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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #550 on: August 12, 2020, 06:28:08 AM »
My 9-year-old (an age where little tummies must be especially shielded from subversive foods) ate an Indian curry at a friend's house and loved it. How can I help his parents (two doctors no less!!) better understand the risks of trying new foods?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/parenting-indian-food-bubble-covid-families-judgement.html?fbclid=IwAR1yrGg1o_Y_uz1r2fFBzWyWazDKXWrNzUX6Y4Ou9AK6zYLBvd8zVHdG06w

I’m sure it’s perfectly fine for Little Precious to stuff himself with nice, “normal” foods like McDonald’s happy meals, dinosaur-shaped frozen chicken nuggets, and day-glo orange macaroni and powdered “cheese” in little microwave cups.

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« Reply #551 on: August 12, 2020, 06:41:57 AM »
Jeez! I would be  t h r i l l e d  if my 8yo kid came home saying he tried and loved curry & lentils. What a (racist) tool!

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« Reply #552 on: August 12, 2020, 11:01:38 AM »
Jeez! I would be  t h r i l l e d  if my 8yo kid came home saying he tried and loved curry & lentils. What a (racist) tool!

Little kids can be so conservative about their food choices, he should be glad his kid is open to new foods.  Two doctors are not going to poison his kid.  Of course if the food at home is monotonous and boring, he may be unhappy if the kid starts wanting more choices and more interesting flavours.  ;-)

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« Reply #553 on: August 12, 2020, 11:50:08 AM »
I presume OP thinks that "curry" = vindaloo and that Indian children spend their entire childhood in a perpetual state of digestive distress. I add my voices to the ones who are amazed that their response to "Your child tried some new food (and vegetables!) and really liked it!" wasn't "WOW! I never would have thought it, but that's GREAT!" Or, at the very least, "Gosh, I'm surprised! I would have thought curry would be a bit spicy for kids. But I'm glad he liked it!" And then the Indian doctors-who-should-know-better could have explained the existence of chicken korma.

Also, LOL that the wife thinks he should drop it because a conversation would look racist.........but the boys should only play at their place.

As an aside: "Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision." Wot? Doctors (i.e. people who must be actually meeting large numbers of ill people) are the LAST people I'd want to be seeing at the moment. I know they're supposed to have PPE, but inadequate provision is widely publicised and it only takes a moment of poor use or bad luck to get infected. OP clearly has a bizarre idea of what's risky in the world at the moment.

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« Reply #554 on: August 12, 2020, 01:04:32 PM »
As an aside: "Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision." Wot? Doctors (i.e. people who must be actually meeting large numbers of ill people) are the LAST people I'd want to be seeing at the moment. I know they're supposed to have PPE, but inadequate provision is widely publicised and it only takes a moment of poor use or bad luck to get infected. OP clearly has a bizarre idea of what's risky in the world at the moment.

It could be an old letter, you know, sent in pre-COVID times, but the publication date didn't hit until now...

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #555 on: August 12, 2020, 01:09:30 PM »
As an aside: "Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision." Wot? Doctors (i.e. people who must be actually meeting large numbers of ill people) are the LAST people I'd want to be seeing at the moment. I know they're supposed to have PPE, but inadequate provision is widely publicised and it only takes a moment of poor use or bad luck to get infected. OP clearly has a bizarre idea of what's risky in the world at the moment.

It could be an old letter, you know, sent in pre-COVID times, but the publication date didn't hit until now...

The editor put COVID in the title, though.

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« Reply #556 on: August 12, 2020, 01:12:35 PM »
As an aside: "Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision." Wot? Doctors (i.e. people who must be actually meeting large numbers of ill people) are the LAST people I'd want to be seeing at the moment. I know they're supposed to have PPE, but inadequate provision is widely publicised and it only takes a moment of poor use or bad luck to get infected. OP clearly has a bizarre idea of what's risky in the world at the moment.

It could be an old letter, you know, sent in pre-COVID times, but the publication date didn't hit until now...

