I agree that buying the wrong house or buying too much house is a bad idea, but buying a house overall is a great investment:
- We bought our first house the week we were married. It was a small house in an economical area. It cost 71K (we're talking about the 90s). Over eleven years we paid that off. It wasn't a financial difficulty, and at the same time we were able to max out our 401Ks, create an emergency fund, and save for two college educations for the two children who were born during those years.
- Selling it WAS a bit of a hassle, but we walked away with money. If we'd been renting all that time, we'd have had only a pile of rent receipts. We had the use of the house all those years, and then we walked away with more money than we put in -- where's the problem with that?
- We've never had a mortgage on our current house. When we sell it, again we'll have money out of the house. Because the area has grown up so much, the value has increased -- we will definitely see a profit when we sell. We're planning to build a retirement house for ourselves in a few years, and our best estimate is that it'll "cost" our current house + about 25K. That's easier to stomach than paying for the new build outright.
- Over the years we've had more space than a typical apartment. Our children have always had their own rooms (painted in the colors they prefer) and a bathroom to share. They've always had a yard in which to play. In our second house we have a den and an office/playroom, which has been nice as the kids have grown up and have had friends over. We've always had a larger kitchen and a walk-in pantry, which makes cooking at home more pleasant. We've been able to have pets -- big dogs! We've not put up with shared parking and neighbor-noise. In short, we've lived in more comfortable spaces because we've owned a house. It's hard to put a number on this.
- We've never moved to jobs in another location, so being tied down hasn't been an issue for us.
- Both of our houses have been solid brick homes with good windows, doors, etc. At times we've had repairs -- a new roof, replacement of carpet -- but those things still don't add up to what we would've paid in rent over the years. Nor have those chores been super-time consuming. Being in the South, our taxes aren't horrible.
- You can argue about investing the money you aren't spending . . . but most people aren't going to do that. Most people are going to spend whatever they have.
In closing, I agree that owning a mortgage isn't a great deal, but owning a house outright is a great investment. Every couple years my husband is concerned about being laid off -- knowing that our housing is paid for makes that possibility easier to face. We could survive on just my teacher salary. More than dollars and cents, the sense of security that comes with owning your home outright is priceless; having grown up a poor kid without a feeling that tomorrow'll be okay, that makes a big difference to me.