We used to do the 60+ mile commutes when our kids were young--close to 2 decades ago. I agree with previous poster; after a while it can be really draining; people are just so tired at the end of the day with long commutes. We finally moved and bought a house close to where my husband's employer is located. Now my husband has a very short 10-minute round-trip "commute" each day. I do think it really helped us financially, as well as mentally, long-term. Once you start paying down your credit and loans and start getting closer to financial independence, you might want to look at another job/position closer to home. From the other posts, sounds like you can knock this debt down in about 5 years.
As for the post on the fast food, typical meal cost to pick up fast food for the four of you is costing around $25. The thing about fast food is that you can pretty much make the same "fast food" meal at home for half the cost. Buy a small fryer; they don't cost very much. You can make french fries, onion rings, whatever it is you like in the fryer. You will need to change the oil in it regularly, but it's very handy when neither of you has the energy to cook a meal after a long commute. Try out some of the different frozen chicken sandwiches, nuggets, etc., and see which ones you like. Some of the frozen pizzas are fairly decent also at a fraction of the cost of what you would pay at a pizza place. Just try them out and see which ones you like. That way when you do find one you like, stock up on them, so you will have them for those nights neither of you feels like cooking. Remember, baby steps. You will eventually find ways to simplify meal prep. Do some prepping of meats on the weekends. Make up some soups which can be frozen. One of the easiest types of soups to do is the "dump" soups. If you don't want to make from scratch or simply are hindered by lack of time, simply buy several varieties of canned chili, chicken noodle soup, etc. You can then take the cans of the chili, let's say, and dump them together, heat, and you have an easy meal. Have a salad with it. Leftovers go to work with you for a meal or freeze. As you start prepping more meals at home, I do believe you will eventually switch over to homemade foods. It will take some time to get there, but you will be on your way. There are lots of ways to do this.