Then why would the letter say, and I quote, "A few weeks ago, we decided to open our bubble to include the family of “Neil,” Chris’s best friend. Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision."?

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #557 on: August 13, 2020, 09:13:56 PM »
Not only are they racist, but they used the phrase 'little tummies'. I hate these people.

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« Reply #558 on: August 14, 2020, 07:48:07 AM »
Another from from Dear Prudence.

I flushed my wife's birth control pills because she wasn't ready to start trying for a baby. Now she's acting weird, so I want her to give up her phone and car so we can improve our communication.

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/dear-prudence-flushed-wifes-birth-control-unfair-reaction.html

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« Reply #559 on: August 14, 2020, 07:55:38 AM »
Another from from Dear Prudence.

I flushed my wife's birth control pills because she wasn't ready to start trying for a baby. Now she's acting weird, so I want her to give up her phone and car so we can improve our communication.

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/dear-prudence-flushed-wifes-birth-control-unfair-reaction.html

I read this the other day - UGH.

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« Reply #560 on: August 14, 2020, 11:35:47 AM »
Another from from Dear Prudence.

I flushed my wife's birth control pills because she wasn't ready to start trying for a baby. Now she's acting weird, so I want her to give up her phone and car so we can improve our communication.

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/dear-prudence-flushed-wifes-birth-control-unfair-reaction.html

Oh my goodness, that is really devastatingly sad. The poor wife. She's clearly thinking about/trying to leave him and afraid that he will stop/imprison/hurt her. I really hope he realises what he's actually done.

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« Reply #561 on: August 15, 2020, 01:33:17 AM »
It takes a long time to leave someone who is like that . . . but she will figure out how to squirrel money away through cash back when she pays for groceries and other discreet methods, and eventually she can escape. Hopefully she got herself a Depo Provera shot right after the flushing of the pills.

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« Reply #562 on: August 15, 2020, 05:52:51 AM »
As an aside: "Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision." Wot? Doctors (i.e. people who must be actually meeting large numbers of ill people) are the LAST people I'd want to be seeing at the moment. I know they're supposed to have PPE, but inadequate provision is widely publicised and it only takes a moment of poor use or bad luck to get infected. OP clearly has a bizarre idea of what's risky in the world at the moment.

It could be an old letter, you know, sent in pre-COVID times, but the publication date didn't hit until now...

Then why would the letter say, and I quote, "A few weeks ago, we decided to open our bubble to include the family of “Neil,” Chris’s best friend. Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision."?

LOL - my bad! I didn't re-read the letter before posting. Forgot that detail.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #563 on: August 21, 2020, 08:21:25 AM »
Indeed the comments on that "flushing the birth control" one are pretty illuminating.

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« Reply #564 on: November 06, 2020, 05:13:19 PM »
There has been some stiff competition here over the years, but I think this one might just be a Hall-of-Famer.

3rd one down, "My son has been married for more than 10 years..."

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/11/dealing-with-racist-friends-care-and-feeding.html

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #565 on: November 06, 2020, 05:26:26 PM »
Wow. Gotta like read the letter all the way through with a highlighter, but when you put the real story together. Wow.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #566 on: November 06, 2020, 07:06:56 PM »
Wow, that one is bad. She should be grateful that her husband cheated on her and fathered a child with another woman? Umm, no.

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« Reply #567 on: November 07, 2020, 12:47:00 AM »
What?! What are they THINKING?!!!?! Asshole son cheats and happens to get mistress pregnant and cheated-on wife should be GRATEFUL? I wish the answer had been more hair-ripping-out vocal about how crazy that is.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #568 on: November 07, 2020, 02:46:15 PM »
My 9-year-old (an age where little tummies must be especially shielded from subversive foods) ate an Indian curry at a friend's house and loved it. How can I help his parents (two doctors no less!!) better understand the risks of trying new foods?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/parenting-indian-food-bubble-covid-families-judgement.html?fbclid=IwAR1yrGg1o_Y_uz1r2fFBzWyWazDKXWrNzUX6Y4Ou9AK6zYLBvd8zVHdG06w

I’m sure it’s perfectly fine for Little Precious to stuff himself with nice, “normal” foods like McDonald’s happy meals, dinosaur-shaped frozen chicken nuggets, and day-glo orange macaroni and powdered “cheese” in little microwave cups.

