Author Topic: Continue or Stop Seeing Group of Friends  (Read 1331 times)

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Continue or Stop Seeing Group of Friends
« on: October 03, 2016, 02:43:15 PM »
Last year I met a group of friends (8 core people) through a hiking meetup group. Since then, the two that I was closest with have gone back to live overseas.

I'd never hang out with the remaining 6 people one on one, only in group situations. I could never see myself becoming really close friends with any of them. My preference for friends and time spent with them is to have a few very close friends and not many acquaintances.

The things they invite me to now don't really interest me an awful lot anymore.

Should I just stop seeing them and find new groups and close friends instead?

I'm 27 and since leaving university, haven't made any more lifelong friends.

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Re: Continue or Stop Seeing Group of Friends
« Reply #1 on: October 03, 2016, 03:48:33 PM »
It is hard to make friends post-university and outside of the workplace.  In the case you've described, I think if you're not interested in spending time with them, then I'd slowly edge my way out of the group.  Now, if 1-2 look promising or you have shared interests, then I'd try to do some activities with them individually to see if you really do have things in common. 

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Re: Continue or Stop Seeing Group of Friends
« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2016, 01:04:33 AM »
If you don't like the people you hike with, why would you hang out with them?  I find that most of my groups of friends have a few who are awesome, and some that are just ok. I've never felt bad about letting the 'ok' ones go.  I can't imagine feeling pressured into hanging out with them if the activities nor the people interested me.