This is incredibly frustrating. When I FIREd, I moved to the US south for financial, LCOL reasons. Of course there were things here that annoyed me, but I was willing to look past it for the LCOL reasons and I do genuinely like the town I live in. But ever since Trump got elected, I feel like the red states have just been a fast downward spiral. I've been wanting out for a few years now and was just waiting for my MIL to pass on, as she lives in this town, is widowed, her friends are slowly dying off, and DH and I wanted to be there for her. This ruling feels like the straw that broke the camel's back though. I don't think I can wait for MIL to pass away anymore. I'm tired of feeling like, as a woman, I am a lesser than. I didn't choose to be born a woman. I just was through the luck of the draw. I don't understand why my rights are being eroded and attacked just because I own a uterus.
And it's not even just me. To see gay rights and trans rights being eroded too, even though I am personally not gay or trans, disgusts and appalls me. I don't like feeling like the money I pay for various state taxes helps support these disgusting conservative administrations and the things they do that I don't support.
I vote, but it feels like my votes always go into a black hole. Every single time, the conservative person on the ballet gets the position. What's really terrible is I feel like people like me leaving these states just makes these states worse for those who can't leave. I feel terrible for those people but, for my own mental health, which I feel like has been affected so much by these things... it can't take staying here anymore. I'm going to have to suck it up and deal with the higher cost of living elsewhere. It makes my frugal side sad, but I can afford it.