Recently a friend at work as complaining about his new truck payments and how he can't wait for that to be paid off, how he won't be able to retire for at least another 10 years or more (he's late 50s), etc... This is one of the guys I talk to regularly at work and over the years have occasionally hung out or help each other with things after work. I didn't say anything about the truck, as I already pointed out long ago how silly it was to borrow money for a brand new truck (he had a perfectly good truck, and car). I did mention that I'd like to try to retire in maybe 20 years around age 50, as it's been on my mind a lot lately. He looked at me like I was crazy, as if I told him pigs can fly and leprechauns live in the basement laying easter eggs, and asked how the heck I was gonna do that. Told him I'm used to paying a couple grand a month in student loans and being poor so maybe in a couple years when I'm debt free I'll just put most of that into savings for retirement every month.
Since I consider him a friend he knows I have huge student loan debt and make huge payments on it so that was no surprise to him, he has been sympathetic to my venting previously, as I have to his venting. The mention of redirecting debt payments to savings when the debt is gone though, wow that brought out a bunch of anger and defensiveness. First was "I'm not poor, I have a good life and I've never lived poor or had it bad, in fact we live good, very good!" then comments about how they must pay me real well and so forth, real resentful as if I suddenly became part of some exclusive club. He knows I'm not any more happy at work than him or others, he knows I'm paid way under market rate for what I do but afraid to take a chance on another job because of my huge debt. We're probably similar pay, but I suspect he makes a little more than me. I was just shocked at how quickly the anger and resentment came out.
I've been stupid with money in the past, mainly going to school, and I still have some luxuries that I probably shouldn't but eliminating them doesn't significantly alter my time to debt free but I don't borrow money for any of those luxuries. I'm new to the FIRE concept as before it has just been dig out of debt. Now that I optimized a few things there is some light at the end of the tunnel and RE sounds good as a long term goal. I don't want to be an angry bitter 60 year old hating work every day and complaining about how I'll never be able to retire. If I still work then I want it to be my choice of what/when/where and not dictated by consumer debt. I didn't say all that to him, just that I'd like to retire somewhere before a "normal" retirement age, but I think I'll be a little more careful with who I share my thoughts or goals with as some "friends" are not so friendly when you want to better yourself. I was surprised one of the few people I'm more comfortable and open with at work lashed out over something that doesn't affect him at all.
Anyone else have similar experiences? Or even any positive reactions?