I realize this isn't really the sort of topic people post about here, but the only other online community I'm involved with is jezebel groupthink, and I don't understand how to post there. I need reassurance from people who are established in their careers and aren't my mom.
I have seasonal depression. I've dealt with it for forever and I mostly know how to deal with it. However, I can curate flawless armor and it still sometimes comes crashing down. My past 24 hours consisted of lifting challenging weights, doing a friend a favor by driving them to the airport, reading a good book, going to bed early, getting up to take the dog on a walk, sitting in front of my sun lamp, some brief dog cuddle time, biking to work, not procrastinating online and working hard all morning. Good diet (no sugar, no alcohol), lots of exercise, lots of purpose. It's freaking Friday and I have a fun and frugal weekend planned. And still. I was crying in the bathroom at work by 9:30 am.
This is something that happens. I've spent my whole life desperately trying to hide it while I'm at work. But around 11am today, my boss called me in to his office, closed the door, and asked if I was okay. I opened my mouth to deflect like I always do, but instead I had a stealth attack of emotion and suddenly I was sobbing in front of him.
I. am. so. embarrassed.
I'm a 29 year old woman who is pretty well respected. I work hard to put together a professional demeaner in meetings because it does not come naturally to me. My boss thinks I'm fabulous and is (was?) grooming me for leadership positions. I am not so interested in that, but I want to be a noted analyst in my field. I have never cried in front of a boss before.
I ended up admitting I had seasonal depression but reassuring him I was okay and deflecting the converation back to work as soon as I was able. He let me and I think we will both pretend this never happened. He did offer whatever concessions I needed (telework, personal days), which was kind, but I would really prefer he not know and still think of me as a competent professional woman who is NOT prone to emotional outbursts.
I was horrified that he noticed me being depressed at all, but when I said something about it affecting my work, he assured me he didn't think that at all and had just seen me down / red-eyed for days. I know depression is not something to be ashamed of but I am ashamed that my boss knows.
Can someone please reassure me that I did not just destroy my image in the eyes of my boss, and serve as an embarrassment to women everywhere? He's a great boss, but he is new to managing, so I probably am the first employee he has ever had crying in his office. Especially over something hard to comprehend like depression.