Have you tasted those dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets? So bland....

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #569 on: November 07, 2020, 02:55:14 PM »
My 9-year-old (an age where little tummies must be especially shielded from subversive foods) ate an Indian curry at a friend's house and loved it. How can I help his parents (two doctors no less!!) better understand the risks of trying new foods?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/parenting-indian-food-bubble-covid-families-judgement.html?fbclid=IwAR1yrGg1o_Y_uz1r2fFBzWyWazDKXWrNzUX6Y4Ou9AK6zYLBvd8zVHdG06w

I’m sure it’s perfectly fine for Little Precious to stuff himself with nice, “normal” foods like McDonald’s happy meals, dinosaur-shaped frozen chicken nuggets, and day-glo orange macaroni and powdered “cheese” in little microwave cups.

Have you tasted those dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets? So bland....
Ha! I asked DSS to make mac n' cheese for them for lunch yesterday. DSS made a whole box for each of them! This is what I get for buying a case of that junk at Costco early in the pandemic. It just looked so comforting...

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #570 on: November 08, 2020, 10:54:13 AM »
That perfect shade of yellow... ;)

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« Reply #571 on: November 14, 2020, 04:54:19 PM »
What?! What are they THINKING?!!!?! Asshole son cheats and happens to get mistress pregnant and cheated-on wife should be GRATEFUL? I wish the answer had been more hair-ripping-out vocal about how crazy that is.

Perhaps it's one of those Mormon families with multiple wives. Seems like it, given the way the grandmother talks about the "gift of a <first born> son"

Drama is a given in a situation like that I guess.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #573 on: December 30, 2020, 05:53:15 PM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/share-your-badassity/harvesting-the-eitc-ctc-snap-and-medicaid/

I just read through the thread. Amazing, how this poster was hoping for congratulations from the forum.

I'm seriously tempted to comment🍿but I want to see other posters chime in first.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #574 on: December 30, 2020, 06:26:57 PM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/share-your-badassity/harvesting-the-eitc-ctc-snap-and-medicaid/
I just read through the thread. Amazing, how this poster was hoping for congratulations from the forum.

I'm seriously tempted to comment🍿but I want to see other posters chime in first.
I looked at the number of posts from the user [2] and thought they had to be a troll. Like, Welfare Cheat is not an actual career, Person who "plan(s) to have as many children as possible"
« Last Edit: December 30, 2020, 06:41:03 PM by mspym »

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #575 on: December 30, 2020, 07:27:17 PM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/share-your-badassity/harvesting-the-eitc-ctc-snap-and-medicaid/
I just read through the thread. Amazing, how this poster was hoping for congratulations from the forum.

I'm seriously tempted to comment🍿but I want to see other posters chime in first.
I looked at the number of posts from the user [2] and thought they had to be a troll. Like, Welfare Cheat is not an actual career, Person who "plan(s) to have as many children as possible"

That part makes me very sad: children are little PEOPLE, who are going to grow into people and need to be treated respectfully -- doing a reasonably good job of raising kids is hard work!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #576 on: December 30, 2020, 07:33:18 PM »
I also thought that was a troll post...

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #577 on: December 30, 2020, 07:34:47 PM »
Welfare cheat or troll, it's still entertaining.

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« Reply #578 on: December 30, 2020, 07:49:00 PM »
Welfare cheat or troll, it's still entertaining.
Wow, that's just nuts. I just posted what you are far too polite to, dear Adventine. The mods may not like it and I'll delete it if asked, but I kinda hope that doesn't happen. MMM is not about blatant cheating.

