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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #500 on: April 02, 2020, 12:35:21 PM »
Legit.

I've seen those posts asking for people who are financially secure to stay out of stores on 4/1-4/3 as the SNAP and WIC credits come in for people who are in need. My FiL insisted he had to have some stuff, so my wife went shopping for him. I decided to just bite my tongue because I'm pretty sure FiL would go to Wal-Mart on his own if this didn't happen, so at least my wife kept him out of circulation.

The thing is, that isn't necessarily true. In Texas, SNAP benefits are spread out over the first half of the month. Texas WIC doesn't include that in their FAQs.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #501 on: April 02, 2020, 12:38:28 PM »
Legit.

I've seen those posts asking for people who are financially secure to stay out of stores on 4/1-4/3 as the SNAP and WIC credits come in for people who are in need. My FiL insisted he had to have some stuff, so my wife went shopping for him. I decided to just bite my tongue because I'm pretty sure FiL would go to Wal-Mart on his own if this didn't happen, so at least my wife kept him out of circulation.

I have also seen that, and while it's clearly well-intentioned, it is ill-informed. In my state, for example, WIC and SNAP benefits are paid out on the 4th-13th of the month depending on the last digit of the account number, so waiting until the 4th to start shopping is actually making SNAP/WIC beneficiaries worse off here. Other states have it on a continuous rolling basis. It's all state-based, so some social media post from who knows where is not helpful unless it references a state.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #503 on: April 02, 2020, 02:23:01 PM »
Timelines by state:
https://fns-prod.azureedge.net/sites/default/files/snap/Monthly-Issuance-Schedule-All-States.pdf
Thanks for that - I have worked for more than 12 years with the WIC program as an IT contractor, so I know a ton about the intricacies of how benefits work for that one. Many WIC participants are also on SNAP, but I haven't had a reason to know nearly as much detail on that one.

There is another one going around saying "look for the WIC sticker on the shelf and buy something else". That one is pretty much true, although not every grocery store everywhere does that. And of course, each state may have somewhat different rules.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #504 on: April 02, 2020, 03:22:11 PM »
Legit.

I've seen those posts asking for people who are financially secure to stay out of stores on 4/1-4/3 as the SNAP and WIC credits come in for people who are in need. My FiL insisted he had to have some stuff, so my wife went shopping for him. I decided to just bite my tongue because I'm pretty sure FiL would go to Wal-Mart on his own if this didn't happen, so at least my wife kept him out of circulation.

I have also seen that, and while it's clearly well-intentioned, it is ill-informed. In my state, for example, WIC and SNAP benefits are paid out on the 4th-13th of the month depending on the last digit of the account number, so waiting until the 4th to start shopping is actually making SNAP/WIC beneficiaries worse off here. Other states have it on a continuous rolling basis. It's all state-based, so some social media post from who knows where is not helpful unless it references a state.

Yep. Even before COVID-19, I tried to shop on even-numbered days when possible because SNAP benefits are issued on odd-numbered days. May as well plan to avoid the crowds.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #505 on: April 02, 2020, 04:02:20 PM »
Timelines by state:
https://fns-prod.azureedge.net/sites/default/files/snap/Monthly-Issuance-Schedule-All-States.pdf

Excellent. No worries about my needed shopping trip today or tomorrow (first in 2 weeks!) - benefits start going out starting the 5th in my state. My list isn't that long though, so I'm probably not the person they worry about.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #506 on: April 14, 2020, 11:28:51 AM »
Another Prudie sighting! Skip down to "Roommate’s showers are driving me crazy."

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/04/dear-prudence-offensive-jokes-rape-boyfriend-relationships-advice.html

Synopsis: My roommate is in the shower way too much. He takes 35 minute showers! He showers EVERY DAY! What's more, since the  pandemic began, he's been showering TWICE A DAY, including when he gets home from his job at the hospital full of COVID-19 victims. I can't take it any more now that I'm sequestered at home and he's showering at me all the time.

Commentary: Prudie somehow doesn't see it either and is surprisingly gentle with this idiot. She advises trying to respectfully talk the roommate down to 15 minute showers. As far as I'm concerned, anyone who works on the front lines of COVID-19 can shower as much and for as long as they want. Take a bath for all I care; I'll even scrub the tub for you. 

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« Reply #507 on: April 14, 2020, 08:33:03 PM »
Another Prudie sighting! Skip down to "Roommate’s showers are driving me crazy."

