I have two in college (ages almost 21 and almost 20) and 7 still at home (ages 16, 15, 12, 10, 8, 4, 2). I've been a SAHmom since a month before the first was born. So the self care if definitely necessary!
My faves:
-Bath - lock the door, turn on the fan - quiet!
-Yummy snack that I don't have to share : )
-Cup of tea or hot cocoa - even better when combined with a bath
-Date with DH
-Dinner out - no cooking, no clean up
-Reading
-Monthly phone call to my best friend
-Watching a movie or show after kids are in bed
-Sleeping in on a weekend day
-A day or part of a day to do as I please
-Taking care of a project so it's off the to do list