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« Reply #579 on: December 30, 2020, 08:00:10 PM »
Welfare cheat or troll, it's still entertaining.
Wow, that's just nuts. I just posted what you are far too polite to, dear Adventine. The mods may not like it and I'll delete it if asked, but I kinda hope that doesn't happen. MMM is not about blatant cheating.

I chuckled out loud, @Dicey. Officially time to bring out the popcorn!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #580 on: December 30, 2020, 10:10:23 PM »
Eh, I just reported that thread to the mods as possible troll. Let them sort it out.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #581 on: December 30, 2020, 11:17:02 PM »
oops. I should have read this first as I also reported it as blatant trolling too :-)

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #582 on: January 12, 2021, 07:00:04 AM »
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/advice/carolyn-hax-a-parent-pooh-poohs-a-non-parents-sleep-deprivation/2021/01/11/cf9e3f34-4aeb-11eb-839a-cf4ba7b7c48c_story.html

"My friend told me she was having problems with sleep deprivation, which is ridiculous because she doesn't have children even though she gave me the details of her medical issues that were causing the sleep issues. How do I tell her to get over herself?"

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #583 on: January 12, 2021, 08:36:22 AM »
Even more parents than usual are really eager to tell you how much their kids suck during the pandemic.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #584 on: August 13, 2021, 10:46:16 AM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/real-estate-and-landlording/tenant-died-in-my-rental-unit/

Mostly for "I won't hire anyone to clean the unit someone died in until I exhaust every option for getting someone else to pay for it" that was told to the deceased tenant's adult child.

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« Reply #585 on: August 13, 2021, 11:01:15 AM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/real-estate-and-landlording/tenant-died-in-my-rental-unit/

Mostly for "I won't hire anyone to clean the unit someone died in until I exhaust every option for getting someone else to pay for it" that was told to the deceased tenant's adult child.

I was about to comment on that thread, until I realized I had nothing productive to say that hadn't been already said by other posters.

Compassion towards the deceased tenant and the still-living daughter would have gone a long way towards avoiding the situation that poster's facing now.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #586 on: August 13, 2021, 11:14:41 AM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/real-estate-and-landlording/tenant-died-in-my-rental-unit/

Mostly for "I won't hire anyone to clean the unit someone died in until I exhaust every option for getting someone else to pay for it" that was told to the deceased tenant's adult child.

I was about to comment on that thread, until I realized I had nothing productive to say that hadn't been already said by other posters.

Compassion towards the deceased tenant and the still-living daughter would have gone a long way towards avoiding the situation that poster's facing now.
I had a post written and didn't post for the same reason. When someone is dead, you just do whatever needs to be done and figure out the money later.

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« Reply #587 on: August 13, 2021, 11:22:53 AM »
Even more parents than usual are really eager to tell you how much their kids suck during the pandemic.
I’ve been living this for the past 2 years. Being stuck at home with littles underfoot 24/7/365/?? is really really hard. It is almost impossible for me to appreciate my children when I don’t get the down time I need as a human being to restore my own batteries. There is an entire nation, no, world, living a similar experience. That is why you hear people complain.

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« Reply #588 on: August 13, 2021, 11:37:46 AM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/real-estate-and-landlording/tenant-died-in-my-rental-unit/

Mostly for "I won't hire anyone to clean the unit someone died in until I exhaust every option for getting someone else to pay for it" that was told to the deceased tenant's adult child.

I was about to comment on that thread, until I realized I had nothing productive to say that hadn't been already said by other posters.

Compassion towards the deceased tenant and the still-living daughter would have gone a long way towards avoiding the situation that poster's facing now.
I had a post written and didn't post for the same reason. When someone is dead, you just do whatever needs to be done and figure out the money later.
Me, three. Isn't that the benefit of being a mustachian? Solve the problem, then worry about the money. The OP's lack of compassion was appalling, IMO. I have a tenant in her 90's. She intends to live there until she dies, which is fine with me. When it happens, if we need to do something, we'll do it without hesitation. I jut hope it's a long time from now. Oh, and my rentals are at least as far away from my primary home as the OP's, so that's no excuse. Figure it out and have a heart, dude.

