"You need to make a decision."
I just remembered that. I don't think I've received much relationship advice, which was interesting for me to realize via this thread, but this one I got in 2014. I was with a person that had several very concerning behaviours. When I had learned the latest, his brother-in-law commended my calm, my focus on making sure the environment stayed enjoyable for everyone despite the latest discovery, etc. And then he said these words. Him viewing me with so much respect and compassion and admiration first, and then saying these words very calmly, let me able to take it in. Here was a guy (partner's BIL) that I respected so much, who I knew to be an honest, faithful, fun, and caring man, and he was telling me it was as straightforward as that. "You know about this guy now. All that's left to do is decide whether to be with him or not." No tips on how to cope, or how to change my partner, or to "just accept it". You need to make a decision. Oh! Somehow, this guy was able to transmit his rational brain to me, and I was able to borrow it long enough to walk.