I’m not sure if I understand what you are asking. But I think your question may be addressed by the book I am currently reading, the Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again by Catherine Price. She starts off by talking about how a lot of us spend a lot of our free time on our phones, social media, binge watching tv, and other forms of what she calls “fake fun.” Too much fake fun can leave you feeling empty inside.
She argues that true fun is the intersection of connection with other people, flow, and playfulness. I’m only about halfway through the book but she offers exercises to help you explore discovering your unique conditions for creating more true fun in your life. It’s a great read so far!