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« Reply #589 on: August 14, 2021, 08:29:31 PM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/real-estate-and-landlording/tenant-died-in-my-rental-unit/

Mostly for "I won't hire anyone to clean the unit someone died in until I exhaust every option for getting someone else to pay for it" that was told to the deceased tenant's adult child.

I was about to comment on that thread, until I realized I had nothing productive to say that hadn't been already said by other posters.

Compassion towards the deceased tenant and the still-living daughter would have gone a long way towards avoiding the situation that poster's facing now.
I had a post written and didn't post for the same reason. When someone is dead, you just do whatever needs to be done and figure out the money later.
Me, three. Isn't that the benefit of being a mustachian? Solve the problem, then worry about the money. The OP's lack of compassion was appalling, IMO. I have a tenant in her 90's. She intends to live there until she dies, which is fine with me. When it happens, if we need to do something, we'll do it without hesitation. I jut hope it's a long time from now. Oh, and my rentals are at least as far away from my primary home as the OP's, so that's no excuse. Figure it out and have a heart, dude.

I'm just imaging what the other tenants in the building are thinking. There has to be an odor.

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« Reply #590 on: August 15, 2021, 06:25:05 AM »
https://forum.mrmoneymustache.com/real-estate-and-landlording/tenant-died-in-my-rental-unit/

Mostly for "I won't hire anyone to clean the unit someone died in until I exhaust every option for getting someone else to pay for it" that was told to the deceased tenant's adult child.

I was about to comment on that thread, until I realized I had nothing productive to say that hadn't been already said by other posters.

Compassion towards the deceased tenant and the still-living daughter would have gone a long way towards avoiding the situation that poster's facing now.
I had a post written and didn't post for the same reason. When someone is dead, you just do whatever needs to be done and figure out the money later.
Me, three. Isn't that the benefit of being a mustachian? Solve the problem, then worry about the money. The OP's lack of compassion was appalling, IMO. I have a tenant in her 90's. She intends to live there until she dies, which is fine with me. When it happens, if we need to do something, we'll do it without hesitation. I jut hope it's a long time from now. Oh, and my rentals are at least as far away from my primary home as the OP's, so that's no excuse. Figure it out and have a heart, dude.

It reminded me of the time we had someone enthusiastically post about the time they removed an elderly tenant with stage 4 lung cancer.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #591 on: August 22, 2021, 08:58:49 AM »
Go here https://www.askamanager.org/2021/08/weekend-open-thread-august-21-22-2021.html  and search for The Dogman. Specifically, the parts about travelling with 5 dogs.


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« Reply #592 on: August 22, 2021, 11:42:02 AM »
Go here https://www.askamanager.org/2021/08/weekend-open-thread-august-21-22-2021.html  and search for The Dogman. Specifically, the parts about travelling with 5 dogs.

That is......impressively entitled.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #593 on: August 22, 2021, 12:02:00 PM »
Go here https://www.askamanager.org/2021/08/weekend-open-thread-august-21-22-2021.html  and search for The Dogman. Specifically, the parts about travelling with 5 dogs.


I don't see anything entitled there? Travelling with his dogs is a given in his case. He lets people know that so they can let him know if he needs to make other arrangements for where he and the dogs stay.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #594 on: August 22, 2021, 12:24:20 PM »
Go here https://www.askamanager.org/2021/08/weekend-open-thread-august-21-22-2021.html  and search for The Dogman. Specifically, the parts about travelling with 5 dogs.


I don't see anything entitled there? Travelling with his dogs is a given in his case. He lets people know that so they can let him know if he needs to make other arrangements for where he and the dogs stay.

Not to be rude, but did you read his posts in their entirety?

