I agree – it is really tight. I know the right answer is to keep working as long as possible, it's just getting so hard, and I also don't want to damage my professional references by hitting a wall and having my quality of work crash and burn. It is already going down, so I worry about this. Right now we're just doing everything we can to try to reduce my stress so I can keep being successful.
Rough budget summary below. If we refinance now with a 3.7% rate the mortgage would drop PMI and go down to $2,200 a month (we are at 20% now but they don’t drop it until 22% or refi). If I work through March of next year and we refi then with a 4% rate, the mortgage would go down to $2,077 including tax and insurance. We could rent a 2 bedroom apartment in this or neighboring zip codes for about $1,800-2,000 a month, not including utilities. When we were in a 1 bedroom we paid about $110 a month for water and about $70 a month for electric. We could rent for less if we moved further from work, family and friends.
I’d like to stay home for 4-5 years – that would put one kid in school and the hypothetical next kid in preschool. I’m not going into what we pay now with added childcare and commuting costs for me working, but if I only worked part time we have family who would watch one kid for free if I got part time and/or contract work here and there.
Rough expenses:
Mortgage (including tax, PMI, homeowners insurance): $2,400
Water: $120 (we already are on the low end of water consumption, dishwasher twice a week, 3-4 loads of laundry a week, short showers etc)
Electric & gas: $90 a month average over summer and winter (use natural light, rarely use furnace)
House - $2,610 (~$2,410 with refi now, ~$2,287 with refi next March)
Food/consumables (includes things like toilet paper, shampoo, etc): $450
Diapers: $40
Kid clothes: $20
Health insurance: $160
Average copays for the year: $8
Car insurance: $110
Gas: $20 (one electric car gets charged at work for free)
Internet: $60
Phones: $160 (smart phones - area to cut)
Expenses: $1,028
Maintenance: $500 a month savings for future roof, furnace, water heater
Next kid: $208
Fun budget (holidays, zoo membership, pool visits): $46
Savings: $754
Total lean expenses: $4,393, $52,716 a year