Great post. Thanks for sharing it here; doubt I'd have seen it otherwise.
We pulled off FIRE in our 30s (my husband and I were both 38 at the time), and we fit the pattern the writer describes. Both of us were engineers, and I grew up in Detroit with immigrant parents from Poland. That blog post describes much of my childhood perfectly.
By the time I was 18, living completely on my own and paying for everything (as I was reasonably expected to do), working three jobs and all that, I was simply perplexed by the behavior of my peers who racked up credit card debt and routinely asked their parents for money. I was even more surprised when their parents just handed it over.
I continue to be surprised about the lack of Creativity (the C in the author's clever CRAP acronym) I see in friends who claim they can't stand their debt or their job, and proceed to do nothing about it. This is because I grew up in an area where EVERY household had at least ONE side hustle, even the ones that were fairly comfortable. My friend's family, for instance, was considered well off because they owned a few laundromats. They had a bigger, nicer house, did not struggle, etc. Well, Mom and Ciocia (auntie) still took in ironing. Everyone around us took in sewing, or baked custom birthday cakes, or sold ceramics, or painted houses or decorative wall stencils, or did car repair on the side, or ALL of these things, in addition to their jobs, just so they could struggle a little bit less and put away a little more savings. Thank God for their example.
I most loved the part about the author's dad reminding her about family in China when she didn’t want to move. That’s an aspect of parenting that I feel has gone out the window, in the U.S. at least. On the few occasions my brother or I whined about something (which was rare, by our own and my parents’ recollections, as most of the time we knew better than to complain and add to our parents’ stress level) one or both of my parents would be all “Look. Here’s the deal.”
They didn’t constantly share adult information with us about how hard things were, but neither did they hide things or lie to us. They leveled with us when it mattered, and even said things that — by today’s standards — would probably earn them a visit from Child and Family Services: “You’re NOT the most important person in this equation” and “Your family still in Poland has it a lot worse than you, so you need to be quiet.”