Several statements he makes indicate to me that how you're describing it (which in fairness is how he sort of describes it at one point) is not how it really goes down:

Someone said: "Staying in someone’s home is an ask to bring the dog, not a “let them know.” I have a dog, he is my best bud, but he is not everyone else’s."
His response was: "No not at all, it is a “let them know”. My dogs coming with me is non-negotiable, where I stay is of course negotiable, so I would be happy to camp in the garden, bring a camper, find a dog friendly BnB…" - While this technically could check the box off of him asking politely and being fine with someone saying no, the tone doesn't seem to indicate that he's not handling it that way.

It's also aided by his continuing statement:

"But if I have to bring my dogs then I have to bring my dogs, in the same way a child owning friend might have to bring the sprog to stay at mine should that be the way the situation falls.

Asking permission to own my own dogs is a bit much really." - No one is giving him permission to own a dog. Equating not letting him stay and bring all of his dogs to someone's house is the same thing as not giving him "permission" to own dogs is incredibly entitled.

Furthermore, he says, "If someone loathes dogs to the degree that I cannot bring mine (to stay in the garden etc) with me then they have no business inviting me in the first place, and I would not go, since my dogs are more important to me than someone who has so little care for another humans dependents."

Um....seriously? There are dozens of reasons why someone might not want you to bring 5 dogs to their house, not the least of which is they may not feel like housing 5 dogs when they just invited you. To imply that anyone who doesn't want to house your small dog kennel with them when you come over means they loathe dogs as a whole is pretty much the definition of the "OP being the only one who doesn't see" their ignorance.

Finally:

"Plus mine are exceptionally well trained too, so most people I know are fine with them coming along with me." - Really......I mean really.....I sincerely doubt anyone - maybe one in a 100 are truly fine with him taking 5 dogs along with him to stay at their place. They likely tolerate it at best. It just sounds overall like he's clueless, thinking he's "letting people know" and being polite about it when he's really a leach, playing off of people's sympathy or inability to say no to take 5 dogs with him to stay with people.

This is a poster case of what this thread is about lol.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #595 on: August 22, 2021, 12:26:25 PM »
Go here https://www.askamanager.org/2021/08/weekend-open-thread-august-21-22-2021.html  and search for The Dogman. Specifically, the parts about travelling with 5 dogs.


I don't see anything entitled there? Travelling with his dogs is a given in his case. He lets people know that so they can let him know if he needs to make other arrangements for where he and the dogs stay.
I tend to agree, though I haven't read the link. We have relatives who visit annually-ish. They travel with their dogs, who are a pain in the ass. We love them, but their dogs, not so much.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #596 on: August 22, 2021, 02:09:11 PM »

This is a poster case of what this thread is about lol.


I mean... obviously it isn't, since I and several of the posters over on AAM don't see it either.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #597 on: August 22, 2021, 02:25:14 PM »

This is a poster case of what this thread is about lol.


I mean... obviously it isn't, since I and several of the posters over on AAM don't see it either.

No issue is ever going to have 100% agreement. A significant majority on AAM felt he was being ridiculous.

I feel like I laid out pretty well why he was extremely entitled. If you have a defense for how someone who is rational can say that if you don't want him to bring 5 dogs with him to crash at your place that you are essentially denying him permission to own dogs or that if you don't want him to take 5 dogs to your house you must loathe dogs, I'd love to hear it. All I can say is he's acting more entitled than many parents that are called entitled act with their kids.

ETA: Again, that was why I asked if you'd read all his posts. If you just read that he said he had to travel with his dogs and would find other accommodations if the person couldn't house them, I would understand a defense of him. As he kept going in his other posts,  his "logic" completely unraveled.
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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #598 on: August 22, 2021, 02:36:05 PM »
If his real life name is actually "The Dogman", maybe his attitude is understandable. Being the Dogman is part of his persona and thus it would be unreasonable to expect him to come without his 5 dogs.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #599 on: August 22, 2021, 03:22:17 PM »


 read all his posts.


I did read all his posts, but I definitely don't care about it enough to debate it. It just didn't strike me the way it obviously struck you.