her being not nice, should not effect my mom as a patient. So I want my team and since I'm pretty sure I will never be working at hospice again, I am going to speak up if they try to dump her.  Sigh, this part will not be fun. My boss is stubborn, but I don't work for her anymore and she will find out that I am stubborn as well.

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« Reply #335 on: August 28, 2015, 05:17:03 PM »
So ask, ask, ask. Don't be afraid to challenge them and always be your mom's advocate. Trust your own judgement and enjoy the time your mom has left as much as possible. Should you get a caregiver you or your mom does not care for, have them removed asap. Same with case managers. We've had a few that were not good fits and their replacements were always much better. Squeaky wheel, I guess.
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Thank you so much for your kind words, I am sorry to hear about your experience.  I actually was a hospice nurse for almost 11 yrs and then got ill. So the good part is, I know exactly what she is entitled to.  BTW, our respite is only every 3 months and we only do M-F.  And there is Continuous Care, 24 hr care when a crisis hits for a few days. Both a complete PITA to set up and we barely utilized them and that is just wrong. Those are Medicare benefits. It's different here, we are the only game in town for 7 counties.  I'v heard other places around the country, hospices are popping up for profit.  IMHO, better care can be given by a non-profit.  Maybe he would get better help at a different hospice? PM me anytime if I can help.

Agree on case managers and social workers, anyone, we all have different styles, it's ok to request someone else. I asked my hospice team to take her because we are right on the border of two teams so she could've gotten a team of people I do not know.  Usually when a patient is one of "ours", we go all out to make things better and easier for a colleague's parent. 

I have this nagging thought my old supervisor is going to push her off to the other team.  She was not happy with our merger (and now have 89k employees!) because HR changed the rules, you can stay out past FMLA for months as long as your MD thinks it reasonable you may return.  And HR decides if you get to keep your position. They held mine way and above what I ever would've expected.  If she is still miserable about this, she will make my life miserable and thus my mom's. So maybe all new people from the other team would be better.  But her being not nice, should not effect my mom as a patient. So I want my team and since I'm pretty sure I will never be working at hospice again, I am going to speak up if they try to dump her.  Sigh, this part will not be fun. My boss is stubborn, but I don't work for her anymore and she will find out that I am stubborn as well.

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No apologies for rambling necessary here, FLA. I've been rambling all over this place lately, with occasionally unexpected results.

You may have been one of the angels who offered hospice advice to me earlier this year. I am most appreciative of everyone who carved time out of their days to write caring, helpful responses. I hope your worst case fears turn out to be unrealized and wish you the best of luck as you both travel through this phase of your lives.
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« Reply #336 on: August 28, 2015, 10:43:54 PM »
 
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No apologies for rambling necessary here, FLA. I've been rambling all over this place lately, with occasionally unexpected results.

You may have been one of the angels who offered hospice advice to me earlier this year. I am most appreciative of everyone who carved time out of their days to write caring, helpful responses. I hope your worst case fears turn out to be unrealized and wish you the best of luck as you both travel through this phase of your lives.
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I'm a newbie here and you've helped me!  They are coming to admit her in the morning.  I can tell already that being her daughter before being her nurse is going to be very hard.  I want the best and I want her more comfortable ASAP but that won't happen unless the admit nurse is really good about bothering the doc on a weekend.  I want to run her case the way I would run one of my own but "running her case" is now someone else's job. 

Did hospice tell you that you and anyone in your mom's life can get  counseling at almost any hospice for free?  Usually there is a group for daughters.  Ours is amazing, the women form a bond and next thing you know they are all on a Carnival Cruise!  If you need the help, call, bereavement therapists are amazing.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #337 on: September 24, 2015, 05:14:12 AM »
I got stung by a bee. It wasn't a bad sting -- it was a bumblebee rather than a honeybee, I felt it right away and pulled back, the stinger didn't stay in my finger-- and I was able to treat it right away -- squeeze out the tiny amount of poison, wash it, ice it. In less than an hour I could barely tell I'd been stung.

