The part I love is where people seem to assert that if the Democrats are not 'civil' enough, not meek enough, not humble enough, don't reach out enough, don't roll over and show their bellies enough ... then somehow these mythical swing state/Republican voters won't give them enough votes to take back Congress or the next Presidency.
Newsflash: Democrats tried all that, and IT'S NOT WORKING. You know what did work? Tea Party tactics. Get people outraged, get them angry, and keep them angry enough to rally them on election day (and before, and after). Get them angry enough to put their local elected officials on notice.
Let's be realistic: the only thing white middle-class swing voters in swing states really care about is jobs. Everything else is negotiable--immigration, gun control, abortion. They want their cushy jobs with full benefits, (only manly jobs, if you please, none of these feminine 'service' jobs like healthcare, thankyouverymuch), and if/when the economy tanks, they will turn on Trump & co faster you can say 'whataboutism'.
You know who really is angry and raring to vote right now, though? Minorities and young people. And while lots of them hate Trump, they also tend to think the Democrats are just Republicans lite. (I don't agree, but that's neither here nor there.) IMHO, that's who the Democrats should be going after, in swing states and elsewhere. Screw being civil. Pelosi and co need to adopt a new strategy: get angry, stay angry, be loud about it, and rally the vote. And if that means doing unto them what they've done unto us, then so be it. If Republicans can play that game, Democrats can too.