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dividendsplease

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Advice needed on my work situation
« on: January 14, 2017, 06:11:38 AM »
Hi all...need some advice on work.
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Re: Advice needed on my work situation
« Reply #1 on: January 14, 2017, 07:09:18 AM »
Wow! First off, early congratulations to you & your family on your upcoming baby being born! Family first! Geesh, your employer needs a face punch. My vote is contact that recruiter lickty split. Keep it on the down low. Businesses will use & abuse unfortunately. I worked two jobs for one pay for 18 months after a co-worker went out on extended leave. I was almost to the end of my MMM plan for FIRE so I stuck it out. The agency was shocked when I quit. There are jobs out there! I suggest put together an exit strategy and land a better gig where you are appreciated.

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Re: Advice needed on my work situation
« Reply #2 on: January 14, 2017, 11:35:50 AM »
Yeah, don't go to HR unless you have incontrovertible evidence that your boss is a pedophile or Islamic extremist about to blow up the building or something similar.    HR will choose the company over you unless the situation would be so damaging to the company that they have to do something.

Planning an exit strategy should be first on your list.    Life is way to short to work for d**heads.  I have twice left companies after similar periods of time with no long term repercussions, so don't get too bent about this.

Second, when your little one arrives, you're not going to be able to put in 55 hour work weeks.    Can your boss fire you or would this leave an irrecoverable hole in his team?    If not, plan on a calm, passive aggressive strategy at work.    Do the stuff that's the most important.   Stay frosty.    Get home and support DW at a reasonable time.   It's just a job, and apparently not a very good one.

If your job is at risk, do you have a good supply of FU money?    Reconcile yourself to spending this if necessary.    If employment laws are reasonably pro-employee investigate how to get the most out of the company in the event your position is terminated.    Consider an employment lawyer.

What about parental leave legislation?   Some areas  have mandatory parental leave law - if you apply for parental leave the company has to approve it.

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Re: Advice needed on my work situation
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2017, 04:32:48 PM »
I feel for you. What a horrible situation and such timing! How is your FU money situation? I'd be inclined to cut back to the minimum at work and take every minute of parental leave you are entitled to. You don't care about the job anyway and this is a crazy important time in your personal life. I really needed every moment my husband was at home when our baby was born and you really want to be there (or should :)). You being gone for family leave may be the final kick in their shorts to get a replacement hired. You may be able to return to your real job faster this way!

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Re: Advice needed on my work situation
« Reply #4 on: January 16, 2017, 06:44:38 PM »
Your boss is an asshole and you should leave. I've worked for idiots in my life but I draw the line at assholes. Do you know your boss's boss at all?

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Re: Advice needed on my work situation
« Reply #5 on: January 16, 2017, 07:36:10 PM »
Obligatory reference: anything work related, check out Ask A Manager's blog. Highly helpful. and there's a Friday open thread that you can post on and hopefully get some suggestions. No swearing though, sorry.

and congrats on the baby!