I haven't been stung in years, and this turned into another reminder that many things that I worry about or fear are not that bad, and that I have the capacity to deal with them and minimize them.

My day had other good things -- bike commute through forest, free cheese -- but the bee sting was probably the most helpful.
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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #338 on: September 24, 2015, 11:38:26 AM »
Wow^ you handled that like a champ.  Bee stings TERRIFY me and on a similar note about the many things that we worry about or fear that are not that bad...

A friend made a very last minute request from me (not an emergency or favor) and I was able to say no calmly and without feeling guilty.  And the world didn't explode...gee, who woulda thunk it ;)

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #339 on: September 27, 2015, 08:39:17 AM »
Waking up to a clean cool house thanks to spending all yesterday afternoon cleaning, and setting up the window fans before going to bed last night.  Oh yeah, and sleeping until 8.

Hoping the first run of my half marathon training manages to make my day too.  :)

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #340 on: September 27, 2015, 01:47:01 PM »
 Finally, now that it's nearly October, I spotted a tomato hornworm parasitized by wasp larva! Yay! At least the rest of the damn things won't live long now.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #341 on: September 27, 2015, 03:00:26 PM »
Knowing that today, I am still a Mustachian...and still comfortably FIRE'd.

This DESPITE the fact that my wife and I went "downtown" last night and probably spent $250 over the course of the evening. We ate some incredible food (Vancouver takes a backseat to few in terms of culinary excellence), drank some equally wonderful craft beer, watched our mediocre professional hockey team lose (all the while drinking $9 cans of beer at this event). The Mustachian segment of my brain was screaming in protest at various times during the spending orgy...but it was somehow also COMFORTING to know that we can do this sort of thing on occasion and it is barely a blip on the NW spreadsheet - just means that at the end of the month a little bit more will have to go to pay off the Visa, which unfortunately means a bit less available to buy more dividend stocks or ETFs...a first world FIRE problem to be sure.

I am also quite content that we are now back to our "regularly scheduled program" Mustachian-based restraint. But it was a FUN night. :)


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« Reply #342 on: September 27, 2015, 07:08:26 PM »
I just bought my 2016 diary.

My attachment to my diary is known far and wide. My husband and I have busy lives, he travels for work, we have constant deadlines to meet, so my diary manages everything.

Some things also make it into the calendar on my phone, but the diary is everything: work commitments, travel plans, birthdays, expenses/bills...

If friends from out of town want to stay the night they call me and open with 'Can you open your diary?'

And last Friday I realised that it was this time of year again, when the 2016 diaries start appearing in shops.

Having thought about it for longer than I probably should have over the weekend, I ducked into a newsagent this morning and picked it up. Debden week-to-view with an aqua cover and cream pages full of possibility.

As soon as humanly possible I will sit down and write in birthdays and standing commitments, decorate it with washi tape, and just generally amuse myself for an hour or two. I'm not a scrapbooker, not artistic, not even particularly creative. And at the start of each year I pledge, 'This will be the year the diary stays immaculate! No white-out or scribble, just perfect script and artistically-placed stickers.' And at the end of every year I close it with satisfaction and put it on the shelf with the others, glad that both of us survived the year.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #343 on: September 28, 2015, 01:51:59 AM »
my mom is in the end stages of her disease, she is on a Palliative Care program. We had combined households in the hopes of me being more easily to care for her.  Then a year ago I got sick and get worse, not better.  Ugh, I feel like I say this crap a million times, but if I don't then the rest of the post makes zero sense!

anyway, for $50 (6 plays), we can see the whole season at a small city rep theater.  My mom and I love this. She gets dragged out of the house for so much medical care, she's exhausted.  She is exhausted after the play but loves them! She has never missed one no matter how sick she is. 

so my seizure meds and some med I can't recall, were increased last week. I feel like utter shit.  I'm foggy and oversedated feeling, confused at times.  Friday, I was thinking how the hell am I going to get us to that play? She should not be, but at least she can drive.  Then I have to be able to lift her wheelchair out of the car and roll her across one street, then sit for 2 hrs.  There is no way in hell, I'm gonna pull this off, but I refuse to not take her, this is our "thing". 