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/04/dear-prudence-offensive-jokes-rape-boyfriend-relationships-advice.html

Synopsis: My roommate is in the shower way too much. He takes 35 minute showers! He showers EVERY DAY! What's more, since the  pandemic began, he's been showering TWICE A DAY, including when he gets home from his job at the hospital full of COVID-19 victims. I can't take it any more now that I'm sequestered at home and he's showering at me all the time.

Commentary: Prudie somehow doesn't see it either and is surprisingly gentle with this idiot. She advises trying to respectfully talk the roommate down to 15 minute showers. As far as I'm concerned, anyone who works on the front lines of COVID-19 can shower as much and for as long as they want. Take a bath for all I care; I'll even scrub the tub for you.

I wonder what LW's real issues were. Too much bathroom time? Water usage if they're in a drought area? The power  bill? Or just a controlling bitch. Agree with  you: right  now is not the time to pick fights with health care workers. And big  picture, LW should seek non-room mate living options once this is all over.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #508 on: April 15, 2020, 08:08:39 AM »
Yeah - from reading that there are at least 4 people in that house/apartment "discussed with other roommates". So you have OP, long-shower-taker, and plural other roommates. If it is a one-bathroom situation, taking 30+ minute showers is rude even in normal times. Could really be about the water bill or just using all the hot water. Maybe for some reason their water is really loud. Worried about the environment. I can think of lots of valid reasons for this to be an issue.

Of course OP didn't give any reason for the complaint - just states it is a problem.

I am with the @acepedro45  though - if you're working in a hospital right now and you live in my house, I'm not complaining about anything. Certainly not long showers.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #509 on: May 02, 2020, 07:21:14 AM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #510 on: May 02, 2020, 09:41:47 AM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

I think she has a narrative in her head that the shortage is entirely caused by people baking for fun and hoarding and if that were the case, maybe she'd have a point, but reality is much more complicated than that. People are buying more everything because they're not eating out, flour keeps longer than bread which means less trips to the store, and people who've always liked to bake have more time do so now. I'm sure there are other factors involved as well.

Oh and she wrote this right before her flour article:

https://midcenturymodernmag.com/how-i-became-a-pandemic-hoarder-a30ba5a8dc38

Where she admitted that she was guilty of hoarding other products. C'mon Caren.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #511 on: May 02, 2020, 09:50:21 AM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

I think she has a narrative in her head that the shortage is entirely caused by people baking for fun and hoarding and if that were the case, maybe she'd have a point, but reality is much more complicated than that. People are buying more everything because they're not eating out, flour keeps longer than bread which means less trips to the store, and people who've always liked to bake have more time do so now. I'm sure there are other factors involved as well.

Oh and she wrote this right before her flour article:

https://midcenturymodernmag.com/how-i-became-a-pandemic-hoarder-a30ba5a8dc38

Where she admitted that she was guilty of hoarding other products. C'mon Caren.

Lol! I should have done my research, that's amazing! It's clear she has a narrative in her head of something, and maybe it is that everyone else is just wasting it. She doesn't say that directly at all, though. I mean, I just can't see any way of boiling it down any better with what she actually wrote than:

I baked bread first! Therefore I'm the only one that really deserves to have it! Everyone else is just being selfish, keeping me from being able to bake bread, which, I deserve to be able to make because, did I mention, I was doing it first! *insert crying emoji* lol

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #512 on: May 02, 2020, 10:41:17 AM »
I call bull. Real home bakers (like me) have 50+ lbs of bread flour ($7 at Costco, no joke) in their pantry in food-grade containers and 2 lb containers of yeast ($5 at the restaurant supply store) in the freezer at all times. That's the most economical way to buy baking supplies: duh. I've actually felt a bit sorry for all the noobs wanting to get into baking because they finally have time and then finding those hilariously overpriced little packets of Fleischman's sold out.

I mean, if you want only organic flour, then yeah I can't help you. Sourdough? That would help with the yeast issue. Actually I have a cornucopia of wacky flours in my freezer, too, because sometimes I like to get creative with my bread. But the massive quantities of AP and bread flour are my staples. I do a LOT of baking. But in my opinion, anyone who wants to bake is welcome to flour! Baking is fun and cheap and everyone should do it!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #513 on: May 02, 2020, 10:53:20 AM »
What a moron. "Because I have high food standards even though I am poor, no one else is allowed to start having the same hobbies as me." "Because rich people understand supply chains, they are not allowed to act on game theory." She just wants to be special.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #514 on: May 02, 2020, 01:41:07 PM »
What a moron. "Because I have high food standards even though I am poor, no one else is allowed to start having the same hobbies as me." "Because rich people understand supply chains, they are not allowed to act on game theory." She just wants to be special.

