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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #50 on: December 14, 2017, 09:40:18 PM »
Personally, I'd put the baby boy to bed in pink PJs and not think twice about it ... but for a big item like a coat that's going to be used daily for months, I'd go to the consignment shop and buy something more boy-oriented for about $5.  I'd rather dress a boy like a boy most of the time, but I don't go much for political correctness. 

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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #51 on: January 21, 2018, 03:29:16 PM »
Reviving this thread as some friends had a baby on the weekend.

I grinned when they sent me a photo of their newborn daughter wrapped in a blue blanket.

They also contacted people personally, and asked everyone to keep it off social until they had finished letting people know.

The whole just came across as being big on love and low on fuss.

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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #52 on: February 04, 2018, 05:14:40 AM »
If cost is the problem then sell the pink one and buy a used one for boys.
How hard can that be?

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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #53 on: February 05, 2018, 10:22:38 AM »
Our two adopted kids (boy and girl) same age, wore each others clothes until they were 5.  Even then, they shared about 50% of clothing.  Solid colored shorts and jeans go both ways.  I didn't hear any judgement.  I stopped at 5 b/c they were growing at different rates.  Seriously, unless parents point it out, kids have no idea what they're wearing until kindergarten.

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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #54 on: February 08, 2018, 09:54:16 AM »
... kids have no idea what they're wearing until kindergarten.

Me: "But it's a girl fire truck! Driven by princesses!"

2 year old daughter: "NO! Want dress."

As always with kids, your mileage will vary. As soon as she developed verbal abilities, my daughter rebelled against the cultural expectations of the patriarchy, ie her older brother, and was much less willing to play fighter jet with him 24x7, wear his cast-offs, etc.


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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #55 on: February 08, 2018, 10:24:04 AM »
My kiddo also had strong preferences by 2. Cars and more cars and glitter and pink and purple :) At 19 he still likes cars and glitter and pink and purple. He and his long-time girlfriend often have matching nail polish and matching Converse high tops.

Now that my child is an adult and the years of having to explain conformity to a kindergartner are over, I have to admit that some of my favorite parenting moments have been when other adults make snarky comments about my kid's clothing or hair (he often has preferred long hair) then do a total turnaround once they get to know him. I've heard SO many times over the years, "I wasn't sure about him at first, I mean, you know, the way he looks/dresses, but he is the most polite and well-spoken kid my kid is friends with. He helped with the dishes! I can't even get my kids to do that!"

Yeah, funny thing, when you worry about how to help kids be better humans instead of worrying what freaking color they are wearing things turn out ok ;)
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Re: Boys wearing "girls" clothing - how much judgment is there, really?
« Reply #56 on: February 08, 2018, 12:15:52 PM »

Yeah, funny thing, when you worry about how to help kids be better humans instead of worrying what freaking color they are wearing things turn out ok ;)

Sweet.

My oldest son wore a water fairy costume to school for Halloween when he was five.  He had been planning to go as Darth Vader, but decided on the change that morning because "the mask is uncomfortable, Mom.  I'll just be a water fairy."  The fairy costume was plain blue, and it was montessori school, and the boys in his class had no issues with it.  The MOMS and the GIRLS, on the other hand, made it known that they were not happy with it.  I found that amusing.  His (boy) friends kept saying to the girls, "you know there are boy fairies--you've seen Tinkerbell's friends!"