Simply looking at your first post, with the amount of information missing, and seeing you did not follow the "How to post a case study" topic, or really almost any other case study example: you aren't ready. You haven't thought deeply enough about it. Don't commit a "ready, fire, aim" error with a question this big. Stop, take a deep breath, and think about it systematically, in detail. Then, write it all down, again in detail. With your spouse.