Author Topic: Wife Doesn’t Let Me Feed Newborn at Night  (Read 4010 times)

Laura33

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Re: Wife Doesn’t Let Me Feed Newborn at Night
« Reply #50 on: April 22, 2019, 09:02:22 AM »
Congratulations! You've already learned the most important rule of parenting:  flexibility!  Glad things are settling down a bit -- the first couple of weeks are impossible even in the best circumstances.

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Re: Wife Doesn’t Let Me Feed Newborn at Night
« Reply #51 on: April 23, 2019, 12:01:03 PM »
Just to provide an update on this, my wife and I basically realized that trying to indiscriminately block off three hours for her was completely impractical. So we've done the same routine -- I watch baby out in the living room and try to comfort him for as long as possible; but as soon as he's hungry, I get mom.

This has actually resulted in more sleep -- that very last feed around 11:00 or 12:00 is resulting in baby getting full, and he is starting to sleep for 3-4 hours at a time on his own.

My wife is also very sensitive to light, so maybe baby is the same.  So we have been keeping all the windows open all day, and then shutting them around 7:30 or so. Baby is starting to get his days and nights somewhat together -- very active during the day and mostly just eats, poops, and sleeps at night.

Things are going well. Thanks all for all the tips and tricks.

What a great update!  Sounds just right--the little guy soon might give up pooping at night, too.  All my kids switched to pee-only nights after a month or so.

And 3-4 hours from 12 - 4 is fantastic!  Hope you are sleeping out there in the living room and not just sitting up.  The family that sleeps well is happy.

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Re: Wife Doesn’t Let Me Feed Newborn at Night
« Reply #52 on: June 07, 2019, 07:48:33 PM »
Baby needs to nurse on demand, especially during the growth spurts that occur at 2-3 weeks, 6 weeks and 2 months. Baby can’t go 3 hours. Baby is screaming and attacking boobs because he’s hungry. Baby attacking boobs is what will increase milk supply for future growth spurts. Sleep deprivation is part of parenthood. I appreciate you trying to help but if she wants to breastfeed than she needs to buck up and feed the baby.

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Re: Wife Doesn’t Let Me Feed Newborn at Night
« Reply #53 on: June 07, 2019, 07:50:00 PM »
Just saw update so it sounds like you’ve already figured out that out.

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Re: Wife Doesn’t Let Me Feed Newborn at Night
« Reply #54 on: June 07, 2019, 11:56:42 PM »
It no longer sounds environmentally appropriate, but what we did was drive our babies around at night in the car. Also, they slept with us. The breastfeeding parent learned to sleep through a feeding (lying down in bed at night). Also I'm sure you know this but you do want to get that bottle feeding happening fairly soon (with breast milk) or the baby simply won't take a bottle from anyone.