I want to take our daughter out of private school. My wife does not. In fact, we were both on the same page until just recently.
Back when I made
this post, I managed to get my wife on-board with getting into public school. The problem is that we live in a zone that is served by a very crumby school. They do poorly on tests, parents have bad things to say, communication is lacking (I have heard stories, and I've even tried to contact the school myself), they've had issues with needles being found in bushes from street-involved individuals, etc. I definitely don't want my child going there.
So we went onto Schooldigger.com and Greatschools.com and explored. We found some good ones in other neighborhoods with homes that wouldn't raise our rent. We went to a new families open house at one of the schools, and were very excited. The school looked great! And their communication has been awesome!
Then, just yesterday, the private school that our child goes to awarded us
another $3,375 in financial assistance, bringing the monthly cost
down to $612/month. Normal tuition is $1,750/month. (Ridiculous, I know.) This got my wife very excited. And myself as well, admittedly.
But when I express my concerns, she will not listen. She says that because her parents failed at providing her a stable childhood and the support that she needed (she moved more than 18 times before she turned 18), that this is something that we
have to do. I feel that she is completely disregarding my own upbringing. When I was five, my left eye got poked out and a surgical implant was put in. This took out any future of playing sports. So I never played sports. Also, my parents were Jehovah's Witnesses, so I never spent time with children outside of school, and I never got holidays, birthdays, etc. However, I don't bring that up in my argument, because I don't think that matters as much as the fact that
I am a better parent than mine were. I read books on parenting. My child trusts me. I have spearheaded our financial triumphs. I am teaching my daughter to read, because in her private school they don't start until first grade (which I understand, but she asked me to teach her).
Sorry, guys, I feel like I'm just rambling now. I'm not sure what to do at this point.
My wife wrote me an email and expects a reply. I refuse to do so, because I don't email my spouse. She feels like I'm not sympathizing, but I'm actually just weighing the pros and cons. I actually pride myself on being able to put myself on each side of any argument. It's why I've changed my views on some things in the past.
Guess I'm just looking for some sympathy of my own on this one, because at this point, it looks like we're going to continue to not have health insurance or be able to save 30% of our income like we'd planned if she'd gone to public...
edit: To clarify...
I've tried reminding her about how excited we were to be able to invest some of this money into our daughter's hobbies, allowing her to explore her individuality (she wants to do more art, wants to learn to play violin, etc.). While the private school does a lot of these things (much more than the public schools around here), they still come at a cost. And what if she wants to explore something that the private school does not offer (pretty much anything science-related)?