It would help a lot for those making suggestions if you listed everything. It's hard to show how things can swing in your favor without. At least list net income and net expenses with your various categories. There's a case study sheet that will help you do that. But for an example of what's missing, you list your total credit card debt but not what you pay monthly on it.
Anyhow, based on your list's higher ends, you have an outflow of $5685 per month. Assuming a generic 20% interest and a 4% minimum payment on the cards, that's another $480 per month. So you're looking at about $6165 per month, unless there are other things not listed. Your gross salary is $9250 per month, but taxes will take a bite out of that. Given kids and all their tax implications, I'm not going to guess how much. What's your take home look like?
Low hanging fruit from what you've posted - sell the Honda, replace with a cheap car. You're upside down, so you may need to save towards this for a little bit. Given that you're $3k upside down on the Acura, it doesn't make a ton of sense to have to pay that now when it's serviceable. It's basically a luxury Accord, so should be reliable. I'd say steal the Acura and make him drive the cheap car, but it probably gets about the same terrible gas mileage the Pilot does. So make the cheap car reasonably reliable and fuel efficient. You should be able to find something reliable with 100k mi around $5-6k that gets ~40 mpg highway.
With the inexpensive car you can cut payment and gas costs. Then once it's paid off, cut insurance costs.
I'm guessing the phone plan is financing phones. Any way out of that? Switch carriers to somebody that'll pay off a phone for switching then buy a bargain phone to replace?
Beyond that, long term plans should motivate short term moves. I wouldn't consider buying a house with that kind of debt on that income. You basically have the equivalent to a mortgage on a first home in my neck of the woods. But probably with worse interest rates. I'd consider moving if you aren't tied to your location and you would end up better off and as stable. If lower pay negates all the lower cost of living, it's a wash and the stress of moving, moving expenses, etc. won't help. Also consider the strength of the job market in each of your locations. How long would it take to find another job after a layoff at each place?
Do the math on public vs. private employment. Depending on your student loan interest rates, you may make way more in the private sector than you'd lose by paying interest, and have a better salary once they're paid, too. By your numbers, if $33k - benefits > extra interest each year, then private would be better. And you could probably draw out student loan payments while you kill the higher interest credit card debt with that extra income, too, making private more attractive to you.