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jeromedawg

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Potty training and going out?
« on: June 30, 2018, 01:41:49 PM »
Hey all,

We're starting to 'slowly' train our older one with potty training. Honestly, we have no idea what we're doing... he is still wearing diapers and we're at the point where he tells he needs to pee so we'll have him sit on his little trainer toilet and go. He won't go #2 though and continues to #2 in his diaper and doesn't tell us if he needs to go. He'll pretty much only tell us that he needs to pee.

The challenge that we haven't thought much about is how to deal with this when we're out for extended periods of time and don't have his trainer (it's not intended to take with I'm pretty certain, even though it's easy to carry and all plastic - but it would be weird just carrying that around with us wherever we go). My wife was saying to just bring a bottle or jar but I'm not sure how well that would work out LOL. We've tried having him use public restrooms but I think he doesn't like it. The first time he went with my wife and was OK. But when I tried to take him he refused... of course, it was a beach bathroom and was pretty filthy that day so maybe he got grossed out?


Any suggestions and tips on 1) what to do about him learning to #2 in the potty and then 2) what to do about when he says he needs to go while we're out (especially if he's averse to public restrooms).
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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #1 on: June 30, 2018, 01:52:50 PM »
I have a three year old boy in basically the same situation where he's fantastic in regards to #1, but not #2.

Have you tried having him stand up pee? Once my son started doing that, there was no going back to sitting down. My son is small for his age (10th percentile), but he's able to use most urinals if he stands on my shoes. He also thinks the automatic flush sensors are super cool.

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #2 on: July 01, 2018, 02:00:39 PM »
There are small one piece potties you can keep in the car. There are also folding potty seats that you can put right into your diaper bag/tote/large purse. Be sure you have wipes, a plastic bag for wet clothes, and some extra pants.

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #3 on: July 01, 2018, 06:43:45 PM »
Mine will poop on the potty most of the time but not pee. He grunts and carries on when he needs to poop so it is more like EC than actual potty training.Today I left his pants off and put him on the potty every half hour. I tried bribery too. He held it for four hours before peeing on the floor. I have also tried getting him to pee standing up outside. There have been times when he has woken up dry from a nap, sat on the potty and did nothing, then peed in his pull up ten minutes later. He is three years and three months.

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #4 on: July 02, 2018, 06:08:26 AM »
I always kept one of those small one piece potties with me in the car.  That way - I could just pull in anywhere and let the kid use it.  Often - I didn't want the kid using public restroom.  Just too gross and I felt more comfortable doing it this way.  Agree with above poster - this too shall pass.

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #5 on: July 02, 2018, 08:20:17 AM »
Highly recommend reading Oh Crap Potty Training and changing your approach.  The book lays out exactly what to do and covers all sorts of situations.  Available at your library, of course (not a book you necessarily need to own!).  Good luck!

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #6 on: July 02, 2018, 09:04:27 AM »
With regard to getting them to go #2 on the toilet, my wife literally bribed my first born with a cookie if he went #2 on the toilet.  At the time I was against it and started forcasting that it would escalate into me having to buy him a car to go to college.  It worked and she only had to do it one time and show him that he could do it.  We have not have to bribe him or his two siblings since.  I think he would have eventually been able to do it on his own, but getting to out of diapers is worth a dozen cookies in my opinion.


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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #7 on: July 02, 2018, 11:54:12 AM »
Heh heh- my older son absolutely refused to do either #1 or #2 anywhere but in his own little potty for something like 6-8 months. We either had to bring his potty with him (fine for a trip to grandma but difficult anywhere else) or let him wear a pullup. Would not even stand and pee. It was incredibly frustrating even though I knew that this too would pass.  Then one day, the contractor who was working on our house brought over a Dons Johns for his workers and put it in the yard. My son decided that he had to try going potty there- and afterwards he suddenly had no fear of "foreign" potties.
   

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #8 on: July 02, 2018, 12:06:11 PM »
I would also recommend the book Oh Crap Potty Training. We followed that approach with both my children and it worked great.

For a little while after we potty trained, I would carry the little plastic training potty in our car if we were going on a longer drive or somewhere where there may not be a toilet nearby, since even after they are potty trained you sometimes only have short notice before they need to go. We have pulled over on the side of the road or in empty parking lots to let our toddlers out of the car and have them go on the little training potty. Then simply pour the pee out in the grass or a nearby bush and wipe the potty down with a lysol wipe. Though it's not meant to be a travel potty, there's no reason why it can't be brought along in the beginning while they're newly potty trained.

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #9 on: July 02, 2018, 06:31:14 PM »
Highly recommend reading Oh Crap Potty Training and changing your approach.  The book lays out exactly what to do and covers all sorts of situations.  Available at your library, of course (not a book you necessarily need to own!).  Good luck!

Thanks! I just placed a hold on the book. For the Los Angeles Public Libraries there are 15 ppl ahead of me waiting for the audiobook and 30 ahead of me waiting for the ebook :T By the time I actually have it, he'll be done LOL. For the Orange County Public Libraries, they just don't have the book available at all. I guess this book is super popular :T
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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #10 on: July 02, 2018, 07:54:37 PM »
We are also in the process of potty training. At home and at daycare DD wears undies and if they get wet we change. If we are headed out for a shorter excursion (library, store, anything 1-2 hour  MAX) we go right before we leave and then bring a change of clothes. For longer car rides, airplane we just used a diaper.   Haven't had too much of an issue wtih public restrooms.  I just put her on the toilet sideways and hold her. It might help that at home she uses the adult toilet. I've never seen the point in those separate pottys. The goal is to NOT deal with my kids pee and poop if possible! We got this from amazon. Not only do you not have to deal with the pee the kid gets used to the normal toilet.

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Re: Potty training and going out?
« Reply #11 on: July 03, 2018, 09:06:30 AM »
I had a foldable potty seat for my kids - https://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/store/product/primo-folding-potty-seat-with-handles/1014909486?skuId=14909486&mcid=PS_googlepla_nonbrand_baby_online&product_id=14909486&adtype=pla&product_channel=online&adpos=1o4&creative=224283462376&device=c&matchtype=&network=g&mrkgadid=627320123&mrkgcl=609&rkg_id=h-770b64cd79e61a3152d280f3adfcd420_t-1530630243&gclid=Cj0KCQjwvezZBRDkARIsADKQyPmxmwJ3K_eaTBfg4M-TQyBWS0-gNcX_rjrldOjTsO7a0I9vW_7eyMEaAo1PEALw_wcB

My daughter was great about using this with the store toilets.  My son was TERRIFIED of store restrooms.  Absolutely terrified.  The toilets were bigger and the flush sound was so loud that it made him cry.  [We found out later that he should have had tubes in his ears from toddlerhood - the store potties were the only ones he could hear flush, and he didn't think that toilets were supposed to do that.  He thought it was going to eat him.]

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