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These have all been really great, funny, brutally honest & that is something that I appreciate fellow Mustachians! Thank you for the support & face punches.
Here is my plan:
From now until our trip, taper off communication & contact. I won't make myself available. Keep in mind this is a team trip to nationals. I will still see her at practices between now and then. We were the top team out of 150+ teams in our region and this is pretty much a once in a lifetime experience. I don't want to create drama around my teammates or have them taking sides, asking questions, or using it as an excuse to not play us in matches, etc.. After nationals, the season is over and we won't have reason to see each other anymore. It's been a dream of mine to go and I'm not going to let anyone ruin the experience.
Literally the day after I come back from nationals (11/14), tell her...
1. I need space and time to get over her
2. Ask her to come get her things out of the apartment (if she hasn't done so on her own prior to that).
3. Give me back my key/leave it behind when she gets her stuff
3a. She hasn't used it since the breakup or showed up randomly
4. Friendship/'whatever this is' = effectively over
4a. (bash me for this) Add clause about "if you decide you made a mistake, let me know"
5. Change social media status to single. Don't care if people talk. I don't owe them an explanation.
6. For the rest of the year, just keep working on myself. My contract for my job is up Jan 20th, 2017. Near that time I'll reach out to my recruiter and see if there are any local opportunities. If not, relocate and make it an even cleaner break.
I'll probably post an update in my journal next month about it.
Believe me, it isn't hard for me to find partners. Last time I was single, my buddies joked that I "Get more ass than a toilet seat." I guess there are worse outcomes than that ;p