In the earlier pandemic article she talks about filling up her cart with a ton of meat.  So she most likely isn't THAT poor.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #515 on: May 02, 2020, 02:17:32 PM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

Good lord. She claims to be a master gardener, so I wonder if the next article will whine about people who bought all the seeds (because they actually read the news and learned about the potential food shortages).

Also, if you bake all of your own baked goods, wouldn’t you plan for that and shop in bulk?
« Last Edit: May 02, 2020, 02:45:31 PM by OtherJen »

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« Reply #516 on: May 02, 2020, 04:09:49 PM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

the article seems to have been deleted

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #517 on: May 02, 2020, 05:23:17 PM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

the article seems to have been deleted

LMAO! I mean, she got dragged so hard on basically every corner of the internet, I’m not surprised.

I agree, @Wolfpack Mustachian . This post wins the thread, hands down.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #518 on: May 02, 2020, 06:12:59 PM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

the article seems to have been deleted

LMAO! I mean, she got dragged so hard on basically every corner of the internet, I’m not surprised.

I agree, @Wolfpack Mustachian . This post wins the thread, hands down.
You can always try the internet wayback machine.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #519 on: May 02, 2020, 06:54:16 PM »
I don't mean to be presumptuous but...…..

I feel safe in saying this might be the best one of these on this thread so far.

It would be bad enough if in isolation: super elitist sounding woman who not only can't see she's wrong but is pretty much literally the person she is decrying that she is angry about in terms of not understanding or getting outside of their bubble. It only comes through more so in her complaints on others' comments calling her out.

However, to take the cake - this lady who's whole article is super complainy and is calling people out for their "privilege" in her comments

Her last name is White

And her first name......is Caren

https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

the article seems to have been deleted

LMAO! I mean, she got dragged so hard on basically every corner of the internet, I’m not surprised.

I agree, @Wolfpack Mustachian . This post wins the thread, hands down.
You can always try the internet wayback machine.

https://web.archive.org/web/20200502192533/https://medium.com/@carenawhite/why-you-need-to-stop-baking-bread-cf6b77bd7c56

^LOVE the wayback machine. They are awesome.

I feel sorry for her. She's obviously clueless about her own privilege, and she did get slammed HARD enough to take down her entire profile. That is scary and sad; being kind of scared about being chased down and taunted all over the internet is scary even if she did do something dumb. Not that she didn't deserve to be taken down a peg, but still. Eating crow is not as tasty as freshly baked, organic bread.

Did y'all catch the rebuttal?

https://medium.com/@tburgess57/why-you-need-to-start-baking-bread-549f61459f80

Love that. Great encouragement and he didn't even touch on the Caren whinefest that was taken down - just "you can do this and it's good and you can eat the evidence if it doesn't turn out perfectly anyway."
« Last Edit: May 02, 2020, 07:21:17 PM by Frankies Girl »

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« Reply #520 on: May 03, 2020, 03:47:13 PM »
Wow. that rebuttal article kinda makes me want to .... bake bread.

I have flour, water, salt. But no yeast. Baking soda/powder, yes, depending on quantity needed. Maybe I will. Maybe I won't.

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« Reply #521 on: May 03, 2020, 04:18:31 PM »
I thought the initial Caren White article was tone deaf but no better or worse than most of the user-submitted content I see on websites. I've seen MMM posts about the pandemic that were far more tone-deaf.

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« Reply #522 on: May 05, 2020, 12:10:41 AM »
Wow. that rebuttal article kinda makes me want to .... bake bread.

I have flour, water, salt. But no yeast. Baking soda/powder, yes, depending on quantity needed. Maybe I will. Maybe I won't.

If you can get your hands on even a little bit of yeast, I highly recommend Mark Bittman's no-knead bread recipe--it only uses a 1/4 teaspoon yeast for each loaf.  No lie.  I actually had to have my mother send me some yeast via USPS (I had a jar in the freezer, but I only bake intermittently and didn't realize I was down to the dregs until all the stores were sold out), but the packets she sent me will last a loooong time with that recipe.

