Okay! Feedback heard loud and clear.
Sorry for taking such personal offense
@sol and I also appreciate your gentle response when you were probably pretty pissed off at me :-)
I think I have a soft shell on the issue of ethics about running this website, because I'm VERY aware of the potential conflict of interest between having people's attention (and sometimes even trust), and abusing it for the sake of making money. So I have really tried not to abuse it.
At the same time, I have felt really good about some of the things that earning money post-retirement has allowed me to do, and also kind of proud that my family and I have not inflated our lifestyles beyond what we could have afforded pre-blog. So I do want the site (and/or any eventual book, or maybe some other future projects) to continue to earn money. It's a useful tool for an idealistic person who likes big long-term plans.
So I do my best, and valid criticism is accepted, and misguided accusations seem to hurt quite a bit - at least from actual forum members here.
Aside from that, Sol and I probably just have different styles, and that is fine with me if it's fine with everyone else.
I personally feel like everyone should be super polite to each other on the Internet, never throw the first insult, never speculate aloud about negative motivations of people you don't know, and assume the best, or if that doesn't work, just take separate paths. But I'm not the Internet Police, so off I go to get back to some construction - it's a sunny day here in Colorado :-)