getting kids to love chores , great npr article

[letsdoit]

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2018/06/09/616928895/how-to-get-your-kids-to-do-chores-without-resenting-it

[The_Dude]

Interesting.  Thanks for sharing.

[nessness]

Great article, and something I need to do be better about - I tend to do a lot of chores when my kids are sleeping or out of the house.

I've done better at letting them help with cooking and caring for our pets, and it's starting to pay off - yesterday we had scrambled eggs for dinner and my 3.5-year-old cracked and stirred all the eggs, and this morning she scooped the right amount of food into each dog's bowl, told her 1.5-year-old sister which dog it was for, and the 1.5-year-old passed them out.

[StarBright]

We had an amazing daycare that had children helping as one of their core tenants.  Kids helped clean up the lunch table every day starting around 18 months old. As a result I have a six and four year old who don't even think twice about clearing their dishes. We also were very clear from a young age about putting coats, bookbags, shoes etc away as soon as we get home. It is another thing that has become incredibly routine for them.

We have not been good at incorporating this into dishes, laundry or keeping bedrooms cleaned. We definitely need to be better about it. Thanks for sharing the article.

I also just read the book "How to be a Happier Parent" and it had a solid chapter on doing chores as well. HTBAHP, was an awesome book, by the way. It was both non-judgmental and helpful at the same time.

[RelaxedGal]

Great article, and something I need to do be better about - I tend to do a lot of chores when my kids are sleeping or out of the house.

Amen!  I was talking to my 7 year old last night.  I said "I read an article today about getting you to do more chores.  It said I should let you do more chores when you want to, like washing the windows and peeling the carrots."  She said "Can I peel carrots now?"  I said "No, you need to do your homework."  Earlier in the week when she wanted to wash the windows I yelled at her, "Stop, stop STOP!  You need to eat breakfast so you can brush your teeth and get your shoes on for school, stop cleaning the windows!"

[mntnmn117]

Its great getting those kids to work. We've been doing a chore/allowance type system and it would fall apart because my wife was too busy to make new chore lists every week.

We finally figured out that administration of the system could be a chore itself. Once its up and running instead of Mom checking things off and hanging the list, the 8 year old does that. Plus I like transitioning chores from manual labor to managerial/accounting skills.

[aimz28]

Great article. My boys are 2 and 4 so they are still in this window. I hadn't thought about rewards undermining their willingness to help, but it makes a lot of sense. I think we do a decent job involving them, but usually I ask them to clean up before I let them do something they want to do like watch TV.

[PrfromTexas]

@hireessaywriter
Its great getting those kids to work. We've been doing a chore/allowance type system and it would fall apart because my wife was too busy to make new chore lists every week.

We finally figured out that administration of the system could be a chore itself. Once its up and running instead of Mom checking things off and hanging the list, the 8 year old does that. Plus I like transitioning chores from manual labor to managerial/accounting skills

It has always been a challenge for me to make kids to something. My research work or some scientific articles do have more success.
I was trying to get my grand kids to do chores without hating (me) and the only thing that made them actually help us about the house was letting them play computer games afterwards.
But the worst thing - they are now ready (and know how to) bargain and get what they want... Seems that I have lost the authoritative vector in my pursuit of discipline..