I also tried starting my own sourdough starter, but that failed miserably.  So back to commercial yeast I go!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #523 on: May 05, 2020, 06:25:04 AM »
Wow. that rebuttal article kinda makes me want to .... bake bread.

I have flour, water, salt. But no yeast. Baking soda/powder, yes, depending on quantity needed. Maybe I will. Maybe I won't.

If you can get your hands on even a little bit of yeast, I highly recommend Mark Bittman's no-knead bread recipe--it only uses a 1/4 teaspoon yeast for each loaf.  No lie.  I actually had to have my mother send me some yeast via USPS (I had a jar in the freezer, but I only bake intermittently and didn't realize I was down to the dregs until all the stores were sold out), but the packets she sent me will last a loooong time with that recipe.

I also tried starting my own sourdough starter, but that failed miserably.  So back to commercial yeast I go!

When I realized I was running low, I started a faux-sourdough starter, seeding it with 1/4 tsp of commercial yeast from my jar.  It didn't develop the tangy sourdough flavor for nearly 4 weeks, but made perfectly good bread in the meantime.  I also feed it almost every day, since we eat it as fast as I can bake it, so I want to keep it very active - probably contributed to keeping the commercial yeast dominant over the wild yeasts for so long.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #524 on: June 18, 2020, 11:24:51 AM »
Update on previous post today at AskAManager:

Update:
https://www.askamanager.org/2020/06/update-im-in-trouble-for-re-sorting-a-coworkers-trash-and-im-enraged.html

Original:
https://www.askamanager.org/2019/06/im-in-trouble-for-re-sorting-a-coworkers-trash-and-im-enraged.html

Really hope the OP in that case gets some help with what looks to me like a mental health issue.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #525 on: June 18, 2020, 11:28:18 AM »
Update on previous post today at AskAManager:

Update:
https://www.askamanager.org/2020/06/update-im-in-trouble-for-re-sorting-a-coworkers-trash-and-im-enraged.html

Original:
https://www.askamanager.org/2019/06/im-in-trouble-for-re-sorting-a-coworkers-trash-and-im-enraged.html

Really hope the OP in that case gets some help with what looks to me like a mental health issue.

I came here to post this! Possibly one of the least sane people I've ever seen on that column.

OP has a weird obsession with how coworkers sort their trash, digs through trash to "re-sort" it and then displays it in the kitchen so everyone will see. Does this for YEARS. After HR finally figured out this behavior was disturbing people, OP responds by trying to get their company in legal trouble with the city, gives up on interaction with coworkers. Everyone else is the problem, OP is "just trying to protect our environment."

AND despite being a software engineer, they claim to make little above minimum wage and say they are pulling from savings every month to pay bills. I know this is MMM, but I am very confident that money is not the problem here.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #526 on: July 01, 2020, 10:52:52 AM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #527 on: July 01, 2020, 11:13:30 AM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

"my supervisor is an associate professor. Her husband is a professor and a director of the research group (and that’s how she easily got her position)"

OH HECK NO

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #528 on: July 01, 2020, 11:17:04 AM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

Hahah!

“You have a problem with conflict”
“ WRONG!”

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #529 on: July 01, 2020, 12:16:48 PM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

"my supervisor is an associate professor. Her husband is a professor and a director of the research group (and that’s how she easily got her position)"

OH HECK NO

I mean, in fairness, spousal hires are more common in academia and can be problematic, but the competitiveness of academia generally means that the spousal hire is qualified for their position, just maybe not THE MOST qualified.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #530 on: July 01, 2020, 12:39:40 PM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

Hahah!

“You have a problem with conflict”
“ WRONG!”

I saw that one and thought it was a prime candidate for this thread.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #531 on: July 01, 2020, 02:34:51 PM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

Hahah!

“You have a problem with conflict”
“ WRONG!”

Lol. 5-star summary right there.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #532 on: July 01, 2020, 04:32:00 PM »
Utter gem from Ask A Manager today: My boss asked me to reflect on my conflicts with coworkers and I don’t want to

Spoiler: OP refers to their ACTUAL BOSS as "bossy".

"my supervisor is an associate professor. Her husband is a professor and a director of the research group (and that’s how she easily got her position)"

OH HECK NO

I mean, in fairness, spousal hires are more common in academia and can be problematic, but the competitiveness of academia generally means that the spousal hire is qualified for their position, just maybe not THE MOST qualified.
I've seen this.  I worked with a lot of grad students for awhile.  It's hard when you've got two top students in the same research group graduate at the same time, both looking for professorships.  It seems to have worked out for two of the couples that I know.  Two are profs at a UC (but it did take a lot of negotiation...you have to take BOTH), and two are at an Ivy.

