I have a pile of 3/4 black iron pipe clamps.
As to your questions:
1) I use regular threaded couplers (mine happen to be galvanized) that are available with the pipe in any big box store.
2) I have done nothing to the pipes to make them smoother. I do scrape off what gets on them (wood filler, glue, polyurethane adhesive, ect.) They have gotten a little smoother with use, but I never felt that I needed to smooth the pipes; that might vary by brand for clamping mechanism.