You've said that a person's race impacts his/her life in ways that are out of his/her control. You've also said that a person's sexual orientation does not.
i didn't say sexual orientation doesn't impact his/her life in ways that are out of his/her control. I said races impacts it in ways out of his/her control in ways that sexual orientation does not. People can somewhat compartmentalize their life to limit any impact of their sexual orientation in a way that people of a particular race cannot.
- You seem to have argued that this is different because some people's sexual orientation changes over time and is therefore in their control . . .
I have never argued this. I've just pointed out that for some people it changes. Except for people of mixed heritage that are not identifiably one race or another, their race doesn't change over time.
but when provided with an example of a person who has worked to change his racial characteristics over time have said that this doesn't actually matter to the impact that race had on him. Clearly, both race and sexual orientation can transform over time given the will.
I don't think that's clear at all. Maybe some people can pass as one race or another (again, even with Michael Jackson, assuming all the stuff about treatmentse was true (I think he claimed he had a skin condition?), all he did with his incredible resources was go from looking black to looking maybe black or maybe some other ethnicity?, but not white). I'm also not sure how much "will" has to do with changing sexual orientation.
It wouldn't be OK to discriminate against Michael Jackson because he made himself look less black. Why then does a person who has changed sexual orientation over his/her life matter with regards to experiencing discrimination for who he/she currently is?
To me, it doesn't matter. Discriminating against somebody because they're black or gay or ugly are all unjustified. But nonetheless there is a difference between race and sexual desires, and while I don't care to discriminate over either, that is a meaningful difference and I don't think the argument that they are different can be dismissed out of hand.
- You seem to have ignored the fact that there are many people who have a sexual orientation that doesn't change over time, and therefore have no control over their sexual orientation . . . which is an awful lot like your definition of race. I haven't read an argument from you how a person born with this type of sexual orientation is any different than a person born with a particular skin color. Why do you believe that they should be treated differently?
Again, I have never argued about control over sexual orientation.
- You've argued that polyamory is different than race, and then equated sexual orientation to polyamory for some reason. In this argument there was no reasoning provided . . . you just said that you don't think being born with a polyamorous orientation is the same as being born of a particular race. Why not?
The logic that leads you to believe there's a difference between race and sexual orientation hasn't been provided yet, so it's difficult to understand your point of view.
I have provided the reasoning. You seem to put a lot of weight on homosexuals not choosing to be homosexual. That's fine, but I'm not sure anybody really chooses what they like. I don't think people really cultivate a desire for same sex partners, or multiple partners, or foot fetishes. Maybe you could go back and look at things in their environment or experience or genetic make-up and make some quasi educated guesses, but I think for the large majority of people, it's completely opaque to them why they like/desire what they like/desire. In contrast, we can pretty much figure out in 99.9999% of the cases why somebody's skin color is what it is.
So to somebody that thinks homosexuality is a desire, not wanting to "condone" acting on that desire by baking a wedding cake for a same sex wedding is more akin to not wanting to condone extra-marital affairs where both spouses and the third party are completely fine with the situation.
If you don't agree that there is anything wrong with acting on homosexual desires, then maybe you want to use the law to make it illegal just like you'd want it to be illegal to not provide a wedding cake for an interracial marriage. But even if you want both to be illegal, those are two different things.