Topic Title: Weighing options--what would you do?
Life Situation: Married, in our 40s, young children
Gross Salary/Wages:
Her: $250,000 salary, some side work/dividends
His: Working for equity at a start up
Pre-tax deductions:
$18000 in 401k (her)
~$9000 for health insurance
$6750 for HSA
$8900 to solo 401k (this will vary with the side work income)
Post-tax savings:
$5500 each for back door Roth
$4000 for 529 (we get state income tax deduction)
$6000 for Coverdell ESA
$80000 to taxable account
Other Ordinary Income:
35,000 which is partly consulting and partly dividends from similar organizations. May vary.
Qualified Dividends & Long Term Capital Gains: $10,000 this past year. I don’t think these are regular occurrence. This is from stock in a privately held corporation related to my employment.
Adjusted Gross Income: Roughly indicated above.
Taxes:
Fed: $50000-- this was with-held, but actually owed another $10,000 or so (I had made some significant donations the year before and didn’t have as much side-gig income then either.)
FICA 7000
MEDICARE 3800
State W/H 18200
Current expenses:
Past year 85000
Kids: 26,000 (this is almost all daycare)
Food & Dining (also includes Costco): 12,000
Home: 10,500 (includes home insurance, projects, cleaning)
Financial (life and disability insurance): 6500 (this actually includes 2 years of disability insurance because of how the dates fell on mint. So in a calendar year would be more like $3900)
Gifts and Donations: 5300
Health (Doctor and Dentist): 3900
Shopping: 3200
Utilities/Cell phone: 3200
Cars (gas, insurance, maintenance): 2900
Travel: 1100
Pet: 500
Entertainment: 200
Personal care: 200
Expected ER expenses: Aiming for $60k/yr with paid off house. I know my parents are also saving in 529 for the kids.
Assets:
House--paid for. Purchased for $220k, hopefully could be worth somewhat more.
2 paid for cars
Solo 401k (hers): 203k
Solo 401k (his): 165k
Roth (hers): 148k
Taxable account: 90k
Roth (his): 32k
529: 21k
401a: 4k
Work 401k: 36k
HSA: 23k
Liabilities:
Revolving credit cards being paid off each month.
Specific Question(s): We are very fortunate to have my income. My husband had a regular job when me moved to our present location to be closer to family, and his previous employer were agreeable to his working remotely. His employer was then bought by another company, and his job eliminated. We had hoped it would be relatively easy for him to find remote work, but it was not, and now he is working full time but not making any money. He does get stock options,and if all goes well, might get paid by the end of the year. I support his desire to use his professional skills, but at the same time a lot of money is going out the door in order to support this--we have full time daycare.
In the next year, I will be eligible to be a partner at my current employer. I have mixed feelings about it. I like my partners, but sometimes the office can be disorganized. Sometimes there are big emotional disagreements among the staff, and I absolutely just don’t have time and energy for it. If I am a partner, I would probably gross about $50-100k more. It could be more or less. My work would be about the same. I would have more flexibility to take time off, if I want. This is a big financial disincentive if I wanted to stay in the same town, and not work with my current employer. I do work a lot. I am on call a lot--sometimes 4-5 days in a row with people call me for any number of important reasons or completely ridiculous stuff.
I do like being close to family, and we are fortunate to live in a lower cost of living area. Our home would certainly cost a least twice as much in higher cost of living areas in our state. There are probably still some projects that we would like to get done, but I really enjoy our house, and being in a small town there is minimal commuting. I have definitely considered being more mustachian by biking, but have to be across town on a moment’s notice, so it is not going to happen yet.
Our kids would probably be in private school, at least through 8th grade, if we stay in this town. I always felt that I was a supporter of public education and went through public schools here myself, but I look at my oldest, and just think he will really benefit from the small class sizes and type of education. It is possible the younger ones may be different. It is about $5500 per year right now. Also the big benefit for us right now is that the kids’ daycare is affiliated with the private school, so there is only one drop off and pick up per day.
Options:
1. Just stop working. Husband will need to get current start-up to pay, or find another job elsewhere. He thinks the start-up will pay by end of the year anyway. But he is sometimes ridiculously optimistic. He thinks they will be paying $125k/yr. Health insurance or other benefits not yet clear.
2. Look for new job and move the family there. No guarantee that I would better off, although could probably negotiate the call situation better. May be able to find a more regular hour 9-5 sort of job or more of a shift work situation where at least hours would be predictable. The thought of moving makes me overwhelmingly nauseated. I am happy with the kids’ daycare/school situation for now, although I would be happy to get them into a good public school at some point.
3. Try to find temporary work where I would go and work for a week or a month and then be off until the next gig. That may be hard to find and somewhat unpredictable. Husband is not very excited about me being gone for long periods.
4. Stay at current job, try to take more time off to avoid burnout as needed.
5.Try to do something else is current town, and do whatever legal wrangling it might take to accomplish that.
Also I realize our spending could be more mustachian, so feel free to throw the face-punches. I think a big thing is convenience food and eating out.