I'm sure I am repeating the advice of some others, but...
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Monthly take-home pay: 7712
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Grand total spending: 4280
Leftover: 3432
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Includes a parking spot and all the things I consider must-haves (dishwasher, in-suite laundry, walk to grocery store, gym, pet-friendly, transit-central). Basically, we are happy where we are and finding a cheaper place in this market would likely be impossible.
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Eating out: coffee shops are a big part of this. My partner gets lattes during the work day probably 3-4x per week; to him it is worth it. I usually have Starbucks 2x per week as a “treat”. I have an espresso machine at home but only use it on weekends as it doesn’t work for me to take a hot beverage on transit. We don’t do expensive restaurant meals and typically the rest of the eating out budget goes to partner’s lunches (maybe 2x per week), the occasional fast-food craving, and weekend date meals (maybe $40-$50 2x per month). Help?
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Misc: this is what gets me (and a lot of people I would bet). It is the Amazon purchases, the drug store purchases, Ikea, activities, entertainment, etc. I used to get fixated on things that I “needed” but have made some good progress I think and pared this kind of shopping down considerably. But there are still things that pop up, e.g. a bike rack, hiking gear, etc. etc. On the one hand these are mostly things that we use and fill a need, but on the other hand I struggle to differentiate between things that will improve and add to our lives and things that will just become clutter. Any input on this?
Looking at this, it probably seems like I’m making a lot of excuses for our spending. That is probably true. Basically I’m looking for input on whether our spending seems right for how we enjoy living our lives, or whether we should approach things from a different angle. We obviously aren’t super mustachian, and it’s only thanks to our incomes that we are saving >3k/month.
Sometimes I shoot myself in the foot with thinking like “hey look how much we have saved, it’s fine if I reward myself with x item, it only costs $$, a drop in the bucket”. How do you avoid this type of thinking and avoid buying things you don’t really need, even when you can “afford” it?
How do you guys get past "well we saved >3k this month so that's great" mindset and move toward more hardcore saving?
So, if the higher earner were to fall ill and stop earning, what would your savings look like at this spending rate? What looks like a great savings rate now with both 1 and 2 working full-time might not look so good (or might be in the red) if 1 needed to take an extended leave of absence to care for an ailing family member or 2 got fed up with the boss and quit without another job lined up or your first kid is born special-needs or really ill and one of you REALLY needs to stay home with the child. I think that helps combat the "look how much we've saved" mentality. Looking through the forums, it's crazy to see how many people get hit with big things and suddenly no longer have even half the earning power that they had previously. It does happen, and your disability insurance may not agree about whether you still need payouts.
I know it's a pain to cook and clean up, but you two have a dishwasher! I am so jealous. That makes everything faster. There are a lot of people who do big batch cooking on the weekends, crockpot meals that just require some chopping the night before and pushing a button in the morning, and tasty tasty leftovers. As you learn to cook, adding foreign foods to your repertoire can help keep food interesting. And yes, as you are teaching yourself to cook, you are going to have a lot of bland, mediocre meals. That is okay, and you will become a better cook over time. I like the websites
budgetbytes and
AllRecipes.
Budgetbytes recipes are usually very simple, Beth actually cooks everything and eats it (which some websites don't!), and she prices out everything she makes.
AllRecipes recipes have a lot of reviews that will give you an idea of what things don't work for people ("Recipe calls for 2 tsp salt, but that was too salty. Used 1 tsp the 2nd time and it was great!" "This was bland until I added 2x the chili powder and a splash of lemon juice. Also, don't cook for the full hour or it will burn.").
So what if your coffee gets cold? Stick it in the microwave at work. Or get a cheapo coffee maker to keep at work. Or make cold-brew coffee in the fridge the night before and take it with you in a travel mug/thermos/old pasta sauce jar. And ask your partner if he would drink the same in place of lattes if you made it. Honestly, I can't imagine burning that much
time in trips to Starbucks, much less money.
How well are you tracking expenses? Can you go back and add up your multiple-times-per-week Starbucks "treats" for the last year?
Also, if you give an approximate location in Canada, more posters will be able to give you location-specific advice on cell and internet providers.
Biking to work is another one that should be so easy but I just haven't figured it out. I mostly wear skirts at work so this requires a full wardrobe change, not to mention trying to pack clothes + lunch + work I took home every day.
I track everything (including all "misc" purchases) which is easy as we use credit cards, but still struggle with the "how do I avoid buying this" question when I find something I think I need. I can go a couple months and then I think I get bored and buy things as a way of adding something new to my life, idk.
Put bicycle shorts under your skirt. Done! :) Make sure they are long enough that it is obvious you are not showing off your undies to everyone, haha.
If you take work home anyway, can you arrange to work from home X days per week? That will cut transportation costs and maybe dog walking costs as well.
Would you and your SO be able to agree on fun-money budgets for each of you? His could cover work lunches, shoes, lattes, etc, while yours would cover lattes, misc. Amazon, and nice-but-not-really-needed household stuff.
And, just curious: Are your playoff sports hockey? Do you know what channels you would have without cable and whether that would cover hockey/other sport? I remember when I was growing up the kids with cable were so confused that my family still had some television stations even though we didn't have cable. My mom was still able to watch all the professional football games without cable. I would guess that there are non-cable stations in your HCOL in Canada, at least CBC.