I actually know a woman who was a tenured prof at Berkeley who moved to a different university so her husband could get his dream job.  That's dedication, I tell you.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #533 on: July 06, 2020, 09:31:40 AM »
Reminder: we only observe the couples who are successfully staying married and staying in the academy. We don't observe:

  • The stresses of early years child-rearing make equitable progress down the scholarship path possible
  • Divorces
  • Financial pressure within the family causing one of them to take a non-academic job with its pay-premium

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #534 on: July 06, 2020, 05:40:50 PM »
I call bull. Real home bakers (like me) have 50+ lbs of bread flour ($7 at Costco, no joke) in their pantry in food-grade containers and 2 lb containers of yeast ($5 at the restaurant supply store) in the freezer at all times. That's the most economical way to buy baking supplies: duh. I've actually felt a bit sorry for all the noobs wanting to get into baking because they finally have time and then finding those hilariously overpriced little packets of Fleischman's sold out.

I mean, if you want only organic flour, then yeah I can't help you. Sourdough? That would help with the yeast issue. Actually I have a cornucopia of wacky flours in my freezer, too, because sometimes I like to get creative with my bread. But the massive quantities of AP and bread flour are my staples. I do a LOT of baking. But in my opinion, anyone who wants to bake is welcome to flour! Baking is fun and cheap and everyone should do it!

Our Costco stopped selling bread flour 2 years ago (there are like 15 types of rice though). Apparently we were the only ones buying it, because it was a tragedy when we found that out.  And our year's supply of yeast gets repurchased in May.  The pandemic has greatly changed our baking- but we haven't bought bread of any type in maybe 10 years.

It has been nearly impossible to find bread flour or yeast.  Still.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #535 on: July 06, 2020, 06:01:26 PM »
I call bull. Real home bakers (like me) have 50+ lbs of bread flour ($7 at Costco, no joke) in their pantry in food-grade containers and 2 lb containers of yeast ($5 at the restaurant supply store) in the freezer at all times. That's the most economical way to buy baking supplies: duh. I've actually felt a bit sorry for all the noobs wanting to get into baking because they finally have time and then finding those hilariously overpriced little packets of Fleischman's sold out.

I mean, if you want only organic flour, then yeah I can't help you. Sourdough? That would help with the yeast issue. Actually I have a cornucopia of wacky flours in my freezer, too, because sometimes I like to get creative with my bread. But the massive quantities of AP and bread flour are my staples. I do a LOT of baking. But in my opinion, anyone who wants to bake is welcome to flour! Baking is fun and cheap and everyone should do it!

Our Costco stopped selling bread flour 2 years ago (there are like 15 types of rice though). Apparently we were the only ones buying it, because it was a tragedy when we found that out.  And our year's supply of yeast gets repurchased in May.  The pandemic has greatly changed our baking- but we haven't bought bread of any type in maybe 10 years.

It has been nearly impossible to find bread flour or yeast.  Still.

No bread flour at Costco!? I'm so sorry. Have you tried a restaurant supply store? That's our alternative source.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #536 on: July 06, 2020, 06:15:33 PM »
I call bull. Real home bakers (like me) have 50+ lbs of bread flour ($7 at Costco, no joke) in their pantry in food-grade containers and 2 lb containers of yeast ($5 at the restaurant supply store) in the freezer at all times. That's the most economical way to buy baking supplies: duh. I've actually felt a bit sorry for all the noobs wanting to get into baking because they finally have time and then finding those hilariously overpriced little packets of Fleischman's sold out.

I mean, if you want only organic flour, then yeah I can't help you. Sourdough? That would help with the yeast issue. Actually I have a cornucopia of wacky flours in my freezer, too, because sometimes I like to get creative with my bread. But the massive quantities of AP and bread flour are my staples. I do a LOT of baking. But in my opinion, anyone who wants to bake is welcome to flour! Baking is fun and cheap and everyone should do it!

Our Costco stopped selling bread flour 2 years ago (there are like 15 types of rice though). Apparently we were the only ones buying it, because it was a tragedy when we found that out.  And our year's supply of yeast gets repurchased in May.  The pandemic has greatly changed our baking- but we haven't bought bread of any type in maybe 10 years.

