I work in a church ... therefore I deal with a lot of requests for money.
Thought I'd share with you what happened today. Last week a man came in looking for help - a common story of coming to town for a job interview, having lost a wallet (or having it stolen) and needing money for the bus to go to a nearby town - $21. The first time he came in I told him (truthfully) that I didn't have any money with me, nor do we keep cash around to give out. But that I could give him a gift card so he could at least get a meal, and local transit tokens. He came back a couple days later, and just wanted to talk. He didn't ask me for money that time, just for prayer. We talked for a while, he told me about his life, and I felt moved to take a chance on him - got some money and gave him $25. I intended this to come from my personal funds, but my boss said I could get reimbursed from his discretionary fund. Today the man returned. He had gotten the job, worked over the weekend, and came in to return the money I'd given him.
I'm not sure what the moral of the story is ... maybe just the fact that it's good to remember that people looking for money are still people, with a story of their own - usually quite a sad one, even if the version you hear may not be the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth :-) I think there are times when it's good to draw a firm line, and times when it's good to take a chance. Even if he hadn't been telling the truth, I felt it was the right thing to do - a witness to the fact that someone cared what happened to him. But boy, did it ever feel good to see him walk into the building, cleaned up and dressed professionally, with money in his hand to repay someone who had helped him out. I've asked him to keep in touch, and I really hope that he does ...