Next day comes, my parents were in the LR.  My mom was out of bed?  They ask to talk to me.   My mom starts crying.  OK, seriously, you don't do this to a kind of confused person who fakes horribly that she is fine. obviously they are not about to tell me good news, so spit it out.  I am sure that my mom has decided to stop the drug that keeps her alive, once stopped she will be gone in 2 weeks. I am totally not ready for her to do that but I would support her no matter what.

My dad says no matter how badly I want to, I cannot go with my mom to our play.  They know I am trying, (mom cries louder) but I am not well at all and it would be grossly unsafe.  She is going with a friend and she assures me this is fine with her. 

Quiet. Then I say, "I thought this would be our last one but never guessed it would be because of me."  And it ends up ok, she had fun and that is what matters.  But damn it, I wanted one last time to go.  And she is not giving up that med so it's a win-win

She and I were coherent at the same time for once this morning, lol, I went and laid down on the other side of her bed.  we had a good chat, she told me it was the "best play" she ever saw (she says this just about every time, lol), that I would've loved it and started crying (OMG she cries so much, for good reasons and bad, but it kills me when she does it). And I said it's ok because I read the book and loved it (total lie, do not even know if it is a book, lol). She was quiet, kind of patting my head like I'm 5, then said, "how did we end up here?" I told her I did not know, it's been surreal, like it's happening to other people. She agreed. I told her, she knows me, I'm a fixer, a dog with a bone. She said, "I can't be fixed." "Maybe not fixed, Superglued?" I held her hand and she looked at our hands and said we are lucky and I said yes, we are. I wipe her tears.  Nice tender moment and then....

...."OMG, I let Buddy out at 5am and he wouldn't come in and then I fell asleep!"  OMG, he is a runner, he will dig under the fence and he has 4 hours on me, as opposed to the usual 4 seconds.  The only way to get him back is to drive around, open the door, say, "Wanna ride?" and he gets in. Otherwise, its game on! I have not driven in 9 months, other people have used my car, I can't find the keys. I'm all choked up after my mom and if Buddy has been gone 4 hrs, I'll never see him again, kinda crying.  I'm searching the kitchen for my keys.  Hear a familiar paw on glass.  Buddy sitting at attention, waiting to be let in. 

I go to show my mom he's home, she is sound asleep. She is right, we are lucky.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #344 on: September 28, 2015, 09:06:31 AM »
Took a chance on weather holding to walk to a meeting and back again. Weather did more than hold - perfect walking weather - sun, clouds and a breeze :) 7 miles round trip, against probably at least 10 in the car. BECAUSE I HAD THE TIME TO DO IT 😀

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #345 on: September 28, 2015, 03:24:50 PM »
I went to physical therapy for my arm today, and found out that I won't owe anything out of pocket because we are all maxed out for the year.  It's been a rough year medically, so it's nice that for this it is all covered.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #346 on: September 28, 2015, 04:22:36 PM »

I haven't been stung in years, and this turned into another reminder that many things that I worry about or fear are not that bad, and that I have the capacity to deal with them and minimize them.


Thanks for this. You just made my day.

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #347 on: September 28, 2015, 05:21:46 PM »
A big mug of tea with milk and honey .... ahhhh!

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Re: What made your day?
« Reply #348 on: September 28, 2015, 05:47:47 PM »
A walk on the High Line in Manhattan.

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« Reply #349 on: September 30, 2015, 03:05:48 PM »
I went to physical therapy for my arm today, and found out that I won't owe anything out of pocket because we are all maxed out for the year.  It's been a rough year medically, so it's nice that for this it is all covered.

for the first time ever, I reached the max so unless it's something out of network, everything is free.  Isn't it weird to react that this is a good thing, when what it really means is I spent a hella lot on medical care this year?  I got a 4k bill for one measly test and it said my insurance would only pay $600 towards it.  Opened the letter from my insurance next, I was so happy to get that letter, I had no idea I was even in the ball park.  So I have to pay $400 for that test, then no more. Now to get everyone to hurry up and order anything expensive before Jan1!