It has been nearly impossible to find bread flour or yeast.  Still.

Pretty sure you can buy it at King Arthur, though there might be a delay in shipment. For a long time they were not even allowing you to put it in a cart!

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #537 on: July 07, 2020, 11:07:52 AM »
I JUST discovered this thread! Oh my what a treasure.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #538 on: July 13, 2020, 10:28:36 AM »

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #539 on: July 13, 2020, 11:57:14 AM »
You wonder about the authenticity of a letter being so tone-deaf.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #540 on: July 13, 2020, 03:13:25 PM »
You wonder about the authenticity of a letter being so tone-deaf.

I mean yes, but we also have people who sincerely believe that children can't catch covid, wearing a mask will suffocate them/will make them sick, the earth is flat, etc.

I've pretty much decided that even if a particular post or comment online is trolling, there are people who actually think it. I fully believe that there are that many people who are that tone-deaf.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #541 on: July 14, 2020, 06:27:49 AM »
I'll add: even if the letter was written by a troll, Ask A Manager should still make the statement zHe did for the benefit of others.

I'm forty, but--being male--cannot imagine receiving that sort of attention from an 18-yo.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #542 on: July 15, 2020, 11:39:41 AM »
It is FAR from the craziest letter that blogger has published, and sometimes in much wilder cases other colleagues comment to support the OP's story. I had no trouble believing it.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #543 on: July 15, 2020, 06:53:46 PM »
https://www.bogleheads.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=320204

Do I dare take my 4-year-old Corolla on a long road trip? Will the wheels fall off? Will we all die in a fire? Will I die of thirst on the side of the highway?

Sadly, it’s not just the op who can’t see it. A large number of the commentariat advise renting a car over the perils of a just barely broken in Corolla.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #544 on: July 16, 2020, 07:26:40 AM »
The car is a 2016 corolla with 125,000 miles.

I'm hardly a Mustachian, think of me as half-ass rather than badass. But my 2009 Camry had the same number of miles in 2019 as this person's does. That is a heck-of-a-lot of daily driving.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #546 on: July 29, 2020, 11:38:55 AM »
This is an indirect OP doesn't see it. The manager, not the person who wrote in.

Original: https://www.askamanager.org/2020/06/my-manager-named-joseph-stalin-employee-of-the-month.html

Update: https://www.askamanager.org/2020/07/updates-joseph-stalin-sleeping-during-car-rides-and-more.html
Wow! Glad it seems to have been resolved. (Dicey shakes head and is super duper extra glad she is FIRE.) Just wow.

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #547 on: August 11, 2020, 10:10:56 PM »
My 9-year-old (an age where little tummies must be especially shielded from subversive foods) ate an Indian curry at a friend's house and loved it. How can I help his parents (two doctors no less!!) better understand the risks of trying new foods?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/parenting-indian-food-bubble-covid-families-judgement.html?fbclid=IwAR1yrGg1o_Y_uz1r2fFBzWyWazDKXWrNzUX6Y4Ou9AK6zYLBvd8zVHdG06w

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #548 on: August 12, 2020, 02:16:38 AM »
My 9-year-old (an age where little tummies must be especially shielded from subversive foods) ate an Indian curry at a friend's house and loved it. How can I help his parents (two doctors no less!!) better understand the risks of trying new foods?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/parenting-indian-food-bubble-covid-families-judgement.html?fbclid=IwAR1yrGg1o_Y_uz1r2fFBzWyWazDKXWrNzUX6Y4Ou9AK6zYLBvd8zVHdG06w

How do Indian children even grow up to become Indian Doctors, being fed delicious* curries? Clearly the solution is to only have playdates at OP's house, where you can make sure your Poor Precious Baby isn't exposed to "flavour".

*So delicious PPB ate "a lot"

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Re: OP Is the Only One Who Doesn't See It
« Reply #549 on: August 12, 2020, 06:17:41 AM »
My 9-year-old (an age where little tummies must be especially shielded from subversive foods) ate an Indian curry at a friend's house and loved it. How can I help his parents (two doctors no less!!) better understand the risks of trying new foods?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2020/08/parenting-indian-food-bubble-covid-families-judgement.html?fbclid=IwAR1yrGg1o_Y_uz1r2fFBzWyWazDKXWrNzUX6Y4Ou9AK6zYLBvd8zVHdG06w

"My wife thinks it is going to look like a racial problem."

Ah, your wife is too nice to tell you stop being a racist prick!

 

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