what an interesting thread! I love hearing all the diverse opinions and creative options people come up with. I have thought about this one quite a bit even though I'm not married or engaged (bf and I have been together four years and are planning on it eventually though, so I have a pretty good idea of the last name of the person I'll marry, LOL)
I have a very unique last name that is a pretty big part of my identity. like, has four consonants in a row, no one knows how to spell or pronounce it, my parents had to teach us a song to learn how to spell it when we were little, and probably everyone with that name (at least in Minnesota) is related to me. it's kind of a pain in the ass but mostly I love it, I think it's memorable and I like that. also, my sister, two female cousins, and I are the only ones with this last name in our generation in this branch of the family, so if all of our kids take their dads' last names there won't be any more of us :( which makes me sad.
that said, I personally want my husband, kids, and I to all have the same last name... it just sounds nice and simple to me. bf changing his last name to mine would totally be an option, especially if his name sucked, but honestly his is also super unique/memorable yet ONE MILLION times easier for others to spell and pronounce since it's an actual word. plus it's kind of humorous and I like it. plus, his parents are divorced and his mom is remarried so I would actually be the only Mrs. X in the immediate family, I wouldn't feel like I had the same name as my MIL or something (not like I really care but some people pointed out this might be weird). oh yeah, and hyphenating is NOT an option because that would bring the overall name to 19 letters (plus hyphen) and 7 syllables. LOL that'd be a good one. all that taken into account, I plan on taking his name and taking my maiden name as my middle name (nothing against my middle name but I would just rather hang on to my maiden name).
My reasons were plentiful, but individually fairly weak:
I like having the same last name as him (could have easily been achieved with him taking mine)
I liked the idea of having a new name - purely the novelty of it.
I have a fairly androgynous given name, and think my new name makes me sound like an old-timey sea captain.
this is literally the best reason I've EVER heard for changing/not changing your name!
My surname is Vyce and yes, you pronounce it vice! We think it's originally from the German 'Weiss' (White), but that's beside the point.
When I married my DW just over two years ago, there was no way I was going to ask her to take my name, but she chose to do so without question. I didn't think it would bother me one way or the other, but I felt so pleased and proud that she had taken on my family name. Despite all the jokes/sniggers/awkward attempts at weird pronunciations, it is my family name and DW accepted that willingly along with all my other faults and flaws!
Please name your child 'Miami'.
bahahahahaha!!!
Husbands name is an adjective that contains a sexual innuendo and he copped A. Lot. of grief about it growing up. He actually said to me that he'd prefer it if I didn't change mine after we were married.
All I am imagining is a poor guy named Richard Cockburn.
I know not one, but two, Richard Johnsons. Both should have changed to their wife's name. One named his kid "Harrison" and yes, he goes by Harry.
LOL. my boyfriend's dad's name is Richard and their last name is... not as obvious as Cockburn or Johnson but definitely something that could be spun into being penis-related. probably why he goes by Rich and not Dick :)